I suppose there is a certain necessity in treating people like garbage when they prove themselves to be just that, though I don't believe in jumping to conclusions immediately; after all, we rarely know the full story behind why someone has become such a piece of work 😁 whether they were born with that particular lack of character or if life simply hammered it into them over time
My personal methodology for dealing with these types of individuals is somewhat structured. Initially, I extend an olive branch to everyone, offering them a fair chance and maintaining a level of kindness toward them—perhaps even being more lenient than the situation strictly warrants the real trick, however, is to expect absolutely nothing from them . If, after a reasonable duration—say, through several repeated interactions or specific incidents—it becomes undeniably clear that the individual is indeed trash, I attempt to "fix" them. This might involve a polite conversation or, occasionally, a much harsher confrontation delivered in their own style 😁. If it becomes evident that they are beyond repair and will remain consistently toxic, then I simply adopt their level of behavior, maintain a cold distance, and shut them out completely. I find this approach far superior to preemptively closing oneself off, because at least then you can rest easy knowing you actually made an effort. Who knows, perhaps one day they might experience a moment of clarity and you’ll cross paths again with a fundamentally different person 😉
Furthermore, one shouldn't carry any guilt regarding these bottom-feeders; they generally couldn't care less about us anyway. The most aggravating scenario, in my estimation, involves spending significant time building a connection only to realize later that the person was garbage all along. In those moments, I often find myself wondering what kind of fool I was to squander my time on such people. It’s a lesson in vigilance, particularly for those of us who possess more sensitive temperaments. Still, every interaction, whether it turns out to be a disaster or a success, serves to refine how we navigate our social circles in the future—provided, of course, that we take the time to reflect on what actually transpired. So, for those of you who are sensitive to toxic people, stay resilient and don't let it get to you 😉 the broken aren't always the ones who suffer most; it all comes down to how you position yourself and refuse to let the garbage dictate your terms
My personal methodology for dealing with these types of individuals is somewhat structured. Initially, I extend an olive branch to everyone, offering them a fair chance and maintaining a level of kindness toward them—perhaps even being more lenient than the situation strictly warrants the real trick, however, is to expect absolutely nothing from them . If, after a reasonable duration—say, through several repeated interactions or specific incidents—it becomes undeniably clear that the individual is indeed trash, I attempt to "fix" them. This might involve a polite conversation or, occasionally, a much harsher confrontation delivered in their own style 😁. If it becomes evident that they are beyond repair and will remain consistently toxic, then I simply adopt their level of behavior, maintain a cold distance, and shut them out completely. I find this approach far superior to preemptively closing oneself off, because at least then you can rest easy knowing you actually made an effort. Who knows, perhaps one day they might experience a moment of clarity and you’ll cross paths again with a fundamentally different person 😉
Furthermore, one shouldn't carry any guilt regarding these bottom-feeders; they generally couldn't care less about us anyway. The most aggravating scenario, in my estimation, involves spending significant time building a connection only to realize later that the person was garbage all along. In those moments, I often find myself wondering what kind of fool I was to squander my time on such people. It’s a lesson in vigilance, particularly for those of us who possess more sensitive temperaments. Still, every interaction, whether it turns out to be a disaster or a success, serves to refine how we navigate our social circles in the future—provided, of course, that we take the time to reflect on what actually transpired. So, for those of you who are sensitive to toxic people, stay resilient and don't let it get to you 😉 the broken aren't always the ones who suffer most; it all comes down to how you position yourself and refuse to let the garbage dictate your terms