Posts by wearyowl29

Sarah James4 said:How can I make her realize he’s just emotionally stunted? That his immaturity played a massive role in why their marriage is falling apart?
Honestly, I think she knows deep down that it takes two people to wreck a relationship, but she refuses to dodge the responsibility... she’s totally convinced that whatever he says is the gospel truth. She’s cast herself as the villain in this whole drama... to the point where he turns it back on her by asking things like, "Why are you accusing me of being so bad?" or "I didn't realize I was such a terrible person in your eyes"... and this happens even after endless, exhausting talks meant to save the marriage or find common ground.🙄

People, seriously... the poor woman is a mess. She's completely torn up by guilt and terrified about what happens to the kids...

She actually told me the other day... at one point, he told her she feels too guilty to leave him because she doesn't know how to explain it to the children, or that she’d be abandoning him.

😲

That is absolutely terrifying to me... honestly? I think he's a manipulator.

Once she finally gets some distance from him, she'll see the full picture. Right now, she only sees the tiny fragment of the mosaic he wants her to see. Her own self-doubt is just masking the reality, and he's using that lack of confidence against her.

And if she stays? Then she's essentially chosen a life with an emotional abuser, which is just going to lead to total burnout and physical illness.👎

It's heartbreaking.😠

Someone acting like this is just emotionally stunted. They struggle to connect with others because, honestly, they can’t even stand being alone with themselves. It's easier for them to point fingers at everyone else's flaws rather than facing their own. It's a massive ego trip, though—and if they're lucky, they might actually have the potential to fix it one day.
But until that lightbulb moment hits, they’ll keep acting like they're "above" everyone else. In reality, they're just using that fake superiority to mask their weaknesses and dodge the hard work required to build a healthy, adult relationship.

Manipulation is a funny thing; it eventually starts tricking the manipulator too. They fall into this subconscious loop where they think they're always winning, regardless of the wreckage they leave behind. Once this pattern takes hold, their ego runs wild. They lose the ability to be genuine, and the line between being spontaneous and playing a scripted role completely vanishes. Before you know it, we end up with this bizarre role reversal: the manipulator plays the eternal victim, while the actual victims end up looking like the villains.

My advice? Run for the hills and don't look back.👋

Jason Johnson4 said:And what's the best example?

The pros are all online now 😁 🙂 👋

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wearyowl29, don't just make promises—put them in writing! 🙂

It's not like you owe me anything anyway...

frozenangler9 said:Speaking of local folklore, I actually heard about these things called "boundary lights" back in the Midwest—sort of eerie glowing lights that wander through the fields at night to mark the property lines. 😁 😁

Man, what a great topic for a story... you've really given me some serious fuel to work with here!😁

delija said:wearyowl29: Well, how can we actually know if that’s the future?

Just ask the kid!
See, anyone can pose a Thoughtful Question to the onostran, and from there, you get your answer. It's that simple.

Look, if you don't believe you'll receive an answer—or if you don't believe you *did* receive one from the onostran—then honestly, why even bother asking?

I had this incredibly vivid mental image once. No sound, just pure vision.

Think about it!
In those moments of clarity right before a vision hits, weren't you already dwelling on the core essence of whatever prompted the image?

If you were—then that very thought was what triggered your energy field (the monad) to "send" you that visual.
Basically, your Material consciousness created a Thoughtful Word first, and then, boom, the Visualized image followed.

Now, if you think you weren't thinking about it at all, then your subconscious did the heavy lifting without your Material consciousness even being in the loop.

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There wasn't really any buildup. Out of nowhere, I saw this man appear, and he just didn't fit the scene at all... it was like the person I was with suddenly "transformed" into someone forty years older. It felt like a temporal vacuum sucked them in and spat out an older version, while pulling the original person out of our reality entirely. It happened so fast! All I remember is the total silence—there was absolutely no sound. Maybe the vacuum pulled me into the future instead? Like I was standing on a beach somewhere, watching this gentleman in his later years...

One thing definitely happened; either he slipped into the future or I did. He didn't notice a thing, which makes me think I might have been the one who traveled through some kind of wormhole into a future time...

Sometimes the answer shows up before the question is even asked. It’s like a little glitch in time that some people experience just to realize how fluid time actually is.

Delija said:wearyowl29: That’s ancient history! Can we actually catch a glimpse of what Delija looks like in the future?????

Delija:
How? Most people can't!

But listen, a single profound thought might just trigger the collective consciousness of the media landscape to manifest its OWN image—or at least create scenes that eventually take on a visual form.

Well, if that's the case, how are we supposed to know if it's actually the future?

I once had a vision so vivid I could practically see it, even without any sound!

Delia said:The answer was basically: "You just caught a glimpse of a scene from your past life, specifically back in the spring of 1896."

Pretty straightforward, right?

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Wait, if it's the past, does that mean we're seeing a future version of Delia instead?????😲 😕

So, I was talking to someone who ended up crashing at a friend's place on a whim.

".....If I hadn't been coming home so late, my friend M. wouldn't have suggested I just stay over... but since I had to be out in that part of town early the next morning, I figured why not? I’ve known M. for over a decade; we're close friends, and she’s a totally normal, wonderful person. I turned in and tossed around in bed for a bit... then I drifted off. And that’s when it started.

It wasn't just a dream... it was an assault. This repulsive old man was attacking me, trying to rape me... the worst part was that I was physically free—nothing was actually binding me—but I felt completely paralyzed in this disgusting way. Just knowing I was in that position... it made everything feel so much more intense. The most unbearable part was the thought that he owned me. Not just through the act itself, but because I was entirely under his influence. He just sat there laughing, silent, soaking in every second while I felt this surge of pure rage at myself for letting it happen. But what truly haunted me was that sense of helplessness—it was more than just physical helplessness—that stayed stuck in my soul. I jolted awake, absolutely revolted by the vision. I spent the rest of the night drifting in and out of sleep, terrified that I’d fall right back into that same nightmare...
The next morning, while grabbing coffee with M., I told her about the dream while I was still reeling from it. Then, M. confessed that she had been raped when she was a little girl (I knew she had gone through something, but it slipped my mind in the moment), and said there is nothing in this world she fears more than sexual assault. It turns out, I had slept in the exact spot where M. usually sleeps.

What do you all think? Was it some kind of astral attack... or maybe just a lingering fear that concentrated in that specific space, which she then picked up on and manifested like that?????😉

wearyowl29 said:The world hasn't changed all that much, honestly. It’s just as unpredictable today as it was a thousand or even a million years ago—plenty of chaos and natural disasters to go around. Because of that, humans have spent ages building these massive frameworks through culture, education, religion, and various ideologies. It's basically our way of trying to dial down that primal fear and make uncertainty feel manageable. At the end of the day, though, that anxiety usually starts from within rather than from the outside world. We really have to learn how to manage it ourselves. Of course, having a solid sense of self-confidence helps immensely! If you truly believe in your own ability to endure, survive the rough patches, and keep the whole human race moving forward, everything feels a bit more stable.

Spot on. If we don't have that inner grit or the confidence to tackle whatever comes our way, then no amount of external perfection or "ideal" circumstances can actually help us.

Still, let's be real—keeping that level of confidence high 24/7 is incredibly tough. Life happens! I often find myself cutting corners in other areas of my life just to try and maintain some kind of mental equilibrium.

masterblaster said:I honestly think we aren’t all actually hunting for security; maybe we’re just looking for a way to handle the uncertainty.

And I’ve gotta say, I’m right there with Ogius on this one. Uncertainty is just part of the deal.

I have to push back on the idea that uncertainty is "natural." To me, it actually stems from the very nature of material existence, which isn't our true natural state—if it were, we wouldn't even be here! Think about it: when we were tiny babies, someone was always looking out for us, making sure we were safe and sound. We didn't even realize it at the time, but that person knew exactly what we needed to thrive.

If uncertainty were truly the natural order, we’d all be living as isolated loners. In a truly wild, raw environment, individual survival chances would be basically zero. We’d probably be reproducing via spores instead of, you know, the usual way! Besides, sexual reproduction is fundamentally about joining two individuals together or living within a kin group. Every single process happening within us has one singular, driving purpose: survival.

So, seeking out security is actually a conscious choice we make to give ourselves a fighting chance at staying alive. That’s why people chase stability over chaos—because chaos offers absolutely no guarantees.
But then you look at civilization and culture. All those advancements create an individual who can actually exist on their own. Because of the social systems we've built and the safety nets they provide, we don't *have* to huddle together just to stay safe anymore. We can set our own priorities and find our own sense of security without needing to lean on a tribe for basic survival.

shadowhound said:Well, some people actually thrive on uncertainty! Just look at all those adrenaline junkies out there base jumping off skyscrapers or shredding down mountainsides. It’s all pretty subjective, really. Personally, I feel like we should probably focus more on tackling our fears or anxiety rather than obsessing over uncertainty. But hey, that’s just my two cents. 😁

Oh, I'm not talking about those little rushes of adrenaline people chase just to spice up their lives... I mean the everyday things that provide us with a sense of stability—the stuff we lean on for security, or even the habits that slowly undermine it.

shadowhound said:It feels to me like you aren't actually talking about insecurity, but straight-up fear. 🤔 Those two things are worlds apart.

Well, they might be different concepts, but fear often stems from that deep-seated insecurity we carry, or simply from a sudden drop in our sense of safety.
They’re totally intertwined.🙂

We all spend our lives chasing this one thing, and when we find it, we call it security. It’s that bedrock feeling we all crave... honestly, without it, life feels almost impossible to navigate.
Well, technically you *can* live without it, but you have to ask yourself: what kind of quality of life are you actually getting?

So, what is it that actually grants us that sense of trust and peace—whether that feeling is the real deal or just a comforting illusion?

I remember visiting this ancient stone fortress once—one of those historic sites out West that spent years under siege. Our guide was a total history buff and he painted such a vivid picture of what life was like back then... constant hunger, sickness, death lurking around every corner, and that crushing weight of uncertainty.

Now, I’m sitting here reading this book about life in the Middle Ages... it’s just a relentless cycle of disease, war, ignorance, poverty, and pure instability.

Even looking at modern conflicts, like civil wars in Africa... it's the same pattern: fighting, famine, illness, and constant insecurity.

Actually, if you look at American history, it's woven through with that very same sense of instability. When you're exposed to that for too long, it turns into chronic stress... and we all know how much damage that does.

Feeling secure is a psychological prerequisite for growth and socialization. Without it, you can't truly create anything because your whole existence is stuck in survival mode. Security supports us through every stage of life, shifting its focus as our priorities evolve from birth until the very end.
People naturally want to feel confident in themselves, in their surroundings, and in the circumstances that allow them to live life on their own terms.

What is it that provides that irreplaceable, deeply desired sense of safety?
It’s everything. It isn't just about money, family, a house, a job, or health... it's about that overarching inner peace.

Everyone builds their own mental blueprint of what that security would look like.
It’s something we desperately need for ourselves, and something we yearn to pass down to our children.

Security creates the space for progress and personal development... whereas insecurity leads to a broken life and perpetual tension.
Though, I suppose life isn't always that black and white.

People can build great things during hard times, and they can certainly fall apart during prosperous ones. Being "secure" doesn't automatically guarantee success; it just opens the door to the possibility.

Which means there's another variable in the equation... and that's the individual (or the community) and their mindset (including our collective consciousness as a society).

So, what does SECURITY mean to you? What is your personal "security factor"?
How aware are you of how easily that feeling can slip away, and how hard are you working to actually soak it up while you have it? How much of your security is grounded in reality, and how much is just a hollow illusion? Are you willing to take risks, or do you prefer sticking to the well-worn paths just to stay safe?

WHAT IS THAT FEELING OF SECURITY TO YOU?

Raymond Turner6 said:I’m not sure if anyone else here follows what happens down at Central Park, but I always get a kick out of watching the chaos unfold there. For instance, you'll see some guy in the middle of a crowd suddenly start screaming "Rebellion! Rebellion!" and within a heartbeat, the whole mob is right behind him. Why are they rebelling? Who are they even against? Nobody has a clue! But hey, they're all in it together now.

There's that old saying, "When people unite, their ears grow longer," which is such a funny way to put it. People say things like that when they're thinking about a crowd as this massive, singular entity—a sort of psychological organism that operates by its own weird set of rules rather than just being a collection of individuals.

A crowd is incredibly volatile. It's highly combustible! Individuals stop weighing the consequences of what they're doing because, well,
the crowd absorbs all personal responsibility. Everyone puts on that "mob mask" and suddenly, individual accountability just vanishes.
The crowd doesn't feel fear the way we do. What binds them together is a shared interest that effectively drowns out any personal terror in favor of some perceived higher cause.
Being part of a crowd gives people this totally fake sense of security.
A crowd isn't objective; it lashes out at anything that dares to criticize it.
The crowd genuinely believes it has the right to decide everything.
It thinks it has rights that an individual simply doesn't possess.

It is so easy to manipulate a crowd, especially when things get intense. They soak up ideas and viewpoints like a sponge.
They get worked up so easily!
And honestly? They're quite easy to defeat... everything falls apart the moment that hyped-up crowd is met with stronger arguments, or more importantly, the sheer force of weapons, the military, or heavy-handed repression.

quiettrucker12 said:There’s just so much flow shaping our lives right now.

You’ll get exactly what you’re after if you stay persistent—if you truly fight for those rights you need to claim to reach your ultimate goal, which is life itself.

But here’s the thing about that persistence you’re talking about: if it isn't paired with a real intention to stop letting other people call the shots based on their own little rules, it can spiral into aggression pretty fast.
When we lash out because we feel like we've lost the reins on certain parts of our lives, we actually end up sabotaging the tiny bit of control we *do* have left.

It starts as this defensive reflex, but before you know it, aggression becomes your main way of communicating with the world.

Persistence is great, don't get me wrong, but that's just the outward shell—the attitude and the approach. Persistence needs actual substance behind it.
And honestly? Finding that substance is the hard part.

William Moore10 said:If you’re actually willing to put in the work on yourself, you can reach a point where you choose how you react to whatever life throws at you. There’s this beautiful saying I love:"The one who knows does not mourn. The one who knows does not rejoice. The one who knows lives calmly through every state." A person like that doesn't need a defense mechanism. See, the whole point of a defense system is to protect you from something. It comes from this mindset of, "if I just build enough barricades, nothing can hurt me." But that’s just an illusion. No system on earth is going to shield you from suffering or pain. That’s just part of the deal. You have to accept it, feel it, let it go, and move on. Honestly, the pain itself isn't even the hard part—it's the suppressing it that hurts. The goal is to start looking at life from a completely different perspective.

Self-control??

Oh, absolutely. You have to build it, and let me tell you, it is a long, messy process that is anything but painless.

But it still brings up that nagging question: other people are constantly pulling our strings using all sorts of different methods and intentions.

And no matter how much we push ourselves toward that perfect sense of inner peace, there’s always this bitter little realization left over—the knowledge that this is just how reality works.
Working on yourself is clearly the only real option we've got.

William Moore10 said:Oops... my bad. Let me try rephrasing that. If a person is truly AWAKE, then they actually have control over certain things. There are influences out there you can dodge, but only if you actually know what they are and how they work. The truth is, most people have no clue—mostly because you won't hear about it on CNN or in the New York Times—so they just end up acting like puppets. In our society, "zombies" keep the gears turning perfectly. Honestly, the most dangerous people are the ones who think for themselves and start connecting cause and effect... everything is right in front of us, if we just have the guts to look...

True, but a person also has to be aware of the fact that there are plenty of things they simply CANNOT control. And since we’re all built out of such fragile ego-stuff while harboring these massive ambitions, that realization really stings.
Some people will build up a defense mechanism to bridge that gap. Others try to fight it off with aggression, while some just sink into total lethargy.
Most folks won't give it a second thought until it hits them personally—like when they feel the weight of the federal government or some massive bureaucracy... or any other power structure trying to pull their strings. But even then, they often remain powerless and just drift along with fate.

The real puzzle for the individual, though, is this: how do you build a mental defense system that turns that feeling of helplessness into something productive? How do you turn it into fuel for personal growth instead of just using it to manage a crowd of mindless followers?

William Moore10 said:Honestly, it all boils down to you and how you carry yourself with people. I’ve always heard that assertiveness—you know, that "healthy aggression"—is the sweet spot. You’ve got two extremes to avoid: being a total pushover or becoming that "unhealthy" aggressive type that just pushes everyone away. The reality is simple: if you show weakness or handle things poorly, people will sniff that out in a heartbeat and use it against you. Then, it's entirely up to you how you deal with the fallout.

Aggression or not... there’s this inherent power dynamic at play here.
Sometimes that power comes from a general social consensus—sort of a collective agreement on how we coexist in a community. But a huge chunk of that power actually lives within the system itself, a system we’re all tangled up in, whether we want to be or not.

In this context, being aggressive doesn't really move the needle. Instead, the way our system is designed basically allows us to adapt so we don't feel that pressure quite as intensely.

Is that just the compromise of a "golden cage"? Something like that?

Being aggressive doesn't work because the system will just slap a sanction on you immediately.
Assertiveness is only tolerated up to a certain point, and usually only when it fuels that competitive spirit we see in American society... though, let's be real, that isn't true for every group out there.

So, how many other people are actually running the show on this thing???😢

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