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Sandra Parker3 Sandra Parker3 Regular
419 messages
joined Oct 2007
#301 ·
Chloe Barnes8 said:Look, this is my thread. Like some blogger would say, "my thread, my rules." I'm kind of stepping into a moderator role here, I guess, just because I want to nudge the discussion in the direction I see fit, rather than letting it go wherever... if people don't like that, well, sorry... but I was just trying to help...

Besides, we aren't all here to agree on whether someone writes beautifully or not. My whole idea is that we should try to figure things out TOGETHER, even if it's just small realizations, just by chatting away...

It feels to me like The Ten and Taylor, even though they definitely have plenty to say, tend to be way too critical about everything, which doesn't really work here... we won't get anywhere that way... don't you think?🤷

You started this thread, but it isn't "your" thread, it isn't your personal blog, and it certainly isn't your private playground.

... my thought was that we could try to TOGETHER reach some kind of insight, even if it's just small stuff, through casual chatting..

We end up realizing our opinions differ. Great. So what's the issue? You lack any tolerance for different perspectives and feel entitled to pass dissenters along to someone else. If you're doing that unconsciously... fine... maybe do a little reading...
it seems to me that John and Jane, while they definitely have plenty to say, are being way too critical about everything, which leaves no room..we won't get anywhere then.... don't you agree?🤷

I don't agree. That's just your opinion, which means.... there is room.

And one correction: I'm not acting as Jane's or John's lawyer.
What I wrote to you, I wrote based on my own experience dealing with you in this thread.
rustymaker5 rustymaker5 Regular
352 messages
joined Mar 2008
#302 ·
No, no ladies! Let’s not let this whole conversation about needing help navigating relationships turn into some kind of petty catfight between us women... because honestly, if we aren't careful, the guys might actually end up getting their theories validated by our bickering...😍
Sandra Parker3 Sandra Parker3 Regular
419 messages
joined Oct 2007
#303 ·
It wouldn't be the first time, either—remember that thread about abuse...
which was actually perfect because of all that constant bickering between the women on it 😉

I'd say "let's move on," but I already accidentally used that "political" cliché once... so let's just go with: let's move forward...
Chloe Barnes8 Chloe Barnes8 Active MemberOP
81 messages
joined Dec 2007
#304 ·
Sandra Parker3 said:You started this thread, but it isn't "your" thread, it isn't your personal blog, and it certainly isn't your private playground.

... my thought was that we could try to TOGETHER reach some kind of insight, even if it's just small stuff, through casual chatting..

We end up realizing our opinions differ. Great. So what's the issue? You lack any tolerance for different perspectives and feel entitled to pass dissenters along to someone else. If you're doing that unconsciously... fine... maybe do a little reading...
it seems to me that John and Jane, while they definitely have plenty to say, are being way too critical about everything, which leaves no room..we won't get anywhere then.... don't you agree?🤷

I don't agree. That's just your opinion, which means.... there is room.

And one correction: I'm not acting as Jane's or John's lawyer.
What I wrote to you, I wrote based on my own experience dealing with you in this thread.

Okay, Sandra Parker3, it’s not a blog, sure, but if I'm the one who kicked off the discussion, I feel responsible for it. Whether I want to or not, I feel like I have to step up and act a bit like a moderator, you know what I mean?

Our views are different, okay, but let's not just toss out an entire value system just because it isn't ours or because someone thinks it isn't "politically correct." In this thread, it feels like a lot of things—knowledge, religion, basically everything—are being dismissed...

If my take is different from yours, fine, I won't force it on you. But if I'm in the minority, I'd really appreciate it if my perspective was respected as such... 🙏

And I shouldn't be expected to just cave to the majority or to people who, I don't know, have been posting here longer than I have, just because that makes it "politically correct"... 😉

So, hey everyone, let's just listen to each other, actually read what's being said, and try to be tolerant...

Even if the debates get a little heated, as long as they're based on actual arguments... 🙂
Chloe Barnes8 Chloe Barnes8 Active MemberOP
81 messages
joined Dec 2007
#305 ·
rustymaker5 said:No, no ladies! Let’s not let this whole conversation about needing help navigating relationships turn into some kind of petty catfight between us women... because honestly, if we aren't careful, the guys might actually end up getting their theories validated by our bickering...😍

let's not give them the satisfaction!

especially since they aren't even that much of a united front behind the scenes like people think...🙂
Sandra Parker3 Sandra Parker3 Regular
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joined Oct 2007
#306 ·
Chloe Barnes8 said:Okay, Sandra Parker3, it’s not a blog, sure, but if I'm the one who kicked off the discussion, I feel responsible for it. Whether I want to or not, I feel like I have to step up and act a bit like a moderator, you know what I mean?

Our views are different, okay, but let's not just toss out an entire value system just because it isn't ours or because someone thinks it isn't "politically correct." In this thread, it feels like a lot of things—knowledge, religion, basically everything—are being dismissed...

If my take is different from yours, fine, I won't force it on you. But if I'm in the minority, I'd really appreciate it if my perspective was respected as such... 🙏

And I shouldn't be expected to just cave to the majority or to people who, I don't know, have been posting here longer than I have, just because that makes it "politically correct"... 😉

So, hey everyone, let's just listen to each other, actually read what's being said, and try to be tolerant...

Even if the debates get a little heated, as long as they're based on actual arguments... 🙂

I had to quote it this way because I wanted to reorganize things, sorry, but I really can't be bothered dealing with a massive pile of quotes.

1. Kind of, yeah, but nothing about eliminating anyone who disagrees or isn't "on script."

2. There’s no such thing as "our opinion"; I've told you this three times already, Jane, John and I don't even share the same view.

3. You're exactly the one expecting that from others 🙂 , and as for that comment about how much people write here, I'll just pretend I didn't see it—pure stupidity.

4. Yes, but you don't get to be the sole judge of what counts as an argument.

And let's not go any further with this...

edit: I don't believe in female solidarity or male solidarity any more than anything else... it's just a basic gender stereotype.
Chloe Barnes8 Chloe Barnes8 Active MemberOP
81 messages
joined Dec 2007
#307 ·
aha, so who's actually being edgy and intolerant now?

if we're done talking about that, then fine, we're done...

let's just get back to the main topic if anyone's up for it, anyway...☕
Sandra Parker3 Sandra Parker3 Regular
419 messages
joined Oct 2007
#308 ·
There’s a massive difference between being blunt and just being straight-up intolerant.

I don't even think I was being harsh, though maybe my brain just short-circuited for a second.
Chloe Barnes8 Chloe Barnes8 Active MemberOP
81 messages
joined Dec 2007
#309 ·
I’m with you on that last point... I really can't be the one to decide what counts as a solid argument or what doesn't; we all have to weigh things in ourselves... okay...

Moving right along... (any resemblance to actual political slogans is purely coincidental😁)...🙂
Angela Rogers2 Angela Rogers2 Active Member
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joined Oct 2007
#310 ·
Chloe Barnes8 said:Anyway, Jane, while I totally get where you're coming from regarding crowd psychology—especially how people tend to act around here—I feel like you're being a little less than tolerant this time around...

So, I was just sitting here thinking... if someone is an atheist, does that actually make them a better person morally? Or maybe just smarter than someone who believes in God? Just a random thought crossing my mind.

Is it really necessary to assume that someone who just follows the herd like a mindless sheep—you know, those folks who lack any real conviction—is automatically an enlightened intellectual just because they claim to be an atheist? It’s funny how people label things these days... anyway, just a thought.
I mean, I’m just sitting here thinking... maybe we could all try a little more tolerance around here? Like, if nobody is out for blood against the atheists, then let's not go after the folks who actually have faith, either. It just doesn't feel right. It feels a bit unhuman, honestly. And definitely doesn't sit well with democratic values or even just basic American politeness. Just a thought.

Who are we actually to judge someone else's core beliefs? Honestly, I was just sitting here thinking about it... like, who am I to play judge and jury over what makes someone tick? It's kind of wild when you really stop to consider it. Everyone's got their own thing going on, right? Just a random thought that popped into my head while I was grabbing coffee earlier. Anyway, just wondering.

Fine. It’s not really my job to be.

Chloe Barnes8 said:Anyway, Jane, while I totally get where you're coming from regarding crowd psychology—especially how people tend to act around here—I feel like you're being a little less than tolerant this time around...

So, I was just sitting here thinking... if someone is an atheist, does that actually make them a better person morally? Or maybe just smarter than someone who believes in God? Just a random thought crossing my mind.

Is it really necessary to assume that someone who just follows the herd like a mindless sheep—you know, those folks who lack any real conviction—is automatically an enlightened intellectual just because they claim to be an atheist? It’s funny how people label things these days... anyway, just a thought.
I mean, I’m just sitting here thinking... maybe we could all try a little more tolerance around here? Like, if nobody is out for blood against the atheists, then let's not go after the folks who actually have faith, either. It just doesn't feel right. It feels a bit unhuman, honestly. And definitely doesn't sit well with democratic values or even just basic American politeness. Just a thought.

Who are we actually to judge someone else's core beliefs? Honestly, I was just sitting here thinking about it... like, who am I to play judge and jury over what makes someone tick? It's kind of wild when you really stop to consider it. Everyone's got their own thing going on, right? Just a random thought that popped into my head while I was grabbing coffee earlier. Anyway, just wondering.

In most cases, yeah. I can't speak for every single exception, but generally speaking, atheists tend to be far more morally sound than believers.
Chloe Barnes8 said:Anyway, Jane, while I totally get where you're coming from regarding crowd psychology—especially how people tend to act around here—I feel like you're being a little less than tolerant this time around...

So, I was just sitting here thinking... if someone is an atheist, does that actually make them a better person morally? Or maybe just smarter than someone who believes in God? Just a random thought crossing my mind.

Is it really necessary to assume that someone who just follows the herd like a mindless sheep—you know, those folks who lack any real conviction—is automatically an enlightened intellectual just because they claim to be an atheist? It’s funny how people label things these days... anyway, just a thought.
I mean, I’m just sitting here thinking... maybe we could all try a little more tolerance around here? Like, if nobody is out for blood against the atheists, then let's not go after the folks who actually have faith, either. It just doesn't feel right. It feels a bit unhuman, honestly. And definitely doesn't sit well with democratic values or even just basic American politeness. Just a thought.

Who are we actually to judge someone else's core beliefs? Honestly, I was just sitting here thinking about it... like, who am I to play judge and jury over what makes someone tick? It's kind of wild when you really stop to consider it. Everyone's got their own thing going on, right? Just a random thought that popped into my head while I was grabbing coffee earlier. Anyway, just wondering.

Someone who believes is essentially just a sheep.
Chloe Barnes8 said:Anyway, Jane, while I totally get where you're coming from regarding crowd psychology—especially how people tend to act around here—I feel like you're being a little less than tolerant this time around...

So, I was just sitting here thinking... if someone is an atheist, does that actually make them a better person morally? Or maybe just smarter than someone who believes in God? Just a random thought crossing my mind.

Is it really necessary to assume that someone who just follows the herd like a mindless sheep—you know, those folks who lack any real conviction—is automatically an enlightened intellectual just because they claim to be an atheist? It’s funny how people label things these days... anyway, just a thought.
I mean, I’m just sitting here thinking... maybe we could all try a little more tolerance around here? Like, if nobody is out for blood against the atheists, then let's not go after the folks who actually have faith, either. It just doesn't feel right. It feels a bit unhuman, honestly. And definitely doesn't sit well with democratic values or even just basic American politeness. Just a thought.

Who are we actually to judge someone else's core beliefs? Honestly, I was just sitting here thinking about it... like, who am I to play judge and jury over what makes someone tick? It's kind of wild when you really stop to consider it. Everyone's got their own thing going on, right? Just a random thought that popped into my head while I was grabbing coffee earlier. Anyway, just wondering.

Look, while the corrupt figures within the Catholic Church are pocketing taxpayer money, they basically have a free pass on almost everything—especially since they build their entire authority and power on nothing more than someone's imagination. I mean, let's be realistic.
Once we achieve full secularization of the state, maybe then we can talk about democracy, tolerance, and basic decency.
Wherever you live, I’d love to visit; sounds like a real utopia.
Chloe Barnes8 said:Anyway, Jane, while I totally get where you're coming from regarding crowd psychology—especially how people tend to act around here—I feel like you're being a little less than tolerant this time around...

So, I was just sitting here thinking... if someone is an atheist, does that actually make them a better person morally? Or maybe just smarter than someone who believes in God? Just a random thought crossing my mind.

Is it really necessary to assume that someone who just follows the herd like a mindless sheep—you know, those folks who lack any real conviction—is automatically an enlightened intellectual just because they claim to be an atheist? It’s funny how people label things these days... anyway, just a thought.
I mean, I’m just sitting here thinking... maybe we could all try a little more tolerance around here? Like, if nobody is out for blood against the atheists, then let's not go after the folks who actually have faith, either. It just doesn't feel right. It feels a bit unhuman, honestly. And definitely doesn't sit well with democratic values or even just basic American politeness. Just a thought.

Who are we actually to judge someone else's core beliefs? Honestly, I was just sitting here thinking about it... like, who am I to play judge and jury over what makes someone tick? It's kind of wild when you really stop to consider it. Everyone's got their own thing going on, right? Just a random thought that popped into my head while I was grabbing coffee earlier. Anyway, just wondering.

I guess I’m just a fly on the wall here (is that poetic enough for you?)
But seriously, who are you to judge my core beliefs? You’re calling for tolerance toward something that—in my book—barely qualifies as sane.

And sorry again for going off-topic, but just because you started this thread doesn't mean you can drop an opinion in an off-topic section and then expect me to stay quiet just because I'm technically off-topic too. It feels like you're dodging the actual debate by hiding behind the subforum rules.
If you don't like where the conversation is heading, maybe give a heads-up. If that doesn't work, there are moderators available to clean things up or split threads, which honestly probably needs to happen anyway.
I actually find this discussion pretty interesting, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with dating or gender relations.
Chloe Barnes8 Chloe Barnes8 Active MemberOP
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joined Dec 2007
#311 ·
Angela Rogers2 said:Fine. It’s not really my job to be.

In most cases, yeah. I can't speak for every single exception, but generally speaking, atheists tend to be far more morally sound than believers.

Someone who believes is essentially just a sheep.

Look, while the corrupt figures within the Catholic Church are pocketing taxpayer money, they basically have a free pass on almost everything—especially since they build their entire authority and power on nothing more than someone's imagination. I mean, let's be realistic.
Once we achieve full secularization of the state, maybe then we can talk about democracy, tolerance, and basic decency.
Wherever you live, I’d love to visit; sounds like a real utopia.

I guess I’m just a fly on the wall here (is that poetic enough for you?)
But seriously, who are you to judge my core beliefs? You’re calling for tolerance toward something that—in my book—barely qualifies as sane.

And sorry again for going off-topic, but just because you started this thread doesn't mean you can drop an opinion in an off-topic section and then expect me to stay quiet just because I'm technically off-topic too. It feels like you're dodging the actual debate by hiding behind the subforum rules.
If you don't like where the conversation is heading, maybe give a heads-up. If that doesn't work, there are moderators available to clean things up or split threads, which honestly probably needs to happen anyway.
I actually find this discussion pretty interesting, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with dating or gender relations.

I really don't want to get into a back-and-forth about faith versus atheism right here in this thread, so could everyone please stick to the main topic? Thanks!🙂
Chloe Barnes8 Chloe Barnes8 Active MemberOP
81 messages
joined Dec 2007
#312 ·
I couldn't quite get the quote function to work right, so you'll just have to dig through my previous post to find Ten's answers myself. But hey, if anyone's actually interested...😉
lonegardener lonegardener Regular
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joined Apr 2010
#313 ·
Chloe Barnes8 said:Nice one, lonegardener! Such a great comeback to our little "rebel" here!😁 😁 👍

I was actually thinking the same thing—that kind of intense, passionate way of thinking feels more like something out of the Voltairean era rather than the 21st century, where everything just feels so... twisted and spun around already...

On a personal note, I guess you could say it’s a bit more suited to an adolescent mindset, but hey, let's not get too nitpicky about it...😁

Anyway, these days, blending psychology with spirituality is actually pretty trendy; honestly, entire new movements are popping up all the time... So the whole "thing" has basically just looped back around itself... We went from merging spirituality and psychology before the academic world really took hold, to completely stripping the "soul" out of psychology for this hyper-materialistic approach (which hits its peak with behaviorism, where there's no room for emotions or personality anymore—just behavior, behavior, behavior)... and now we're seeing these modern trends... starting with New York City or even earlier....

But then, what do we even use to measure mental health? How can you actually trust any of it?
How do you know who to believe?

I don't know... maybe it's just that same kind of blind faith you have when you trust your mechanic, your doctor, your pharmacist, or even your local baker (baker-doctor-pharmacist, haha!)... you just trust their products and their services...😁

I feel like I've covered this ground plenty of times, but there's no harm in revisiting it once more.

I trust an auto mechanic BECAUSE I've seen firsthand a million times that they actually know how to fix a car (and by that, I mean the concept of a mechanic, not necessarily any specific individual. Sure, some mechanics are terrible, but I know high-quality ones exist). I trust a baker because I've been eating bread they've made for years and I'm still standing. I trust a doctor, too; I've dealt with various ailments and seen that they can treat them (barring the incurable stuff, of course—but that's the point. You don't go to a doctor expecting them to regrow your arm, precisely because you know they can't).

On the other hand, as I mentioned before, my uncle has struggled with mental illness for twenty years. The best psychiatry could manage was essentially turning him into a zombie by pumping him full of so-called "medication"—which, in reality, act more like toxins that shut down basic brain functions. I look at him today and I don't even recognize the man I used to call "uncle." And he isn't an isolated case; I've seen plenty of situations where neither psychiatry nor psychology has a single answer. When I factor in my own professional experience dealing with complex systems and apply it to a system far more intricate than anything I've ever encountered—the human brain—it all leads to one simple conclusion: you cannot compare a psychiatrist to an auto mechanic. Trusting a mechanic is grounded in reality; trusting a psychiatrist isn't—at least not today. Not yet.
lonegardener lonegardener Regular
347 messages
joined Apr 2010
#314 ·
Christian Wells6 said:After stumbling upon this while reading—without even being logged in, mind you—I found myself staring at the life story of someone on my ignore list. I didn't click through just to echo what Destiny said, though I find myself in total agreement with them.
Well, perhaps there is one minor point of divergence regarding consciousness, but we have already exhausted that particular avenue of discussion.

It is truly fascinating, if a bit wearying, to witness the reactions people have when one begins to identify certain institutions as fundamentally criminal. Honestly, I have neither the energy nor the inclination to get into a shouting match over who knows whom or who has crossed whom—my apologies to everyone else for the bluntness.

Is this matter settled?

You're likely aiming this at me. You might not even read this, but someone else will. You put me on your ignore list because of maybe two or three harmless posts where I probably didn't address you with "due respect." That was months ago. Do you really cling to first impressions that tightly? Well, that certainly aligns with your signature. 😂
lonegardener lonegardener Regular
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#315 ·
Angela Rogers2 said:hm. yeah. because they're—trash. I don't know exactly how old you were back in '91, but let's say a friend of mine had to head over to D.C. for a few months so he wouldn't get drafted; his parents' neighbors, who were actually pretty decent, high-profile people, treated them like they were some kind of radical insurgents just because the kid "went to the capital and blah blah blah." Another acquaintance started a spiritual career with the Jehovah's Witnesses in the early '90s; his family kicked him out because they were devout Catholics and he was a "cultist"... you can find so many examples where people start acting like animals because of deep-seated feelings like nationalism, religion, or political ideology. And the saddest part is, it has nothing to do with intellect or social class; the people driven by these (in my opinion, low) passions are often doctors and truck drivers alike.
If some super-alien shows up, well, if it's what you suggested, I won't have anything to complain about. Facts are facts. If we're small, pathetic, and miserable to them, then it's perfectly fine for them to treat us that way.

Agree to what, exactly? I don't follow.
It's not a matter of intelligence; it's about common sense, suggestibility, and using the frontal lobe of your brain.

Opinions don't really carry much weight, mostly because people are experts at lying to themselves and rationalizing their own nonsense. Actions are what actually tell the truth, so behavior is the only thing that really matters. It’s the only honest metric for a person's quality and the life they’re actually leading. As for that hypnotic state you see within a mob, I guess there are a few key traits. First, an individual inside a crowd gets this sense of overwhelming power, which basically gives them a free pass to surrender to impulses they’d normally keep under control—you know, the typical "us versus them" mentality, or those sweeping generalizations about certain groups of people being inferior or whatever. You can apply that same logic to religion or political ideologies, too. Second, there’s the contagion factor. Every single action and emotion creates a sort of collective orientation, often leading an individual to sacrifice their own interests just to serve the herd. That goes against basic human nature, or at least how most people act when they aren't being swept up. And then, of course, there's suggestibility. I suppose you could conclude that the majority is almost always intellectually inferior to the individual. I don't want to sound entirely negative, since humans are social creatures and we all belong to some kind of group, but given how these groups orient themselves, their characteristics can be incredibly destructive. No matter how many lofty moral ideals a mob claims to stand for, their actual behavior rarely lives up to the rhetoric.

So, I don't really get why everyone's getting so worked up about this. I mean, isn't it pretty obvious that anyone could see themselves in something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline? Maybe you just aren't grasping what's being said here, or maybe you're just skimming the surface.

I keep saying this, but it isn't about what you say; it's about what you actually do. For instance, if you claim to be an atheist and don't care what some priest says, fine, I don't either. But the issue here is our country; the church still wields an authority it simply shouldn't have, and it shouldn't be exploiting its 24/7 direct line to God for its own interests, yet that's exactly what's happening.
It isn't even that radical—we aren't living in the 1800s—but it happens through small steps, like subtle sermons and whatnot. They plant an opinion in the head of the average person, who then just repeats it in some casual, bar-room logic. Tomorrow, they'll raise their kid under the guise of passive aggression disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. And yeah, I guess I could say that disturbs me, to a certain extent, depending on how much I feel like participating in this society. I won't even get into what creationists and cults are up to, or what Islam does... religion definitely causes a lot of harm, but whatever someone cursed two hundred years ago doesn't change the facts today.
We've had two centuries of technological progress to end up sitting in front of computers talking to each other, but when it comes to how the average person actually behaves, very little has really changed.
I think I get what you're getting at with Orwell. And yeah, I've read him; Animal Farm actually stuck with me a bit more, but that's beside the point.
And of course, I'm aware of all that, and it's not a small thing. I used to write about religion—about how it limits the individual, intruding on privacy and freedom through various norms, regulations, and laws. You end up feeling sanctioned from every direction.
But on the flip side, criticism, discussion, and analysis of any social, political, or sociological event are allowed. That's how dogmatic, sweeping opinions and beliefs eventually fade away (slowly, but hopefully in the long run), which is good. In the long term, people shouldn't rely on the prestige of some ideology, religion, or social structure, but rather on what they can actually see happening right in front of them.
That's my somewhat optimistic take, anyway, though the masses remain a problematic bunch.
So, if 1984 actually happens, don't ask why.

And sorry for the long off-topic rant. 🙂

What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

Angela Rogers2 said:hm. yeah. because they're—trash. I don't know exactly how old you were back in '91, but let's say a friend of mine had to head over to D.C. for a few months so he wouldn't get drafted; his parents' neighbors, who were actually pretty decent, high-profile people, treated them like they were some kind of radical insurgents just because the kid "went to the capital and blah blah blah." Another acquaintance started a spiritual career with the Jehovah's Witnesses in the early '90s; his family kicked him out because they were devout Catholics and he was a "cultist"... you can find so many examples where people start acting like animals because of deep-seated feelings like nationalism, religion, or political ideology. And the saddest part is, it has nothing to do with intellect or social class; the people driven by these (in my opinion, low) passions are often doctors and truck drivers alike.
If some super-alien shows up, well, if it's what you suggested, I won't have anything to complain about. Facts are facts. If we're small, pathetic, and miserable to them, then it's perfectly fine for them to treat us that way.

Agree to what, exactly? I don't follow.
It's not a matter of intelligence; it's about common sense, suggestibility, and using the frontal lobe of your brain.

Opinions don't really carry much weight, mostly because people are experts at lying to themselves and rationalizing their own nonsense. Actions are what actually tell the truth, so behavior is the only thing that really matters. It’s the only honest metric for a person's quality and the life they’re actually leading. As for that hypnotic state you see within a mob, I guess there are a few key traits. First, an individual inside a crowd gets this sense of overwhelming power, which basically gives them a free pass to surrender to impulses they’d normally keep under control—you know, the typical "us versus them" mentality, or those sweeping generalizations about certain groups of people being inferior or whatever. You can apply that same logic to religion or political ideologies, too. Second, there’s the contagion factor. Every single action and emotion creates a sort of collective orientation, often leading an individual to sacrifice their own interests just to serve the herd. That goes against basic human nature, or at least how most people act when they aren't being swept up. And then, of course, there's suggestibility. I suppose you could conclude that the majority is almost always intellectually inferior to the individual. I don't want to sound entirely negative, since humans are social creatures and we all belong to some kind of group, but given how these groups orient themselves, their characteristics can be incredibly destructive. No matter how many lofty moral ideals a mob claims to stand for, their actual behavior rarely lives up to the rhetoric.

So, I don't really get why everyone's getting so worked up about this. I mean, isn't it pretty obvious that anyone could see themselves in something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline? Maybe you just aren't grasping what's being said here, or maybe you're just skimming the surface.

I keep saying this, but it isn't about what you say; it's about what you actually do. For instance, if you claim to be an atheist and don't care what some priest says, fine, I don't either. But the issue here is our country; the church still wields an authority it simply shouldn't have, and it shouldn't be exploiting its 24/7 direct line to God for its own interests, yet that's exactly what's happening.
It isn't even that radical—we aren't living in the 1800s—but it happens through small steps, like subtle sermons and whatnot. They plant an opinion in the head of the average person, who then just repeats it in some casual, bar-room logic. Tomorrow, they'll raise their kid under the guise of passive aggression disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. And yeah, I guess I could say that disturbs me, to a certain extent, depending on how much I feel like participating in this society. I won't even get into what creationists and cults are up to, or what Islam does... religion definitely causes a lot of harm, but whatever someone cursed two hundred years ago doesn't change the facts today.
We've had two centuries of technological progress to end up sitting in front of computers talking to each other, but when it comes to how the average person actually behaves, very little has really changed.
I think I get what you're getting at with Orwell. And yeah, I've read him; Animal Farm actually stuck with me a bit more, but that's beside the point.
And of course, I'm aware of all that, and it's not a small thing. I used to write about religion—about how it limits the individual, intruding on privacy and freedom through various norms, regulations, and laws. You end up feeling sanctioned from every direction.
But on the flip side, criticism, discussion, and analysis of any social, political, or sociological event are allowed. That's how dogmatic, sweeping opinions and beliefs eventually fade away (slowly, but hopefully in the long run), which is good. In the long term, people shouldn't rely on the prestige of some ideology, religion, or social structure, but rather on what they can actually see happening right in front of them.
That's my somewhat optimistic take, anyway, though the masses remain a problematic bunch.
So, if 1984 actually happens, don't ask why.

And sorry for the long off-topic rant. 🙂

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Angela Rogers2 said:hm. yeah. because they're—trash. I don't know exactly how old you were back in '91, but let's say a friend of mine had to head over to D.C. for a few months so he wouldn't get drafted; his parents' neighbors, who were actually pretty decent, high-profile people, treated them like they were some kind of radical insurgents just because the kid "went to the capital and blah blah blah." Another acquaintance started a spiritual career with the Jehovah's Witnesses in the early '90s; his family kicked him out because they were devout Catholics and he was a "cultist"... you can find so many examples where people start acting like animals because of deep-seated feelings like nationalism, religion, or political ideology. And the saddest part is, it has nothing to do with intellect or social class; the people driven by these (in my opinion, low) passions are often doctors and truck drivers alike.
If some super-alien shows up, well, if it's what you suggested, I won't have anything to complain about. Facts are facts. If we're small, pathetic, and miserable to them, then it's perfectly fine for them to treat us that way.

Agree to what, exactly? I don't follow.
It's not a matter of intelligence; it's about common sense, suggestibility, and using the frontal lobe of your brain.

Opinions don't really carry much weight, mostly because people are experts at lying to themselves and rationalizing their own nonsense. Actions are what actually tell the truth, so behavior is the only thing that really matters. It’s the only honest metric for a person's quality and the life they’re actually leading. As for that hypnotic state you see within a mob, I guess there are a few key traits. First, an individual inside a crowd gets this sense of overwhelming power, which basically gives them a free pass to surrender to impulses they’d normally keep under control—you know, the typical "us versus them" mentality, or those sweeping generalizations about certain groups of people being inferior or whatever. You can apply that same logic to religion or political ideologies, too. Second, there’s the contagion factor. Every single action and emotion creates a sort of collective orientation, often leading an individual to sacrifice their own interests just to serve the herd. That goes against basic human nature, or at least how most people act when they aren't being swept up. And then, of course, there's suggestibility. I suppose you could conclude that the majority is almost always intellectually inferior to the individual. I don't want to sound entirely negative, since humans are social creatures and we all belong to some kind of group, but given how these groups orient themselves, their characteristics can be incredibly destructive. No matter how many lofty moral ideals a mob claims to stand for, their actual behavior rarely lives up to the rhetoric.

So, I don't really get why everyone's getting so worked up about this. I mean, isn't it pretty obvious that anyone could see themselves in something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline? Maybe you just aren't grasping what's being said here, or maybe you're just skimming the surface.

I keep saying this, but it isn't about what you say; it's about what you actually do. For instance, if you claim to be an atheist and don't care what some priest says, fine, I don't either. But the issue here is our country; the church still wields an authority it simply shouldn't have, and it shouldn't be exploiting its 24/7 direct line to God for its own interests, yet that's exactly what's happening.
It isn't even that radical—we aren't living in the 1800s—but it happens through small steps, like subtle sermons and whatnot. They plant an opinion in the head of the average person, who then just repeats it in some casual, bar-room logic. Tomorrow, they'll raise their kid under the guise of passive aggression disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. And yeah, I guess I could say that disturbs me, to a certain extent, depending on how much I feel like participating in this society. I won't even get into what creationists and cults are up to, or what Islam does... religion definitely causes a lot of harm, but whatever someone cursed two hundred years ago doesn't change the facts today.
We've had two centuries of technological progress to end up sitting in front of computers talking to each other, but when it comes to how the average person actually behaves, very little has really changed.
I think I get what you're getting at with Orwell. And yeah, I've read him; Animal Farm actually stuck with me a bit more, but that's beside the point.
And of course, I'm aware of all that, and it's not a small thing. I used to write about religion—about how it limits the individual, intruding on privacy and freedom through various norms, regulations, and laws. You end up feeling sanctioned from every direction.
But on the flip side, criticism, discussion, and analysis of any social, political, or sociological event are allowed. That's how dogmatic, sweeping opinions and beliefs eventually fade away (slowly, but hopefully in the long run), which is good. In the long term, people shouldn't rely on the prestige of some ideology, religion, or social structure, but rather on what they can actually see happening right in front of them.
That's my somewhat optimistic take, anyway, though the masses remain a problematic bunch.
So, if 1984 actually happens, don't ask why.

And sorry for the long off-topic rant. 🙂

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

Angela Rogers2 said:hm. yeah. because they're—trash. I don't know exactly how old you were back in '91, but let's say a friend of mine had to head over to D.C. for a few months so he wouldn't get drafted; his parents' neighbors, who were actually pretty decent, high-profile people, treated them like they were some kind of radical insurgents just because the kid "went to the capital and blah blah blah." Another acquaintance started a spiritual career with the Jehovah's Witnesses in the early '90s; his family kicked him out because they were devout Catholics and he was a "cultist"... you can find so many examples where people start acting like animals because of deep-seated feelings like nationalism, religion, or political ideology. And the saddest part is, it has nothing to do with intellect or social class; the people driven by these (in my opinion, low) passions are often doctors and truck drivers alike.
If some super-alien shows up, well, if it's what you suggested, I won't have anything to complain about. Facts are facts. If we're small, pathetic, and miserable to them, then it's perfectly fine for them to treat us that way.

Agree to what, exactly? I don't follow.
It's not a matter of intelligence; it's about common sense, suggestibility, and using the frontal lobe of your brain.

Opinions don't really carry much weight, mostly because people are experts at lying to themselves and rationalizing their own nonsense. Actions are what actually tell the truth, so behavior is the only thing that really matters. It’s the only honest metric for a person's quality and the life they’re actually leading. As for that hypnotic state you see within a mob, I guess there are a few key traits. First, an individual inside a crowd gets this sense of overwhelming power, which basically gives them a free pass to surrender to impulses they’d normally keep under control—you know, the typical "us versus them" mentality, or those sweeping generalizations about certain groups of people being inferior or whatever. You can apply that same logic to religion or political ideologies, too. Second, there’s the contagion factor. Every single action and emotion creates a sort of collective orientation, often leading an individual to sacrifice their own interests just to serve the herd. That goes against basic human nature, or at least how most people act when they aren't being swept up. And then, of course, there's suggestibility. I suppose you could conclude that the majority is almost always intellectually inferior to the individual. I don't want to sound entirely negative, since humans are social creatures and we all belong to some kind of group, but given how these groups orient themselves, their characteristics can be incredibly destructive. No matter how many lofty moral ideals a mob claims to stand for, their actual behavior rarely lives up to the rhetoric.

So, I don't really get why everyone's getting so worked up about this. I mean, isn't it pretty obvious that anyone could see themselves in something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline? Maybe you just aren't grasping what's being said here, or maybe you're just skimming the surface.

I keep saying this, but it isn't about what you say; it's about what you actually do. For instance, if you claim to be an atheist and don't care what some priest says, fine, I don't either. But the issue here is our country; the church still wields an authority it simply shouldn't have, and it shouldn't be exploiting its 24/7 direct line to God for its own interests, yet that's exactly what's happening.
It isn't even that radical—we aren't living in the 1800s—but it happens through small steps, like subtle sermons and whatnot. They plant an opinion in the head of the average person, who then just repeats it in some casual, bar-room logic. Tomorrow, they'll raise their kid under the guise of passive aggression disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. And yeah, I guess I could say that disturbs me, to a certain extent, depending on how much I feel like participating in this society. I won't even get into what creationists and cults are up to, or what Islam does... religion definitely causes a lot of harm, but whatever someone cursed two hundred years ago doesn't change the facts today.
We've had two centuries of technological progress to end up sitting in front of computers talking to each other, but when it comes to how the average person actually behaves, very little has really changed.
I think I get what you're getting at with Orwell. And yeah, I've read him; Animal Farm actually stuck with me a bit more, but that's beside the point.
And of course, I'm aware of all that, and it's not a small thing. I used to write about religion—about how it limits the individual, intruding on privacy and freedom through various norms, regulations, and laws. You end up feeling sanctioned from every direction.
But on the flip side, criticism, discussion, and analysis of any social, political, or sociological event are allowed. That's how dogmatic, sweeping opinions and beliefs eventually fade away (slowly, but hopefully in the long run), which is good. In the long term, people shouldn't rely on the prestige of some ideology, religion, or social structure, but rather on what they can actually see happening right in front of them.
That's my somewhat optimistic take, anyway, though the masses remain a problematic bunch.
So, if 1984 actually happens, don't ask why.

And sorry for the long off-topic rant. 🙂

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

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Angela Rogers2 said:hm. yeah. because they're—trash. I don't know exactly how old you were back in '91, but let's say a friend of mine had to head over to D.C. for a few months so he wouldn't get drafted; his parents' neighbors, who were actually pretty decent, high-profile people, treated them like they were some kind of radical insurgents just because the kid "went to the capital and blah blah blah." Another acquaintance started a spiritual career with the Jehovah's Witnesses in the early '90s; his family kicked him out because they were devout Catholics and he was a "cultist"... you can find so many examples where people start acting like animals because of deep-seated feelings like nationalism, religion, or political ideology. And the saddest part is, it has nothing to do with intellect or social class; the people driven by these (in my opinion, low) passions are often doctors and truck drivers alike.
If some super-alien shows up, well, if it's what you suggested, I won't have anything to complain about. Facts are facts. If we're small, pathetic, and miserable to them, then it's perfectly fine for them to treat us that way.

Agree to what, exactly? I don't follow.
It's not a matter of intelligence; it's about common sense, suggestibility, and using the frontal lobe of your brain.

Opinions don't really carry much weight, mostly because people are experts at lying to themselves and rationalizing their own nonsense. Actions are what actually tell the truth, so behavior is the only thing that really matters. It’s the only honest metric for a person's quality and the life they’re actually leading. As for that hypnotic state you see within a mob, I guess there are a few key traits. First, an individual inside a crowd gets this sense of overwhelming power, which basically gives them a free pass to surrender to impulses they’d normally keep under control—you know, the typical "us versus them" mentality, or those sweeping generalizations about certain groups of people being inferior or whatever. You can apply that same logic to religion or political ideologies, too. Second, there’s the contagion factor. Every single action and emotion creates a sort of collective orientation, often leading an individual to sacrifice their own interests just to serve the herd. That goes against basic human nature, or at least how most people act when they aren't being swept up. And then, of course, there's suggestibility. I suppose you could conclude that the majority is almost always intellectually inferior to the individual. I don't want to sound entirely negative, since humans are social creatures and we all belong to some kind of group, but given how these groups orient themselves, their characteristics can be incredibly destructive. No matter how many lofty moral ideals a mob claims to stand for, their actual behavior rarely lives up to the rhetoric.

So, I don't really get why everyone's getting so worked up about this. I mean, isn't it pretty obvious that anyone could see themselves in something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline? Maybe you just aren't grasping what's being said here, or maybe you're just skimming the surface.

I keep saying this, but it isn't about what you say; it's about what you actually do. For instance, if you claim to be an atheist and don't care what some priest says, fine, I don't either. But the issue here is our country; the church still wields an authority it simply shouldn't have, and it shouldn't be exploiting its 24/7 direct line to God for its own interests, yet that's exactly what's happening.
It isn't even that radical—we aren't living in the 1800s—but it happens through small steps, like subtle sermons and whatnot. They plant an opinion in the head of the average person, who then just repeats it in some casual, bar-room logic. Tomorrow, they'll raise their kid under the guise of passive aggression disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. And yeah, I guess I could say that disturbs me, to a certain extent, depending on how much I feel like participating in this society. I won't even get into what creationists and cults are up to, or what Islam does... religion definitely causes a lot of harm, but whatever someone cursed two hundred years ago doesn't change the facts today.
We've had two centuries of technological progress to end up sitting in front of computers talking to each other, but when it comes to how the average person actually behaves, very little has really changed.
I think I get what you're getting at with Orwell. And yeah, I've read him; Animal Farm actually stuck with me a bit more, but that's beside the point.
And of course, I'm aware of all that, and it's not a small thing. I used to write about religion—about how it limits the individual, intruding on privacy and freedom through various norms, regulations, and laws. You end up feeling sanctioned from every direction.
But on the flip side, criticism, discussion, and analysis of any social, political, or sociological event are allowed. That's how dogmatic, sweeping opinions and beliefs eventually fade away (slowly, but hopefully in the long run), which is good. In the long term, people shouldn't rely on the prestige of some ideology, religion, or social structure, but rather on what they can actually see happening right in front of them.
That's my somewhat optimistic take, anyway, though the masses remain a problematic bunch.
So, if 1984 actually happens, don't ask why.

And sorry for the long off-topic rant. 🙂

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

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Angela Rogers2 said:hm. yeah. because they're—trash. I don't know exactly how old you were back in '91, but let's say a friend of mine had to head over to D.C. for a few months so he wouldn't get drafted; his parents' neighbors, who were actually pretty decent, high-profile people, treated them like they were some kind of radical insurgents just because the kid "went to the capital and blah blah blah." Another acquaintance started a spiritual career with the Jehovah's Witnesses in the early '90s; his family kicked him out because they were devout Catholics and he was a "cultist"... you can find so many examples where people start acting like animals because of deep-seated feelings like nationalism, religion, or political ideology. And the saddest part is, it has nothing to do with intellect or social class; the people driven by these (in my opinion, low) passions are often doctors and truck drivers alike.
If some super-alien shows up, well, if it's what you suggested, I won't have anything to complain about. Facts are facts. If we're small, pathetic, and miserable to them, then it's perfectly fine for them to treat us that way.

Agree to what, exactly? I don't follow.
It's not a matter of intelligence; it's about common sense, suggestibility, and using the frontal lobe of your brain.

Opinions don't really carry much weight, mostly because people are experts at lying to themselves and rationalizing their own nonsense. Actions are what actually tell the truth, so behavior is the only thing that really matters. It’s the only honest metric for a person's quality and the life they’re actually leading. As for that hypnotic state you see within a mob, I guess there are a few key traits. First, an individual inside a crowd gets this sense of overwhelming power, which basically gives them a free pass to surrender to impulses they’d normally keep under control—you know, the typical "us versus them" mentality, or those sweeping generalizations about certain groups of people being inferior or whatever. You can apply that same logic to religion or political ideologies, too. Second, there’s the contagion factor. Every single action and emotion creates a sort of collective orientation, often leading an individual to sacrifice their own interests just to serve the herd. That goes against basic human nature, or at least how most people act when they aren't being swept up. And then, of course, there's suggestibility. I suppose you could conclude that the majority is almost always intellectually inferior to the individual. I don't want to sound entirely negative, since humans are social creatures and we all belong to some kind of group, but given how these groups orient themselves, their characteristics can be incredibly destructive. No matter how many lofty moral ideals a mob claims to stand for, their actual behavior rarely lives up to the rhetoric.

So, I don't really get why everyone's getting so worked up about this. I mean, isn't it pretty obvious that anyone could see themselves in something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline? Maybe you just aren't grasping what's being said here, or maybe you're just skimming the surface.

I keep saying this, but it isn't about what you say; it's about what you actually do. For instance, if you claim to be an atheist and don't care what some priest says, fine, I don't either. But the issue here is our country; the church still wields an authority it simply shouldn't have, and it shouldn't be exploiting its 24/7 direct line to God for its own interests, yet that's exactly what's happening.
It isn't even that radical—we aren't living in the 1800s—but it happens through small steps, like subtle sermons and whatnot. They plant an opinion in the head of the average person, who then just repeats it in some casual, bar-room logic. Tomorrow, they'll raise their kid under the guise of passive aggression disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. And yeah, I guess I could say that disturbs me, to a certain extent, depending on how much I feel like participating in this society. I won't even get into what creationists and cults are up to, or what Islam does... religion definitely causes a lot of harm, but whatever someone cursed two hundred years ago doesn't change the facts today.
We've had two centuries of technological progress to end up sitting in front of computers talking to each other, but when it comes to how the average person actually behaves, very little has really changed.
I think I get what you're getting at with Orwell. And yeah, I've read him; Animal Farm actually stuck with me a bit more, but that's beside the point.
And of course, I'm aware of all that, and it's not a small thing. I used to write about religion—about how it limits the individual, intruding on privacy and freedom through various norms, regulations, and laws. You end up feeling sanctioned from every direction.
But on the flip side, criticism, discussion, and analysis of any social, political, or sociological event are allowed. That's how dogmatic, sweeping opinions and beliefs eventually fade away (slowly, but hopefully in the long run), which is good. In the long term, people shouldn't rely on the prestige of some ideology, religion, or social structure, but rather on what they can actually see happening right in front of them.
That's my somewhat optimistic take, anyway, though the masses remain a problematic bunch.
So, if 1984 actually happens, don't ask why.

And sorry for the long off-topic rant. 🙂

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

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Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

Angela Rogers2 said:hm. yeah. because they're—trash. I don't know exactly how old you were back in '91, but let's say a friend of mine had to head over to D.C. for a few months so he wouldn't get drafted; his parents' neighbors, who were actually pretty decent, high-profile people, treated them like they were some kind of radical insurgents just because the kid "went to the capital and blah blah blah." Another acquaintance started a spiritual career with the Jehovah's Witnesses in the early '90s; his family kicked him out because they were devout Catholics and he was a "cultist"... you can find so many examples where people start acting like animals because of deep-seated feelings like nationalism, religion, or political ideology. And the saddest part is, it has nothing to do with intellect or social class; the people driven by these (in my opinion, low) passions are often doctors and truck drivers alike.
If some super-alien shows up, well, if it's what you suggested, I won't have anything to complain about. Facts are facts. If we're small, pathetic, and miserable to them, then it's perfectly fine for them to treat us that way.

Agree to what, exactly? I don't follow.
It's not a matter of intelligence; it's about common sense, suggestibility, and using the frontal lobe of your brain.

Opinions don't really carry much weight, mostly because people are experts at lying to themselves and rationalizing their own nonsense. Actions are what actually tell the truth, so behavior is the only thing that really matters. It’s the only honest metric for a person's quality and the life they’re actually leading. As for that hypnotic state you see within a mob, I guess there are a few key traits. First, an individual inside a crowd gets this sense of overwhelming power, which basically gives them a free pass to surrender to impulses they’d normally keep under control—you know, the typical "us versus them" mentality, or those sweeping generalizations about certain groups of people being inferior or whatever. You can apply that same logic to religion or political ideologies, too. Second, there’s the contagion factor. Every single action and emotion creates a sort of collective orientation, often leading an individual to sacrifice their own interests just to serve the herd. That goes against basic human nature, or at least how most people act when they aren't being swept up. And then, of course, there's suggestibility. I suppose you could conclude that the majority is almost always intellectually inferior to the individual. I don't want to sound entirely negative, since humans are social creatures and we all belong to some kind of group, but given how these groups orient themselves, their characteristics can be incredibly destructive. No matter how many lofty moral ideals a mob claims to stand for, their actual behavior rarely lives up to the rhetoric.

So, I don't really get why everyone's getting so worked up about this. I mean, isn't it pretty obvious that anyone could see themselves in something like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline? Maybe you just aren't grasping what's being said here, or maybe you're just skimming the surface.

I keep saying this, but it isn't about what you say; it's about what you actually do. For instance, if you claim to be an atheist and don't care what some priest says, fine, I don't either. But the issue here is our country; the church still wields an authority it simply shouldn't have, and it shouldn't be exploiting its 24/7 direct line to God for its own interests, yet that's exactly what's happening.
It isn't even that radical—we aren't living in the 1800s—but it happens through small steps, like subtle sermons and whatnot. They plant an opinion in the head of the average person, who then just repeats it in some casual, bar-room logic. Tomorrow, they'll raise their kid under the guise of passive aggression disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. And yeah, I guess I could say that disturbs me, to a certain extent, depending on how much I feel like participating in this society. I won't even get into what creationists and cults are up to, or what Islam does... religion definitely causes a lot of harm, but whatever someone cursed two hundred years ago doesn't change the facts today.
We've had two centuries of technological progress to end up sitting in front of computers talking to each other, but when it comes to how the average person actually behaves, very little has really changed.
I think I get what you're getting at with Orwell. And yeah, I've read him; Animal Farm actually stuck with me a bit more, but that's beside the point.
And of course, I'm aware of all that, and it's not a small thing. I used to write about religion—about how it limits the individual, intruding on privacy and freedom through various norms, regulations, and laws. You end up feeling sanctioned from every direction.
But on the flip side, criticism, discussion, and analysis of any social, political, or sociological event are allowed. That's how dogmatic, sweeping opinions and beliefs eventually fade away (slowly, but hopefully in the long run), which is good. In the long term, people shouldn't rely on the prestige of some ideology, religion, or social structure, but rather on what they can actually see happening right in front of them.
That's my somewhat optimistic take, anyway, though the masses remain a problematic bunch.
So, if 1984 actually happens, don't ask why.

And sorry for the long off-topic rant. 🙂

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.
Angela Rogers2 Angela Rogers2 Active Member
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lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

I’d probably ask him why he’s acting out, what I did wrong while raising him, and what's actually bothering him.
Because if my kid is so messed up that, despite all the obvious facts that Hitler was a monster, he thinks the guy was a genius... then damn, there's a serious underlying issue there.

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

😁😁😁 I used to believe in brotherhood, unity, equality, and being on equal footing. And I got burned by a little kid for it. Experience is a nasty thing.🤷 🙂

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

Of course; I mentioned before that I don't want it to seem like I'm completely blacklisting entire groups. They all follow the same psychological laws, but the stimuli they receive vary based on the source and the original idea, so the resulting behavior will obviously differ.

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

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What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

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Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

I guess I do.

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

Maybe you're just immature.
lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

I think you misunderstood me, and I’m saying this for the eight-hundredth time. Actually, what's worse is that we seem to agree on this way of thinking. I don't care if you have a PhD or some degree verifying your status; if you're shady, dishonest, or just a jerk, I'm inclined to despise you as a person, regardless of how famous an expert you are in your field. On the flip side, you have people who have zero interest in reading books and prefer working in the fields, yet they've mastered basic principles—they're honest, good people, fair, and stick to their word. That counts for something, regardless of whether they're the next Einstein (to caricature). Actions reveal the truth; basically, you are defined objectively by how you live.

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

Well, if that's how you feel. I'm just trying to explain that it doesn't work like that—you read five sentences, convince yourself you fit the description, and then get all worked up thinking, "Oh, I have this specific disorder." It's probably just nonsense.

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

Just one question, do you even pay taxes to the government or...?

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

hm, yeah. I guess a qualitative assessment of good versus bad (evil) has to exist if society is actually going to function. But then we’d have to discuss what kind of society we're talking about and the specific mechanisms and principles driving it. If you think religious influence on people is tiny or insignificant, okay. You might be right regarding the raw data they provide, since today's society is essentially an information-based one. They rely on a hundred different recycled dogmas, but the public—which is just a collection of individuals, and those individuals were raised under the passive aggression of a god—is a reflection of the individual. So, in my conclusion, damn it, the public is under the influence of religion.
Because look, take communism for example—I'm using it as a case study because its core idea was strong social equality, meaning social rights should ultimately be equal. It failed catastrophically here because what it was aiming for didn't align with the fundamental spirit of the people. Religion is baked into the spirit of this nation, and it works.

lonegardener said:What would you actually do if your child became a sympathizer of a Nazi regime, for example? Don't get me wrong—I'm not trying to compare Jehovah's Witnesses to Nazis here. It's strictly about your own feelings and your stance. Could you truly love a son who was obsessed with Hitler? To make things even more interesting, let's say he isn't doing anything terrible. He isn't out there fighting people, stealing, or bullying anyone (and certainly nothing worse). He just hangs pictures of Hitler on his wall and talks about how he was a fantastic man with perfectly righteous views. 😬

How would you react?

I refuse to ever take that kind of stance—that "us versus them" mentality where one group is "elite" and the other is "scum." Honestly, that's probably because of the Nationalist Party. For me, it's not enough to just be part of an elite; I want the elite to be beneath me. 🤣

Can that also be applied to something like a Love Parade or massive pop/rock concerts? Like Woodstock, for example? Since we're discussing the psychology of large crowds and losing inhibitions...

I don't know a single person whose behavior is truly consistent. To be honest, I can't even say the same for myself. My own actions are incredibly inconsistent, and there are times when I feel completely irrational.
When it comes to intelligence and the inherent differences between people, you’re making a mistake if you think that observation is strictly objective. It’s an undeniable fact that some individuals are more intellectually advanced than others. But why dwell on that gap? Even if you consider yourself intellectually superior to your most primitive neighbor, the distance between you and him is still microscopic compared to the massive divide between him and the next smartest animal on Earth. So, why focus on our differences when we should be looking at our similarities?
Aren't you making the Same Type of mistake made by those who hate, despise, or look down on someone based solely on their nationality, religion, or skin color? You might argue that intelligence is far more significant than any of those factors—and you might even be right—but the logical analogy remains just as valid. To him, it matters more that one person lives on the left side of the Mississippi while the other lives on the right, rather than the simple fact that they are both human beings. To you, it matters more that one is an intellectual and the other is a bumpkin. 😬It’s not about that, really—it’s simply because they are both human beings.

"Quote:"

What kind of nonsense are you talking about? Here, take a look at this Wikipedia entry:

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex issue that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. While people frequently throw the term around to describe anyone acting selfishly, true NPD is a deep-seated psychological pattern involving a pervasive need for admiration and a profound lack of empathy. It’s more than just being "full of yourself"; it's a fundamental struggle with identity and how one relates to the world. Understanding the distinction between simple ego and a clinical disorder is crucial for anyone trying to navigate these difficult dynamics.
He carries himself with a massive sense of self-importance.
The second sign is often lost in a dream world, constantly chasing visions of limitless success, absolute power, or some kind of flawless, idealized love.
They truly believe they’re one of a kind—some sort of rare breed that only their own "special" circle could ever hope to understand.
4. demands far too much praise.
5. A deep sense of entitlement.
6. They'll step over anyone just to get what they want.
7. A total lack of empathy.
Number eight on the list is that tendency to live in a state of constant envy—or, just as frequently, the assumption that everyone else is looking at you with envy. It’s a bit of a cycle, isn't it? Whether they're coveting what someone else has or convinced that their own success has made them a target for jealousy, it creates this restless, defensive mindset.
9. Arrogance.

Antisocial personality disorder is a complex diagnosis that often gets misunderstood in casual conversation. It isn't just about being "rebellious" or having a bit of an attitude; it’s a deep-seated pattern of disregarding the rights of others and failing to conform to social norms. When we talk about this, we have to look past the Hollywood stereotypes and focus on the clinical reality of how these individuals interact with the world around them.
It’s basically when someone just refuses to play by the rules. They repeatedly engage in behavior that's clearly against the law, essentially showing a total disregard for social norms through actions that would get anyone else arrested on the spot.
Deceitfulness—whether it’s through constant lying, hiding behind fake identities, or running scams just to line your pockets or satisfy an ego—is a serious issue. It’s more than just being dishonest; it's about intentional manipulation for personal gain.
3. Impulsivity, or simply failing to look before you leap.
4. Irritability and aggression, specifically when it manifests through frequent physical altercations or assaults.
5. Reckless disregard for the safety of oneself or others.
It really comes down to a pattern of consistent irresponsibility—the kind that shows up when someone repeatedly fails to maintain a steady work ethic or simply refuses to honor their financial commitments.
7. A total lack of remorse. This shows up when someone is completely indifferent to the pain they've caused, or worse, they start making excuses for why hurting, mistreating, or stealing from someone else was actually justified.

Do you feel like none of this actually describes you? Personally, I can only see myself in maybe two or three points of the first one, and maybe three or four of the second. 🤷

"Quote:"

What exactly are they doing? And do you actually know how? Is this based on actual field research, or are you just taking someone else's word for it? Honestly, if you could point to specific sources to back up what you claim to know, that would be one thing. But I suspect you can’t quite do that—feel free to correct me if I'm wrong—you just "know," without being able to explain how. Here is my take: if I can't pinpoint exactly where a piece of information comes from, I don't consider it knowledge. Period. I need to know precisely what I am leaning on at any given moment. Who am I implicitly trusting just to keep this supposed "knowledge" standing? It matters, because in this day and age, it is incredibly easy to mistake a lie for the truth.

Furthermore, what kind of authority does the church actually hold? Personally, I don't see any at all. You claim that such authority doesn't belong to them, and honestly, I’d agree—if you could just tell me who that authority *does* belong to. Is it politicians? Psychiatrists? Wealthy merchants? Judges? Lawyers? Most of those people are capable of exerting a far more direct influence on my life than any religious institution ever could. Can you give me one practical example of what would actually be different in your life if this unearned clerical authority didn't exist?

"Quote:"
Angela Rogers2 Asks:
You take an average, mindless follower and plant a seed of opinion in their head. From there, they just run with it, fueled by that typical small-town, barroom logic. Before you know it, they’re raising their own kids under a heavy blanket of passive-aggression, disguised as God, karma, angels, or demons. To be honest, it disturbs me—at least to the extent that I still have to participate in this society. I won't even get started on the damage done by creationists, cults, or radical religious movements. Religion, quite frankly, does a massive amount of evil in this world.
Let’s be honest: a lot of "evil" has been done under the wing of religion. I put "evil" in quotes because, frankly, I’m not even sure what defines it anymore. One thing that really bugs me about organized religion is how easily people label things as "evil," as if they're just discussing onions and water. If we throw that word around so carelessly, what’s even the point of using it? That part isn't up for debate. But look at the reality today—even in highly religious nations, you see things happening that most of the West moved past centuries ago.
If I were living in Baghdad, maybe all this would bother me. But since religion has zero impact on my day-to-day life, I honestly couldn't care less about the topic. What actually concerns me are situations like yours and Tanya's. It’s wild when someone gets so obsessed with religious debates that they fail to see how those institutions lost their grip on American society ages ago, leaving other structures to take the lead.

See, I’m not quite that much of an optimist. Based on certain things I've seen, I feel like if today's religious structures were to disappear, new mechanisms would simply emerge to keep the masses in line. Take popular Hollywood teen dramas, for example. If you watch all the trending shows, you quickly learn what you can and cannot say or even think; you learn which behaviors are acceptable and which will push you to the fringes of society. It's a very effective way of socializing people.

Anyway, sorry for the long-winded tangent. We totally veered off track. Let me try to get back to the point: no, I don't believe psychology can do all that much to help with men-and-women relationships. 😁 Then again, since I haven't tested that theory personally, who knows? I might be wrong.

Regarding TV, you're totally and completely right there. It turns people into absolute idiots. I agree. But nowadays, selection plays a key role because there's such a massive variety of behavioral models (and opinions on them) available. Through the multimedia world—from newspapers and TV to radio and finally this all-encompassing internet—we are faced every single day with a mountain of information. We process it, select what's relevant to us, and then either adopt it or discard it as invalid.
And it’s a process that is incredibly fast, at least in terms of intensity and scope. What I actually like about this whole thing is that criticism is possible; it's possible to verify things and look at them from a completely different angle. You're constantly given that opportunity. You're always playing this passive-active role. Personally, I value criticism quite a bit.
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Angela Rogers2 said:I’d probably ask him why he’s acting out, what I did wrong while raising him, and what's actually bothering him.
Because if my kid is so messed up that, despite all the obvious facts that Hitler was a monster, he thinks the guy was a genius... then damn, there's a serious underlying issue there.

😁😁😁 I used to believe in brotherhood, unity, equality, and being on equal footing. And I got burned by a little kid for it. Experience is a nasty thing.🤷 🙂

Of course; I mentioned before that I don't want it to seem like I'm completely blacklisting entire groups. They all follow the same psychological laws, but the stimuli they receive vary based on the source and the original idea, so the resulting behavior will obviously differ.

I guess I do.

Maybe you're just immature.

I think you misunderstood me, and I’m saying this for the eight-hundredth time. Actually, what's worse is that we seem to agree on this way of thinking. I don't care if you have a PhD or some degree verifying your status; if you're shady, dishonest, or just a jerk, I'm inclined to despise you as a person, regardless of how famous an expert you are in your field. On the flip side, you have people who have zero interest in reading books and prefer working in the fields, yet they've mastered basic principles—they're honest, good people, fair, and stick to their word. That counts for something, regardless of whether they're the next Einstein (to caricature). Actions reveal the truth; basically, you are defined objectively by how you live.

Well, if that's how you feel. I'm just trying to explain that it doesn't work like that—you read five sentences, convince yourself you fit the description, and then get all worked up thinking, "Oh, I have this specific disorder." It's probably just nonsense.

Just one question, do you even pay taxes to the government or...?

hm, yeah. I guess a qualitative assessment of good versus bad (evil) has to exist if society is actually going to function. But then we’d have to discuss what kind of society we're talking about and the specific mechanisms and principles driving it. If you think religious influence on people is tiny or insignificant, okay. You might be right regarding the raw data they provide, since today's society is essentially an information-based one. They rely on a hundred different recycled dogmas, but the public—which is just a collection of individuals, and those individuals were raised under the passive aggression of a god—is a reflection of the individual. So, in my conclusion, damn it, the public is under the influence of religion.
Because look, take communism for example—I'm using it as a case study because its core idea was strong social equality, meaning social rights should ultimately be equal. It failed catastrophically here because what it was aiming for didn't align with the fundamental spirit of the people. Religion is baked into the spirit of this nation, and it works.

Regarding TV, you're totally and completely right there. It turns people into absolute idiots. I agree. But nowadays, selection plays a key role because there's such a massive variety of behavioral models (and opinions on them) available. Through the multimedia world—from newspapers and TV to radio and finally this all-encompassing internet—we are faced every single day with a mountain of information. We process it, select what's relevant to us, and then either adopt it or discard it as invalid.
And it’s a process that is incredibly fast, at least in terms of intensity and scope. What I actually like about this whole thing is that criticism is possible; it's possible to verify things and look at them from a completely different angle. You're constantly given that opportunity. You're always playing this passive-active role. Personally, I value criticism quite a bit.

I used to think that way too. But honestly, what does it actually mean to be "unethical," "malicious," or just a straight-up jerk? Can we at least agree that people from different walks of life will have wildly different perceptions of who is a bad person and who isn't? I see this happen all the time. I’ve even witnessed situations where two people look at each other and both are absolutely convinced the other one is a complete scoundrel—and they’re both certain they’re right. That’s why I’m hesitant to slap a label like "piece of work" on someone without cause. Now, don't get me wrong: I can certainly feel a deep sense of repulsion toward someone because of how they act or the traits they carry. But there's a massive difference between an gut feeling and a rational conclusion.

Angela Rogers2 said:I’d probably ask him why he’s acting out, what I did wrong while raising him, and what's actually bothering him.
Because if my kid is so messed up that, despite all the obvious facts that Hitler was a monster, he thinks the guy was a genius... then damn, there's a serious underlying issue there.

😁😁😁 I used to believe in brotherhood, unity, equality, and being on equal footing. And I got burned by a little kid for it. Experience is a nasty thing.🤷 🙂

Of course; I mentioned before that I don't want it to seem like I'm completely blacklisting entire groups. They all follow the same psychological laws, but the stimuli they receive vary based on the source and the original idea, so the resulting behavior will obviously differ.

I guess I do.

Maybe you're just immature.

I think you misunderstood me, and I’m saying this for the eight-hundredth time. Actually, what's worse is that we seem to agree on this way of thinking. I don't care if you have a PhD or some degree verifying your status; if you're shady, dishonest, or just a jerk, I'm inclined to despise you as a person, regardless of how famous an expert you are in your field. On the flip side, you have people who have zero interest in reading books and prefer working in the fields, yet they've mastered basic principles—they're honest, good people, fair, and stick to their word. That counts for something, regardless of whether they're the next Einstein (to caricature). Actions reveal the truth; basically, you are defined objectively by how you live.

Well, if that's how you feel. I'm just trying to explain that it doesn't work like that—you read five sentences, convince yourself you fit the description, and then get all worked up thinking, "Oh, I have this specific disorder." It's probably just nonsense.

Just one question, do you even pay taxes to the government or...?

hm, yeah. I guess a qualitative assessment of good versus bad (evil) has to exist if society is actually going to function. But then we’d have to discuss what kind of society we're talking about and the specific mechanisms and principles driving it. If you think religious influence on people is tiny or insignificant, okay. You might be right regarding the raw data they provide, since today's society is essentially an information-based one. They rely on a hundred different recycled dogmas, but the public—which is just a collection of individuals, and those individuals were raised under the passive aggression of a god—is a reflection of the individual. So, in my conclusion, damn it, the public is under the influence of religion.
Because look, take communism for example—I'm using it as a case study because its core idea was strong social equality, meaning social rights should ultimately be equal. It failed catastrophically here because what it was aiming for didn't align with the fundamental spirit of the people. Religion is baked into the spirit of this nation, and it works.

Regarding TV, you're totally and completely right there. It turns people into absolute idiots. I agree. But nowadays, selection plays a key role because there's such a massive variety of behavioral models (and opinions on them) available. Through the multimedia world—from newspapers and TV to radio and finally this all-encompassing internet—we are faced every single day with a mountain of information. We process it, select what's relevant to us, and then either adopt it or discard it as invalid.
And it’s a process that is incredibly fast, at least in terms of intensity and scope. What I actually like about this whole thing is that criticism is possible; it's possible to verify things and look at them from a completely different angle. You're constantly given that opportunity. You're always playing this passive-active role. Personally, I value criticism quite a bit.

Radicalization is really just a matter of style. It’s better to foster actual discussion instead. 😬 I think I’ve mentioned this before, but I don't actually think it's complete nonsense. I'm just sharing my own perspective here. When I look at those listed symptoms for various "personality disorders," I see myself—and honestly, most people I know—reflected in quite a few of those points.

Angela Rogers2 said:I’d probably ask him why he’s acting out, what I did wrong while raising him, and what's actually bothering him.
Because if my kid is so messed up that, despite all the obvious facts that Hitler was a monster, he thinks the guy was a genius... then damn, there's a serious underlying issue there.

😁😁😁 I used to believe in brotherhood, unity, equality, and being on equal footing. And I got burned by a little kid for it. Experience is a nasty thing.🤷 🙂

Of course; I mentioned before that I don't want it to seem like I'm completely blacklisting entire groups. They all follow the same psychological laws, but the stimuli they receive vary based on the source and the original idea, so the resulting behavior will obviously differ.

I guess I do.

Maybe you're just immature.

I think you misunderstood me, and I’m saying this for the eight-hundredth time. Actually, what's worse is that we seem to agree on this way of thinking. I don't care if you have a PhD or some degree verifying your status; if you're shady, dishonest, or just a jerk, I'm inclined to despise you as a person, regardless of how famous an expert you are in your field. On the flip side, you have people who have zero interest in reading books and prefer working in the fields, yet they've mastered basic principles—they're honest, good people, fair, and stick to their word. That counts for something, regardless of whether they're the next Einstein (to caricature). Actions reveal the truth; basically, you are defined objectively by how you live.

Well, if that's how you feel. I'm just trying to explain that it doesn't work like that—you read five sentences, convince yourself you fit the description, and then get all worked up thinking, "Oh, I have this specific disorder." It's probably just nonsense.

Just one question, do you even pay taxes to the government or...?

hm, yeah. I guess a qualitative assessment of good versus bad (evil) has to exist if society is actually going to function. But then we’d have to discuss what kind of society we're talking about and the specific mechanisms and principles driving it. If you think religious influence on people is tiny or insignificant, okay. You might be right regarding the raw data they provide, since today's society is essentially an information-based one. They rely on a hundred different recycled dogmas, but the public—which is just a collection of individuals, and those individuals were raised under the passive aggression of a god—is a reflection of the individual. So, in my conclusion, damn it, the public is under the influence of religion.
Because look, take communism for example—I'm using it as a case study because its core idea was strong social equality, meaning social rights should ultimately be equal. It failed catastrophically here because what it was aiming for didn't align with the fundamental spirit of the people. Religion is baked into the spirit of this nation, and it works.

Regarding TV, you're totally and completely right there. It turns people into absolute idiots. I agree. But nowadays, selection plays a key role because there's such a massive variety of behavioral models (and opinions on them) available. Through the multimedia world—from newspapers and TV to radio and finally this all-encompassing internet—we are faced every single day with a mountain of information. We process it, select what's relevant to us, and then either adopt it or discard it as invalid.
And it’s a process that is incredibly fast, at least in terms of intensity and scope. What I actually like about this whole thing is that criticism is possible; it's possible to verify things and look at them from a completely different angle. You're constantly given that opportunity. You're always playing this passive-active role. Personally, I value criticism quite a bit.

Of course. Are you suggesting that because a chunk of the federal budget goes to KC—maybe around $15 million a year?—I should be upset about it? Especially since that budget is partially funded by my own tax dollars?

Two things really matter here. First off, since we’re looking at a population of about 330 million, that means my individual share comes out to roughly... $8.25, regarding KC. Honestly, I’m pretty sure I spend more on toilet paper annually than that. Maybe if I were a bit stingier with the TP, I could save those $8.25 a year. Beyond that, looking at the budget—which I also help manage—money gets poured into a million little things, some of which might actually be stupider than funding KC. So, I don't see any particular reason to single this expense out or make a huge deal over it. If I were to obsess over it, my own intellectual honesty would force me to pore over the entire federal budget and start making noise about everything else that seems unjustified to me. And frankly, I just don't have the energy for that.

Angela Rogers2 said:I’d probably ask him why he’s acting out, what I did wrong while raising him, and what's actually bothering him.
Because if my kid is so messed up that, despite all the obvious facts that Hitler was a monster, he thinks the guy was a genius... then damn, there's a serious underlying issue there.

😁😁😁 I used to believe in brotherhood, unity, equality, and being on equal footing. And I got burned by a little kid for it. Experience is a nasty thing.🤷 🙂

Of course; I mentioned before that I don't want it to seem like I'm completely blacklisting entire groups. They all follow the same psychological laws, but the stimuli they receive vary based on the source and the original idea, so the resulting behavior will obviously differ.

I guess I do.

Maybe you're just immature.

I think you misunderstood me, and I’m saying this for the eight-hundredth time. Actually, what's worse is that we seem to agree on this way of thinking. I don't care if you have a PhD or some degree verifying your status; if you're shady, dishonest, or just a jerk, I'm inclined to despise you as a person, regardless of how famous an expert you are in your field. On the flip side, you have people who have zero interest in reading books and prefer working in the fields, yet they've mastered basic principles—they're honest, good people, fair, and stick to their word. That counts for something, regardless of whether they're the next Einstein (to caricature). Actions reveal the truth; basically, you are defined objectively by how you live.

Well, if that's how you feel. I'm just trying to explain that it doesn't work like that—you read five sentences, convince yourself you fit the description, and then get all worked up thinking, "Oh, I have this specific disorder." It's probably just nonsense.

Just one question, do you even pay taxes to the government or...?

hm, yeah. I guess a qualitative assessment of good versus bad (evil) has to exist if society is actually going to function. But then we’d have to discuss what kind of society we're talking about and the specific mechanisms and principles driving it. If you think religious influence on people is tiny or insignificant, okay. You might be right regarding the raw data they provide, since today's society is essentially an information-based one. They rely on a hundred different recycled dogmas, but the public—which is just a collection of individuals, and those individuals were raised under the passive aggression of a god—is a reflection of the individual. So, in my conclusion, damn it, the public is under the influence of religion.
Because look, take communism for example—I'm using it as a case study because its core idea was strong social equality, meaning social rights should ultimately be equal. It failed catastrophically here because what it was aiming for didn't align with the fundamental spirit of the people. Religion is baked into the spirit of this nation, and it works.

Regarding TV, you're totally and completely right there. It turns people into absolute idiots. I agree. But nowadays, selection plays a key role because there's such a massive variety of behavioral models (and opinions on them) available. Through the multimedia world—from newspapers and TV to radio and finally this all-encompassing internet—we are faced every single day with a mountain of information. We process it, select what's relevant to us, and then either adopt it or discard it as invalid.
And it’s a process that is incredibly fast, at least in terms of intensity and scope. What I actually like about this whole thing is that criticism is possible; it's possible to verify things and look at them from a completely different angle. You're constantly given that opportunity. You're always playing this passive-active role. Personally, I value criticism quite a bit.

Sure, if they were raised that way. Are you speaking from personal experience? 😬
I didn't grow up in an environment like that, and I don't think kids are being raised that way nowadays. If anything "terrorizes" them by aggressively forcing opinions, it's movies, TV shows, magazines, and peer pressure. Do you really think the church has any real influence on kids today? That seems like a strange take to me. You can just look at it mathematically: compare the amount of time a child is exposed to religious propaganda versus all the other influences and propaganda out there. I'd argue that only in certain Islamic states (and maybe some closed communities) does the ratio favor religion. In America, for instance, that definitely isn't the case; the other influences are incomparably stronger. And honestly, I find many of those other influences much more distasteful than the church. But that's just my opinion, of course.

Angela Rogers2 said:I’d probably ask him why he’s acting out, what I did wrong while raising him, and what's actually bothering him.
Because if my kid is so messed up that, despite all the obvious facts that Hitler was a monster, he thinks the guy was a genius... then damn, there's a serious underlying issue there.

😁😁😁 I used to believe in brotherhood, unity, equality, and being on equal footing. And I got burned by a little kid for it. Experience is a nasty thing.🤷 🙂

Of course; I mentioned before that I don't want it to seem like I'm completely blacklisting entire groups. They all follow the same psychological laws, but the stimuli they receive vary based on the source and the original idea, so the resulting behavior will obviously differ.

I guess I do.

Maybe you're just immature.

I think you misunderstood me, and I’m saying this for the eight-hundredth time. Actually, what's worse is that we seem to agree on this way of thinking. I don't care if you have a PhD or some degree verifying your status; if you're shady, dishonest, or just a jerk, I'm inclined to despise you as a person, regardless of how famous an expert you are in your field. On the flip side, you have people who have zero interest in reading books and prefer working in the fields, yet they've mastered basic principles—they're honest, good people, fair, and stick to their word. That counts for something, regardless of whether they're the next Einstein (to caricature). Actions reveal the truth; basically, you are defined objectively by how you live.

Well, if that's how you feel. I'm just trying to explain that it doesn't work like that—you read five sentences, convince yourself you fit the description, and then get all worked up thinking, "Oh, I have this specific disorder." It's probably just nonsense.

Just one question, do you even pay taxes to the government or...?

hm, yeah. I guess a qualitative assessment of good versus bad (evil) has to exist if society is actually going to function. But then we’d have to discuss what kind of society we're talking about and the specific mechanisms and principles driving it. If you think religious influence on people is tiny or insignificant, okay. You might be right regarding the raw data they provide, since today's society is essentially an information-based one. They rely on a hundred different recycled dogmas, but the public—which is just a collection of individuals, and those individuals were raised under the passive aggression of a god—is a reflection of the individual. So, in my conclusion, damn it, the public is under the influence of religion.
Because look, take communism for example—I'm using it as a case study because its core idea was strong social equality, meaning social rights should ultimately be equal. It failed catastrophically here because what it was aiming for didn't align with the fundamental spirit of the people. Religion is baked into the spirit of this nation, and it works.

Regarding TV, you're totally and completely right there. It turns people into absolute idiots. I agree. But nowadays, selection plays a key role because there's such a massive variety of behavioral models (and opinions on them) available. Through the multimedia world—from newspapers and TV to radio and finally this all-encompassing internet—we are faced every single day with a mountain of information. We process it, select what's relevant to us, and then either adopt it or discard it as invalid.
And it’s a process that is incredibly fast, at least in terms of intensity and scope. What I actually like about this whole thing is that criticism is possible; it's possible to verify things and look at them from a completely different angle. You're constantly given that opportunity. You're always playing this passive-active role. Personally, I value criticism quite a bit.

Communism failed everywhere, not just here. Since I also believe social equality is a positive thing, I think the problem is that communism was an unachievable utopia. Power-hungry people always find a way to the top, no matter how much the "system" is designed to supposedly prevent it. Shrewd people always find ways to be "more equal" than everyone else. At least, that's how it's always been.

Angela Rogers2 said:I’d probably ask him why he’s acting out, what I did wrong while raising him, and what's actually bothering him.
Because if my kid is so messed up that, despite all the obvious facts that Hitler was a monster, he thinks the guy was a genius... then damn, there's a serious underlying issue there.

😁😁😁 I used to believe in brotherhood, unity, equality, and being on equal footing. And I got burned by a little kid for it. Experience is a nasty thing.🤷 🙂

Of course; I mentioned before that I don't want it to seem like I'm completely blacklisting entire groups. They all follow the same psychological laws, but the stimuli they receive vary based on the source and the original idea, so the resulting behavior will obviously differ.

I guess I do.

Maybe you're just immature.

I think you misunderstood me, and I’m saying this for the eight-hundredth time. Actually, what's worse is that we seem to agree on this way of thinking. I don't care if you have a PhD or some degree verifying your status; if you're shady, dishonest, or just a jerk, I'm inclined to despise you as a person, regardless of how famous an expert you are in your field. On the flip side, you have people who have zero interest in reading books and prefer working in the fields, yet they've mastered basic principles—they're honest, good people, fair, and stick to their word. That counts for something, regardless of whether they're the next Einstein (to caricature). Actions reveal the truth; basically, you are defined objectively by how you live.

Well, if that's how you feel. I'm just trying to explain that it doesn't work like that—you read five sentences, convince yourself you fit the description, and then get all worked up thinking, "Oh, I have this specific disorder." It's probably just nonsense.

Just one question, do you even pay taxes to the government or...?

hm, yeah. I guess a qualitative assessment of good versus bad (evil) has to exist if society is actually going to function. But then we’d have to discuss what kind of society we're talking about and the specific mechanisms and principles driving it. If you think religious influence on people is tiny or insignificant, okay. You might be right regarding the raw data they provide, since today's society is essentially an information-based one. They rely on a hundred different recycled dogmas, but the public—which is just a collection of individuals, and those individuals were raised under the passive aggression of a god—is a reflection of the individual. So, in my conclusion, damn it, the public is under the influence of religion.
Because look, take communism for example—I'm using it as a case study because its core idea was strong social equality, meaning social rights should ultimately be equal. It failed catastrophically here because what it was aiming for didn't align with the fundamental spirit of the people. Religion is baked into the spirit of this nation, and it works.

Regarding TV, you're totally and completely right there. It turns people into absolute idiots. I agree. But nowadays, selection plays a key role because there's such a massive variety of behavioral models (and opinions on them) available. Through the multimedia world—from newspapers and TV to radio and finally this all-encompassing internet—we are faced every single day with a mountain of information. We process it, select what's relevant to us, and then either adopt it or discard it as invalid.
And it’s a process that is incredibly fast, at least in terms of intensity and scope. What I actually like about this whole thing is that criticism is possible; it's possible to verify things and look at them from a completely different angle. You're constantly given that opportunity. You're always playing this passive-active role. Personally, I value criticism quite a bit.

Exactly. The internet might be the only medium where I don't feel an automatic sense of hostility. My only real question is how much longer it will stay this free. Eventually, someone will find a way to rein that freedom in, and it'll be framed as being "for our own good," just like it always is.😬
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Well, I guess I won't be able to invite you guys for some rafting on the Mississippi after all. Oh well. 🤷

I can't even access the forum or join any of the groups anymore. 🤷

So long.

You have been banned for the following reason:
Since you're clearly too high-brow for us Philosophy majors, consider yourself relieved of the struggle from here on out.
Date the ban will be lifted: 12/14/2009, 11:00 PM

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