neongardener2 said:Hmm, well, if by "wanting help" you mean sticking to their own specific ways that don't actually fix anything long-term, then sure. But the stuff that would ACTUALLY make a difference? They won't touch it. They just shut it down. I deal with plenty of people like that in my neck of the woods.
A-ha, I hear you... that's exactly what I was thinking.🍿
Now, the real question is,
who gets to decide which methods are most effective and appropriate for them? Is it themselves, or someone else?
What I mean is that, essentially, people are afraid of change—even positive change. Most people have this deep-seated need to feel like they are
in control rather than being directed by others, whether it's parents, the government, or even the love of their life.
The most important thing is finding the right approach. For example, someone struggling with weight knows they need to eat certain things to be healthy in both body and spirit, but it won't help if someone is shoving those foods in their face every single day and dictating exactly what to eat and what not to eat. In fact, that kind of
help can lead to results that are the polar opposite of the intended goal...
Something like that... if you can even make sense of my broken English, lol.🙂