Is it a power outage or am I just losing it?

So, I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month now. The whole long-distance thing is a bit much, but honestly, it wasn't even the distance that was getting to me—everything felt totally fine until the day before yesterday. We met online, and we basically talk non-stop every single day because, well, conversation is really all we have right now. He’s mentioned coming out to visit me in Chicago a few times, but there’s always some random excuse holding him back, and when I suggested maybe meeting halfway—you know, somewhere in Indy or something—it was always the same old story... just "can I wait another week?" and I guess I just brushed it off.
As a person, he’s actually perfect for me. He’s super attentive, and we’re either texting or on the phone constantly. I’ve fallen hard, and since we spend so much time talking, we’ve gotten really intimate emotionally, you know?
But lately, I’ve just been such a wreck—super irritable because things with my family are messy, plus work has been a nightmare—and then he just... he completely set me off. He started venting about how much the distance is killing him, even though I’m doing my best to comfort him and remind him that we can power through this next year until he finally makes the move to the city. I wanted to have a real, serious heart-to-heart with him, but things just escalated too fast, and I ended up snapping that I just needed some peace and quiet—not that I wanted to break up, obviously, I just didn't need him adding his whining about the miles between us to my plate. He totally took it the wrong way, though. I called and texted like crazy after, feeling like a complete idiot, but he just went silent. Then, at like 3:00 AM, he sends this message saying he loves me more than I realize and that he can't stop loving me, and that he feels the same way I do.
So, yesterday morning, I sent a text asking if he could call when he had a second, but nothing. Nothing! I spent the whole day calling and messaging, and still radio silence. And today? I sent another one, and... crickets. Absolutely nothing.
I’m a total mess right now, just spiraling and overthinking everything. Is he seeing someone else? Was I just some temporary distraction for him? Because if so, what was all that attention and those deep, emotional late-night talks all for?
I’m honestly lost on how to handle this. It’s not like I can just hop in my car and drive across state lines to his front door right now, though, I don't know, if he keeps ghosting me, I might actually consider it in a few days.
I really need some advice because I'm officially out of ideas.🤷

Just give him some space for a bit. Don't nag him, or he'll just get fed up, trust me.
I know it’s tough, but hang in there and keep your chin up.🙂 At least wait a little while; maybe he'll reach out on his own.🙄I wonder how old he actually is?

Rachel Wright44 said:So, I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month now. The whole long-distance thing is a bit much, but honestly, it wasn't even the distance that was getting to me—everything felt totally fine until the day before yesterday. We met online, and we basically talk non-stop every single day because, well, conversation is really all we have right now. He’s mentioned coming out to visit me in Chicago a few times, but there’s always some random excuse holding him back, and when I suggested maybe meeting halfway—you know, somewhere in Indy or something—it was always the same old story... just "can I wait another week?" and I guess I just brushed it off.
As a person, he’s actually perfect for me. He’s super attentive, and we’re either texting or on the phone constantly. I’ve fallen hard, and since we spend so much time talking, we’ve gotten really intimate emotionally, you know?
But lately, I’ve just been such a wreck—super irritable because things with my family are messy, plus work has been a nightmare—and then he just... he completely set me off. He started venting about how much the distance is killing him, even though I’m doing my best to comfort him and remind him that we can power through this next year until he finally makes the move to the city. I wanted to have a real, serious heart-to-heart with him, but things just escalated too fast, and I ended up snapping that I just needed some peace and quiet—not that I wanted to break up, obviously, I just didn't need him adding his whining about the miles between us to my plate. He totally took it the wrong way, though. I called and texted like crazy after, feeling like a complete idiot, but he just went silent. Then, at like 3:00 AM, he sends this message saying he loves me more than I realize and that he can't stop loving me, and that he feels the same way I do.
So, yesterday morning, I sent a text asking if he could call when he had a second, but nothing. Nothing! I spent the whole day calling and messaging, and still radio silence. And today? I sent another one, and... crickets. Absolutely nothing.
I’m a total mess right now, just spiraling and overthinking everything. Is he seeing someone else? Was I just some temporary distraction for him? Because if so, what was all that attention and those deep, emotional late-night talks all for?
I’m honestly lost on how to handle this. It’s not like I can just hop in my car and drive across state lines to his front door right now, though, I don't know, if he keeps ghosting me, I might actually consider it in a few days.
I really need some advice because I'm officially out of ideas.🤷

First off, please forgive me for trimming down your post a bit.🙂
The parts that really jump out at me are those bolded sentences.
Based on what you’ve described, either you two are incredibly young, where the relationship is purely built on verbal connection without any physical depth, or this guy is being quite immature and is essentially playing games with you.
Something about his story just doesn't ring true to me.
By the way, how many times have you actually seen each other over these past few months, and has everything truly remained strictly verbal, without even a kiss or anything more?
It is perfectly natural that you are feeling distraught; anyone in your shoes would feel the same. You show him that you care, yet he keeps finding every possible excuse to avoid seeing you, and when you try to have a serious conversation about it, he either goes silent or gets defensive for no reason.
And to claim he loves you after only a month...😲
I don't want to be pessimistic, but the situation and his behavior don't give me much confidence.
Try your best to reach out to him. I realize it might be difficult since you mentioned the distance is significant (how far apart are you two, exactly?), but it would be best if you could manage it so you can talk things through.
His reaction will tell you everything you need to know.
He might have a legitimate reason, but if he does, his way of handling it is still incredibly foolish.
If he continues to act this way, you should seriously consider whether there is a future for this relationship.
The truth is, if you care about someone and believe their claims of love, you don't ignore the other person or look for reasons to avoid them.
I might sound a bit too idealistic here, but I believe that when two people are truly on the same wavelength, when they share genuine feelings and honest intentions, and both are willing to put in the work to sustain the bond, then nothing should stand in their way—not even the distance.