Posts by wiredcanyon19

I’ve been thinking lately about how much harder it is to choose a long-term purpose over a quick shot at being "internet famous." It feels like everyone is chasing a viral moment, but wouldn't it be cooler to actually build something that lasts? Does anyone else feel like the pressure to go the "easy" route is getting overwhelming?

crimsonhound4 said:So, I’ve got this one issue that just seems to follow me around everywhere. I honestly never really talk about myself to anyone. Lately, a few people I’m actually close to have told me that they feel like they don't really know me at all. And don't even get me started on how I come across in groups of strangers—apparently, I just seem like this stuck-up, silent wallflower 😁 It isn't that I feel a burning need to voice my opinions or constantly broadcast my thoughts, desires, feelings, or even just basic greetings. When I go on dates, I find myself just asking questions about their lives the whole time, mostly because it lets them do all the talking so I don't have to say anything about myself 😁 It’s not that I’m naturally a quiet person, per se, but I guess there's just this physical resistance I feel whenever I’m expected to talk about myself. It honestly just feels like too much effort.

Maybe it's because it feels like everyone else is just constantly bragging about themselves, and that kind of behavior just makes me recoil?

I know the irony of me opening up here, but since it's anonymous, I felt like I could finally let it out, even if it's a bit uncomfortable 😍

Is there anyone else out there who feels like this quiet, withdrawn type of person?

You forgot to mention if you're hot or not. If you are, well, at least people can enjoy looking at you, but if you aren't, then please—just run and find a sense of humor immediately before the lack of it gives you a literal tumor.

Also, do you lie often, and can you actually make pizza dough from scratch?

Honestly, this whole thing just made me sick to my stomach. My first thought was that I’d end up catching some nasty disease because those flies are swarming around trash bins, crawling over carcasses, and feeding on animal waste—just straight-up filth. It’s absolutely revolting. It’s been six hours now, and I can still practically feel it stuck in the back of my throat.

Thanks, man. Honestly, eating a fly is just the absolute worst feeling ever—I'm still grossed out. I seriously don't get how anyone could actually consider bugs to be their favorite food.

So, a fly literally flew straight into my mouth today—I’m serious—and I couldn't even cough it up or throw it back up. I ended up chugging three massive glasses of water just to force it down into my stomach, hoping my gastric acid would just deal with it and handle the situation. But honestly, since flies are basically everywhere, I’m low-key freaking out that I might actually catch some kind of sickness from this.

P.S. The fly was pretty big and meaty too, like, maybe an inch or so wide.

What actually happens in a situation where someone loses their mother—assuming she was the one using her Social Security to cover all the groceries and household bills—and then the kids can't (or just straight up won't) step up to cover those costs and move out... especially if the house doesn't end up being 100% owned by that same person we're talking about?

Yeah. She lives with a few of us, but she has her OWN ROOM where nobody bothers her. Look, psychiatrists might be able to help if someone actually *wants* treatment, but this person isn't interested in being hospitalized—and just trying to manage through meds alone? It’s not working. Her doctor, the cops, the whole legal system... they won't and can't do anything. Honestly, they couldn't care less about us taxpayers who are basically funding their lazy, ignorant asses. They don't lift a finger until some massive tragedy hits or until everyone under this roof collectively loses their minds because of one lunatic who terrorizes the house and sucks the life out of us.

Alex Barnes8 said:I guess I have to disagree—this isn't about PTSD. It looks like pure malice and sadism. Maybe don't buy into the idea that he’s sick; that mindset might be what keeps you stuck in this cycle.
Just remember, he's probably doing fine while everyone else struggles.
In the end, you'll all be the ones left with trauma, while he won't give a damn.
I can't really offer specific advice since I don't know any of you, but at least try calling things what they actually are.
The part in bold is pretty grim. I wonder how much more of what matters to you he'll destroy? When will you finally say, "Enough is enough"? And what happens then?
Eventually, you'll have to draw a line. He certainly isn't going to stop on his own.😉

Did I mention that he basically operates on double standards for everything? You seriously shouldn't leave money or anything valuable anywhere near him—I mean, I once had a watch just vanish—because he’ll just borrow it without asking and you’ll never see it again. We're constantly having to watch our backs and track where we leave stuff. It’s happened where someone buys a bag of coffee, and then he shows up, and even if you offer him some, he doesn't leave a single drop because he took the whole thing to some "buddy's" house to go drink outside a convenience store. Or if I crash in the living room and leave my phone on the shelf, I wake up and both the phone and the device are gone, only to find him down by the corner store hanging with his drinking buddies, and thanks to some lucky timing, I manage to grab my phone back—which he claimed he "borrowed so someone else wouldn't lose it" (yeah, right). Then there are times he just decides he wants to wear my sneakers—thank God I have extras—and goes out in them until he completely trashes them to the point where I can't even wear them anymore. So I just let him have them (honestly, let the devil take them), and within like three months, he’s totally shredded them—these were original Nike Air Zooms, too, not some cheap knockoffs—but instead of using his own cash to buy a new pair, he’d rather spend it all on booze and stupid junk like power tools he'll never even touch...

Jessica Kelly4 said:There’s real hatred, and then there's just "dislike." It's only natural to react to stuff like this.

Maybe this helps. I'm talking about addiction here. Parents can be patient, too—they'll literally pull their kid back from the brink more than once (paying off debts to some pretty shady people)... eventually, you realize you can't keep doing that. Either everyone goes down with the ship or you cut ties. And, btw, since this wasn't a drug addiction, forced rehab wasn't even an option.
In the end, though, the parents gave an ultimatum: get out of the house or go to treatment. That person is a different person now.

Look, I'm just some random guy on a forum, so don't take everything I say as gospel. Karen Rodriguez3 made a good point—you should talk to professionals.

The thing about an ultimatum is that they usually stay on their best behavior for maybe a week or so, and then just when you think things are finally looking up, history repeats itself and everything slides right back to square one. The hardest part is dealing with someone who is genuinely smart—they just use that intelligence to dance right on the edge, keeping everyone else constantly guessing what kind of mood they'll be in tomorrow. It’s not a normal way to live, and honestly, it leaves everyone feeling pretty burnt out and stressed.

In my head, I’ve already drafted the perfect law for people like this—something that would lead to "normalization" in 99% of cases without needing a hospital stay—but hey, we live in a place where any kind of revolutionary idea is basically doomed before it even starts.

Look, he’s clearly dealing with PTSD and probably some other deep-seated mental health issues—but honestly, the bigger issue here is that he’s just an irresponsible, irrational person who refuses to get help. It’s easier for him to stay this way, I guess. And since we don't really have any kind of mandatory treatment programs here in the States unless someone is actively threatening suicide—which isn't happening here—he just gets a free pass. It feels like all the "experts" have basically washed their hands of him because he's such a chaotic mess, and now he's just out there wrecking everyone else's lives simply because it suits him.

It’s like he goes out of his way to ruin every single positive moment. He carries this mindset of, "if my life is a dumpster fire, I want yours to be too." He fixates on every negative thing, blows it way out of proportion, and then completely dismisses anything good or bright. It genuinely feels like he's putting all his energy into sucking the joy out of every room, acting like nobody deserves even a second of happiness while he chooses to remain miserable, broken, and totally lost in his own world.

Some of you guys might actually hate him for all this, but I’m just not built that way—I don't really know how to hold onto hate. Honestly, having that kind of bitterness would probably eat me alive more than it would affect him, and I think hating people is just a massive waste of time. I try to be empathetic and understand where people are coming from, but—and you can probably tell by now—that doesn't always work for me. Meanwhile, life keeps moving and the crap just keeps piling up...

Karen Rodriguez3, look—this person’s whole "uniqueness" (which is really just an excuse for being a teenager who refuses to grow up) makes them totally incapable of living on their own. And honestly, nobody else in the house can afford to move out either because of the money situation, which makes the whole thing pretty much a dead end. Even if this "special" individual stayed behind alone, that house would turn into a magnet for every local drunk and low-life scumbag in town within weeks. They’d just be hanging out and drinking with people they "empathize" with—you know, those bottom-feeders—whenever that government check hits their account based on their "condition."

Would you seriously let your family home go down the drain just to accommodate someone’s "uniqueness"? It’s hard when they refuse to adapt to the people around them who genuinely want what’s best for them—people who, unfortunately, can't help someone who doesn't even *want* to be helped. We're all just sitting here clinging to this delusional hope that there's a cure for everything and that the perfect solution is just right around the corner.

Seriously though, is there some kind of vaccine for stupidity? Because I’d love to inject it straight into their lazy backside just to get them to act like a normal human being before they drive the entire family completely insane with this behavior.

What’s the smartest move when you’re dealing with an adult family member who is just... exhausting? I'm talking about someone who constantly invades everyone else's privacy within a shared home—just barging into rooms and acting like they own the place. They spend all their time lecturing everyone with these completely nonsensical theories and constant nagging, even though they’re actually the one who *should* be getting chewed out. Just try to wrap your head around someone whose entire purpose seems to be making life a living hell for others through psychological warfare. Their behavior is totally irrational and unpredictable to any sane person—it's a chaotic mess fueled by alcohol mixed with whatever nerve medications they're popping. On top of that, they're constantly using other people's stuff without asking, their hygiene is non-existent (the smell is honestly unbearable), and there's zero financial responsibility, despite receiving monthly veteran benefits from their service. So, seriously, tell me—WHAT DO YOU EVEN DO?

P.S. This person is actually quite intelligent and a total master of manipulation; they play the victim perfectly to anyone who doesn't know them, which just ends up confusing the local authorities and social services that aren't doing their jobs properly anyway.

P.P.S. I've already been flooded with "suggestions" to just handle this with physical force, but that backfires completely because then the actual aggressor gets played as the victim (which isn't true), and the real victims end up looking like the bad guys. So, yeah, that is absolutely off the table.