I am living the absolute lowest-quality life imaginable (and I'm being dead serious)

Quick question for the OP—which college are you actually attending?

granitefalcon26 said:Honestly, quitting your job just to have kids seems pretty reckless to me. You lose all your independence and end up completely dependent on your husband. It’s just not smart. At the end of the day, women aren't just machines built for childbearing.

Look, sorry, but you clearly don't know the half of why I actually walked away from my job. Where I was working, my boss was constantly harassing me on a daily basis... imagine having a manager tell you something like, "Man, you have no idea how much I want you... I was showering last night just thinking about you." What am I supposed to do? Stick around and listen to some creepy predator who could be my father? You never know the full story, so don't be so incredibly rude. And yeah, maybe right now I'm leaning on my husband, but that doesn't make me an idiot or mean I'm never going back to work. Honestly, I'm looking at this time off as a chance to decompress and recharge my batteries. So, please, stop judging me and calling my choices "stupid." You don't have that right because you don't know me.

Has anyone seen the author of this thread lately? 😕😕😕

Olivia Rivera77 said:Look, sorry, but you clearly don't know the half of why I actually walked away from my job. Where I was working, my boss was constantly harassing me on a daily basis... imagine having a manager tell you something like, "Man, you have no idea how much I want you... I was showering last night just thinking about you." What am I supposed to do? Stick around and listen to some creepy predator who could be my father? You never know the full story, so don't be so incredibly rude. And yeah, maybe right now I'm leaning on my husband, but that doesn't make me an idiot or mean I'm never going back to work. Honestly, I'm looking at this time off as a chance to decompress and recharge my batteries. So, please, stop judging me and calling my choices "stupid." You don't have that right because you don't know me.

Yeah, sure. I'm sure a job is just waiting around the corner for you. You'll probably be a manager by next week.😂 The era of the stay-at-home wife is over. Nowadays, with divorce being so common, women really need to be independent. Not that I'm trying to sound like some feminist activist here.😁
But seriously, I couldn't respect a woman who just stayed home and had nothing to talk about.👎

So, I figured I’d jump in here too...
First off, I totally get where you're coming from, because I've definitely been spiraling in those same kinds of thoughts before.
From what I can see, you've fallen into this vicious cycle that you absolutely HAVE to break. Luckily, breaking out of it is actually pretty easy if you just stop hiding away in your apartment and wallowing in self-pity! Here's my advice: find an activity that physically wears you out. It’s basically using physical exhaustion to regulate those messy emotional states. Once you're wiped out, your body naturally starts pumping out those feel-good hormones. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it really tires you out, though I’d personally suggest hitting some hiking trails a few times a week—maybe head out to somewhere like the Blue Ridge Mountains or even just a nice local park. Nature is seriously healing. Also, blast some music, but stay far away from anything depressing. You should start feeling a bit more like yourself after a while.

If you let your thoughts run wild, your own mind can honestly become your worst enemy.

You studied law, right? Man, I am so sorry.

Don't sweat it, though—23 is definitely not too late for a fresh start. I'm actually 23 myself, and I'm ditching law school to start over at a different university, and honestly, I'm thriving.

And here’s my take on that whole clone thing.

It doesn't really matter if you think you're a clone or whatever; everyone just wants to feel unique or stand out from the crowd because of our egos. Just ignore "the system"! Learn to appreciate who you are, because at the end of the day, you're the only person you've got, so you might as well be your own best friend!

Learn how to actually enjoy life, but don't just sit around being lazy about it!

Hang in there! Keep your chin up!👍

Thomas Brooks13 said:So, I figured I’d jump in here too...
First off, I totally get where you're coming from, because I've definitely been spiraling in those same kinds of thoughts before.
From what I can see, you've fallen into this vicious cycle that you absolutely HAVE to break. Luckily, breaking out of it is actually pretty easy if you just stop hiding away in your apartment and wallowing in self-pity! Here's my advice: find an activity that physically wears you out. It’s basically using physical exhaustion to regulate those messy emotional states. Once you're wiped out, your body naturally starts pumping out those feel-good hormones. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it really tires you out, though I’d personally suggest hitting some hiking trails a few times a week—maybe head out to somewhere like the Blue Ridge Mountains or even just a nice local park. Nature is seriously healing. Also, blast some music, but stay far away from anything depressing. You should start feeling a bit more like yourself after a while.

If you let your thoughts run wild, your own mind can honestly become your worst enemy.

You studied law, right? Man, I am so sorry.

Don't sweat it, though—23 is definitely not too late for a fresh start. I'm actually 23 myself, and I'm ditching law school to start over at a different university, and honestly, I'm thriving.

And here’s my take on that whole clone thing.

It doesn't really matter if you think you're a clone or whatever; everyone just wants to feel unique or stand out from the crowd because of our egos. Just ignore "the system"! Learn to appreciate who you are, because at the end of the day, you're the only person you've got, so you might as well be your own best friend!

Learn how to actually enjoy life, but don't just sit around being lazy about it!

Hang in there! Keep your chin up!👍

Great advice!!! 🙂

granitefalcon26 said:Yeah, sure. I'm sure a job is just waiting around the corner for you. You'll probably be a manager by next week.😂 The era of the stay-at-home wife is over. Nowadays, with divorce being so common, women really need to be independent. Not that I'm trying to sound like some feminist activist here.😁
But seriously, I couldn't respect a woman who just stayed home and had nothing to talk about.👎

Sometimes you can really act like a jerk, granitefalcon26.
The stay-at-home era will end once men actually start working again.
Until then, there's a point in life where a woman should take on the homemaker role while the man acts as the provider.
That’s assuming, obviously, that they actually want kids.
Just because I'm 27 and still waiting on my third child—while currently busy raising my other two—doesn't mean I'm someone you can't hold a conversation with.
I had my first daughter when I was 25.
By the time I hit 25, I had already checked off so many boxes, things some people don't manage to do in an entire lifetime... and in my case, it wasn't just about finishing college or landing a job, it was way more significant than that.

vividtiger50 said:I’m just a clone, obviously, so I know exactly how much people hate clickbait headlines. 😍
I’m not entirely sure what I’m hoping to achieve by starting this thread; maybe I just need a little bit of support, or even some insults or sympathy—honestly, anything just to feel like someone is talking to me, because I feel incredibly lonely. 😢

So, I guess I should start from the beginning. Back in high school, I was an excellent student without ever really having to try, which meant I never actually developed any real work ethic. I managed to get into the university I wanted without much trouble and moved away from my small hometown to this massive city. When the first deadlines rolled around, I passed a couple of exams, and then suddenly—just like that—everything changed. College felt pointless, I realized it wasn't what I actually wanted to do, and I just lost all motivation to study. I ended up spending most of the next two months just lying around the house, watching TV, or out drinking. Since attendance isn't strictly mandatory at my university, I took full advantage of that, and for the next few months, the campus didn't see me at all. By the time the next round of finals came, I hadn't passed a single thing, and that continued for the next three years. As my friends from school started moving into their senior years, we had less and less to talk about, our schedules stopped lining up, and bit by bit, I just drifted away. Yeah, I don't have anyone. I grew distant from everyone back home, lost touch with the people from college, and honestly, I don't even know who I could grab a coffee with tomorrow if I wanted to.

I'm 23 now, and I have no idea what my future holds. I don't have any real job skills to speak of, so I can't exactly be independent and stop relying on my parents, though I suppose I don't spend too much money since, as I mentioned, I have no one to go out with. I've basically locked myself in my apartment and stopped leaving. A few times a week I'll head to the grocery store or maybe take a short walk, but the rest of my time is spent in front of the TV or online; I've written ten thousand posts here, for goodness' sake. 😳

Nothing brings me joy anymore; every day feels identical. I only change out of my pajamas under very unusual circumstances, and I feel quite pathetic. I'm no expert, but I suspect I might be dealing with depression. There have been moments where I've thought about just ending it all to stop this stagnation, but I'm quickly snapped back to reality by the thought that I have no friends and no one would even show up to my funeral, which would lead my mom to realize things aren't as great as I tell her they are. 😢

I realize that my behavior is terribly childish and immature; I'm aware of it all. I spend my nights crying and feeling desperate, feeling small and worthless and ashamed, yet I just can't seem to force myself to change. I'll sit down to study, and then my mind just drifts away, and that's that. I don't know, I really don't. And I suppose I'm doing this for selfish reasons, just wanting to find some relief for my soul.

If anyone actually read this, I apologize for venting like this, but I feel a little bit better now. 😢

Look, your issue isn't some deep, spiritual crisis—it’s just laziness and self-pity. I'm not trying to come at you or be harsh here, but someone really needs to tell you the truth before you waste any more time.

Do you have a mother, a father, a sister, or a brother? If you do, consider yourself incredibly lucky. Just take a quick look at the thread "Losing a Mother"—you’ll see exactly what I mean.

Look, regarding college and career stuff—good grief, you aren't the only one who didn't click with their first major. I actually started out in philosophy myself—spent a year before realizing it just wasn't my thing—then switched over to engineering and finally found my groove. You're only 23! There is plenty of time to figure out what actually excites you. Have you even stopped to think about what kind of work you’d actually enjoy doing? Since you mentioned spending most of your time on the computer, maybe look into some specialized courses—coding, graphic design, that sort of thing. There is always plenty of work out there for people willing to put in the effort to learn a skill.

Friends come and go—honestly, it’s just how life works. Some people drift away, new faces show up, and that's that. There’s really no sense in sitting around moping about fate or feeling sorry for yourself. 👎

granitefalcon26 said:Yeah, sure. I'm sure a job is just waiting around the corner for you. You'll probably be a manager by next week.😂 The era of the stay-at-home wife is over. Nowadays, with divorce being so common, women really need to be independent. Not that I'm trying to sound like some feminist activist here.😁
But seriously, I couldn't respect a woman who just stayed home and had nothing to talk about.👎

I don't get why you think you couldn't just sit down and have a real conversation with your wife—it’s not that deep.

I mean, she can basically do whatever she wants—read, binge some movies, sign up for random classes... the sky's the limit, really.

Honestly? My absolute dream is just to be a stay-at-home wife. There—I said it! 🙂 And hey, it wouldn't hurt if the husband pulls in a solid paycheck, too. 🙂🙂

I’d much rather spend my time actually doing stuff that clicks with me—you know? Instead of just rotting away at some soul-crushing, boring-as-hell job that offers zero excitement.

I mean, sure—it would be amazing to land that dream job where you actually give a damn about the work, but let’s be real... life doesn't always hand out those wins on a silver platter. Not everyone gets that lucky.

Sarah Rodriguez4 said:Look, your issue isn't some deep, spiritual crisis—it’s just laziness and self-pity. I'm not trying to come at you or be harsh here, but someone really needs to tell you the truth before you waste any more time.

Do you have a mother, a father, a sister, or a brother? If you do, consider yourself incredibly lucky. Just take a quick look at the thread "Losing a Mother"—you’ll see exactly what I mean.

Look, regarding college and career stuff—good grief, you aren't the only one who didn't click with their first major. I actually started out in philosophy myself—spent a year before realizing it just wasn't my thing—then switched over to engineering and finally found my groove. You're only 23! There is plenty of time to figure out what actually excites you. Have you even stopped to think about what kind of work you’d actually enjoy doing? Since you mentioned spending most of your time on the computer, maybe look into some specialized courses—coding, graphic design, that sort of thing. There is always plenty of work out there for people willing to put in the effort to learn a skill.

Friends come and go—honestly, it’s just how life works. Some people drift away, new faces show up, and that's that. There’s really no sense in sitting around moping about fate or feeling sorry for yourself. 👎

Sarah Rodriguez4, you're absolutely right—there is a solution for everything, provided a person finds the inner strength to actually tackle the problem head-on. And honestly, she made a smart move by pivoting; not everyone has their entire life mapped out at eighteen, and there are countless people who pick the wrong major or the wrong profession. Sometimes it takes a few years after high school to gain enough perspective and maturity to truly understand what we want to do with our lives.

The key is to be honest with yourself and make a definitive choice about what you want.

At twenty-three, this young woman can absolutely start over, and frankly, she might even approach it with more drive and determination than she would have had at eighteen.

I just wonder why she hasn't posted anything else lately. 😢

I spent most of yesterday just listening to "The Boxer" by Simon and Garfunkel on repeat, and I have to say, it really hit me deep; there’s something incredibly motivating about it. 🙂
I wanted to reach out and thank you all for sharing your stories and such helpful advice. I honestly felt like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders, thinking my problems were insurmountable, but it turns out everything basically boiled down to the fact that I picked the wrong major in college—that was the root of all my misery! It’s actually a pretty encouraging realization to come to. Now that I understand where things went sideways, I feel like I finally have a starting point and a sense of direction; everything feels much more manageable and... solvable, I suppose. I’m really not sure how I could ever properly thank everyone here!

vividtiger50 said:I spent most of yesterday just listening to "The Boxer" by Simon and Garfunkel on repeat, and I have to say, it really hit me deep; there’s something incredibly motivating about it. 🙂
I wanted to reach out and thank you all for sharing your stories and such helpful advice. I honestly felt like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders, thinking my problems were insurmountable, but it turns out everything basically boiled down to the fact that I picked the wrong major in college—that was the root of all my misery! It’s actually a pretty encouraging realization to come to. Now that I understand where things went sideways, I feel like I finally have a starting point and a sense of direction; everything feels much more manageable and... solvable, I suppose. I’m really not sure how I could ever properly thank everyone here!

See? It helps. And please, don't be afraid to go back to school. When I re-enrolled, there were plenty of older students in my classes—including a girl who was 23. Within two years, she was already married, still studying with me, working, and building her life. Everything can fall into place; you just need the drive to make it happen.👍

Robert Reyes34 said:Sarah Rodriguez4, you're absolutely right—there is a solution for everything, provided a person finds the inner strength to actually tackle the problem head-on. And honestly, she made a smart move by pivoting; not everyone has their entire life mapped out at eighteen, and there are countless people who pick the wrong major or the wrong profession. Sometimes it takes a few years after high school to gain enough perspective and maturity to truly understand what we want to do with our lives.

The key is to be honest with yourself and make a definitive choice about what you want.

At twenty-three, this young woman can absolutely start over, and frankly, she might even approach it with more drive and determination than she would have had at eighteen.

I just wonder why she hasn't posted anything else lately. 😢

Exactly. That’s easily the hardest part of the whole process.👍

vividtiger50 said:I spent most of yesterday just listening to "The Boxer" by Simon and Garfunkel on repeat, and I have to say, it really hit me deep; there’s something incredibly motivating about it. 🙂
I wanted to reach out and thank you all for sharing your stories and such helpful advice. I honestly felt like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders, thinking my problems were insurmountable, but it turns out everything basically boiled down to the fact that I picked the wrong major in college—that was the root of all my misery! It’s actually a pretty encouraging realization to come to. Now that I understand where things went sideways, I feel like I finally have a starting point and a sense of direction; everything feels much more manageable and... solvable, I suppose. I’m really not sure how I could ever properly thank everyone here!

To start things off, if you want to lift that weight off your chest, you should just be completely honest with your parents. Sure, they might be upset or frustrated at first, but very soon you'll find yourselves sitting down together to figure out a way through this, and having their support makes all the difference. Once you do that, you'll feel like you can finally breathe again, because you won't have to carry the burden of lying or hiding the truth from them.

And then, once you've had that conversation, you need to be honest with yourself about what you actually want to do and what you'd truly dedicate your life to... and that's really it. It isn't some terrifying or painful ordeal unless you choose to let it be. Best of luck! 🙂

brightpanther21 said:Sometimes you can really act like a jerk, granitefalcon26.
The stay-at-home era will end once men actually start working again.
Until then, there's a point in life where a woman should take on the homemaker role while the man acts as the provider.
That’s assuming, obviously, that they actually want kids.
Just because I'm 27 and still waiting on my third child—while currently busy raising my other two—doesn't mean I'm someone you can't hold a conversation with.
I had my first daughter when I was 25.
By the time I hit 25, I had already checked off so many boxes, things some people don't manage to do in an entire lifetime... and in my case, it wasn't just about finishing college or landing a job, it was way more significant than that.

Look, I guarantee no intellectual woman out there would agree with you. 😍
And honestly, life is about more than just a degree and a steady paycheck. That shouldn't be the finish line.👍

ruggedmaker36 said:I've joined a gym several times now, and I've never actually met anyone there.

lol...not even a trainer...🤣...

look, girl, I’m honestly so glad they finally banned granitefalcon26 ☕☕, but seriously, as much as things might suck for you right now, I don't think your life is any more tragic than mine. 😢 stuff like this doesn't just happen twice in a lifetime. I really, truly hope everything works out for you... but if it doesn't, well, I guess that's just how it goes, idk ☕☕

I honestly feel bad for guys like granitefalcon26... man, he’s got so many deep-seated complexes eating him alive from the inside out, it’s actually wild... looking down on a woman just because she chooses to be a stay-at-home mom is straight-up toxic...

In every single thread, he’s acting like the smartest guy in the room... some big-shot intellectual with a PhD...🤣

Just imagine being stuck at a dinner party with someone like that, having to sit through him bragging about his Ivy League degree and how brilliant he is... he treats everyone like they're beneath him, claiming he only hangs out with "high-level professionals" because anyone else isn't worth his time for a conversation...

Honestly, this guy is a textbook case for a therapist...😂

Good for his mom, though—she really raised a genius over there... absolutely bursting with all that brainpower...🤣

Honestly, I’m just as glad as you are that they finally banned him.....😁
Look, once you fall into that deep pit of depression, everything feels hopeless. You start thinking things will never get better, and it’s easy to believe that lie. I know firsthand because I've been fighting my own battle with anxiety and depression for a while now.
Maybe it would actually help if you went to talk to a psychiatrist? Seriously, there’s zero shame in it. I’ve been seeing mine for years, and it completely turned my life around—it was a total game-changer, trust me. These are just crises we go through; everyone hits these walls at some point. Hang in there.🙂

Matthew Rodriguez9 said:I honestly feel bad for guys like granitefalcon26... man, he’s got so many deep-seated complexes eating him alive from the inside out, it’s actually wild... looking down on a woman just because she chooses to be a stay-at-home mom is straight-up toxic...

In every single thread, he’s acting like the smartest guy in the room... some big-shot intellectual with a PhD...🤣

Just imagine being stuck at a dinner party with someone like that, having to sit through him bragging about his Ivy League degree and how brilliant he is... he treats everyone like they're beneath him, claiming he only hangs out with "high-level professionals" because anyone else isn't worth his time for a conversation...

Honestly, this guy is a textbook case for a therapist...😂

Good for his mom, though—she really raised a genius over there... absolutely bursting with all that brainpower...🤣

I'm signing off on this one too....🙂