Got a boyfriend, now he's gone ghost.

I’m sure most of you have been through this exact thing—a friend lands a new boyfriend and suddenly, she just... vanishes. You send her a text, maybe an invite, and nothing. Just radio silence.

What’s your take on this phenomenon? Personally, I find it pretty fascinating—if a bit irritating.

I wonder what the psychologists would say about the mechanics behind it.

It’s pure, unadulterated ignorance. I went through it—I survived—but in my eyes, they aren't even friends.

Casey Cox69 said:It’s pure, unadulterated ignorance. She lived through it, she survived—but if you ask me, they weren't even real friends to begin with.

Then again—and I’m just thinking out loud here—maybe they weren't exactly saints to them before either. It’s possible finding a boyfriend was just a convenient way for them to feel better about themselves. 🤷

So, this girl has fallen head over heels... she basically doesn't see anyone else besides her guy anymore😁..but still, it’s not really okay that she isn't checking in or responding

It’ll hit you once you're actually there... but just for a second 👍

I don't think this is okay at all. Sure, you'll naturally see less time for friends during the honeymoon phase, but people seem to forget that their partner might be feeling lonely. They genuinely want to spend that quality time with the person they're dating, yet they get shut out. It’s sad... I've been through this more times than I care to admit, and I've promised myself I'll never lose sight of my friends when I start a new relationship.😉

Donna Wood52 said:Then again—and I’m just thinking out loud here—maybe they weren't exactly saints to them before either. It’s possible finding a boyfriend was just a convenient way for them to feel better about themselves. 🤷

I have absolutely nothing to say to this...

Donna Wood52 said:I’m sure most of you have been through this exact thing—a friend lands a new boyfriend and suddenly, she just... vanishes. You send her a text, maybe an invite, and nothing. Just radio silence.

What’s your take on this phenomenon? Personally, I find it pretty fascinating—if a bit irritating.

I wonder what the psychologists would say about the mechanics behind it.

Hey there, Donna Wood52. Forgive me if I'm barging in like this, but I really have to ask: where on earth is this place where girls and guys just pick up partners? Is there some kind of nightly sweepstakes I haven't heard about, or maybe some shady raffle going on somewhere? 🙂

As for the topic itself, it happens with both men and women—not everyone does it, of course, but it’s definitely a common trend. Nothing too surprising, really.

Fine. You fall in love—it’s all-consuming, really—and suddenly nothing else matters except being near them. But what happens when that initial madness fades? When they end up hurting you? Who stays by your side? A friend, hopefully—assuming they haven't vanished. I never actually said anything hurtful to mine; we grew up together, after all. We were tight from the start. I tried to make things work, to hang out, but she wouldn't go anywhere without him—and if we did meet, he was the only topic of conversation. Slowly, we just drifted apart. I got married, but I always make time for my friends—she, unfortunately, didn't. It wasn't some dramatic blowout or a fight. We just... stopped talking.

mistyscout2 said:Hey there, Donna Wood52. Forgive me if I'm barging in like this, but I really have to ask: where on earth is this place where girls and guys just pick up partners? Is there some kind of nightly sweepstakes I haven't heard about, or maybe some shady raffle going on somewhere? 🙂

As for the topic itself, it happens with both men and women—not everyone does it, of course, but it’s definitely a common trend. Nothing too surprising, really.

👍 Honestly, this is the exact same thought that crossed my mind when I stumbled upon yet another one of those endless threads started by the ever-prolific Donna Wood52.
I mean, it feels like she’s just rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic just to start a brand new conversation thread... ☕

Now that I think about it, I remember how stoked I was, calling up all my buddies once I finally hit it big at a blackjack table in Vegas and met my current wife... ever since then, I've stayed far away from any kind of gambling. No poker, no nothing.

Those "friendships" aren't even real friendships 😉 better you know now 🙂
she was just using you to kill time so she wouldn't be lonely, and now that she's finally found what she was looking for, she's done with you...
but mark my words, the second things go south with her guy, she'll be crawling back to you. then it's up to you how you handle it...

It’s honestly pretty frustrating how some of my female friends I used to be close with just completely ghost me once they start seeing certain guys. I actually reached out to one of them recently to see if she wanted to grab coffee, and she literally hit me with, "Why?" It’s wild. A good chunk of the friends I have seem to act totally normal until they get into a relationship, but then there’s this other group that just goes into full social isolation mode the second they find a boyfriend.

I suppose you just give them a taste of their own medicine when they eventually come crawling back one day... let them think whatever they want, I guess

Seriously though, who even gave her permission?? Like, you’re out here hunting down some random guy just so he can hook you up with someone else? 😍

Donna Wood52 said:I’m sure most of you have been through this exact thing—a friend lands a new boyfriend and suddenly, she just... vanishes. You send her a text, maybe an invite, and nothing. Just radio silence.

What’s your take on this phenomenon? Personally, I find it pretty fascinating—if a bit irritating.

I wonder what the psychologists would say about the mechanics behind it.

Women are just inherently shallow and envious. You can't trust a single one of them when there's an attractive man in the picture. That's just how it goes. ☕

Brenda Cooper3 said:Women are just inherently shallow and envious. You can't trust a single one of them when there's an attractive man in the picture. That's just how it goes. ☕

Do you honestly believe that applies to you as well?

And then there’s this... what happened to me

I had this one friend from high school. We were inseparable through graduation, all through college, and for a long, long time after that. We were even each other's bridesmaids at our weddings.
Then, out of nowhere, everything just went cold—no argument, no drama, just a total sudden chill in the relationship for absolutely no reason at all.

So, how am I supposed to process that?

It would be such a lovely thing if the guy in this situation could just seamlessly blend into her social circle, and for her to do the exact same with his, because honestly, you should never lose sight of those true friends, no matter
how much life gets in the way, and I really feel like making an effort to meet up more often or even just sending a quick text or an email just to check in and see how they're doing is incredibly important.

I truly believe there are relatively few people who continue to react with that same intense energy
right from the beginning once that initial honeymoon phase fades, so I think if you just let a month or two pass, things will naturally settle back into their proper place.

So, what happened to that pharmacist boyfriend of yours?🤣 If your friends are already distancing themselves because of him, I guess you could just walk away too.😁

Ever since I stepped into this new relationship, most of my girlfriends have drifted away—and it isn't because I’m suddenly too busy to hang out. It’s because they just can't stand my partner. Honestly, though, who knows what the real motive is? Maybe you don't actually care about his personality, and instead, you’re just eyeing her outfit or feeling a bit insecure because she's more attractive than you... maybe there's some jealousy at play? It could be anything, really.