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Chloe Hayes55 said:I would happily trade being a parent if it meant my kid slept through the night in their own room and woke up actually happy.🥳
Hannah Lewis2 said:I've tried sending him over more than once. It’s just not happening. Honestly? I probably raised them all wrong. 🙂
redgardener5 said:Maybe try sending it without a return address? 🤔
Honestly, it’s not even about sleep schedules or breastfeeding or what kind of diapers you use—it’s all about attitude. If you don't agree with how someone else does things, then maybe you shouldn't have kids in the first place, right? I'd heard people talk about "pregnancy brain," but man, I had no idea just how extreme that can actually get 😲
And seriously, that whole "I would never, ever..." line always comes back to haunt you like a boomerang 😍
Hannah Lewis2 said:What would those self-righteous saints say to a mom who leaves her nursing baby tucked away with a sitter just to hit up a concert with her husband? ☕ Pure scandal! I didn't even look at the kid for two whole hours. 🙂
Samuel Ross60 said:I could use some perspective here:
I’ve been entertaining this somewhat radical notion where I don't have my baby sleeping in the same bed as me, and instead, we move the crib into a separate nursery once they hit the two-month mark.
We would, of course, rely on a high-quality baby monitor.
Is this kind of thinking a sign that I’m fundamentally unfit for motherhood? Or should I just be looking into adoption instead?
A very anxious mother-to-be
~~~ Penso positivo ~~~
Samuel Ross60 said:I could use some perspective here:
I’ve been entertaining this somewhat radical notion where I don't have my baby sleeping in the same bed as me, and instead, we move the crib into a separate nursery once they hit the two-month mark.
We would, of course, rely on a high-quality baby monitor.
Is this kind of thinking a sign that I’m fundamentally unfit for motherhood? Or should I just be looking into adoption instead?
A very anxious mother-to-be
~~~ Penso positivo ~~~
Richard Morris43 said:and honestly, what am I supposed to do if you guys are all just walking around with some massive inferiority complex regarding Motherhood 🥳
Samuel Ross60 said:I could use some perspective here:
I’ve been entertaining this somewhat radical notion where I don't have my baby sleeping in the same bed as me, and instead, we move the crib into a separate nursery once they hit the two-month mark.
We would, of course, rely on a high-quality baby monitor.
Is this kind of thinking a sign that I’m fundamentally unfit for motherhood? Or should I just be looking into adoption instead?
A very anxious mother-to-be
~~~ Penso positivo ~~~
Brandon Barnes85 said:You might as well just throw yourself away just to be safe, because if you put the baby up for adoption, you might end up with parents who actually let them sleep in their own room! :gasp:
Samuel Ross60 said:Good grief, I didn't just pull that out of thin air! 🙂
~~~ Penso positivo~~~
Lawrence Doyle5 said:Honestly, even to me, that sounds a little extreme... seriously. Maybe try looking for advice on a different forum, or even call one of those free parenting hotlines—they'll definitely walk you through the pros and cons. Actually, I know a great guy named Milan who could probably give you some solid guidance on what to do... though, hey, instead of moving the baby to the nursery, why not just leave them in your room and you and your husband can move into the nursery? Haha.
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Jesse Johnson15 said:Look, I hear my kid wake up, and I'm right there in front of them within two seconds. If you want to go around thinking you're somehow a "better" mother just because you insist on sleeping in the same room, fine, believe what you want. But please, don't try to lecture me or tell me how to parent when you don't even have kids of your own. Those arguments are just totally nonsensical. Seriously, you're lucky I'm not coming over there to give you a piece of my mind. ☕
Richard Morris43 said:It’s just women, isn't it? I mean, look, I can see that your imagination is clearly your strongest suit, since you apparently can't conceive of sex happening anywhere other than a marriage bed 🙏.
My kid sleeps like a rock, so wherever I put them, they stay out, period. Honestly, the whole separation thing was a piece of cake, even though we were already basically sharing a bed anyway—him with us or in the crib, whatever.
And really, who's to blame for teaching your kids that total dead silence is the only way to sleep? 😁
Richard Morris43 said:and honestly, what am I supposed to do if you guys are all just walking around with some massive inferiority complex regarding Motherhood 🥳
Hannah Lewis2 said:What would those self-righteous saints say to a mom who leaves her nursing baby tucked away with a sitter just to hit up a concert with her husband? ☕ Pure scandal! I didn't even look at the kid for two whole hours. 🙂
Samuel Ross60 said:I could use some perspective here:
I’ve been entertaining this somewhat radical notion where I don't have my baby sleeping in the same bed as me, and instead, we move the crib into a separate nursery once they hit the two-month mark.
We would, of course, rely on a high-quality baby monitor.
Is this kind of thinking a sign that I’m fundamentally unfit for motherhood? Or should I just be looking into adoption instead?
A very anxious mother-to-be
~~~ Penso positivo ~~~
dustymaker642 said:You know, I really can't stand those women who seem to have this "supermom" complex, where they try to guilt-trip perfectly normal moms with these wild arguments—moms who clearly love their kids, even if they don't intend to breastfeed them until high school or sleep in the same bed until they head off to college.🙂
Look, if we don't establish some healthy boundaries, what we think of as an act of love and care can easily spiral into obsessive behavior that ends up being pretty damaging for both the parent and the child.
I'm not trying to go to the other extreme here by saying that extended breastfeeding or co-sleeping is a perfect foundation for a pathological relationship between a mother and her child—in fact, it can be—but I truly believe the key is finding a middle ground and not judging the women whose version of "middle ground" just doesn't look exactly like ours.😉
Samuel Ross60 said:And what if the baby and my two dogs all sleep in the bed together?
I mean, the dogs already sleep in here with us, so how am I supposed to explain that to the baby? And more importantly, how am I supposed to explain to the dogs that they aren't allowed in the bed anymore!?
~~~Thinking positively~~~
Samuel Ross60 said:And what if the baby and my two dogs all sleep in the bed together?
I mean, the dogs already sleep in here with us, so how am I supposed to explain that to the baby? And more importantly, how am I supposed to explain to the dogs that they aren't allowed in the bed anymore!?
~~~Thinking positively~~~
Samuel Ross60 said:You’ve hit the nail on the head. 😢
Should I put the dogs down or just go get an abortion? Or perhaps the most logical path would be to embrace solitude and leave my husband behind entirely?
~~~Thinking positive~~~
Brandon Barnes85 said:Oof... that is a tough call to make. Honestly, you might be better off getting rid of the dogs just to be safe. Once that's done, you should really start studying pregnancy seriously so you don't accidentally eat the wrong thing or buy the wrong vitamins next time, and try to avoid too many ultrasounds since the radiation isn't great for the baby, plus you shouldn't let doctors do vaginal exams because there's a risk of opening up.
Around the halfway mark, you ought to start reading up on breastfeeding because that's the only right way to do it and babies need it for as long as possible. And whatever you do, don't take any medication during labor. Your job is just to suffer in silence.
Then, once you get home, you have to stare at your baby constantly to build that bond, and if you can, try not to even blink.
