Brian Foster3 said:I'll keep this short.
Everything we do is ultimately for ourselves. We never actually step outside our own egos; we're just selfish, plain and simple, and there’s no way to just grab hold of ourselves and somehow "rise above" that inherent selfishness. Even all this talk about "spirituality" on these forums is just another manifestation of an egoistic craving to be spiritual. Honestly, wanting to be spiritual is probably the most sophisticated, highly developed form of egoism there is.
True spirituality is anything that exists entirely outside the ego. Which means it's completely out of our reach and inaccessible to us. All we ever get are these tiny, fleeting glimpses through momentary flashes of love.
To truly *be* love—to put others before yourself and love them as much as you love yourself—that is the only actual spirituality. That's it. Period. But none of us are capable of it, and let's be real, none of us even want to do it. We just want to satisfy our own damn selves.
Here's a good Quote:
An excerpt from the book "One Taste."
Shangri-La, 2000. copyright Ken Wilber.
Great yogis, saints, and sages reached those heights precisely because they weren't some withdrawn, tiny little nobodies. They were actually big, powerful egos, deeply integrated into the dynamic Ground and Purpose of the Cosmos itself. It’s actually because the ego, the soul, and the Self can exist simultaneously that we can better grasp what "selflessness" truly means—a concept that seems to cause an unusual amount of confusion. But selflessness doesn't mean the absence of a functional ego or Self (that would just be a psychotic, not a sage); rather, it means that a person is no longer exclusively identified with that ego or Self.
One reason we struggle so much with the idea of being "selfless" is that people just want their "selfless sages" to act out some fantasy of what's "holy" or "spiritual." Usually, that just means a state of total numbness from the neck down—no physical needs, no desires, just a constant, faint smile. Everything people actually struggle with—money, food, sex, relationships, longing—is exactly what they expect their saints to be stripped of. They want these "selfless saints" who have shed the ego and sit "above it all." They’re looking for disembodied illusions. I guess people believe religion will simply wipe away all those lower instincts and drives. So, instead of looking for advice on how to live a life full of enthusiasm, they turn to religion to find ways to bypass it, suppress it, or just avoid it altogether.
In other words, the average person wants a spiritual sage to be "less than a person." We seem to want them stripped of all those messy, juicy, complex, and primal drives that move most human beings. It’s like we expect our saints to be nothing more than an absence of everything that drives us. All those things that scare us, confuse us, or overwhelm us—we just want our saints to have absolutely nothing to do with them. And I guess that sense of detachment, that void, that "less than a person" quality... maybe that is exactly what we mean when we talk about being "egoless" or "selfless."
Being "ego-less" doesn't mean losing your sense of self. It isn't about subtracting your personality; I guess it's more like adding to it. It’s a personal plus, not a personal minus—taking all those standard individual traits and layering on some transpersonal depth. You might look at the great yogis, saints, and sages for perspective. Think about figures like Moses, Christ, or even Padmasambhava.
They weren't some weak, helpless wretches. They were fierce drivers of change—from wielding authority within the Temple to conquering entire nations. They shook the world by playing its own game, not through some sheltered, timid piety. Many of them ignited massive social revolutions that lasted for millennia. And they didn't do this by avoiding the physical, emotional, or mental dimensions of being human, nor by shunning the ego that served as their vehicle. Rather, they dove headlong into those realms with a will and an energy that shook the very foundations of the world.
There's no doubt about it. They were also engaged with the soul—that deeper psychic realm—and the spirit, which is that formless Self and the ultimate source of their power. But they manifested that strength through tangible results, mostly because they delved so deeply into those lower dimensions where that power speaks a language everyone can actually understand.
These major movers and shakers weren't small-minded egoists. They were great egoists, in the best sense of the term—simply because the ego (the functional vehicle of the gross realm) can exist alongside the soul (the subtle vehicle) and the Self (the causal vehicle). Since these great teachers were operating within the gross realm, they used their egos to do it, as the ego is the necessary medium for that level of reality.
However, they didn't just identify with their egos—which would be narcissism—but rather, they channeled their entire ego into the brilliant Cosmic source.
The great yogis, saints, and sages achieved so much precisely because they weren't shrinking, petty individuals, but expansive egoists, anchored into the dynamic Ground and Purpose of the Cosmos itself, merged into their higher Self, living in pure Atman (pure I-I), or oneness with Brahman; they spoke, and the world trembled, fell to its knees, and beheld its radiant God.
The rest of the translation (
which I definitely recommend) can be found at the link below:
http://www.integralworld.net/en/crokwego.htmlI guess... is it even possible to achieve spiritual realization without first experiencing the ego?