Did the brawl in paradise actually happen?
in Psychology ·
I haven't read through this entire thread, and since I'm not a parent myself, I can't claim to know everything, but I do spend a lot of time looking after my four-year-old sister. I’m definitely old enough to have kids of my own eventually, but I think I’ll hold off for a while longer. 😁
From what little I know about kids, they really are all unique, aren't they? You get some who are just sweet, calm, and actually listen when you talk to them, making everything feel easy, but then you get others who are just total handfuls—stubborn, rude, and refuse to budge on anything.
Personally, I agree that sometimes a little discipline is a godsend. I really can't stand parents who feel the need to lecture everyone else on how to raise their own kids; sorry, but let me have my own opinion, okay? I respect your views, but please don't try to manage my life, because trust me, you don't have all the answers.
I think the context matters a lot, too, like whether it's a boy or a girl, or if it's the mom or the dad doing the disciplining.
I’ve never laid a hand on my sister, but that’s only because I’m her brother, not her parent. My mom gives her a swat on the butt every now and then. Before anyone starts judging, you should realize my sister is basically like that kid in those Duracell commercials—just a wild little thing rolling around on the floor while her dad stands there completely clueless. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nojWJ6-XmeQ
I dealt with a similar situation once at the local library. I didn't hit her, but honestly, none of the "time outs" or trying to explain things worked at all. In fact, she just started screaming even louder the moment she realized it bothered me and that I was asking her to be quiet. In the end, I had to scoop her up under one arm while juggling bags, toys, and pushing the stroller with my feet; she was thrashing around so much I practically had to drag her outside. I know some of you probably have plenty of theories on what I should have done differently, but like I said, every child is different, and unless you know my sister personally, there isn't any advice you could give me that would actually work. I didn't hit her, but if she were mine, she definitely would have gotten a spanking.
To me, a child is kind of like a little animal; they're essentially selfish creatures who don't care about anyone else, and if you let them take control, everything just goes south.
It’s on me to maintain that control. Some kids are easy to handle, while others are impossible. I don't believe in fighting with kids, and I definitely think physical discipline should be a last resort that we avoid as much as possible, but for heaven's sake, a child shouldn't be the one deciding where we go, when we eat, or what we buy. That isn't abuse; it's just a quick swat to show who's actually in charge. I mean, "spanking" has been around since the beginning of time, hasn't it? It's only recently that it's become this massive taboo, with people claiming that kids who get disciplined grow up to be violent criminals or whatever. What happened to almost everyone living before the 1900s? Were they all just mentally unstable?
I feel like we put way too much emphasis on children these days. Suddenly, they're treated as these incredibly precious, delicate little beings. In the US, you always hear that phrase "for the children"... everything is suddenly "for the children." Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against kids and I do want them in my life one day, but let's come down from the clouds a bit. A hundred years ago, kids were working in coal mines, and there are still places where that happens today. I'm not saying that's good, I just want to point out how extreme people's views have become.
I personally got plenty of swats when I was growing up, but there was always a reason for it. I don't hold it against my parents at all; if anything, I think they raised me really well. We have a great relationship now, to the point where they feel more like friends than parents. And for the record, I am not a violent person. 😁
Anyway, that's just my two cents.
From what little I know about kids, they really are all unique, aren't they? You get some who are just sweet, calm, and actually listen when you talk to them, making everything feel easy, but then you get others who are just total handfuls—stubborn, rude, and refuse to budge on anything.
Personally, I agree that sometimes a little discipline is a godsend. I really can't stand parents who feel the need to lecture everyone else on how to raise their own kids; sorry, but let me have my own opinion, okay? I respect your views, but please don't try to manage my life, because trust me, you don't have all the answers.
I think the context matters a lot, too, like whether it's a boy or a girl, or if it's the mom or the dad doing the disciplining.
I’ve never laid a hand on my sister, but that’s only because I’m her brother, not her parent. My mom gives her a swat on the butt every now and then. Before anyone starts judging, you should realize my sister is basically like that kid in those Duracell commercials—just a wild little thing rolling around on the floor while her dad stands there completely clueless. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nojWJ6-XmeQ
I dealt with a similar situation once at the local library. I didn't hit her, but honestly, none of the "time outs" or trying to explain things worked at all. In fact, she just started screaming even louder the moment she realized it bothered me and that I was asking her to be quiet. In the end, I had to scoop her up under one arm while juggling bags, toys, and pushing the stroller with my feet; she was thrashing around so much I practically had to drag her outside. I know some of you probably have plenty of theories on what I should have done differently, but like I said, every child is different, and unless you know my sister personally, there isn't any advice you could give me that would actually work. I didn't hit her, but if she were mine, she definitely would have gotten a spanking.
To me, a child is kind of like a little animal; they're essentially selfish creatures who don't care about anyone else, and if you let them take control, everything just goes south.
It’s on me to maintain that control. Some kids are easy to handle, while others are impossible. I don't believe in fighting with kids, and I definitely think physical discipline should be a last resort that we avoid as much as possible, but for heaven's sake, a child shouldn't be the one deciding where we go, when we eat, or what we buy. That isn't abuse; it's just a quick swat to show who's actually in charge. I mean, "spanking" has been around since the beginning of time, hasn't it? It's only recently that it's become this massive taboo, with people claiming that kids who get disciplined grow up to be violent criminals or whatever. What happened to almost everyone living before the 1900s? Were they all just mentally unstable?
I feel like we put way too much emphasis on children these days. Suddenly, they're treated as these incredibly precious, delicate little beings. In the US, you always hear that phrase "for the children"... everything is suddenly "for the children." Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against kids and I do want them in my life one day, but let's come down from the clouds a bit. A hundred years ago, kids were working in coal mines, and there are still places where that happens today. I'm not saying that's good, I just want to point out how extreme people's views have become.
I personally got plenty of swats when I was growing up, but there was always a reason for it. I don't hold it against my parents at all; if anything, I think they raised me really well. We have a great relationship now, to the point where they feel more like friends than parents. And for the record, I am not a violent person. 😁
Anyway, that's just my two cents.
