I am living the absolute lowest-quality life imaginable (and I'm being dead serious)

Thank you so much, truly, I really appreciate it! 😘

vividtiger50 said:Thank you so much, truly, I really appreciate it! 😘

I mean, who else is going to step up and help if we don't look out for one another? 😂😂😂

👍

Well, here we go—yet another case successfully closed by our resident psychological expert, Mark Martinez4. I’d say we can safely call it a win and move on to the next one 😁
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First things first—delete that duplicate profile of yours and spend less time glued to your computer and the TV. I’ve realized my own mood is inversely proportional to how much time I waste staring at screens.
And for heaven's sake, go find yourself a boyfriend.

I mean, I guess I’m just hanging around because I don't really have anything else going on right now. 😢
Man... it isn't like I'm actually planting anything, not once I get a little bit of work done!

vividtiger50 said:I mean, I guess I’m just hanging around because I don't really have anything else going on right now. 😢
Man... it isn't like I'm actually planting anything, not once I get a little bit of work done!

Honestly, the guy is just going to end up with more insecurities—it’s incredibly difficult to truly get someone when you don't actually know them.
Like I said before, I consider the matter settled.

Roger Dodger ☕
Sending love, Mark Martinez4

You can always pick up a book—the more you dive in, the more you'll actually enjoy it. Plus, you'll feel better and get a lot sharper in the process.

Ashley Chase83 said:You can always pick up a book—the more you dive in, the more you'll actually enjoy it. Plus, you'll feel better and get a lot sharper in the process.

I have to say, reading books can lead to a certain kind of isolation—much like binge-watching TV, scrolling endlessly, or spending every waking hour playing PlayStation. It definitely happens, though I suppose we're still debating if that third one counts just as much.😍

🙂

I’ve been spending my time reading, getting my apartment ready, and organizing all my shoes and clothes in the closet, but I really feel like I should be doing something more to work on my social life. Sometimes, I guess, it just feels quite heavy being this alone. 😢

Honestly, I think you should start by looking into something like a fitness class, Pilates, or maybe a dance studio—just something to get you out of the house and around other people.
It isn’t even about grabbing coffee with them afterward; it’s just about making that initial move so you aren't spending every single day stuck alone in your apartment.

Most people there are just focused on their own workouts anyway, so they won't care if you show up solo or with a group of five friends.
I actually signed up for a gym membership entirely on my own once. I was in that phase where I went out way too much, which left me with the stamina of a ninety-year-old, and I’ve always been embarrassingly clumsy. I definitely stood out because I kept doing the moves in reverse; I almost broke my leg when I tripped over a stepper. At least the whole ordeal gave me a good laugh.
After a couple of months, I finally got the hang of it and felt pretty proud of myself. Plus, regular exercise is such a solid remedy for depression. You end up feeling that specific kind of healthy exhaustion that actually makes you happy. 😉

p.s. Have you given any thought to getting a roommate?

vividtiger50 said:I’m just a clone, obviously, so I know exactly how much people hate clickbait headlines. 😍
I’m not entirely sure what I’m hoping to achieve by starting this thread; maybe I just need a little bit of support, or even some insults or sympathy—honestly, anything just to feel like someone is talking to me, because I feel incredibly lonely. 😢

So, I guess I should start from the beginning. Back in high school, I was an excellent student without ever really having to try, which meant I never actually developed any real work ethic. I managed to get into the university I wanted without much trouble and moved away from my small hometown to this massive city. When the first deadlines rolled around, I passed a couple of exams, and then suddenly—just like that—everything changed. College felt pointless, I realized it wasn't what I actually wanted to do, and I just lost all motivation to study. I ended up spending most of the next two months just lying around the house, watching TV, or out drinking. Since attendance isn't strictly mandatory at my university, I took full advantage of that, and for the next few months, the campus didn't see me at all. By the time the next round of finals came, I hadn't passed a single thing, and that continued for the next three years. As my friends from school started moving into their senior years, we had less and less to talk about, our schedules stopped lining up, and bit by bit, I just drifted away. Yeah, I don't have anyone. I grew distant from everyone back home, lost touch with the people from college, and honestly, I don't even know who I could grab a coffee with tomorrow if I wanted to.

I'm 23 now, and I have no idea what my future holds. I don't have any real job skills to speak of, so I can't exactly be independent and stop relying on my parents, though I suppose I don't spend too much money since, as I mentioned, I have no one to go out with. I've basically locked myself in my apartment and stopped leaving. A few times a week I'll head to the grocery store or maybe take a short walk, but the rest of my time is spent in front of the TV or online; I've written ten thousand posts here, for goodness' sake. 😳

Nothing brings me joy anymore; every day feels identical. I only change out of my pajamas under very unusual circumstances, and I feel quite pathetic. I'm no expert, but I suspect I might be dealing with depression. There have been moments where I've thought about just ending it all to stop this stagnation, but I'm quickly snapped back to reality by the thought that I have no friends and no one would even show up to my funeral, which would lead my mom to realize things aren't as great as I tell her they are. 😢

I realize that my behavior is terribly childish and immature; I'm aware of it all. I spend my nights crying and feeling desperate, feeling small and worthless and ashamed, yet I just can't seem to force myself to change. I'll sit down to study, and then my mind just drifts away, and that's that. I don't know, I really don't. And I suppose I'm doing this for selfish reasons, just wanting to find some relief for my soul.

If anyone actually read this, I apologize for venting like this, but I feel a little bit better now. 😢

I feel this soooooooo much. Ivanna, is that you? 😁

Alright, I get what you're saying... so, what now🤷? If someone else came to you in your exact shoes, what advice would you actually give them? What steps are you going to take to finally get moving and stop living off everyone else😕? Honestly, it sounds like you're just terrified of reality—terrified of the fact that you're growing up and will soon have to cut the umbilical cord and stand on your own two feet. Look, just get dressed, walk over to that office building you haven't stepped foot in for ages, check their application deadlines, grab some study guides, and just commit to the grind. If you aren't ready for that, go to this site www.indeed.com and spend some actual time there. Submit an application or two, but for heaven's sake, actually try to find work, otherwise, you're just spinning your wheels. Can you at least dust a shelf or vacuum a floor? Even entry-level service jobs count when you're starting out.
Listen, sweetheart, nobody is going to hand you a work ethic on a silver platter. A "work ethic" is a habit, and you build it by actually working. Otherwise, everything falls apart the second you're truly on your own, and trust me, you haven't felt that reality hit yet. Be grateful you have parents who tolerate you and love you, that you're healthy, and that you've got at least a shred of common sense in your head. There are plenty of old folks out there who would just kick you out of the house and leave you to fend for yourself in the cold. Use the cushion you have. There are tons of people who would give anything to have the opportunities laid out in front of you.
If you can't land a job, go volunteer. There are plenty of people and animals out there that could use your help.

I’ve read everything here, and honestly, the advice is spot on.
I actually enrolled in a college program I was totally in love with, even though there were certain classes that just didn't interest me at all. But I knew what my end goal was. Back then, I’d show up to campus regularly, see everyone else struggling through the same stuff but still making it happen, and that kept me going. Then I'd head home and settle in. There were months where I wouldn't even touch a textbook, but I have to admit, my mom was incredibly persistent about pushing me to study. It paid off. Even though I used to get so annoyed with her, I see now how much she helped me.
It wasn't easy. When I finally decided to buckle down, I’d make a study plan, eat healthy, grab a coffee to wake up, set a schedule, and give myself little rewards during breaks—like watching a show or chatting with a friend. That’s how I made progress.
If you're still in your freshman year and you realize you truly aren't interested in your major, I don't think you lose anything by switching to something you actually care about.
Or just sign up for a language class, or maybe hit the gym if that sounds fun. You'll meet people with similar interests, which leads to good conversations and friendships. I know how it feels. It's hard to make that first move, but you're still young. You have time. Now is the perfect moment for this.
I know that just lying around and feeling sorry for yourself doesn't help; it just drags you deeper into a funk. I've been in your shoes so many times. But you're the one building your own life, and you just need to remember that it's never too late to take action. Good luck! 👍

Mark Martinez4 said:Things won't truly improve until you actually make that leap and start over.
Unless you make a real change and finally recognize your own potential, nothing is going to get better.
If they understand where you're coming from, great—if not, well, honestly, who cares? You can definitely balance working and going to college at the same time; you certainly won't be the only one doing it.
Just please, don't drop out of school like I did—though, I suppose I am a bit of a special case, since I personally find university to be the most frustrating institution in the entire country.
I have a genuine phobia of college life 😂😂

Fax-O-phobia. I see what you did there...
I wonder if Medicare covers that 🤣

dustywolf13 said:Fax-O-phobia. I see what you did there...
I wonder if Medicare covers that 🤣

sure does...
there's actually a prescription for it—Normabel😁

I wouldn't say I was ever in an absolutely devastating state, though I can certainly empathicoize with what you're going through. Back in college, I chose a major that didn't particularly set my soul on fire, but it felt like a safe, predictable career path. For about two or three years, I actually performed quite well, but then I hit this massive wall. There would be months where I couldn't even bring myself to open a textbook, followed by periods where I'd somehow "snap out of it," pass a few exams, and just repeat that exhausting cycle.
Once I reached my absolute breaking point, I decided to enroll in a completely different degree program—one that I was genuinely passionate about—and it was like coming back to life! It changed me as a person and completely reshaped my entire existence. I actually graduated from that first program recently (though, fingers crossed, I'll never actually have to use that degree!), but I absolutely adore my second field of study. Choosing to pursue it was probably the smartest move I have ever made in my life.
At the end of the day, anything is possible if you truly set your mind to it. You just have to make that definitive choice about what it is you actually want to do.

dustywolf13 said:Fax-O-phobia. I see what you did there...
I wonder if Medicare covers that 🤣

Well, Sad, it's a little late for that—now that I'm paying for my own health insurance out of pocket, they won't recognize my coverage. And honestly, I just don't have the extra cash for a premium supplemental plan right now. 🤣

Cut the TV out of your life entirely—if you can actually afford to live off the grid, that is. Just embrace being alone for a bit. Who knows? Maybe in a few years, you’ll have a house full of kids to look after, plus a husband to take care of until the very end...
Maybe it’s time to make some actual, heavy-duty decisions about where your life is headed. Sometimes, you just hit one of those dead zones where everything stops moving. If you're stuck in this constant, frantic grind but you feel like you're just rotting away while pretending to actually live, you need to snap out of it.
Go borrow
...it might give you some perspective.

Mark Martinez4 said:Are you my long-lost twin?

Man, I'm in the exact same boat. You overthink things, you show up, you overthink again, and then you retreat. Except, in my case, a professional actually gave me a diagnosis...

Don't sweat it too much; sometimes taking a risk or finding some kind of action is the only thing that keeps you going. 😉
And hey, you aren't the most miserable person out there; there are always people going through even worse stuff.
Yours sounds a lot like mine, but I guess we're lucky compared to others.
To be honest, I used to feel the same way, but now I've got entirely different problems to deal with.😁
The thing is, there’s just never enough 😉

Did you go to the ER?

feralharbor8 said:Did you go to the ER?

I think I've found plenty to keep me busy here—enough to stay out of trouble! Much appreciated. 😉