Sarah Sanders2 said:Maybe she was thinking about when two people are gossiping about someone else. How do you say, "I went to the movies with that guy"? You go, "You know, the one with the curly brown hair?" "The guy with green eyes?" "No, the one with twins." "Oh, okay, the guy whose wife always wears a bun..." "Yeah, that's the one."
Or calling out to someone, like she mentioned. "Hey, you! The mechanic with the blue hair and brown eyes!"🤣
Bottom line:
People slap a label or a name on everything just so they can identify what's being discussed while passing info along (communicating). Without names, it’s pure chaos. Pronouns like this, that, him, her, those—they aren't enough. That's how I talk when I'm having an Alzheimer's moment: "You know, that round thing, you put it on the spinning thing, it's for lunch, and when you put it on the round thing, it plays music?" You thinking of a record, a turntable? Yeah, that! We have to give things and people names to limit them, to differentiate this from that. We need labels to navigate reality and feel secure; because if nothing is identified, then what even is it?
Maybe they're just out in the woods somewhere. Who, though? Some random forest types... Look, whenever I run into someone I don't know, I usually don't lead with a handshake or anything. It feels weird, like I'm forcing an interaction. But if they grab my hand and start doing that awkward rhythmic shaking thing, then fine, I'll play along. I'll give them the whole routine—"Good morning, I'm Žarko Palić"—just waiting for that basic social reflex where we actually acknowledge each other... You know, the bare minimum. Once the pleasantries are out of the way, I might ask for help or whatever. If I don't explicitly ask for something, I'm just expecting them to realize I'm right here...
When you're hanging out in a high-profile crowd filled with big shots, does anyone even need to introduce themselves? If you're close enough to someone and you catch their eye, you can just start talking without that awkward, desperate "Hey, [Name]!" routine. Take me and my friends—we don't always go by names, we just vibe based on how we know people. Like, if a group of us starts gossiping about Ivanna, and there are like a million Ivannas out there, we can't just say her name or everyone will get confused and start talking about their own friend. To make sure we're all on the same page, we have to add some descriptors that actually mean something... "Which Ivanna?" "The one who runs the show at Spic, the one with the purple and green hair..." "Oh, *that* Ivanna. What about her?"
Just an observation... Sure, if you need to grab someone from HR, you’re gonna call out names like "Hey, can you get Zdenka and Mark in here?" especially if you need to know the who, what, and why behind their paperwork. But once they're actually standing in front of you, you don't need to keep repeating their names just to have a conversation. If you're dealing with a massive crowd of people all day long, why waste the mental energy constantly identifying everyone by name when you're already in the middle of the interaction... it just seems redundant...
If we’re looking at the stats, and someone chooses to skip using a name when they really should have used one... then—going back to that idea that you can't really have, run, or even track any decent Communication without names—does some random ID like x-24-dd4861lh66 actually tell us anything about a person? It's pretty much irrelevant. But sometimes, in those old-school ways of talking, you'll have two or three nameless people gossiping about Ivanna for half an hour straight. By the end of it, nobody even realizes they were all talking about different versions of her. You could tear apart multiple different icons of Ivanna just through gossip, treating it like some kind of meaningful way to interact... maybe...