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silentbison17 said:At this point, I’m actually looking forward to heartburn because I'm already used to it... The nausea is physically and mentally draining. I'm losing my mind... 😢
silentbison17 said:Great, you wrote this whole thing with such an air of superiority, as if we’re all just mindless idiots obsessed with nothing but pregnancy.
Good luck to you, but I’ll give you one warning: don't even think about cleaning cat litter. You can pick up toxoplasmosis from it. And that isn't some old wives' tale... it's a scientific fact.
rustynomad12 said:Hmm... I don't see where I called anyone a "brainless idiot," and honestly, I have no idea what's so "high-and-mighty" about me just refusing to be your stereotypical pregnant woman—you know, the one who acts like a total pushover for everyone and everything. That’s just never been my vibe, in any version of reality! And hey, I definitely know what osmosis is... thanks for the heads-up, rustynomad12!🙂)))
And heaven forbid I turn into the Terminator or something! Lol. I just refuse to play the victim like most people do. Whatever happens, happens—I can handle it. I’m definitely not talking about ALL pregnant women, just, you know, most of them. Yeah, okay, some are crybabies, totally wiped out by hormones, or just super insecure and anxious (just like me!). But look, being a little older means I get certain things a bit better than someone younger might, who's still struggling with the basics that are actually within their control. Hormones and fears aren't a free pass for every single thing a pregnant woman does... truthfully, most pregnant ladies I run into are just exhausting and a bit much for me. But those two? They are absolutely perfect—totally chill and normal. So, give me one good reason why I wouldn't end up being part of that group!
Good luck to you guys too!🙂)
rustynomad12 said:So, I’ve been having a bit of a struggle with turning on editing mode and tweaking my posts here... My very first entry wasn't exactly my finest hour, so I wanted to go back, soften the tone, and just write a whole new version instead.🙂))... Honestly, don't worry about the teasing! I'm taking it all in stride—I totally get that I can be a little ridiculous sometimes, haha. 5. I guess I just have this habit of jumping back in to explain my side of things once someone makes a snap judgment on a thread. That’s just who I am now... thanks for being so sweet and keeping an eye out for my messy typing.
By the way, let's get one thing straight: chronic pain, physical discomfort, hormonal rollercoasters, serious health scares, a sick kid, medical emergencies, depression, anxiety—all those biological struggles? That isn't "whining." It’s just people who are clueless and judgmental calling real suffering "stupid" or acting like it’s "no big deal."
Eh, well, if you get it, you get it.😁
Dana Martin87 said:Moms obsessed with strollers. I had no idea this phenomenon even existed until I got pregnant myself. Everyone tries to convince you that a stroller without a bassinet is a terrible choice—even people like me who think a bassinet is just consumerist greed, a gimmick, and total nonsense. Until now, I only knew about guys who obsess over cars; now I’ve realized there are groups of women who obsess over strollers in the exact same way.
God, I was reading a Chicago forum where some expectant mom says she wants to buy a Stokke stroller, and another woman responds, totally dead serious, "Why would you get a Stokke? Every other person in Chicago has them, just buy a Bugaboo." Helloooo? In Chicago, every other person is starving, not driving a Stokke, and what does it matter how many identical strollers are on the street? Is the only thing that matters if they're comfortable for the baby?!
I used to be disgusted by car guys; now I'm disgusted by their wives too.
And since I'm already on a pre-labor rant: Women who smoke, eat junk food, drink Coke and alcohol, and dye their hair during the first three months of pregnancy while simultaneously claiming pregnancy is the best thing that ever happened to them. Just be honest: "I hate this kid in my womb and I want it to die." Seriously, who are you kidding? If you can't give up something for nine months that threatens your baby's health, don't act like you're overjoyed.
Or those "virgin moms" who act all shocked at women having sex during a healthy pregnancy. If the pregnancy is healthy, sex should just add to the bliss. Amen.
Then there are the women who splurge on high-end stuff like Johnson & Johnson and think that's why they didn't get stretch marks. The cheapest Walmart almond oil and the most expensive luxury cream will have the exact same effect on the final result. I learned that the hard way.
Oh, and the hospital drama. When for the tiniest little thing—just a routine checkup—a woman, her husband, her mom, dad, grandma, and grandpa all start making connections that aren't there, spreading panic into a perfectly normal situation.
Pregnant women who brag about only gaining 10 pounds by 40 weeks, while they could easily carry someone like me who gained 20 kilos. Honestly, this whole weight talk drives me crazy.
And the women who preach about breastfeeding. I don't care one bit whether I breastfeed or not. If I have milk, I'll nurse, but for a maximum of six months because it's proven that after that, breast milk loses its properties and mostly just serves to soothe the baby, which feels like pure perversion to me. So, if there's milk, I'll nurse until six months; if not, I won't, and that's that.
There's more where that came from...
Alex Castillo said:Just two quick thoughts: if something rotates 360 degrees, it’s done a full circle, which means you're right back where you started 😉
And honestly, who's going to clean the litter box for my cats if I'm home alone while my husband is traveling? I am definitely not calling my mom or my brother-in-law to come over just to scoop out cat poop...
silentbison17 said:Look, I don't have a cat, but this is serious stuff. My OB-GYN asked me about this immediately, so call your mom or your brother or whoever... I don't know what else to tell you. If you don't believe me, Google it or ask a doctor!
Dana Martin87 said:Moms obsessed with strollers. I had no idea this phenomenon even existed until I got pregnant myself. Everyone tries to convince you that a stroller without a bassinet is a terrible choice—even people like me who think a bassinet is just consumerist greed, a gimmick, and total nonsense. Until now, I only knew about guys who obsess over cars; now I’ve realized there are groups of women who obsess over strollers in the exact same way.
God, I was reading a Chicago forum where some expectant mom says she wants to buy a Stokke stroller, and another woman responds, totally dead serious, "Why would you get a Stokke? Every other person in Chicago has them, just buy a Bugaboo." Helloooo? In Chicago, every other person is starving, not driving a Stokke, and what does it matter how many identical strollers are on the street? Is the only thing that matters if they're comfortable for the baby?!
I used to be disgusted by car guys; now I'm disgusted by their wives too.
And since I'm already on a pre-labor rant: Women who smoke, eat junk food, drink Coke and alcohol, and dye their hair during the first three months of pregnancy while simultaneously claiming pregnancy is the best thing that ever happened to them. Just be honest: "I hate this kid in my womb and I want it to die." Seriously, who are you kidding? If you can't give up something for nine months that threatens your baby's health, don't act like you're overjoyed.
Or those "virgin moms" who act all shocked at women having sex during a healthy pregnancy. If the pregnancy is healthy, sex should just add to the bliss. Amen.
Then there are the women who splurge on high-end stuff like Johnson & Johnson and think that's why they didn't get stretch marks. The cheapest Walmart almond oil and the most expensive luxury cream will have the exact same effect on the final result. I learned that the hard way.
Oh, and the hospital drama. When for the tiniest little thing—just a routine checkup—a woman, her husband, her mom, dad, grandma, and grandpa all start making connections that aren't there, spreading panic into a perfectly normal situation.
Pregnant women who brag about only gaining 10 pounds by 40 weeks, while they could easily carry someone like me who gained 20 kilos. Honestly, this whole weight talk drives me crazy.
And the women who preach about breastfeeding. I don't care one bit whether I breastfeed or not. If I have milk, I'll nurse, but for a maximum of six months because it's proven that after that, breast milk loses its properties and mostly just serves to soothe the baby, which feels like pure perversion to me. So, if there's milk, I'll nurse until six months; if not, I won't, and that's that.
There's more where that came from...
James Martinez3 said:This was actually a brilliant post, and I find myself agreeing with almost everything you said—you are absolutely spot on from the beginning right up until that part about breastfeeding.
This is my third pregnancy; I nursed my first two kids, and I fully expect to do the same with this one, so I'm not even questioning the concept itself. I truly believe that every parent needs to decide for themselves how long to nurse, since there are so many different factors involved in that decision. For instance, I’ve decided that a year is the sweet spot for me. And I would never dream of judging a friend who had to go back to her job at a local firm when her baby was only three months old, acting like she was some kind of villain for stopping early. She did what she had to do for very practical, objective reasons.
However, what you're claiming isn't an objective fact, nor is it true. If someone had tried to tell me that was the reason, I definitely would have pushed back, because that information is just plain wrong.
Breast milk doesn't lose its properties after six months, and I honestly have no idea where you picked up such misinformation. As for calling it "perverse"—well, you might change your tune once your little one hits six months and you realize how tiny they still are and how much they rely on you. Maybe hold off on those kinds of statements until then. At six months, a baby is still heavily dependent on milk for nutrition, especially if they struggle with solids or deal with allergies. For example, how was I supposed to explain to my five-month-old son that he was being "perverse" because he refused broccoli or apples and kept spitting them out? He wasn't ready; he’d push the spoon away, spit everything out, and end up vomiting whatever little bit he managed to swallow. So, I just continued nursing him almost exclusively for another two months while slowly introducing different foods. During that time, he gradually started accepting more variety, and as his appetite grew, we tapered off the nursing until we were completely finished by his first birthday. Besides, you can't just stop nursing overnight without dealing with physical discomfort and issues with your breasts. And if you think starting solids at two months is a good way to avoid your perceived "perversion," you might want to do a bit more research into how hard that is on a tiny infant's digestive system.
And yeah, I know I’m probably annoying you right now because I fall into that category of "pregnant women who are just going through the motions regarding breastfeeding." But my main point is that despite everything else you mentioned—which I agree with—what really gets under my skin are the first-time moms or women who haven't actually nursed, yet feel qualified to lecture everyone else about it when they don't have any real-world experience.🙂
During this pregnancy, I just can't seem to get a handle on how argumentative and hypersensitive I've become. It’s totally thrown me off my game.
