How to change your perspective?

brisktiger56 said:🙏

Exactly. I just wonder if the user suggesting LSD got flagged or something, because that suggestion was pretty pathetic and honestly dangerous.

Ned, looking back at your previous post about consciousness and intentional shifts, it gave me an idea. If someone is trying to work on themselves—or rather, adjust themselves to the world they live in—they really ought to have a grounded, patient person by their side. Someone they can talk to about everything that eats at them, everything that makes them happy, all those messy emotions. They need a pillar, maybe even a mentor, or just a shoulder to cry on... but also someone who will give them the honest truth about which direction they're actually heading.

That kind of person definitely wouldn't be handing out LSD or anything like that...

What do you think?

apply within 👍

Lisa Morales4 said:apply within 👍

I get what this smiley means 👍, but honestly—my relationship with English is... complicated, let's just say. --so please, for the love of all things holy, could you just write in American ? 😉--thanks.

Honestly, I don't take any medication, and I really have no desire to start—I feel like it would just make me drift even further away from reality, which is the last thing I need 😁
I’ve been trying so hard to stay grounded and present, but it feels like an uphill battle lately... I suppose it’s common knowledge that for an average person to just function normally, you need a little bit of everything, and a sense of moderation in all things... but I can't help feeling this massive void in my life, and maybe I'm just trying to fill it with something else, which ends up leading to these cycles of excess... there's just no balance here, let alone any sense of moderation... I don't know, maybe I'm just overly sensitive, or perhaps I'm being selfish and only focusing on my own needs, or maybe I'm just way too obsessed with the tiny details—I honestly can't say for sure... I just know that I wasn't even like this back when I was a teenager 😬 and there's clearly too much of one thing and not enough of another, which is why I find myself in this state 👍

dustyskipper3 said:Yeah, I suppose I see it that way too... though, I guess it seems to me like your internal mental states might be coloring your perception of reality a bit too much... and do you ever find yourself reaching for some kind of medication just to tint the world "rosy"? I don't think that's quite right, because then you aren't really perceiving the world at all, you're just testing how much you can manipulate your own perception... there isn't really any way to verify the "truth" of how you see things. Personally, I think the world could be "black," but you could be happy, or the world could be objectively "pink," and you could still feel empty... it's just that, maybe, you spend too much time looking inward, so your internal state ends up reflecting onto everything outside. And yet, those internal feelings probably stem from external events anyway—if someone insults you, it throws you into a funk, or someone could cheer you up. So, I guess one should probably pay less attention to what others do to them, and try to focus more on objective reality to reach an objective conclusion... otherwise, you might always be like a "puppet on a string," just a plaything for fate or for people who have thicker skin and are a bit rougher than you are.

Human life is the ultimate prize. To hell with uncovering some "objective truth" if that truth ends up destroying the person who found it.
Perception should always have a slight rose tint to it—a kind of realistic optimism. We need to live with colors of hope.

brisktiger56 said:And that's exactly where the issue lies—people either refuse to read the Bible as it was actually intended, or the whole thing is just so poorly structured that everyone ends up cherry-picking their own personal version, which, honestly, is pretty terrible. What kind of divine law is so vague that it changes depending on who's looking at it? One minute "an eye for an eye" means you take a life because someone took yours, and the next person interprets it to mean they owe you a life to settle the score—like you're literally being handed a replacement person. It's a mess.

Like I mentioned earlier, I don't think comparing this to sitting in a dark theater and shifting your seat slightly to get a better view of a two-dimensional screen is really hitting the mark here.

You’re sounding like a total Pharisee here. You’re just stuck on the literal ink on the page.
The Bible isn't just rules for the sake of having rules; it's the Law of the living God. You're being such a pretentious 🙂
That’s why He, the man who was nearly broken and hung on a cross, had to step in because everyone else was too busy pushing their own personal, biased interpretations of Divine Truth.

And please, let’s not bring the Bible into this—I’ve mentioned before, and I really mean it, even though I’m not a religious person myself, that the Bible is actually quite full of wisdom. It’s just that... well, I suppose it's the idiots who take everything so literally... if someone can't grasp the deeper meaning, they probably shouldn't be reading it—or bringing it up at all, in my opinion.

Sam Hayes said:Honestly, I don't take any medication, and I really have no desire to start—I feel like it would just make me drift even further away from reality, which is the last thing I need 😁
I’ve been trying so hard to stay grounded and present, but it feels like an uphill battle lately... I suppose it’s common knowledge that for an average person to just function normally, you need a little bit of everything, and a sense of moderation in all things... but I can't help feeling this massive void in my life, and maybe I'm just trying to fill it with something else, which ends up leading to these cycles of excess... there's just no balance here, let alone any sense of moderation... I don't know, maybe I'm just overly sensitive, or perhaps I'm being selfish and only focusing on my own needs, or maybe I'm just way too obsessed with the tiny details—I honestly can't say for sure... I just know that I wasn't even like this back when I was a teenager 😬 and there's clearly too much of one thing and not enough of another, which is why I find myself in this state 👍

Everyone hits a low point eventually; it's impossible to avoid it entirely. 🙂
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdLo1GrGmbw

slymaker9 said:Human life is the ultimate prize. To hell with uncovering some "objective truth" if that truth ends up destroying the person who found it.
Perception should always have a slight rose tint to it—a kind of realistic optimism. We need to live with colors of hope.

I just love this kind of thinking 😍

Sam Hayes said:I just love this kind of thinking 😍

We forge our own luck or our own misfortune, so why wouldn't we choose to forge happiness?

brisktiger56 said:I get what this smiley means 👍, but honestly—my relationship with English is... complicated, let's just say. --so please, for the love of all things holy, could you just write in American ? 😉--thanks.

So that means brisktiger56 fits all those criteria listed above:
Hey there.
Patient.
support
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of mentorship lately. It isn't just about someone showing you the ropes or giving you a roadmap to follow; it’s more about that quiet, steady guidance that helps you find your own way. There's something special about having someone in your corner who has already navigated the storms you're currently facing. It makes the whole journey feel a little less daunting.
There's always a shoulder to lean on.
honest

... or maybe not. 😍 Haha.

Just wait until the session wraps up, then make it clear by telling her, "You aren't her musician."

Sam Hayes said:I just love this kind of thinking 😍

So, you just have to hold onto them 🙂
From what I can gather, you’re pretty aware of where you stand—your whole "position," if you will. I honestly think the move here is just finding some solid people you could hang out with at a place like Disney World😁—people you can actually trust in person. There’s a massive difference between typing stuff out on a forum and saying it face-to-face to someone who’s actually listening and genuinely wants to help.

A friend of mine once helped me shift my entire perspective. Just by sharing a few of his takes on my situation, he managed to add that bit of rose-colored optimism that Stella mentioned.
Real people can do so much more for you than these little letters we’re tossing around here.

Sam Hayes said:And please, let’s not bring the Bible into this—I’ve mentioned before, and I really mean it, even though I’m not a religious person myself, that the Bible is actually quite full of wisdom. It’s just that... well, I suppose it's the idiots who take everything so literally... if someone can't grasp the deeper meaning, they probably shouldn't be reading it—or bringing it up at all, in my opinion.

Well, there you go! brisktiger56 could definitely learn a thing or two from you.
I've already told him a few times that he needs to shift his perspective instead of being so reflexively allergic to certain ideas. 😛

I really respect what was said above. 👍
You're one of a kind. 🙏

Sam Hayes said:Honestly, I don't take any medication, and I really have no desire to start—I feel like it would just make me drift even further away from reality, which is the last thing I need 😁
I’ve been trying so hard to stay grounded and present, but it feels like an uphill battle lately... I suppose it’s common knowledge that for an average person to just function normally, you need a little bit of everything, and a sense of moderation in all things... but I can't help feeling this massive void in my life, and maybe I'm just trying to fill it with something else, which ends up leading to these cycles of excess... there's just no balance here, let alone any sense of moderation... I don't know, maybe I'm just overly sensitive, or perhaps I'm being selfish and only focusing on my own needs, or maybe I'm just way too obsessed with the tiny details—I honestly can't say for sure... I just know that I wasn't even like this back when I was a teenager 😬 and there's clearly too much of one thing and not enough of another, which is why I find myself in this state 👍

Support doesn't have to mean medication; it can come from someone who is trained to help.

ho ho ho, honestly, people just love slapping labels on me—so I’d much rather deal with some positive little stickers here than face all the actual accusations and criticisms out in the real world... everyone seems to be such an expert at talking big, even if they haven't actually accomplished a single thing 😉
I mean, I'm pretty certain that in the near future, I'll find myself surrounded by a different crowd with a completely different outlook on life, maybe a bit more 👍

Lisa Morales4 said:So that means brisktiger56 fits all those criteria listed above:
Hey there.
Patient.
support
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of mentorship lately. It isn't just about someone showing you the ropes or giving you a roadmap to follow; it’s more about that quiet, steady guidance that helps you find your own way. There's something special about having someone in your corner who has already navigated the storms you're currently facing. It makes the whole journey feel a little less daunting.
There's always a shoulder to lean on.
honest

... or maybe not. 😍 Haha.

Just wait until the session wraps up, then make it clear by telling her, "You aren't her musician."

Man, what an interesting way to see things 😍 Do you honestly think I'm hitting on Sam Hayes 😬? Did I frame that poorly? If so, you might need to move your seat in the theater—you're sitting at such a weird angle that you can't even see the screen > maybe adjust your perspective😁

Tyler Diaz4 said:Support doesn't have to mean medication; it can come from someone who is trained to help.

The best kind of support is a solid friend who knows how to deal with it.🙂

brisktiger56 said:Man, what an interesting way to see things 😍 Do you honestly think I'm hitting on Sam Hayes 😬? Did I frame that poorly? If so, you might need to move your seat in the theater—you're sitting at such a weird angle that you can't even see the screen > maybe adjust your perspective😁

But all her guys stayed back in the States! Why get so defensive right away? Just let it go!

By the way, did you honestly think this whole "mentorship" setup was some kind of flirting???
Goodness, and here I was trying to give you a compliment by saying you actually fit the description of a "desirable person" from your own post, and look at you getting all worked up. ☕
Aw, you and I wouldn't even be able to share a sandwich.🙄

Sam Hayes said:ho ho ho, honestly, people just love slapping labels on me—so I’d much rather deal with some positive little stickers here than face all the actual accusations and criticisms out in the real world... everyone seems to be such an expert at talking big, even if they haven't actually accomplished a single thing 😉
I mean, I'm pretty certain that in the near future, I'll find myself surrounded by a different crowd with a completely different outlook on life, maybe a bit more 👍

Maybe take a second and answer that yourself... I mean, can you actually call someone a friend if all they ever do is try to put you in a box? To me, a real friend isn't someone who spends their time categorizing you—especially when they aren't actually doing anything to help you out. That's not friendship; that's just some passerby with an opinion, judging based on nothing but their own shallow assumptions.

slymaker9 said:Human life is the ultimate prize. To hell with uncovering some "objective truth" if that truth ends up destroying the person who found it.
Perception should always have a slight rose tint to it—a kind of realistic optimism. We need to live with colors of hope.

Have you ever placed your faith in something, only to find out it wasn't true? If you have, did you cling to that belief or simply accept it as an illusion?
For those who offer unconditional belief without verifying the facts, reality can prove to be quite brutal.

There is a profound satisfaction in witnessing one's own ability to navigate the challenges of reality. Identify the issue, resolve the issue, and move on. 🙂

If you don't pivot, you will simply end up exactly where you were headed.

Lisa Morales4 said:Well, there you go! brisktiger56 could definitely learn a thing or two from you.
I've already told him a few times that he needs to shift his perspective instead of being so reflexively allergic to certain ideas. 😛

I really respect what was said above. 👍
You're one of a kind. 🙏

Thanks, 😍 this is honestly so lovely to hear