Would you date someone with mental health issues?

I’ll admit this topic feels a bit discriminatory, but I also find it incredibly real and, frankly, quite an interesting question to pose.

To give you a specific example... I have a neighbor who is a lovely, attractive woman 🙂, but she has two cases of schizophrenia in her immediate family—her mother and her uncle. Since we know this condition can be hereditary in many instances, would I enter a relationship with someone like her? To be honest, I wouldn't... both because of her own potential struggles and the risk that our children (if we ever reached that stage 😁) might inherit it too.
With all due respect to those living with the illness, I wouldn't knowingly start a relationship with someone who is either currently struggling or faces a very high probability of developing it.
Of course, I realize it's a completely different story if I were already in a committed relationship where we were deeply in love 😍 and then discovered these facts later on...

A desperate question. Desperate, desperate, desperate. 🙄

So, she doesn't actually have schizophrenia, there's just a chance she could develop it down the line 😁

I guess that means people with anxiety, depression, or panic disorders are off the table, right? 😉

And your family is apparently genetically perfect, free from any possible illness. 🤷 You're just 100% certain there's nothing "bad" hiding in your DNA. 😁

I know this sounds pretty heavy, but I think it’s a really valid question to ask... Look, I don't mean to be blunt, but I wouldn't want to enter a relationship—unless, of course, I was already in one, which changes everything—with someone who either has, or has a high probability of developing, something like schizophrenia.
As far as my own family goes, there hasn't been a single instance of mental illness to my knowledge...

So, you aren't anxious, depressed, or dealing with OCD 😉

No diagnosis at all, even though undiagnosed 😁
I guess it’s pretty hard to stay sane in this day and age without being anxious, depressed, or having panic attacks. Good for you, I suppose 👍

silentpilot6 said:The question is pretty desperate—I’ll admit that—but it’s also very real... look, sorry, I’ll say it again, but I wouldn't be—better yet, I wouldn't *enter*—a relationship with someone who either has, or has a massive chance of developing, specifically schizophrenia.
As far as my own family goes, from what I know, there hasn't been a single mental health issue...

hm. so you just sleep with them for one night and then bail. 🙄

how pathetic can you get?

if the girl is beautiful and smart, why wouldn't you be with her just because she deals with depression or something?

there's an illness in the family? so now people like that don't even have the right to get married? 🤷

silentpilot6 said:one of my neighbors—a really attractive and genuinely nice girl🙂—has two cases of schizophrenia in her immediate family (her mother and an uncle)... since we know this is a concrete hereditary disease (at least in most diagnosed cases), would I date someone like that? Personally, I’ll admit I wouldn't... partly because of her, and partly because of the risk that our children (if things ever go that far, of course 😁) might also suffer from it.
With all due respect to those living with illnesses, I still wouldn't knowingly enter a relationship with a woman who is already ill or has a very, very high probability of becoming so.
Okay, I assume it's a completely different story if I were already in a relationship with a girl, loving each other and all that jazz 😍 and then finding out certain things later on...

what do you mean "because of her"? people struggling with these issues actually need a family more than anyone to be happy; it's a different matter entirely if you're going to respect her less just because you found out she's sick.

and stop using those damn emojis constantly. what's so funny about this????

If they're dealing with scleroderma—I'd have zero issues 😍

And about schizo... if we're looking at how common these things actually are (like, schizo is only around 1% of the population), everyone would be on their own if we just played the odds. Doesn't matter if it's environmental or genetic...

I have no idea where you got the idea that you could just sleep with her one night and then walk away
🤷
I honestly knew what kind of responses I’d get when I started this thread... damn 🤷

redharbor9 said:If they're dealing with scleroderma—I'd have zero issues 😍

And about schizo... if we're looking at how common these things actually are (like, schizo is only around 1% of the population), everyone would be on their own if we just played the odds. Doesn't matter if it's environmental or genetic...

Honestly, I've pointed this out several times before: 😁 there is a massive difference between knowing what's coming and being left in the dark...

silentpilot6 said:I have no clue where you got the idea that I’d just sleep with her for one night and then walk away
🤷
I knew exactly what kind of responses I was going to get when I posted this thread... damn it 🤷

Well, fine then. You said she was attractive and sweet—basically saying if she made a move, it would be hard to say no, you just wouldn't want to marry her because of the risk of passing something down to kids. ☕

Here’s the deal:

silentpilot6 said:First, let me give you a concrete example... one of my neighbors, a really gorgeous and genuinely nice girl 🙂 there are actually two cases of schizophrenia in her immediate family(her mother, and an uncle)... would you enter a relationship with someone like that? Personally, I wouldn't... and it wouldn't just be about her—it's about the chance our children (if things ever went that far, of course 😁 ) might end up suffering from it too.

redharbor9 said:If they're dealing with scleroderma—I'd have zero issues 😍

And about schizo... if we're looking at how common these things actually are (like, schizo is only around 1% of the population), everyone would be on their own if we just played the odds. Doesn't matter if it's environmental or genetic...

That's just how it goes, silentpilot6.

As far as I know, for a gene to actually "kick in," you need both the genetic predisposition and the right environment.😉😁

But, silentpilot6, you didn't answer me. Does nobody in your family deal with depression, anxiety, panic attacks, or OCD?😛 Nothing?😕 Not even anything undiagnosed?😛

silentpilot6 said:I know this sounds pretty heavy, but I think it’s a really valid question to ask... Look, I don't mean to be blunt, but I wouldn't want to enter a relationship—unless, of course, I was already in one, which changes everything—with someone who either has, or has a high probability of developing, something like schizophrenia.
As far as my own family goes, there hasn't been a single instance of mental illness to my knowledge...

Fair enough, that’s your take. People dealing with mental health issues need extra patience and support anyway, and you clearly aren't able to offer that. ☕I’m just surprised you didn't follow that up with some ridiculous poll asking: "Would you rather date: a) someone with a physical disability, or b) someone with schizophrenia?" 😂

silentpilot6 said:Honestly, I've pointed this out several times before: 😁 there is a massive difference between knowing what's coming and being left in the dark...

I guess nobody really knows anything for sure 😁 unless you're Milan Vidov 😛
You just said someone in the family has SCH 🤷 But having a condition and actually living with someone who has it are two different things 🙂 I've got diabetes myself, so I know what it's like firsthand 😁

Just because nobody in your family has mental health issues doesn't mean you can't deal with them yourself. Even in my house, there’s no history of it, yet I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression. Honestly, life is just so high-pressure these days that almost everyone hits a wall at some point. It's unfortunately what we get with this whole "mainstream" capitalist lifestyle.👎

Everyone else seems perfectly fine, so maybe I’m just losing my mind, but what can you really do about it? 😕

crimsonheron80 said:Fair enough, that’s your take. People dealing with mental health issues need extra patience and support anyway, and you clearly aren't able to offer that. ☕I’m just surprised you didn't follow that up with some ridiculous poll asking: "Would you rather date: a) someone with a physical disability, or b) someone with schizophrenia?" 😂

That's exactly the point. Not everyone is ready to dump that much love and energy into someone, and honestly, it just doesn't fit the lifestyle some people want to live.

Linda Taylor11 said:That's exactly the point. Not everyone is ready to dump that much love and energy into someone, and honestly, it just doesn't fit the lifestyle some people want to live.

I suppose most people are more about taking than giving, anyway.😁

hiddenhawk3 said:I suppose most people are more about taking than giving, anyway.😁

So what, we're just supposed to roll over and die? I don't think so.
Maybe try being a little selfish for once and actually live for yourself. 🙂 😍

Of course I would. 😍 Honestly, "normal" guys have never really been my type anyway.

It all comes down to how you view the illness. If you go into it thinking it’s some terrible, freakish thing, you’re going to struggle to ever make it work. But if you just embrace who they are as a whole person? I think you'd be way happier than if you were with some "standard" girl. And who cares if it involves sch...

Just imagine she's the love of your life, and you let her slip away just because she might develop sch one day.☕

I always seem to run into these oddballs 😁
One’s suicidal, another is emotionally stunted, a third thinks they’re seeing aliens, and a fourth is back to wanting to end it all... yet somehow, I still find them endearing 🤣

I can't tell if I'm a magnet for people like this or if they're just drawn to me... 🤷 Doesn't really matter 😳 😍