Emotional Intelligence: A blessing or a curse?

Seriously folks, when are you guys finally gonna realize that intelligence isn't even a real thing?

Thomas Martinez67 said:Man, you're just asking me how to go about trying it like that? :P

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Why can't some people grasp that intelligence isn't actually a "thing" in the real world?
It’s just an imaginary construct we made up to try and explain how human psychology works.
There's no point looking for it in reality, and you definitely shouldn't confuse it with other actual things, like knowledge or intellect.

I’m highly sensitive myself, though I don't view it as some sort of mystical phenomenon. There are people who are sensitive, those who aren't, and those who are exceptionally so. Some label it a gift—I see it simply as a more advanced stage of intellectual evolution. It all comes down to neurology. I am not suggesting these individuals possess higher intelligence than everyone else; rather, they likely have heightened sensory capabilities. They "process" incoming data more efficiently—faster intake, better distribution, and so on. Essentially, it is just the way sensations and information are transmitted through our various physiological responses.

I'm with you on this.
Though, personally, I wouldn't go as far as calling it evolution.
It kind of implies genetics, doesn't it?
I’d say it’s more about experience, learning, and all that stuff...

Anthony Kim18 said:Why can't some people grasp that intelligence isn't actually a "thing" in the real world?
It’s just an imaginary construct we made up to try and explain how human psychology works.
There's no point looking for it in reality, and you definitely shouldn't confuse it with other actual things, like knowledge or intellect.

If by intellect you mean reason, then I suppose so. Reason is just our ability to grasp the world through thought, whereas intelligence is more about how we actually navigate or manage that world using those thoughts. That’s probably why those standardized tests exist; they're trying to measure how well we can manipulate our environment.

intellect = knowledge plus intelligence

Anthony Kim18 said:intellect = knowledge plus intelligence

so intellect=reasoning + intelligence

hmm, hard to really put my finger on it...
is it just something you pick up through experience, maybe some kind of wisdom?

Anthony Kim18 said:hmm, hard to really put my finger on it...
is it just something you pick up through experience, maybe some kind of wisdom?

experience, logic, gut feelings within objective frameworks, obviously.🙂

Douglas Brown4 said:What you have is called INTELLIGENCE.
As for what you're asking about—that thing called "emotional intelligence"—it is a bit like the Mormons in the USA:
Americans are so frustrated by the fact that they don't have an indigenous religion that they had to go ahead and invent one.
It's the same with foolish people. They want to be intelligent too. Various managers, scammers, bar owners... they all possess a very low form of intelligence known as PEASANT CUNNING.
Well, in modern times, with these trends where everyone wants to feel special—even though most people can't move an inch away from their herd—they invented the concept of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and stuffed their own CUNNING into it.
Basically, they pitted it against actual INTELLIGENCE and started claiming it is vaznij. So, the EQ of some dart player in a pub, or someone like Franc Ozbolt or Cinober, is supposedly more important than the IQ of Albert Einstein.
And I guess it will stay that way as long as American managers keep writing their life essays instead of focusing on what they actually know how to do: stealing.

🤣 Man, you really went off the deep end there! Emotional intelligence is a real, measurable fact—at least for anyone who actually possesses it!👍

Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

😛 I truly believe you have a crystal-clear aura, which is why you're so sensitive and receptive. You might actually make an incredible healer, using these gifts for something meaningful. Either way, you seem like a positive person with an open heart—like your heart chakra and solar plexus are wide open. But the most important thing is to engage in something tangible, maybe a physical job or hobby, just to stay "grounded" and healthy. It sounds like you have massive emotional intelligence, and usually, that goes hand-in-hand with high cognitive intelligence. 🙂 Sometimes carrying that level of sensitivity is heavy, so it's vital to stay rooted in reality and keep your feet firmly planted in everyday life! Wishing you the best!👍

Emotional intelligence is its own kind of smarts, right? It’s totally different from other ways we process things.
Having it doesn't mean you're a genius everywhere else, nor does lacking it make you a dummy in other fields.
Think of it as just how intelligence shows up when it comes to feelings and how we vibe with people.
Intelligence isn't some isolated thing sitting on a shelf, separate from stuff like what you know or what you've been through.
In the real world, they're all tangled together.
It’s like hydrogen and oxygen making up water. You can't just grab them with your bare hands, right? And you definitely can't look at a glass of water and point out which part is the oxygen and which is the hydrogen—they're all just one inseparable mix.

True, you possess an incredibly rare gift. Given how much of a race to the bottom people have become in this modern pursuit of nothing but money and material status, it’s uncommon to see someone resist. If you have that innate spark—that primal pull from within your soul—you can actually push back against those "addictions." I see some people already coming at you, trying to claim you're just being pretentious or whatever else. Honestly, they're just envious of your integrity and the fact that you operate on a higher level than they do. In my view, the only real metric for a person's worth is their kindness.

What’s the actual link between being a good person and having emotional intelligence? 😕

I never actually said that. However, I will concede the point regarding empathy and kindness. To my mind, empathy equals compassion, which leads to helping others, which ultimately defines goodness.

James Murphy92 said:🤣 Man, you really went off the deep end there! Emotional intelligence is a real, measurable fact—at least for anyone who actually possesses it!👍

It seems like you're having a bit of trouble grasping what was actually written
despite all that emotional intelligence you claim to have
honestly, it doesn't seem to be doing you much good at all, does it?

James Murphy92 said:😛 I truly believe you have a crystal-clear aura, which is why you're so sensitive and receptive. You might actually make an incredible healer, using these gifts for something meaningful. Either way, you seem like a positive person with an open heart—like your heart chakra and solar plexus are wide open. But the most important thing is to engage in something tangible, maybe a physical job or hobby, just to stay "grounded" and healthy. It sounds like you have massive emotional intelligence, and usually, that goes hand-in-hand with high cognitive intelligence. 🙂 Sometimes carrying that level of sensitivity is heavy, so it's vital to stay rooted in reality and keep your feet firmly planted in everyday life! Wishing you the best!👍

though maybe you could also fly around on a broomstick😁

steeltiger5 said:True, you possess an incredibly rare gift. Given how much of a race to the bottom people have become in this modern pursuit of nothing but money and material status, it’s uncommon to see someone resist. If you have that innate spark—that primal pull from within your soul—you can actually push back against those "addictions." I see some people already coming at you, trying to claim you're just being pretentious or whatever else. Honestly, they're just envious of your integrity and the fact that you operate on a higher level than they do. In my view, the only real metric for a person's worth is their kindness.

Yeah, they’re just jealous of that incredible emotional intelligence she has.
I wonder how old she actually is?
I mean, she described it so beautifully, didn't she?
Who wouldn't be a little envious?😁

Douglas Brown4 said:What you have is called INTELLIGENCE.
As for what you're asking about—that thing called "emotional intelligence"—it is a bit like the Mormons in the USA:
Americans are so frustrated by the fact that they don't have an indigenous religion that they had to go ahead and invent one.
It's the same with foolish people. They want to be intelligent too. Various managers, scammers, bar owners... they all possess a very low form of intelligence known as PEASANT CUNNING.
Well, in modern times, with these trends where everyone wants to feel special—even though most people can't move an inch away from their herd—they invented the concept of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and stuffed their own CUNNING into it.
Basically, they pitted it against actual INTELLIGENCE and started claiming it is vaznij. So, the EQ of some dart player in a pub, or someone like Franc Ozbolt or Cinober, is supposedly more important than the IQ of Albert Einstein.
And I guess it will stay that way as long as American managers keep writing their life essays instead of focusing on what they actually know how to do: stealing.

hahahaha... I am totally with you on this one. 🤣🤣

As for the actual topic, I both empathize and don't. In my view, a person really ought to handle their own business. Forget about everyone else; we're all just here for ourselves. If you happen to be an altruist—or if you're just playing the part—fine, it might make things better for others, but actually expecting help from them? There's no point. They either won't show up, or they'll do a half-assed job of it. So, my rule is simple: give to others, but don't go looking for handouts.

And honestly, the less you expect from life, the happier you'll be... just my two cents, anyway...