cosmiclynx79 said:Design was my first choice, but the best programs are all based in New York, much like how I couldn't do veterinary medicine because I didn't want to move to Boston. Eventually, I gravitated toward nursing after watching nurses work in local hospitals. I didn't even attempt pre-med due to my grades and a total lack of foundation in the sciences. Back then, I had no idea what the reality of nursing actually entailed. Now I know better, and I know that with my diagnosis, this career is off the table. So, what's left? I'm not exactly a genius...
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What can you do? Hmm...
You know, looking back at my own life, I've realized that almost every single time, that very first thing that grabs your attention—whether it’s a person, an object, a career path, or anything else—that’s usually the right call.🥱 All that overthinking and second-guessing we do later on just ends up muddying the waters and messing everything up. So, if you truly have a knack for design, just go for it. It doesn't require nearly as much heavy lifting in the hard sciences, and honestly, there's plenty of work out there if you have the talent...
Michael Lee75 said:cosmiclynx79, man, I really feel for you, it sounds like such a massive grind.
Does your old man actually know about everything you're going through? And if he does, is he one of those types who thinks you're just blowing things out of proportion or making stuff up? I can't help but wonder why he's being so incredibly stubborn about you sticking with this specific degree.
That’s just the classic reaction you get from so many parents out there. I remember writing once about how my own mother would literally lose her temper whenever I went through a depressive episode; it’s like some parents simply refuse to see it, or rather, they lack the capacity to accept that their child is actually struggling. In their eyes, if I wasn't being hospitalized, attempting suicide, or engaging in self-harm, then nothing was wrong. But the reality is different. I deal with those intrusive thoughts—those heavy, lingering ideas about suicide, or more accurately, the feeling that it would just be better for everyone if I weren't around. It’s that persistent desire to just... vanish.🤔 While that’s all a bit far removed from the actual situation at hand, the father would truly have to be able to face the reality that something is fundamentally wrong with his child. And honestly, why are you only bringing up the father? Does the mother even exist in this scenario?
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cosmiclynx79 said:He knows exactly what's happening. He just keeps pushing because he’s convinced that once I have this degree, I'll land a high-paying job immediately.
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Look, everyone keeps telling me that programming is where the money is, so why on earth am I not a developer? It’s simple: it just doesn't suit my temperament, and honestly, the whole concept of the job strikes me as absolutely revolting! Now, regarding what cosmiclynx79 said—it isn't a bad career path for finding steady work, and I can clearly see you doubting yourself, though I think you actually could pull it off if you wanted to. But let's be real, most people could probably do it, even those who don't have their own personal struggles to deal with.
I noticed you were asking about studying English, and honestly, I think that would suit you perfectly. That being said, I still stand by my suggestion of picking up German alongside it. Right now, there’s a real shortage of teachers for German language and literature, which opens up some serious doors. You could easily pivot into tourism or even the corporate sector, especially since so many major companies here do heavy business with Austria and Germany.
She already knows deep down that this isn't her calling; honestly, I think FF works better for her than any actual medical training ever could. If she’s already tackling English, she might as well dive into German or maybe even Swedish while she's at it.
The poor girl is having a nightmare just trying to make or take a simple phone call lately. Between her sisters constantly being glued to their phones and doctors being perpetually tied up on the line—especially with everything going on during this whole pandemic era—it's a miracle anyone gets through at all.
Maria Price3 said:🙂 Look, you can't have too much Evil.
🙂🙂
And you’re just as full of yourself and self-righteous as that little friend of yours.😁
Social phobia, when it's coupled with a whole laundry list of other disorders, is actually best treated by throwing someone straight into a high-stress job surrounded by crowds of people where some might even be dying or suffering in agony. Honestly, I don't know what I would do on this forum if it weren't for you acting so incredibly brilliant, and your equally "enlightened" friend too.🙂
Maria Price3 said:Who are you to tell me what I understand and what I don't? You have no idea what I've been through, where I've been, where I am now, or the path I've walked—and the one I still have ahead of me. You're being terrible.
What do you know about who she is or what she can or can't do? What do you think would be better for her?? You're being absolute Evil.
And you, briskbison47, you're just cut from the same cloth...🙂..
loneskipper10 said:If you've got the brains for it, an IT career is a solid move—freelancing lets you dodge most of those draining social interactions. You can just code, and if you're struggling to focus, finding the right antipsychotics can help organize your thoughts and dial down the anxiety, assuming you don't run into too many side effects. There are also options for ADHD.
The catch with antipsychotics is the risk of tardive dyskinesia after long-term use; we're talking uncontrollable limb movements that make it impossible to stand steady. Sometimes it stops when you quit the meds, but sometimes it's a lifelong struggle. Here’s a patient dealing with tardive dyskinesia: https://www.primehealthchannel.com/w...skinesia-2.jpg US pharmaceutical companies developed a specific drug for tardive dyskinesia, but it’ll set you back $7,362 for a 28-capsule supply at 40-80mg. While the brain volume loss caused by antipsychotics is relatively easy to address, the movement issues mentioned above? Not so much.
Lately, students have been leaning heavily on Modafinil to study, though it can definitely wreck your sleep schedule.
Oh, wonderful! So they invented a cure for the side effect of the first drug, but when are they going to address the consequences of the second one?🤦
Maria Price3 said:She was just asking for tips on how to survive her clinical rotations, yet everyone here decided to pivot into interrogating her life choices instead 🤦. I’m curious—how many of you actually stick to what fits your personality and skill set (and, honestly, what’s best for your clients or users)?
Silence, we can't exactly tell you exactly how much Normbal you need to take, or if you should be taking it at all. We don't know you. Your priority right now is finishing your degree. To finish your degree, you have to pass the year. To pass the year, you have to get through these rotations. You'll just have to figure out your own balance.
As for the social anxiety, maybe try tackling that alongside your studies; it’s pretty common knowledge that exposure therapy is what builds up your resilience.
People are everywhere. There’s no avoiding them, regardless of whatever career path you end up taking.
It’s honestly kind of ridiculous to me that people are lecturing you about your schooling based on an anxiety issue. Sure, that level of panic is maddening, but please remember that nobody’s opinion really matters—except maybe a professor’s, since you need them to give you a passing grade. And, hey, there's always the small chance a brick might fall on your head during the next earthquake. Those are basically your only two actual concerns during these sessions. Just get through it, and once you're out in the workforce, you won't give a damn about 90% of the nonsense you're dealing with right now.
It’s absolutely ridiculous when someone tries to act shocked on behalf of another person while clearly having no clue what’s actually going on. That describes you perfectly in this instance; you didn't even bother to read her full post, otherwise, you would have realized it isn't just about social phobia. Or do you honestly think people in America are being hospitalized for months on end just because of social anxiety?!? How yes no🤦🤦
It's highly debatable what kind of career someone like her could handle, though perhaps she'd be better suited for something like speech therapy, teaching English or German, or doing some freelance translation work.
mellowskipper said:Well, this isn't exactly training to be a fighter pilot, where you have to be in peak physical and mental condition and pass all those brutal elimination tests first. There are plenty of people working in healthcare, teaching, science, or even politics who deal with mental health issues. I guess it really just comes down to whether she feels she has the capacity to handle it, assuming she's managing things through psychotherapy and medication.
Well, I wouldn't go as far as grouping medicine in with general science, education, or politics. In fact, being a little "unconventional" can sometimes be an asset in politics or scientific research, but in medicine? Not so much. It’s not just about whether she can manage with therapy and meds—though from what I can see, she isn't exactly thriving right now—it's more importantly about the fact that, given how things currently stand, she simply won't be able to function in that role effectively.
Look, I’m not trying to be discriminatory here, and I certainly don't mean to offend anyone, but we really need to have a serious conversation about this. Is it even remotely acceptable to allow someone to pursue a medical degree if they’ve been hospitalized multiple times, especially for extended periods? It just feels fundamentally unsafe. What happens if they have a sudden medical crisis right in the middle of a surgery? Or what if they experience some kind of episode and accidentally compromise an IV line or shut down equipment mid-procedure? We're talking about people's lives on the line.
Medicine is fundamentally about interacting with people, so how on earth do you see yourself actually doing that? Maybe you’re thinking you'll only deal with the critically ill, or perhaps you'd prefer to just bury yourself in pathology where you won't have to face much human contact at all.👍
Maybe this isn't quite the right venue to vent about my Psychology forum access, but honestly, I just can't hold it in anymore!!! Last night, I was slapped with a three-day ban from the Psychology board, and frankly, I couldn't care less about the suspension itself. The ban happened because of a heated debate with Lawrence, who started that thread about that ridiculous "theory of solitude"—you know, the one claiming people shouldn't socialize with anyone at all. Of course, that's not even what we were arguing about; the actual point was how spending quality time alone actually makes us better, more well-rounded members of society. But this guy just kept insisting that anyone who disagrees with him is fundamentally anti-social or against companionship, which is just absolute nonsense. So, I stepped in to correct him, and—boom—I get hit with a three-day ban.
Look, I don't care about the ban, but I am absolutely devastated about being suspended from the Psychology section!!! When I realized last night that I couldn't see the Psychology boards anymore, I felt physically ill. I barely slept a wink, and I've been incredibly agitated ever since. To make matters worse, I didn't even receive a notification regarding my suspension, let alone a warning. In my opinion, this whole move is insane; back in the day, UNICEF used to award 500 points and a month of "vacation time" without ever handing out a suspension like this. I requested my suspension from the Politics board myself, but now, for Psychology, I get handed a pathetic three days and a full suspension!!! I would have preferred the exact opposite: give me a month off, but let me keep my access. This feels like a waking nightmare; I can't believe I won't be able to chat with maystoro, descom, newman, letećą, and the rest of the crew. It’s just inhumane, and I can't wrap my head around it. Begging isn't really my style, but man, in this situation, I feel like I can't live without my psychological outlet. Yeah, okay, I got into it with Lawrence, but to kick me out like this? I've left a real legacy on the Psychology board, and now everything is just going down the drain. Honestly, they might as well just delete all my posts on Psychology... I just can't take it, I'm feeling terrible, I truly cannot believe this is happening. This is pure garbage; it's an absolute nightmare...
brightviper18 said:Interesting. That first comment is classic forum trolling. The more you say, the better. Just read what’s already been written and you'll figure out what's going on. ☕
I won't, and besides, I highly doubt anyone is actually going to sit through and read all of that anyway...
Could someone give me a quick rundown of what this whole thread is actually about? I tried reading through it, but I had to stop because the discussion regarding whether we've all become a society of collective idiots made the topic itself feel... well, pretty idiotic. Am I totally off base here?
Kate James14 said:When people say being good doesn't pay, they’re usually clinging to some naive, childlike idea of altruism—doing things purely for the sake of it without expecting anything in return. That kind of selfless goodness rarely pays dividends, and even fewer people actually practice it.
The truth is, everyone wants something. At the very least, they expect basic human decency, though they conveniently forget how messy and complicated that can be.
Goodness pays off, provided you apply it in the right places and in the right doses. The same goes for malice.
I’d argue most people eventually realize on a subconscious level that kindness is almost always transactional—an exchange for future reciprocity. Those who fail to grasp that reality usually end up broken or worse.
Look, we aren't going to see someone decide to take their own life just so a patient with heart failure can get a transplant! There have to be boundaries; I firmly believe you shouldn't extend kindness to certain types of bad actors out there. Now, I realize that flies in the face of traditional Christian teachings, but that's a much larger conversation for another day.🎉 It honestly irritates me, this persistent attitude some people hold that it's fundamentally "unprofitable" to be kind to anyone from the jump. Based on their posts, it's impossible for them to be anything other than the sole victims of a world where everyone else is wicked! In my view, we should approach every individual as if they are a decent person until they prove otherwise—and by that, I don't mean acting as a co-signer for a stranger's mortgage or something equally absurd.
bluecobra18 said:If you're a decent person, you give from the heart without expecting anything back. You just feel good because you were able to help. No math involved. As for what happened with this guy, that's exactly why you shouldn't go through middlemen. You weren't taken advantage of—you were straight-up scammed. It happens all the time.
Exactly. Just look at this forum as an example; I hope my posts in the psychology section actually help someone, but what would I ever ask for in exchange?
Time and again, we read it on this thread, we see it all over the internet, and we hear it in casual conversation with people: they claim there is no point in being a good person. But listen, being kind isn't about some sort of ROI or whether it's "worth it." Anyone claiming otherwise clearly isn't a good person to begin with! I have to ask those types: what *is* worth it then? Is it worth being a complete jerk? In my humble opinion, absolutely not!!! I can tell you from experience that many people have done me wrong simply because they could; back then, I didn't know how to stand up for myself, I was quite an insecure person, and so on. But now, after all these years, I can say that all those people ended up having terrible lives; I didn't do anything to them, they just essentially drowned in their own malice. But like I said, it isn't about profitability. If we are good people, we will naturally strive to spread that goodness, and if we aren't, well, then "goodness" certainly won't be "profitable" to us.🍿
I agree that the original poster wasn't exploited, though I'm debating whether he was even scammed at all; in my view, only the gardener can truly be called a victim here, because there really weren't any exploited parties in this story...
Karen Cook7 said:Look, you don't actually have that much debt. If you managed to pull a loan for about 100 $0.00 over 7 years at a 4% interest rate, you’d be looking at paying back roughly $46667 over an 84-month term $550. That's totally doable on an average New York City salary $1833 . But honestly? The smartest move would be to just pay off all those credit cards. Or, if you really have to keep one, maybe refinance it—that way, if you ever try to buy something or withdraw cash, you'll have to tell the bank you lost the physical card and need a new one sent out. Maybe by then you'll have cooled off on the shopping sprees. Just stick to using cash for everything else.
If you think you aren't going to change your spending habits, taking on more debt—like this loan—is a bad idea.
It’s easy for you to sit there and type that it isn't a big debt, but in reality, for someone living in a rental, that is a massive amount of money. In truth, a renter—and frankly, anyone for that matter—really shouldn't be carrying any debt at all, or at least keeping it minimal, because you never know what life is going to throw at you. Here is a somewhat trivial example: we all get older and our teeth start failing us, and if we're already drowning in debt, we won't even have the funds for dental work, leaving us to walk around with a missing set of teeth.🙂
A pardon, an amnesty? I suppose I should probably clarify the whole mess regarding why my requests seem to be more or less just copies of one another. When I first drafted the initial post, I realized shortly thereafter that it had completely vanished into thin air—just gone—so I naturally had to sit down and compose a second one. NOW SOMEONE IS TALKING ABOUT AN APPROVAL PROCESS, BUT GOD KNOWS WHAT THAT ACTUALLY MEANS IN THIS CIRCUMSTANCE...
Look, at the end of the day, I was just laying out the cold, hard truth, even if I am fully aware that one isn't supposed to be quite so blunt in a civilized discussion like this...
That being said, I’ll take my chances and ask for some leniency here, provided I give my word that darksurfer4 won't be sticking their nose into this particular corner of the board ever again.