I feel like I'm meant for something more...

Where on earth are you even going, my dear? You’re heading straight into the very system you claim to despise, though if we’re being honest, you actually kind of love it. I mean, think about it—if you truly hated this whole setup, you wouldn't be hanging out here on the forum in the first place, and you certainly wouldn't be nurturing those primal, animalistic instincts; instead, you’d be staging a full-blown rebellion against them. It's not that you're lost, per se, it's just that you haven't quite come to terms with your true nature yet, which is that deep down, you really just want to be part of the Matrix.

There, I think I've finally helped you see the light.

Drew Flores3 said:It looks like spirituality—whatever that means to you—isn't exactly your calling, yet here we are in the Spirituality subforum... 😁

Let me try to be a bit clearer here...

She’s looking for ways to actually fix her life so she can enjoy it, not some deep dive into how things look on an "energy level" where everything supposedly follows a logic that transcends common sense.

I get that for some people, those two things feel like the same thing, but it’s just not great when someone asks for help with one specific issue and gets hit with an answer about something else entirely.

It’s like asking how to optimize software on your PC to make it run faster, and having someone tell you to just go out and buy new hardware. Honestly, advice like that can feel kind of insulting because it brushes off the actual problem and tries to solve something the person didn't even ask about.

Even though this is the Spirituality subforum, it was suggested that this topic might actually fit better somewhere else.

The human eye actually has way more individual components than the most complex machine we've ever built, like the Space Shuttle.

And here you are using a computer as an analogy—a model that really just stems from our obsession with computing back in the 60s.

I always think of spirituality or spiritual knowledge as being more like some kind of multidimensional internet. It’s much bigger than just having "freedom" within a single, limited dimension.

Charlie Bubicubilubilic

Ever feel like you’re craving something more from life, but you can’t even put a finger on what it is?

Honestly, you already know. It’s been sitting there inside you for ages.

No point overthinking it until your brain melts.

Just throw a question out there and catch the answer within three seconds—boom, done.

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Though, if I’m being real, the days of sudden, dramatic revolutions are probably behind you. You're way too settled into the system.

If you want to be a workaholic, hey, that's an option too. Go find yourself a grind that runs from 8 AM to 9 PM, six days a week.

Drew Flores3 said:The human eye actually has way more individual components than the most complex machine we've ever built, like the Space Shuttle.

And here you are using a computer as an analogy—a model that really just stems from our obsession with computing back in the 60s.

I always think of spirituality or spiritual knowledge as being more like some kind of multidimensional internet. It’s much bigger than just having "freedom" within a single, limited dimension.

Fulavaš will be my analogy. ☕

You’re busy talking about software and hardware, but I’m telling you, the real magic happens in what connects them and makes everything actually work... it's all about that impulse, that flow, that little spark...

This feels like my very first post from back when I was twenty-three, word for word. Fast forward a bit, and life basically followed the standard blueprint... career, marriage, kids... but honestly? I’m living a life ten thousand times more blissful and fulfilling than anything I could’ve dreamed up back then.
Back in college, I was convinced that settling down would just kill my creativity and strip away my freedom. I had this whole vision: traveling the globe, writing, meeting incredible people, rescuing sea turtles, trekking the Himalayas, meditating in Tibet, flying dragons, diving in every ocean under the sun...
To me, that "something more" you mentioned is really about finding ways to live an ordinary life in an extraordinary way. Every day feels like a game that takes a weird, unexpected turn. My two kids are a non-stop fountain of inspiration—two little adventurers always ready for whatever comes next. Being with them makes me feel like a kid again, and my husband and I are still out here dreaming up big plans.
Every single day is beautiful and a little bit strange. And year after year, our little crew just keeps getting happier.

Look, being in your twenties and stressing over this kind of nonsense is totally unnecessary. Who should get married when, or what's the "right" timeline, or what Mom thinks, or what Dad wants, or what some neighbor whispered... man, I’ve just tuned all those people out one by one. You hear that mindless worldview everywhere you go, and if you let it get to you every time someone opens their mouth, you'll have a stomach ulcer by twenty-five. Just live your life how you want; that "something more" will find its way to you naturally.

And yeah, I still hike (not the Himalayas yet, but I'm still young😁), dive, write, travel, and meditate. I’ve met some amazing people too—the only thing missing is the dragon! Oh, and I actually did rescue a turtle last year!🤣 But the best part? I'm teaching my kids how to actually *live*—a life where there's definitely more going on than just the daily grind, apathy, and feeling stuck.

coastalhound58 said:At this point, I’m finding that neither sex nor chocolate provides any real fulfillment—honestly, I might be a lost cause😲😁

Well, if that's the case, you're in a real pickle... though hey, look on the bright side—it can always get worse!

electrictiger25 said:Honestly, thank you all from the bottom of my heart for the support and the advice. It is such a relief to finally talk to people who actually get it 🙂

I am just utterly exhausted by all these arbitrary rules—but honestly, it’s more than that. It’s the hatred, the discrimination, all those ugly social constructs that
drive a wedge between us. Sometimes I find myself staring out at this world we inhabit and just feeling overwhelmed. Everything seems to revolve around money; people are
judged solely by the size of their vacation homes or their job titles. I still remember when my dad made a comment about
this guy: "How can a man be any good if he wears shoes like those?" (The guy was wearing these beat-up, century-old sneakers because, frankly, he
couldn't care less about his footwear or how he looks to strangers). It genuinely broke my heart to hear him say that 😢 It is simply impossible
to squeeze any sense of openness out of certain types of people.

Everyone is so obsessed with cash and material possessions, acting as if they’re going to carry them into the grave with them.

I don't know exactly what it is I'm looking for... I just know that I'm not a lesbian 😁, that I will never give a damn about what Peter from the third floor thinks...
and that I want to travel—to see every single corner of this planet. I've always had this dream of living for one year at one
end of the world, then moving to another the next year, and so on. Just spinning the globe and letting my finger decide where my next home will be...

I don't know...

If you actually know what you want out of life, there’s really only one thing left to do: stop talking about it and start walking the walk.

steelnomad84 said:It doesn't necessarily mean that avoiding boredom requires something bad to happen.

Take an artist, for instance. If they have inspiration, time, and the right resources, they aren't bored because they're busy creating. They aren't suffering through some tragedy just to find interest.

Sure, maybe when boredom just vanishes on its own, it's usually because something went wrong. But that just means we should try to create our own excitement rather than waiting around for a disaster to shake things up. 😉

The absolute worst scenario is when you're forced to paint some commission just to pay the bills—and you have to do it immediately because you're practically starving.😲

Drew Flores3 said:You’re busy talking about software and hardware, but I’m telling you, the real magic happens in what connects them and makes everything actually work... it's all about that impulse, that flow, that little spark...

Look, I wasn't just talking about software and hardware. I was talking about bad problem-solving in general. I just used the tech stuff as an example. But hey, I get it—some people tend to obsess over the tiny details of a specific example when abstract thinking isn't really their thing.

The actual subject doesn't matter. It could have been anything. The point is, it's not exactly "problem-solving" to ignore someone's actual issue just so you can fix some other random thing they didn't even care about in the first place.

Benjamin Taylor6 said:The absolute worst scenario is when you're forced to paint some commission just to pay the bills—and you have to do it immediately because you're practically starving.😲

I'm right there with you. But honestly? That's usually when the boredom creeps back in. When you're actually free to create whatever you want, without those constraints, that's when the magic happens and the boredom disappears.

Brenda Cook4 said:If you actually know what you want out of life, there’s really only one thing left to do: stop talking about it and start walking the walk.

cha-ching!

electrictiger25 said:I honestly don’t even know where to begin. On paper, my life looks absolutely flawless—I’m young, I’ve got my head on straight, I’m nearly wrapping up my degree, I look decent enough, I’ve been in a stable relationship for several years now, and I have plenty of hobbies to keep me busy... Yet, for the last year or two, this creeping sense of emptiness and anxiety has started to settle in. I suspect it’s tied to the fact that I’m rapidly approaching that stage of life where society expects you to land a career, settle down, start a family, and just slide effortlessly into some "happily ever after" script. It is particularly grating when my parents start their usual litany of expectations: "Well, in two or three years, you'll probably have a baby, so you should start preparing... We need to start saving up for your wedding... You really need to find a job in your field," and so on and so forth. My best friend is following the exact same trajectory; she’s finishing up college and we spend our coffee dates discussing wedding guest lists, the struggle of the job hunt, and how she’ll likely have kids within the next couple of years...

🙂

It makes me wonder, what exactly are we? Are we just some kind of pre-programmed biological machines? Does anyone actually bother to ask if *I* want any of this? Why am I supposed to have a child just because it’s considered "normal" or because "that's what everyone does"? Why am I expected to marry and "settle down"? Whenever I pose these questions to my family, they look at me as if I’ve completely lost my mind—most of the time they just ignore me entirely and steamroll ahead with their lectures about how things "must" be done. Even when I was a little girl, I never played with baby dolls, I never spent my time daydreaming about a white wedding, and I never harbored any desire for children (and I certainly don't have any now). So why on earth should I suddenly undergo this transformation just to satisfy an external expectation? This is my life, and mine alone. Don't get me wrong, my parents don't have much sway over my actual decisions—I'll ultimately do whatever I want regardless of whether they disown me or not—but these constant expectations are profoundly disorienting...

Please don't take this the wrong way; I’m not trying to offend anyone. There are people who find genuine bliss in marriage and parenthood, who truly love that lifestyle, and more power to them. But I crave something more substantial than that; I refuse to live my life according to a cookie-cutter template. Find a job, work a standard 9-to-5, pick up the kids from school, prep breakfast and dinner, have intimacy with a spouse in the evening... and repeat that loop for thirty years? Then eventually get some grandkids, retire, and spend my mornings picking out produce at the local supermarket... Is that it? Is that the entirety of a human existence? 😲

Tell me, am I losing my mind for wanting something more (even if I can't quite articulate what that "something" is)? I feel a profound sense of pity for myself when I realize that at only 23, I already feel this utterly miserable... if this is how it feels now, what does the future hold? I've become disillusioned with people, too; I only have one true friend left (though even with her, I don't feel I can truly open up), and I simply lack the energy to invest in building relationships with anyone else. I find I only truly connect with animals; at least they are honest and instinctual. Perhaps I should just pop a few antidepressants. Then I could just fake a smile, wear a mask, retreat into my own little shell, and pretend to be fulfilled and happy just like everyone else. 🤷

...

Look, I've been exactly where you are right now. Honestly? It’s totally normal. For me, hitting that wall was actually the spark that sent me on a search for something more tangible in the real world. And turns out, that "something" actually exists. If I had to put a label on it, I'd call it a hunt for genuine freedom.

Your path will reveal itself when it's supposed to. As for marriage and all that social pressure? Just tune it out. Society—the way most people live their lives—is basically just one big pre-programmed script. But that doesn't mean you have to follow the manual.

It'll all work out 😉

p.s. You'll eventually realize that living is actually a pretty straightforward thing 🙂 whether you do it with a family and everything else, or just flying solo.

electrictiger25 said:I honestly don’t even know where to begin. On paper, my life looks absolutely flawless—I’m young, I’ve got my head on straight, I’m nearly wrapping up my degree, I look decent enough, I’ve been in a stable relationship for several years now, and I have plenty of hobbies to keep me busy... Yet, for the last year or two, this creeping sense of emptiness and anxiety has started to settle in. I suspect it’s tied to the fact that I’m rapidly approaching that stage of life where society expects you to land a career, settle down, start a family, and just slide effortlessly into some "happily ever after" script. It is particularly grating when my parents start their usual litany of expectations: "Well, in two or three years, you'll probably have a baby, so you should start preparing... We need to start saving up for your wedding... You really need to find a job in your field," and so on and so forth. My best friend is following the exact same trajectory; she’s finishing up college and we spend our coffee dates discussing wedding guest lists, the struggle of the job hunt, and how she’ll likely have kids within the next couple of years...

🙂

It makes me wonder, what exactly are we? Are we just some kind of pre-programmed biological machines? Does anyone actually bother to ask if *I* want any of this? Why am I supposed to have a child just because it’s considered "normal" or because "that's what everyone does"? Why am I expected to marry and "settle down"? Whenever I pose these questions to my family, they look at me as if I’ve completely lost my mind—most of the time they just ignore me entirely and steamroll ahead with their lectures about how things "must" be done. Even when I was a little girl, I never played with baby dolls, I never spent my time daydreaming about a white wedding, and I never harbored any desire for children (and I certainly don't have any now). So why on earth should I suddenly undergo this transformation just to satisfy an external expectation? This is my life, and mine alone. Don't get me wrong, my parents don't have much sway over my actual decisions—I'll ultimately do whatever I want regardless of whether they disown me or not—but these constant expectations are profoundly disorienting...

Please don't take this the wrong way; I’m not trying to offend anyone. There are people who find genuine bliss in marriage and parenthood, who truly love that lifestyle, and more power to them. But I crave something more substantial than that; I refuse to live my life according to a cookie-cutter template. Find a job, work a standard 9-to-5, pick up the kids from school, prep breakfast and dinner, have intimacy with a spouse in the evening... and repeat that loop for thirty years? Then eventually get some grandkids, retire, and spend my mornings picking out produce at the local supermarket... Is that it? Is that the entirety of a human existence? 😲

Tell me, am I losing my mind for wanting something more (even if I can't quite articulate what that "something" is)? I feel a profound sense of pity for myself when I realize that at only 23, I already feel this utterly miserable... if this is how it feels now, what does the future hold? I've become disillusioned with people, too; I only have one true friend left (though even with her, I don't feel I can truly open up), and I simply lack the energy to invest in building relationships with anyone else. I find I only truly connect with animals; at least they are honest and instinctual. Perhaps I should just pop a few antidepressants. Then I could just fake a smile, wear a mask, retreat into my own little shell, and pretend to be fulfilled and happy just like everyone else. 🤷

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Don't sweat what other people think, including your parents. Just tell them clearly, calmly, and firmly that this is your life and you're going to live it on your own terms. What's "normal" is whatever makes us happy, not whatever society dictates. Most people live according to others' expectations, so they find it weird when someone decides to go off-script. Ignore their noise and stick to your own truth.

And please, don't let depression take over or resort to medication just to cope. Figure out what actually interests you and what you love doing. Find your tribe—people who think like you do—and hang out with them. Go explore the world and actually experience it. 🙂

You aren't alone in this. I feel the exact same way. I've already made it clear to my friends and relatives that marriage and a traditional family aren't on my radar. That said, it would be nice to share everything with a partner someday, but I'll get to that when the time is right. No rush.

Nicholas Gonzalez8 said:Don't sweat what other people think, including your parents. Just tell them clearly, calmly, and firmly that this is your life and you're going to live it on your own terms. What's "normal" is whatever makes us happy, not whatever society dictates. Most people live according to others' expectations, so they find it weird when someone decides to go off-script. Ignore their noise and stick to your own truth.

And please, don't let depression take over or resort to medication just to cope. Figure out what actually interests you and what you love doing. Find your tribe—people who think like you do—and hang out with them. Go explore the world and actually experience it. 🙂

You aren't alone in this. I feel the exact same way. I've already made it clear to my friends and relatives that marriage and a traditional family aren't on my radar. That said, it would be nice to share everything with a partner someday, but I'll get to that when the time is right. No rush.

Plus, you can totally share everything with a partner without ever needing to sign a marriage license or start a whole family thing. 😉