Topic of the day: Would you rather cheat or be cheated on?

03.01. Would you rather be the cheater or the one being cheated on?

aquamarine blue said:Would you rather cheat or be cheated on?

Well, it's not like people say, "Oh, I could never cheat..." or "My partner would never cheat on me" anymore.

You have to pick one side. 🙂

And since... well, the answer to the weekend poll was that she'd rather cheat and explain later.
I guess I'm actually curious about why. 😁

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Neither one, honestly.

I’d honestly rather be cheated on if it meant I could blame someone else for being the bad guy. If I can point the finger at them, I can get angry, vent, and move on relatively quickly. But if I’m the one who acted like a jerk? That stays with you. I’ll still be cringing at myself ten years down the road. To me, that self-reproach hurts way more than being let down or blindsided by someone else.

I mean, both of those options are just extreme ends of the spectrum, really. I guess what can you actually expect when people aren't exactly perfect? Personally, I’d probably rather just steer clear of both extremes and find a real, decent woman.

Neither one, really...

I’ve never been unfaithful. When I’m in a relationship, my partner is my entire world, and I just don't feel any urge to stray.
When I'm committed to someone, my whole focus is on making sure they feel loved and happy, so the idea of cheating and bringing that kind of shame upon them never even crosses my mind.
Besides, there's also the divine commandment against adultery, which makes the whole thing pretty senseless to me.

I actually know what it feels like to be cheated on, and honestly, it’s such a miserable, hollow feeling—it makes you feel completely worthless.
If a woman truly loves me, she would never want to inflict that kind of heartache on me.

I don't think I could ever forgive infidelity, either, because once I know someone has been with someone else, that spark is just gone.
At that point, they become a stranger to me, because if you were really willing to cheat, it proves we never truly knew one another in the first place.

Could we perhaps select a slightly less heavy topic of the day for the New Year? I don't think I have the stomach for this one.🙂🙂🙂

There’s no easier topic of the day. It’s like asking if I’d rather be the one performing or just sitting on my couch watching someone else do it.

Brandon Foster7 said:There’s no easier topic of the day. It’s like asking if I’d rather be the one performing or just sitting on my couch watching someone else do it.

I disagree. Just look at the response from quietbadger11. Many people operate under the assumption that infidelity is an absolute dealbreaker—the ultimate reason to end a relationship. But then we have the loss of a loved one. Since when did losing someone dear become such a trivial topic of the day?

You don't cheat on someone you actually love; when you're truly into them, you aren't even looking for an exit strategy.
Cheating happens when you’re just going through the motions because it's comfortable, acting like there's still passion when the spark is long gone. You do it for convenience, out of spite, to keep the paycheck coming, or just to keep up appearances for the neighbors.
It's basically living in a fog while pretending you're standing in the sunshine.

Everyone acts like they own me and tells me how to love, but fine—I'll play by the rules if I have to, but this is my life and I'm going to enjoy it.

I really can't say, dear. I’m here for you, and since I have a bit more breathing room right now, I’ll refrain from passing judgment—given everything I’ve been through myself.

I’d much rather be the one doing the cheating—mostly because I’m dead certain my "never again" rule would actually hold up. If I'm the one making the call, we could probably keep the partnership going without constant fighting or massive blowups.
But if I’m the one getting cheated on? If I’m the one left feeling betrayed, hurt, and totally let down? Honestly, no amount of "please forgive me" or pathetic concessions would be enough to make me stick around.

It might sound like a double standard 😬, but really, it just comes down to knowing someone's true character 😒

Does this logic hold up for board games too? Asking for a friend... 👀

Amanda James27 said:Does this logic hold up for board games too? Asking for a friend... 👀

🤣 You're always good in my book. 😁

Back to the topic of the day: I refuse to play like that! 🙂

I'm staying out of this topic of the day because I was once deceived by someone, and honestly, it just drags me back to a really dark place I worked so hard to escape...

Man, when I actually brought that up 🤣

I honestly don't even know anymore. Just feeling totally played
I want to be someone who actually has some integrity, you know? Someone who actually sticks to their word.

Sam Jones8 said:Man, when I actually brought that up 🤣

I honestly don't even know anymore. Just feeling totally played
I want to be someone who actually has some integrity, you know? Someone who actually sticks to their word.

Sorry, you didn't suggest it; I guess I just stole it from you. 😬
That would probably be more accurate. 🙂

But it really is a good question.
And maybe a bit harder to answer than I thought it would be, so... yeah, I guess I fall into that group of people who just lurk and read. 😁

Amanda James27 said:Does this logic hold up for board games too? Asking for a friend... 👀

I probably shouldn't have even bothered checking the username.😁

Honestly,
to deceive—well, I couldn't do it if I tried. It just isn't in my nature, and frankly, I don't think I could live with myself. I’d likely just walk away the moment the thought of being dishonest even crossed my mind. 🤔

I’m honestly being so picky that I can’t even make up my mind—Sorry, I know... 😁
I don't cheat, ever, and I certainly wouldn't put up with anyone trying to deceive me. Period.

And just so I can get ahead of any haters out there—I have never once broken up with someone because of a third party 😛

I wouldn't forgive them either.

Latice, look, it's fine 👍