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...In just about a month, several of my friends have had long-term relationships fall apart... I kept feeling bad for them, thinking "that would never happen to me," until it hit me home the day before yesterday. 😢
Still, I’ve got this tiny shred of hope that I can fix things on my end (even if it won't be an overnight fix), so I'm posting here to see if you guys can give me some advice...
Here’s the situation... My girlfriend lives in another city (not too far, maybe about 40 miles away), and since I’m in my final year of college, I’ve been absolutely buried under coursework and responsibilities. All of that meant I could only see her about once a week, which just wasn't enough for her. I’ll admit it—she was right. I totally neglected her and didn't do a great job showing her how much I care. Then, the day before yesterday, she calls me up and says the distance and lack of time finally took its toll. She told me she's started seeing me more as a friend and that we need to break up. 😢 I had a pretty emotional reaction to it, and honestly, I'm a little embarrassed about how I handled myself...
The next day (yesterday), I managed to pull myself together, called her back, and asked: if we take some time apart, and I work on myself to fix the reasons why we were unhappy, could we eventually get back together? She said I definitely should do that work, though she wouldn't promise anything. Her main condition is that I finish my degree and actually find some free time. I told her, "Okay, that's all I needed to hear," and then we ended things...
So, what's my move? I really care about her (there's a lot more to it than I can explain without rambling, and I don't want to overwhelm you guys), and I want to play this smart. I realize this might be the permanent end and there might be nothing I can do, and luckily, my self-esteem hasn't tanked so hard that I feel like she's the only woman on Earth—I just want to do everything in my power to make this work... So,
How long should I wait before calling her again?
Should I do something special for our two-and-a-half-year anniversary, or should I hold off?
Is there anything else I should be doing?
Help me out!
Still, I’ve got this tiny shred of hope that I can fix things on my end (even if it won't be an overnight fix), so I'm posting here to see if you guys can give me some advice...
Here’s the situation... My girlfriend lives in another city (not too far, maybe about 40 miles away), and since I’m in my final year of college, I’ve been absolutely buried under coursework and responsibilities. All of that meant I could only see her about once a week, which just wasn't enough for her. I’ll admit it—she was right. I totally neglected her and didn't do a great job showing her how much I care. Then, the day before yesterday, she calls me up and says the distance and lack of time finally took its toll. She told me she's started seeing me more as a friend and that we need to break up. 😢 I had a pretty emotional reaction to it, and honestly, I'm a little embarrassed about how I handled myself...
The next day (yesterday), I managed to pull myself together, called her back, and asked: if we take some time apart, and I work on myself to fix the reasons why we were unhappy, could we eventually get back together? She said I definitely should do that work, though she wouldn't promise anything. Her main condition is that I finish my degree and actually find some free time. I told her, "Okay, that's all I needed to hear," and then we ended things...
So, what's my move? I really care about her (there's a lot more to it than I can explain without rambling, and I don't want to overwhelm you guys), and I want to play this smart. I realize this might be the permanent end and there might be nothing I can do, and luckily, my self-esteem hasn't tanked so hard that I feel like she's the only woman on Earth—I just want to do everything in my power to make this work... So,
How long should I wait before calling her again?
Should I do something special for our two-and-a-half-year anniversary, or should I hold off?
Is there anything else I should be doing?
Help me out!