What were your biggest pregnancy surprises and pet peeves?

It’s driving me absolutely insane. Now that I’ve finally started buying things for the baby—thank God I waited this long—my mother-in-law keeps insisting it’s way too early. Seriously? When exactly is the "right" time? When I’m walking around with a massive bump right before delivery, or maybe after the kid is actually born? I gave her such a sharp response that I don't think she'll be making those comments again anytime soon.
And don't even get me started on picking out names. My husband's aunt apparently hates the name we chose... as if I care! Every single time we talk, she tries to push her own ridiculous suggestions on us. Does nobody realize that the only people with a say in this are my husband and me? I can't believe she thinks her opinion carries any weight in what our child will be called.😠

Gary Evans8 said:I honestly don't know what to say. My little one is only a year old, and I just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant again. Of course, my grandmother immediately asked if I was losing my mind—as if I couldn't have just waited another year or so
I have to admit, it stung a bit. Everyone else is absolutely thrilled, though, especially since they all know how hard it was for me to get pregnant after those two miscarriages before my son was born

Instead of just being happy for you... I mean, everyone ends up happy eventually, but there’s always going to be some idiot making stupid comments.

gentlegardener83 said:It’s driving me absolutely insane. Now that I’ve finally started buying things for the baby—thank God I waited this long—my mother-in-law keeps insisting it’s way too early. Seriously? When exactly is the "right" time? When I’m walking around with a massive bump right before delivery, or maybe after the kid is actually born? I gave her such a sharp response that I don't think she'll be making those comments again anytime soon.
And don't even get me started on picking out names. My husband's aunt apparently hates the name we chose... as if I care! Every single time we talk, she tries to push her own ridiculous suggestions on us. Does nobody realize that the only people with a say in this are my husband and me? I can't believe she thinks her opinion carries any weight in what our child will be called.😠

😂 People just love attaching importance to things that don't matter. Happens to the best of us...

Hannah Lewis2 said:Instead of just being happy for you... I mean, everyone ends up happy eventually, but there’s always going to be some idiot making stupid comments.

😂 People just love attaching importance to things that don't matter. Happens to the best of us...

And now she's actually coming over to apologize to 😁

honestly, all those comments... they should just be bundled together and sent straight to the trash where they belong instead of cluttering up the feed here☕

Some mindless cleaner from my old job totally rubbed me the wrong way. I was out visiting some friends—they’re honestly great people, we were all joking around and having a lovely time—when this woman just barges in. She starts blabbing, "Did you hear? A's sister just had her twins. Everything seemed fine at the checkup last week, but then..." As if she didn't realize I'm also pregnant. I was practically out of commission all day yesterday, and everyone else there knew that and was being tactful, yet she just had to be incredibly insensitive and spill everything right in front of me.

Kyle Ortiz2 said:Some mindless cleaner from my old job totally rubbed me the wrong way. I was out visiting some friends—they’re honestly great people, we were all joking around and having a lovely time—when this woman just barges in. She starts blabbing, "Did you hear? A's sister just had her twins. Everything seemed fine at the checkup last week, but then..." As if she didn't realize I'm also pregnant. I was practically out of commission all day yesterday, and everyone else there knew that and was being tactful, yet she just had to be incredibly insensitive and spill everything right in front of me.

😲 What a total mess! Unfortunately, it's not an isolated incident... a colleague of mine had her OB/GYN tell her that while the baby seems perfectly fine now, things can always take a turn for the worse in those final weeks. Honestly, I don't get what's wrong with people. We pregnant women are already high-strung enough as it is, constantly worrying if we're feeling too much or too little movement, whether a certain discharge is normal... there are a hundred different things to obsess over, and apparently, that's still not enough. Of course, bad things can happen, but a car could hit me on the highway tomorrow too; I don't see the point in dwelling on it.

Kyle Ortiz2 said:Some mindless cleaner from my old job totally rubbed me the wrong way. I was out visiting some friends—they’re honestly great people, we were all joking around and having a lovely time—when this woman just barges in. She starts blabbing, "Did you hear? A's sister just had her twins. Everything seemed fine at the checkup last week, but then..." As if she didn't realize I'm also pregnant. I was practically out of commission all day yesterday, and everyone else there knew that and was being tactful, yet she just had to be incredibly insensitive and spill everything right in front of me.

My mom told me something similar about some girl from back home, right when I finally hit that second trimester relief. 🤦 🙄
Just leave me alone, man. Seriously... 🙄

Just you wait! 😲 😲 😲

As if we’re somehow getting some tiny little monster or whatever... If I said the baby is going to sleep in their own crib from day one, then that’s exactly what’s happening. It’s not like: "Oh, just wait until they're sleeping in your bed after two days!" Those kinds of comments drive me insane 😵😵😵

wanderinghawk said:Just you wait! 😲 😲 😲

As if we’re somehow getting some tiny little monster or whatever... If I said the baby is going to sleep in their own crib from day one, then that’s exactly what’s happening. It’s not like: "Oh, just wait until they're sleeping in your bed after two days!" Those kinds of comments drive me insane 😵😵😵

identically !!!
Though, I suppose that first line—"You'll see!"—can apply to all sorts of things too, like sleeping arrangements, going out on the town, money, and so on.

Bryan Diaz said:identically !!!
Though, I suppose that first line—"You'll see!"—can apply to all sorts of things too, like sleeping arrangements, going out on the town, money, and so on.

True enough... though lately, people have been riding my back about sleep...
At this point, I can only reach one conclusion for when I have a kid:
- I might as well chain myself to the house because I’m never stepping foot outside again
- I'll be sharing a bed with the baby while my husband is stuck in the living room since he'll be working
- I'll lose touch with my old friends who don't have kids
- I won't leave Washington, D.C., let alone head to the coast (I think I'll go, but we'll see...🤣 )
- I'll end up giving away the dog (I know, that'll probably trigger some backlash 🙂🙂 )

Oh, yeah, people have asked me the exact same thing—what am I going to do about the dogs. And honestly, what am I supposed to do? We’ll just get them used to the baby, and that’ll be that—it's a two-way street where the little one will have to learn to live with them, too. Besides, I truly believe it’s healthier for a child to grow up around dogs. My husband and I didn't even give it a second thought, really.

Bryan Diaz said:Oh, yeah, people have asked me the exact same thing—what am I going to do about the dogs. And honestly, what am I supposed to do? We’ll just get them used to the baby, and that’ll be that—it's a two-way street where the little one will have to learn to live with them, too. Besides, I truly believe it’s healthier for a child to grow up around dogs. My husband and I didn't even give it a second thought, really.

We started our parenting class last week, and some guy actually asked how to get his Boxer used to a newborn. The visiting nurse basically told him he should just find someone else to take the dog... 🙄 🙄

Honestly, asking "what will you do with the dog" is just a mindless question. What am I supposed to do with it? Turn it into a stew? ☕ (Maybe I'll say that to the next person who asks...)🙂

My grandmother actually called me out the other day just because I mentioned that I’d like my mom to watch the little one at least once a week, or maybe every two weeks
She started yelling about how my mother shouldn't have to babysit my kid and that I should handle it myself since I don't have a steady job😠
It's funny, though, because I know she used to watch me constantly when I was growing up🙄 and my mom even pointed out that she never ever asked for that kind of help from her back in the day😢

Honestly, these stories about stillbirths are driving me insane. And it’s coming from my own maid of honor. She calls me, feeling like she absolutely has to tell me, as if I actually want to hear it. There is zero reason for me to listen to some tragedy involving a girl in 62 miles who isn't even in my social circle. Seriously, what is the point? To top it off, she makes sure to mention how perfectly healthy her pregnancy was right up until the end. Like, thanks for the heads-up, now I'll just sit here wondering if I'm going to have a dead baby too. 🤷

As for pets, my cat passed away just a few days before I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I cried for days. Then people have the nerve to say, "Look on the bright side, it's better he's gone now that the baby is coming." What would they have wanted? 😕 Nothing. I'd have to run him over myself.

Nicholas Taylor50 said:Honestly, these stories about stillbirths are driving me insane. And it’s coming from my own maid of honor. She calls me, feeling like she absolutely has to tell me, as if I actually want to hear it. There is zero reason for me to listen to some tragedy involving a girl in 62 miles who isn't even in my social circle. Seriously, what is the point? To top it off, she makes sure to mention how perfectly healthy her pregnancy was right up until the end. Like, thanks for the heads-up, now I'll just sit here wondering if I'm going to have a dead baby too. 🤷

As for pets, my cat passed away just a few days before I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I cried for days. Then people have the nerve to say, "Look on the bright side, it's better he's gone now that the baby is coming." What would they have wanted? 😕 Nothing. I'd have to run him over myself.

I honestly don't get why people tell these stories🤷
what is the actual purpose of recounting them to pregnant women? 🤷

It really threw me for a loop when my mother-in-law started lecturing me about how her own mother worked through her entire pregnancy without a single issue 🙄
just because I mentioned feeling a bit tired after a walk.
But I wasn't just "tired"—I walked so much that my hips were aching so badly I was limping all evening, not to mention the fact that I barely slept because the pain wouldn't let up.

Ugh, honestly, I end up getting all worked up and tearing up every single time I read stuff like this... 👎 I’ve always been a bit of a crybaby, I guess, and things like this used to get me down before, too... but now that my hormones are basically doing backflips, I’ll legit spiral into a full-on panic attack 😢 yet I just can't stop myself from reading about these things. I mean, I'm going to be a mom soon, and I can't just ignore the fact that some of this is actually real life. I feel like the more I know, the better my chances are at preventing the bad stuff from happening... but then again, I'm overthinking everything and I always end up in tears because I'm so scared, and just because of the reality that this could happen to anyone 😢👎

The way she keeps shifting around in there is honestly killing me
don't get me wrong, I actually love feeling her move, but I really don't enjoy it when she decides to plant her feet right against my liver or starts jamming herself into my ribs
it’s just uncomfortable and painful, and I guess I don't even know how to stretch properly to give her more room so she'll just leave my liver alone

God dammit, I am so over this 😠🙂
I figured I’d just grab a fresh towel, some clean underwear, and my pajamas, then head toward the bathroom to take a nice, hot shower while the house was still actually warm (we rely on a wood stove here, and I know his uncle isn't going to bother getting up to toss more logs in the furnace once the temperature starts to dip)
I was thinking to myself, let’s just get this done while it’s at its peak warmth, but then—total shock 😲
I swing the bathroom door open only to find the window wide open, and the room is absolutely freezing 😠
So, how exactly am I supposed to shower now??? 😠
The bathroom isn't going to be warm anymore, not after someone decided to crack the window and let the heat escape for God knows how long

Most likely his uncle already finished his shower and couldn't care less if anyone else gets a chance to wash up
As long as he’s clean by Sunday, I guess, and I can just sit here smelling like garbage🙂

I’ve been on my feet since sunrise today—hit the farmer's market, grabbed a coffee 😁, swung by Target, finished all the housework, simmered some soup, and even made homemade noodles from scratch because MM loves them (and I do too, I guess, but still). Then I roasted meat and potatoes, and now I’m about to whip up a damn cheesecake just for myself. I was finally planning to sit down, relax, and treat myself because I am absolutely exhausted, but then everything just ended up scattered all over the floor. 😲😲😲

His comment: Oh, so you think I did that on purpose!?!?!? Well, it would be even better if I actually had! 😠

So I call him, and he gives me the whole "I'll call you back in ten minutes" routine.
Then, after waiting around for thirty-five minutes, I try calling him again, only to be told he'll get back to me "a little later." 😠
Honestly, what a joke. If he’d just stayed away, I would've hopped in the shower. 😠
Now I'm stuck in this limbo where I can't even start my shower, and I was really hoping to have at least half an hour of peace to myself.