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Emotional Intelligence: A blessing or a curse?

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Kyle Nelson2 Kyle Nelson2 Regular
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#81 ·
Jason Sanchez3 said:Could you clarify what you mean by that?.....
It happens to me all the time in my daily life..
But mostly just with people I actually know well... I’ll look at someone—or sometimes I don't even have to look—and I can just feel how they're feeling right then. Like their mood, what they want, or what's bothering them in the moment....
If I'm kissing my boyfriend, I can feel exactly what he's feeling while we're kissing....
It's weird, but I can basically just step into another person's shoes and instantly pick up on everything they're going through...

I'm asking because, for example, I can pretty much tell what kind of emotional state someone is in just by focusing on them... whether I know them or not...
Jason Sanchez3 Jason Sanchez3 Active MemberOP
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joined Jan 2007
#82 ·
Kyle Nelson2 said:I'm asking because, for example, I can pretty much tell what kind of emotional state someone is in just by focusing on them... whether I know them or not...

For real🙂
are you always right?
driftingfox33 driftingfox33 Member
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#83 ·
Jason Sanchez3 said:I actually topped my psychology class back in college 😍
I just can't wrap my head around someone calling something as vital as emotional intelligence "manipulative"...
It’s honestly pretty ignorant and, frankly, not very bright...

Actually, nobody called it anything of the sort—you might want to double-check what you're reading.
People who rely on those kinds of tricks usually lack both high IQ and EQ...
Kyle Nelson2 Kyle Nelson2 Regular
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#84 ·
Jason Sanchez3 said:For real🙂
are you always right?

From what I can tell—based on the info I actually manage to dig up—yeah, pretty much...
Kyle Nelson2 Kyle Nelson2 Regular
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#85 ·
So, here’s the intel I managed to "scoop up":

1. My ex... we broke up... she 186 miles from me (back in her hometown)... started seeing this new guy... but honestly, he’s just some total hillbilly. They went out. Got into a fight... she was so pissed off she ended up walking home alone in the middle of the night... through some rural area between two small towns in
the Midwest. I called her the next day to check in... you know, asking what's up... I go, "So, I hear you have a new guy?" And she's like, yeah... "What's he like?" Well... he's good...
Good? I mean, I heard he's a bit lacking in the substance department. Come on, girl, don't settle for less, find someone better...
No, he's fine.....
Aha... and how was it out there last night? Did you get enough fresh air while you were wandering around?
Excuse me? What... what did you say??
I mean... you were walking home by yourself...
Oh my god... well, he IS an idiot!! He's just plain stupid!!... uh...

Okay... anyway, I'm heading out, I'll just give them a call to double-check 😉

Situation 2:
A friend of mine has been with his girlfriend for X years... they always seem so happy and polite whenever I visit... but... I "found out"... their sex life hasn't really been working... for quite a while now... and they had this massive blowout fight once. Turns out, it's not even about performance; he's actually gay, but he refuses to admit it to himself... and it turned into a nasty fight...

Anyway, I stopped by their place the next day for coffee... and they were both totally distant... she was out in the yard, he was inside the house... I ask him: what happened? He just goes, "Some guy was over yesterday, man, just leave me alone."
Aha..
I go to her: Did someone die or something? She's like, "No... my sister just gave me hell..."

Aha...
I didn't tell them I was digging into what the catch was... that's their business...

There's always stuff like this happening...
Gerald Rivera60 Gerald Rivera60 Active Member
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#86 ·
Please refrain from starting unnecessary debates.
The system now includes an option to issue warnings—both yellow and red cards—so I suggest you don't give me a reason to test that feature on any of you.
If you want to engage in casual chat or similar banter, there is a dedicated thread for that.
Kyle Nelson2 Kyle Nelson2 Regular
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#87 ·
Sorry, I’d try to send this through PM, but the damn thing isn't even working...
hollowtinker82 hollowtinker82 Newcomer
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#88 ·
Jason Sanchez3 said:Could you clarify what you mean by that?.....
It happens to me all the time in my daily life..
But mostly just with people I actually know well... I’ll look at someone—or sometimes I don't even have to look—and I can just feel how they're feeling right then. Like their mood, what they want, or what's bothering them in the moment....
If I'm kissing my boyfriend, I can feel exactly what he's feeling while we're kissing....
It's weird, but I can basically just step into another person's shoes and instantly pick up on everything they're going through...

That’s called empathy, not emotional intelligence. They aren't the same thing. Empathy is a trait for highly intuitive people who can pick up on others' feelings. (Personally, I think it's a beautiful quality; I don't get why anyone would want to get rid of it).
With high social intelligence, she could turn that empathetic ability into something really positive and use it to her own advantage.
briskgull27 briskgull27 Regular
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#89 ·
We’re all pretty familiar with the Gauss curve.
But honestly, it’s just not enough to make a meal out of.
Jason Sanchez3 Jason Sanchez3 Active MemberOP
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#90 ·
hollowtinker82 said:That’s called empathy, not emotional intelligence. They aren't the same thing. Empathy is a trait for highly intuitive people who can pick up on others' feelings. (Personally, I think it's a beautiful quality; I don't get why anyone would want to get rid of it).
With high social intelligence, she could turn that empathetic ability into something really positive and use it to her own advantage.

I think you've got it backwards. Empathy is just being able to understand how someone else feels and putting yourself in their shoes... it isn't some big mystery and you can definitely practice it. It's pretty straightforward—like if a close friend loses a family member, you can figure out how they're feeling and adjust how you act to support them. That's empathy..
restlessdrifter9 restlessdrifter9 Newcomer
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#91 ·
Douglas Brown4 said:What you have is called INTELLIGENCE.
As for what you're asking about—that thing called "emotional intelligence"—it is a bit like the Mormons in the USA:
Americans are so frustrated by the fact that they don't have an indigenous religion that they had to go ahead and invent one.
It's the same with foolish people. They want to be intelligent too. Various managers, scammers, bar owners... they all possess a very low form of intelligence known as PEASANT CUNNING.
Well, in modern times, with these trends where everyone wants to feel special—even though most people can't move an inch away from their herd—they invented the concept of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and stuffed their own CUNNING into it.
Basically, they pitted it against actual INTELLIGENCE and started claiming it is vaznij. So, the EQ of some dart player in a pub, or someone like Franc Ozbolt or Cinober, is supposedly more important than the IQ of Albert Einstein.
And I guess it will stay that way as long as American managers keep writing their life essays instead of focusing on what they actually know how to do: stealing.

Once you realize this, the pain fades and happiness follows.🙏 👍
Jason Sanchez3 Jason Sanchez3 Active MemberOP
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#92 ·
restlessdrifter9 said:Once you realize this, the pain fades and happiness follows.🙏 👍

Yeah, just let go......
Paul Sullivan Paul Sullivan Member
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#93 ·
-- I've been reading through these comments, and I honestly find it hard to believe. If everyone operated with your level of detachment, we could probably replace half our vocabulary with much simpler terms. It would certainly be less painful, I suppose, because people would finally know exactly where they stand. Then again, there's a certain convenience in being cold—in acting like you couldn't care less about anyone else's struggles while still expecting everyone to treat you with kindness. It’s a bit of a paradox, isn't it? Only those who actually feel the weight of things can truly understand empathy, I guess. Maybe I have a bit of that in me too, but we aren't really talking about me right now. I'll just say that on a few occasions, I've considered letting go of that internal distance, but when you weigh what you gain against what you lose... it seems better to just keep it all inside. My advice...

-- Just stay quiet and enjoy the view; you're worth much more this way.--
Paul Perez Paul Perez Member
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#94 ·
If I’m reading you right, the reason you even bothered starting this thread isn't because you're some saintly empath with endless sensitivity, but because those traits are actually getting in your way during your day-to-day life.

The thing is, these issues usually just VANISH once you’re actually staring down REAL problems—you know, actual high-stakes responsibilities like managing your own life, keeping a job, or looking after your kids. Basically, when there are real consequences for dropping the ball, things change.

Once you’re facing the kind of real-world pressure that matters, your survival instinct kicks in, and you’ll start using those intuitive abilities instinctively (and I'm assuming you won't be weaponizing them) to solve whatever mess you're in, all while ditching the extra baggage that just slows you down and makes you feel vulnerable or weak.

True challenges and adult responsibilities force a healthy dose of selfishness out of us—what people nowadays call "self-love"—and they give us the ability to clearly distinguish between what actually matters in our lives and what’s just noise.

Until then, hey, you’ve got all the freedom in the world to sit around and lament about how much your intelligence and empathy weigh you down... which doesn't really hurt anyone, but it's not exactly going to lead to any major breakthroughs, either.
Angela Rogers2 Angela Rogers2 Active Member
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#95 ·
Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

So, basically, you figured out you were smarter than everyone else when you were a kid... moving right along...

Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

I suppose most of your peers just weren't quite up to your standards, so you decided to achieve self-actualization by age 16. Interesting.

Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

Wow.. cool.

Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

Blah blah blah, yeah.

Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

this is honestly so narcissistic and weird that I had to tear your entire post apart just to get to this one part... helloooooooo????
Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

I totally believe you there; I can only imagine what kind of "emotional intelligence" bullshit you feed people.
Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

yeah.

Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

well, that's just nonsense. go ahead and read what you wrote here one more time. so, crying over news articles isn't considered being dramatic?

Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

to solve the mystery for you: all us regular people finish the sentences of our loved ones... because we're close to them, duh. that's completely normal, it doesn't mean you have some extraterrestrial super-brain 🙂 and we remember conversations and events. wow.
Jason Sanchez3 said:I’m not sure if anyone will get this, or even believe me. I really hope there are others out there like me because I could use some advice...
Ever since I was a little girl, I felt everything. I felt the whole world and everyone around me. I wasn't exactly a "typical" kid—didn't really follow the rules or go with the crowd, and I never judged other kids. I've always just been... different.
I eventually realized I have incredibly sharp intuition and high intelligence. My brain connects dots and processes info way faster than most people. I can see a problem from every possible angle instantly and pick the most realistic path based on my gut feeling.
I didn't have many friends back then. Crowds weren't my thing, and honestly, people didn't always like me because I'm too honest. Most people are a little afraid of the truth. I was pretty withdrawn and shy. But when I turned 16, I decided to completely reinvent myself—physically and personality-wise. I wanted to be strong and magnetic. Through a lot of hard work, I did it. I built myself into a complete person. Since 16, I've spent my time observing and analyzing people, sharpening that intuition and mental processing speed even more. But now, I've hit a bit of a breaking point...

I've become hyper-sensitive to other people's pain and emotions. I can feel the energy someone is radiating just by being near them, and I can read non-verbal cues perfectly. When I'm with someone—and this applies to everyone, but especially my partner—I find it impossible to hurt them or be selfish. I can't say the wrong thing because I already know exactly how they'll feel. I can't make mistakes because I'm too aware of their fears. I can't even afford to be a flawed human being.😢 - basically, I end up knowing a person better than they know themselves in such a short time.

I'm actually great at reading and influencing people, which is helpful for my career, though I'm totally sincere and rarely use it that way.

Sometimes I'll burst into tears over a news article because I feel the tragedy in the story so deeply. Yet, at the same time, I stay completely cold toward anything exaggerated or fake. If it isn't real, I don't feel it.

Some days, I feel like a robot. My brain is constantly bombarded by emotions and data, all being analyzed and processed. I often finish people's sentences before they even get them out. I remember everything—every word said, what I said, where we were, and exactly how everyone was reacting in that moment.

It's perfect sometimes, but other times... I just want it all to stop.😢 I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts or if you've experienced anything similar.

Maybe try coming back down to earth. A little sarcasm might actually do you some good... since you're apparently so good at reading between the lines, I guess you'll eventually figure out everything else I was trying to say without actually saying it.😁
Angela Rogers2 Angela Rogers2 Active Member
61 messages
joined Oct 2007
#96 ·
urbansurfer5 said:Honestly, what a silly and honestly kind of dangerous thing to say.

And honestly, it’s completely untrue, too.😁
Thomas Martinez67 Thomas Martinez67 Active Member
51 messages
joined Apr 2010
#97 ·
Dear Cosmo,
I really need to vent because I’m struggling quite a bit
After graduating medical school at the top of my class, marrying a prominent entrepreneur here in Chicago—who was actually honored by a major national women's business association as Husband of the Year—and realizing I’m on track to become a Chief of Medicine at one of the most prestigious hospitals in the country, all while raising two incredible children who are basically academic superstars (well, they're valedictorian types almost every single year, give or take a season), I’ve come to this startling realization: I am not happy. In fact, I feel somewhat cursed.
It’s because when I look at the people around me who don't have any of these things, it seems so much more "normal" to live without them than to live with them. If that's the norm, then why does my life feel so abnormal? It makes me feel truly unsettled.
Why am I so successful?
Why does my life read like a fairy tale?
Can a fairy tale ever actually be reality?
Because I am a logical person, I know a fairy tale can't be real, yet here I am living one, and honestly, I'm starting to worry that something is fundamentally broken within me.
I am asking for your help.
The thing is, I’m not on great terms with a colleague of mine who is a psychiatrist, so I was wondering if you could perhaps put in a good word for me with her?
Thank you.

PS: By the way, I am incredibly charming—everyone raves about me—which just adds another layer of weight to my weary shoulders.
Why am I so damn good at everything? (Oops, let me rephrase that!)
Sandra Parker3 Sandra Parker3 Regular
419 messages
joined Oct 2007
#98 ·
Jason Sanchez3 said:Could you clarify what you mean by that?.....
It happens to me all the time in my daily life..
But mostly just with people I actually know well... I’ll look at someone—or sometimes I don't even have to look—and I can just feel how they're feeling right then. Like their mood, what they want, or what's bothering them in the moment....
If I'm kissing my boyfriend, I can feel exactly what he's feeling while we're kissing....
It's weird, but I can basically just step into another person's shoes and instantly pick up on everything they're going through...

What's weird about this is 😕

Thomas Martinez67 said:Dear Cosmo,
I really need to vent because I’m struggling quite a bit
After graduating medical school at the top of my class, marrying a prominent entrepreneur here in Chicago—who was actually honored by a major national women's business association as Husband of the Year—and realizing I’m on track to become a Chief of Medicine at one of the most prestigious hospitals in the country, all while raising two incredible children who are basically academic superstars (well, they're valedictorian types almost every single year, give or take a season), I’ve come to this startling realization: I am not happy. In fact, I feel somewhat cursed.
It’s because when I look at the people around me who don't have any of these things, it seems so much more "normal" to live without them than to live with them. If that's the norm, then why does my life feel so abnormal? It makes me feel truly unsettled.
Why am I so successful?
Why does my life read like a fairy tale?
Can a fairy tale ever actually be reality?
Because I am a logical person, I know a fairy tale can't be real, yet here I am living one, and honestly, I'm starting to worry that something is fundamentally broken within me.
I am asking for your help.
The thing is, I’m not on great terms with a colleague of mine who is a psychiatrist, so I was wondering if you could perhaps put in a good word for me with her?
Thank you.

PS: By the way, I am incredibly charming—everyone raves about me—which just adds another layer of weight to my weary shoulders.
Why am I so damn good at everything? (Oops, let me rephrase that!)

A real curse, isn't it?
Thomas Martinez67 Thomas Martinez67 Active Member
51 messages
joined Apr 2010
#99 ·
Sandra Parker3 said:
little_devil said:Check out this post
When I'm kissing my boyfriend, I can actually feel exactly what he's feeling while he kisses me...
It’s just so simple; I can completely step into his shoes and instantly absorb whatever emotion he's experiencing...

What's so strange about this here? 😕

Could it be because she's telling us this so freely? 😁
Sandra Parker3 said:Quite a curse, isn't it?

There's nothing worse
I totally get her
Gregory Turner35 Gregory Turner35 Newcomer
6 messages
joined Sep 2007
#100 ·
Hey, you little devil. I’m right there with you on that whole thing about picking up on people's vibes and actually getting how they feel. For me, though, it all comes down to eye contact. Like, when I look someone straight in the eyes, I feel like I can just read their mind—know exactly what's going on in their head or how they're feeling. Some people have figured me out, though, and now they won't even look me in the eye.

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