Posts by Patrick Williams8

Could I get some advice from an experienced coach here? Is training for two hours every single day too much for a four-year-old girl? Her coach is pushing for it because she clearly has talent, but I'm honestly not sure if that’s just too much for someone so little. Any thoughts? Thanks

I have this habit of picking people apart—men, women, the old, the young, kids, adults... I just call it being curious. I’m trying to get to the core of who they really are. There's nothing malicious about it, no hidden agenda here.

ironrider11 said:The thing—if you can even call it a thing—is hierarchy?

And here I was, thinking we were actually Homo sapiens.
I think you might be missing the point entirely... I don't have an issue with it in that specific sense; nobody's ever mistreated me.

Laura Jones56 said:I suppose we all have someone we feel the need to pick on. Then there are those specific types of people who seem to actively crave provocation, almost begging for someone to push their buttons. Perhaps you happen to be one of them.
If someone is unattractive, lacks intelligence, or just feels fundamentally incomplete—all while maintaining that tiresome "open heart" persona—it immediately brings certain archetypes to mind. It’s a predictable pattern, I guess.
I’m honestly not sure what can be done about it. Maybe the only real solution is to follow that old adage: it’s probably better to be feared than to be loved.

Why does anyone feel the need to pick on someone else? Is it some kind of ego boost? Does it make them feel more secure?
Nobody goes out of their way to provoke me. It’s more that whenever I try to join in, people start giving me the cold shoulder... they don't want me around... they even get irritated... as if I've somehow forced my way into the group against everyone's will...

"Forty is a tough age: you're still young enough to have desires, but old enough to realize how hard they are to fulfill."

I still find myself wanting female friends, even though I've never quite managed to build a truly close bond with another woman in my life.

I just don't get it. I meet people through various hobbies, mutual friends, or at work... and then, after a few casual coffees, they just start freezing me out. Some do it openly; others are more subtle about it.

Some women go as far as harboring such resentment that they spread ridiculous rumors about me behind my back.

Is it possible that I’m offending these women without even realizing it? Am I doing something that drives them away? Or perhaps I'm failing to do something expected of me that I simply haven't picked up on? I enter every relationship with total sincerity—open heart, no hidden agendas.

I have a daughter, and this whole situation feels even more depressing because of her. She has a mother without any girlfriends... it's sad. How am I supposed to teach her social skills when I can't even find the opportunity to practice them myself?

Communicating with men has never been an issue for me. I have great guy friends; their company is easy and enjoyable.

I was never particularly physically attractive, so could that be part of it? I've always noticed that best friends tend to look somewhat similar. Maybe that's why I never found my "tribe"?

I’m barely at the starting line and everyone is already getting on my nerves. Specifically, all this talk about how I have no idea what’s coming—lightning bolts and hellfire. The nausea, the labor pains, the struggle with the baby... just endless misery. I get it. It isn't easy. But can someone please tell me there's actually something beautiful waiting for me in all of this? If everything were truly that bleak, no woman would ever choose to give birth.

I couldn't find a suitable thread for this, so I’m asking the admin to point me in the right direction. I haven't even bothered to Google this yet. For about two years now, I’ve been trying to get pregnant. I was on Diane for quite a while due to acne issues and what looked like polycystic ovaries—though I don't actually have PCOS. I’ve started seeing a new doctor and have had two exams so far: one right after my period and another around ovulation. Both times, she just shook her head. According to her, my cervix is too closed, and she thinks that’s why I haven't conceived yet. My Pap smear came back normal, and my swabs are fine, too. I’ve never had a gynecologist mention this to me before. I’m 34. Does anyone know anything about this?

Has anyone else ever dealt with this sensation? I’ve been haunted by this constant sense of boredom my entire life. It’s hard to put into words. People often mistake me for being lethargic, passive, or just plain phlegmatic—someone who doesn't talk much and isn't particularly social. But that isn't actually the case. The truth is, I frequently find myself in situations that trigger intense emotional reactions in others, yet all I feel is an indescribable sense of boredom and total disinterest.
I don't have the patience to sit still for more than five minutes without being productive. My hands, my mind—they all need to be occupied, otherwise, the restlessness sets in. And small talk? The empty chatter people engage in... it's just maddeningly dull.
I was at a concert tonight, and instead of actually enjoying myself with my friends, I found myself spiraling into thoughts about the very purpose of music and dance. Have psychologists ever actually looked into why humans are so driven to dance? What is dance, really? What is music?
I know I sound a bit scattered, but I hope you can follow the thread of what I'm trying to say here.
Beyond this perpetual boredom, my greatest fear in life is simply the prospect of being bored.

Morgan Bishop4 said:I honestly feel like someone who’s just naturally chill is way more likable than someone putting in overtime to seem friendly—whether they're forcing a smile, acting all outgoing, or just dropping these lame, manufactured jokes...
Though, I guess superficial people might not even catch onto the act, so if someone plays the part well enough, they probably end up being "charming" to them? :/ I work with this guy who has a whole repertoire of these scripted "bits" he pulls on everyone (except me, since I've already made it clear his little routine doesn't work on me), and he genuinely thinks he's the life of the party, while it honestly just drives me insane... like, sometimes he gets this itch to greet everyone with some random foreign word—like saying "aloha," "ciao," or some random phrase in Japanese or Russian—and it makes me cringe so hard, but it’s even worse when someone else actually falls for it and starts greeting him back in kind.

I don't know what's going on lately, but it feels like everyone around me is just performing instead of acting naturally. Honestly, it’s embarrassing to be around them. I don't get this desperate need to put on a show or try to be something you're not. By nature, I'm a pretty serious, quiet person, so I'm not exactly "magnetic" or the life of the party to most people. Usually, they find me unappealing at first, though once they actually get to know me, they tend to want to be around me.

At this rate, I feel like I might start acting too, just that I haven't found the motivation yet. And really, what would be the point?
Does anyone actually see a reason?

I was on Diana from 2007 until just two months ago. That’s about six years total, if you count the two short breaks I took along the way.
For the most part, while I was taking them, I didn't deal with any premenstrual anxiety or depression—nothing like that. The main issues were a drop in libido and vaginal dryness, which made sex pretty uncomfortable. Honestly, I started avoiding intimacy altogether because of it.
Now that I've stopped the pill, the depression and irritability have come rushing back. I just can't seem to get used to the fact that I'm supposed to feel this on edge for a few days before my period arrives.

If you actually bothered to fix those typos, maybe people would finally get what this is even about. 🤷