Posts by Gerald Ward61

Jacob Foster11 said:It’s got nothing to do with the mods or the site itself. This was just some employees at TinyPic nuking it. Probably because the image broke one of their rules—maybe a copyright thing? Some NSFW stuff? Glorifying some regime? Who knows... something like that.

Well, that's me! 🤣

I know it wasn't the forum's fault. I was just wondering if they actually reach out to the site owners or if it's just what you said—me just guessing. I've never dealt with this before, so it feels pretty weird...

Hey mods, if you could be a real pal and let me know how my photo from that specific thread ended up getting nuked? I just saw that generic little placeholder image popping up saying the picture was deleted or removed...

If anyone’s got a second to drop some info on how that actually works... I'm dying to know how they pull that off.

Thanks in advance 🙂

It’s honestly exhausting when all you can see is the potential, but that's where everything just hits a wall...

Night. 🙂 (...though this one actually hit the spot 😂)

Sorry, but I honestly have zero clue what you just typed there. 😂

Whatever, as long as you're aware... 🙂

I'm gonna head out... night...

Paul Campbell3 said:Such a perfect example. 🙂

Wait, what? So all she needed was to actually face him to realize he’s just some totally "average guy," which popped her bubble and killed the feelings? Was it even love to begin with, or just some weird obsession with an idea?

And what's wrong with the guy? 😬 Maybe he actually showed interest in her, and she just bolted... 🤣

Mr. X played his part in your life while he was useful. Later, you moved the goalposts and raised your standards, so naturally, he lost his relevance.

😁 ...while he was useful?

Paul Campbell3 said:Fine, here's my apology for being such an arrogant jerk.

🙂 😘 😍

...and honestly? I should've just said "love." That would've been plenty... 🙂

Betty Stewart59 said:Some people even snore. Whatever. 😍

Nobody's perfect... including me.

Ugh, those are the absolute worst. 😬 There's just no saving them. Not even a kiss, and a wet washcloth to the face won't even wake them up. 🤣

Paul Campbell3 said:Look, I can give you all the apologies you want if it makes you feel better, but it doesn't change anything for me.

I just don't get what the big deal is. Are we really arguing because I quoted you saying there are better and worse kinds of love and you called that "crass"? 🤷

Yeah, call it arrogance then! 😉

quietpilot87 said:Honestly, I don't even get what she'd have to apologize for. 🤷

See? Exactly my point... 😍

Betty Stewart59 said:🙂
Clearly you're aggressive. A bit much, honestly. Whatever. Just let go.
About as gentle as a sledgehammer.

Honestly, I wouldn't bother with all that rocking or trying to drift off. Pretty sure we've got enough reality to deal with without adding extra fluff to the day. 😍

The only thing I actually want is sleep. Like, legit, deep sleep. 😬

Paul Campbell3 said:The OP was basically asking if anyone has ever been stuck in a loop of loving someone they can’t actually be with—like, for years. That kind of unrequited obsession where it turns into this weird fantasy, and you almost seem to find a sick sort of comfort in the heartache itself.

My response was built on a mix of my own therapy sessions, what I’m currently learning in my studies, and actual psychological literature. And yeah, let's be real, there's some personal experience baked in there too.

This is really aimed at the people who are drowning. If you're in the middle of this mess right now, or if you feel like you're headed straight for it, and you know deep down you need to change something because you're just plain miserable—this is for you.

Every story is different, sure, but the underlying mechanics? They're usually the exact same.

The OP wanted to know if these patterns exist. I tried to break down why they happen and where they come from, in a general sense. To get into the weeds of an individual case, obviously, you'd need to actually sit down with the person involved.

If this sparks even a tiny bit of change for someone, then great. 🙂

As for everyone else out there living their best life and happy in their relationships? I hope it stays that way.
They don't need my post. 😉

Maybe you should go back and give your last post another read... feels like you actually need to before you type this one... 😬

I need an apology from Lady Gaga, I want an apology... 😳

Look, some of us just don't think the writing deserves all this hype. 😁

Listen, gospodican @Dragon, that wasn't exactly a fair move on your part. You spent the whole time calling me arrogant just so you could pivot and show off your own ego in that last post. Honestly? A little apology would go a long way... 😍

I mean, sure, there’s plenty in that post I totally disagree with, but I'm not really the type to force my views on everyone. 😁 (I'll chime in on things as they come up) 😉

Sean Cruz said:Look, I've only got a second to drop this—life's getting busy, you know how it is... 😁

Julia, for heaven's sake, ended her life over the first guy she even laid eyes on. Do you honestly think anyone actually dreams of living like that? 😲 🤣

P.S. Regarding everything else, there’s plenty of truth to be found, but also plenty of nonsense, though I'll save that for another day... 😁

Wait, what part didn't make sense? If it was all nonsense, it wouldn't even be worth talking about. But Shakespeare nailed it. Taking that cynicism and flipping it for today's world? Pure genius. If that's what you mean, then yeah, we're on the same page. 🙂

@cosmictinker21, enjoy! 😍

cosmictinker21 said:well done🙏🙏🙏

A psychological approach? No, honey... you're being far too modest.

This is really just a summary of everything we carry inside regarding what love actually is. Everything we want, everything we crave to know—or desperately hope to ignore. It’s about what we choose to do, or don't. And it isn't just about "feelings." It's everything that makes us whole: our mindset, spirituality, poetry, logic, experience, knowledge, awareness, perception, desires, needs, instincts, and reality itself.
life.

Less talking, more kissing. 😍 When are you gonna figure that part out? 🤣 😉 😉

Write love letters 😍...dream up all these grand gestures... and then just stop bringing this topic up. 😉

@Dragonfly, honestly, your post feels more like some deep poem than actual "psychology." Love is just a roller coaster ride... 🙂 When you’re hurting, you’re hurting. There's no faking it. 😉 And you definitely can't just act happy through it. 😉

It was a pretty interesting read, though. 🙂

Paul Campbell3 said:That is incredibly arrogant. 🙂
You’re basically setting yourself up as the gold standard for what counts as "better" or "worse."
Sure, you can be the judge of your own life, but only when it comes to yourself.
It’s pure ego to act like that when talking about anyone else. 😉

Nah. You totally missed the point. 😉

Paul Campbell3 said:That's just love 🙂

😁

...for those who haven't actually met someone better, but they don't settle for just "fine"... they hold out for real love. 😉 😉

Betty Stewart59 said:Love is like dreaming you can fly. You can try to map out the lines, use some charcoal logic to mark the borders, pretend you’re an artist applying color to a canvas, but only the dreamer actually understands the mechanics of it.
One single flight matters more than all those broken hearts.
Too many people spend their lives staring up at the sky, bragging about how they once soared.
They didn't. And they never will.

🙂 Just one from the canyonlands... before all these "awake" types show up 😉

Sean Cruz said:We all carry our own histories, and usually, our outlook is just a byproduct of those experiences. 🙂

Longing for love feels like... well, like dying.

To me, love and death are practically synonymous.

Look, for me, love *is* life. It’s the whole deal. It means everything. I can't even imagine seeing it any other way... and honestly, why would I want to?

Unless He goes first, and then I'm just itching to follow Him... somehow. 😬

wearyhawk83 said:Exactly!

The real trick is spotting those specific versions of love that actually touch our lives and stripping away the fluff to find the core truth. See, people often wrap love up in these massive, inflated stories that aren't even real—they're just straight-up lies. And calling out those lies is incredibly tough because they’re usually tied to our own egos. If we expose the lie, we end up exposing ourselves, too. It’s way easier to hide behind a facade, because once you tear that mask down, you lose all your excuses. You can't keep feeding the nonsense anymore; you actually have to step up, take responsibility, and act in a way that truly honors what love is supposed to be.

🙂