Wedding cakes and desserts

Look, if we're actually talking about the same thing here...

Azriel said:Wait, where is this bakery located? Do you have a phone number or an address? I’m actually starting to obsess over wedding cake options right now. Oh, and how much did it run you?

The five-tier thing (we actually wanted four, but they didn't have a four-tier stand, only three or five) ended up costing about $400.

Alright, quick question 😁

Where are you guys getting your wedding desserts from? What’s the damage to your wallet, and how’s the quality? 😬

So, here's the deal—we’re doing dessert service at the restaurant, but we'll have them set out on the tables. Then, we need separate boxes to hand out to guests as favors. Do you think the stuff in the favor boxes needs to be the exact same treats they had at the table, or can I just throw something else in there?

Honestly, his side of the family is acting like they're going to bake everything themselves, but I really don't have the patience for that kind of nonsense... I mean, they definitely have better things to do than mess around with flour and sugar...

I don't know. If we go that route, they'd basically have to make two different batches—one for the platters on the tables and another for the gift boxes.

I have zero intention of serving any kind of cake, mostly because I personally can't stand them. Am I really expected to worry if my guests will be shocked by that? Since it's summer, I was thinking of just offering ice cream and a fruit salad instead... Someone mentioned a bakery called CAKE or something similar over near Harvard Law School, if I recall correctly.

ruggedsailor75 said:So the question is 😁

Where are you guys getting your wedding desserts, what's the damage, and what kind? 😬

Basically, we're doing dessert service at the tables at the venue, but we need separate ones for the favor boxes. Do you think the treats in the guest boxes should be the exact same ones served at the table, or can they be different?

I think his side of the family mentioned they’d bake them, but honestly, I really don't want to deal with all that hassle... they have better things to do...

Not sure. I guess they'd have to make enough for both the table displays and the boxes then.

Oh, ruggedsailor75, you're dealing with so much wedding stress already... I really don't think guests will care which sweets are in the boxes. You can just do the same ones...

Look, if his family offered to bake, let them bake if they actually have the time...

Harold Miller24, I'd personally go with pastries, since it's summer and you wouldn't want any mishaps with ice cream melting out there... 😉 pastries always hold up a bit better...

Personally, I find those cakes absolutely revolting. Why on earth would anyone waste extra money on them when everything else is already so expensive? At every wedding I've attended, those cakes just sat there untouched on the table. In my experience, it’s just a pointless tradition—but hey, if you want to throw money away, be my guest. Why even bother serving cake to guests? Isn't an overpriced gift enough? (And don't get me started on how much those damn confetti cannons cost $1333!!)

Everything stated above is strictly my own opinion. I am not attacking anyone who decides to have cake or actually enjoys it!

My brother got married last year, and I ended up ordering about 150 pounds of desserts. I definitely overdid it by picking 30 different kinds—totally unnecessary. To make matters worse, it was an absolute scorcher that day, and some of the treats just didn't hold up in the heat. My advice? If you're planning a summer wedding, stick to dry cookies or pastries.
We’re planning on having sweets for the tables and for guests to take home, but we probably won't do the whole tradition of giving them out as favors, even though everyone expects it.
My partner actually plays music at weddings, so I get greeted with a little box of treats every single Sunday... I guess I really hit the jackpot there. If he wasn't a musician, he'd probably be a baker or a pastry chef... I have a massive sweet tooth! 😍

Honestly, my biggest weakness is hitting the dessert tray after a wedding before I even head to bed. If I don't get those sweets, I am seriously disappointed. I have no clue why, but I always end up starving the second I walk through my front door.

then my guests are going to be absolutely let down😉

silverbadger3, what’s your take on this—do you think having about 90 people is enough to knock out 10 different kinds of treats if we’re looking at a total of maybe 45 pounds? (Keep in mind we're getting the recipes ahead of time). We're talking sturdy stuff here, not those flimsy little cookies, but nothing too mushy or creamy either. Also, should the treats in the boxes be identical to what's sitting out on the tables, or is it cool if they're different? Or maybe we just put a few pieces on the tables just so they don't look empty?

Mark Flores6, trust me, I know, and I am 100% on board with you 😉 That's exactly why I want them.

We picked up some treats from the sweet secret. For our group of about 90 women, she said 16 kg was plenty. 🙂

I don't think they need to be identical in the boxes and on the table. That way, guests actually get a chance to try something different and new when they head home. It looks like everyone already stuffed themselves on the ones sitting out. For me, as long as there are cookies, I'm happy. And since we're talking about summer and creamy desserts, I doubt we'll have any issues with shelf life if this heatwave keeps up. Who knows? We might end up freezing soon anyway.😠

Alexander Ward71 said:We grabbed some treats from Sweet Secret—for about 90 women, she said 16 kg was more than enough.🙂

Wait, does that cover the buffet tables AND the individual gift boxes, or just one of those?😕

Honestly, I’m gonna need a little bit for work too, though nothing crazy—just enough to treat my coworkers.

I’m not handing out cookies at the table or at home.

Alexander Ward71 said:I'm not splitting the dessert between the tables and the favors.

Wait, when you say "for home," are you talking about the favor boxes for when people leave, or what???
My plan is to have stuff from a bakery out on the tables—but for the actual giveaway boxes, I’m gonna need like another 15 kg of treats (roughly speaking—if they're 10oz boxes and we're doing 50 boxes...).

My mom said she'd whip up some homemade stuff too, so hopefully that covers the cost.

But look, here's my actual question: do the desserts on the tables need to be the exact same ones in the favor boxes, or can they be different? Like, should I add even more of this homemade stuff to the dessert table itself???

I know I won't have to go through any trouble when it comes to those cookies... honestly, half my family will probably end up baking some for me... from my grandma and aunts to my cousins and everyone else.

I think 500 grams per box is plenty—maybe even less! You could always throw in a different variety in some of them so they aren't all identical. It really just depends on whether you're setting this up at home or at a local bakery. I’ve got a lady in mind who I know does amazing work... but honestly, I've decided against gifting cookies this year. It’s just more hassle than it's worth. Every time I think back to last year, with 175 pounds of pastries scattered all over my apartment in this heat and the chaos of those little boxes... I just get a headache.

You're right, 10 ounces per box is plenty...

Our boxes are 300 grams each. I’m thinking we just pack them full—you know, with homemade cookies. Though honestly, those fancy ones from the catering spread probably won't be making a comeback.
They should just be happy if they even get any cookies at all 😛

Exactly! Don't stress yourself out too much over it... honestly, I think they put way too many desserts on the tables anyway, since there's always a huge pile of leftovers left on those trays. The worst part is how they get messy, dim, and start melting...