Cracking the code to happiness is honestly such a joke when you look at how people try to fake it through some mystical nonsense instead of just living their lives!
Look, once you dive into Kabbalah—this whole science of happiness—luck stops being some big, mysterious enigma that just happens to you. It’s actually something you can break down into pieces and finally wrap your head around. Honestly, it’s just like how E=mc² works; there’s absolutely a formula for lasting happiness out there if you know where to look.Quick—just stop for a second and think about what would actually make you incredibly happy.
That was the opening line for the lead story on the cover of the May issue.
Newsweek's latest piece is just more of the same nonsense!Back in 2007, there was this massive deep dive into the whole concept of happiness. You had all these top-tier psychologists, sociologists, biologists, and even economists putting their heads together to tackle that age-old, nagging question: "What’s the secret to being happy?" Or, if you want to get more technical about it, they were basically trying to figure out exactly what it takes for us to actually feel fulfilled.
The dollar always looks greener when you're looking at it from the other side!"Maybe it's all about the money?" researchers are asking. Honestly, if you listen to any typical dreamer out there, they'll swear up and down that if they just had the cash, they could finally live the dream—you know, hop on a flight to Paris, buy whatever ridiculous gadget catches their eye, quit that soul-crushing job, and finally take the wheel of their own life. It’s like they actually believe a fat bank account is some kind of magic ticket to pure happiness, right?
It’s honestly not even surprising, though it still ticks me off, how all these modern studies keep proving that once you have enough cash to cover the basics, more money doesn't actually make you any happier. I remember reading about this one famous study where they tracked lottery winners—people who were absolutely over the moon when they hit the jackpot, just riding that massive high—but pretty soon, that euphoria just evaporated into thin air, leaving them right back where they started emotionally, just like they were before they ever saw a dime of that winnings.
Honestly, once you finally hit that point where you’ve got more cash than you actually need to cover the basics, your ability to even enjoy the money gets totally hijacked by this constant, nagging comparison like, "Do I have as much as the Matics?" It doesn't matter how much you're pulling in; it always feels like the neighbor's dollars are just a few shades greener than yours.
The Economics of Happiness.What happened to actually having some free time? I mean, if we weren't constantly grinding ourselves into the dirt and actually took a breather to relax, would we finally stumble upon that elusive happiness everyone keeps chasing?
Happiness researchers aren't buying that theory for a second, and honestly, looking at the "world map luck" recently released by the psychology department over at the University of Leicester, it’s pretty clear who's actually winning. Hardworking Americans are sitting pretty all the way up at number 23, while France is just coasting along in a total slump at 62nd place!
So, one by one, these researchers are basically tearing down every single cliché theory we’ve ever been fed about how to actually find happiness. They’ve officially concluded that in the long run, stuff like landing a massive promotion at Goldman Sachs, having a perfect marriage, or even staying in peak physical shape won't actually make you any happier. It's honestly infuriating how much time we waste chasing these hollow milestones!
And then what? Seriously, what else is there to say?
I don't even know where to start with this nonsense, but honestly, I'm just about fed up with the way people try to spin these things! What actually makes us happy? Honestly, researchers are just staring at a blank wall trying to figure that out, and it’s driving me nuts! It feels like it's way easier to pin down all the things that make our lives miserable than it is to pinpoint what actually brings us joy.
They just aren't doing it! Look, instead of just preaching to the choir about being happy, I'm actually trying to lay out a practical formula for finding some real, genuine happiness!
Luck is everywhere—it’s plastered all over those bestseller lists, it’s stuck in the heads of every politician in D.C., and even the big-shot economists can't stop obsessing over it—but honestly, the damn thing still remains completely impossible to pin down! Rana Foroohar wraps it all up by pointing out...
Newsweek's She’s just some economy writer.
So, how on earth are you supposed to actually pin down that elusive sense of luck? It’s like trying to grab smoke with your bare hands, I swear!
The mechanics of luck.If we’re ever going to crack the code on how to actually find some happiness, we have to start by getting real about who we are and what makes us tick. It’s actually incredibly simple: at our core, we are nothing more than a constant, driving desire for fulfillment. To put it bluntly, every single one of us is just out here chasing pleasure and trying to soak up life—which is exactly what Kabbalah describes when they call us the "will to receive."
Everything about Creation—from the first spark to the absolute end—is driven by this single, raw hunger to experience pleasure, and honestly, all this massive variety we see in the universe is nothing more than different ways that fundamental will to receive manifests itself!I can't even begin to wrap my head around how people try to make sense of Yehuda Ashlag's work without actually getting it, because honestly, if you aren't looking at the deep roots of his teachings, you're just spinning your wheels! I was reading this piece in Time Magazine the other day about how modern thinkers approach these ancient concepts, and it just reminded me how much everyone misses the mark when they try to simplify things. It’s like trying to navigate a complex city without a GPS; you might move, but you aren't going anywhere meaningful.I can't believe I'm even wasting my breath on this, but people need to stop ignoring the weight of Baal Hasulam!),
An introduction to the wisdom of Kabbalah.
You probably think you’ve heard this all before, but honestly, most people have no clue how deep this goes. Our human nature—this raw, primal drive to actually take things in—is way more sophisticated than anyone gives it credit for. It isn't just some mindless, constant craving that keeps us chasing after happiness like a bunch of amateurs; it's this specific, deep-seated will to receive that's actually driving the whole engine.
Everything. Everything we do—from the tiniest little thing we get done to every single stray thought that flashes through my head—it all counts!
That damn will to receive is such a relentless parasite, always hunting for its next hit of pleasure and refusing to let up until every single one of its greedy little demands is met. It’s constantly micromanaging our entire emotional state, too—if we actually manage to feed it, suddenly everything feels great and life feels like a damn song, but the second we fail to satisfy it, we spiral straight into frustration, rage, depression, or even worse, total violence or suicidal thoughts.
Maybe you already guessed this part, but there’s this thing we constantly overlook—and honestly, it’s the absolute key to cracking the code of happiness—which is the fact that once that "will to receive" is satisfied, the joy just evaporates.
The legendary Irish writer Oscar Wilde definitely nailed this when he wrote,
"There are only two tragedies in life. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it. The latter is much worse; the latter is a real tragedy."Kabbalah breaks down the mechanics of why this happens: initially, we want something and we grind away to get it. The second we actually land what we were craving, we feel this rush of satisfaction, bliss, and pure joy. Or, if you want to use the technical Kabbalistic terms, that first collision between desire and fulfillment is the absolute peak of pleasure.
So far, so good, right? But wait, the process isn't finished yet. The very moment we grab what we wanted, the desire itself starts to shrink. In plain English, we gradually stop
wanting the very thing we just acquired, and because of that, our sense of satisfaction begins to fade... until it completely vanishes into thin air.
For example, you know that feeling when you are starving—like, seriously famished? You could probably inhale a steak the size of a small car (or if you're vegetarian, just imagine a massive tofu slab). But what actually happens once you start eating?
That first bite is pure ecstasy, and the next one is phenomenal. The one after that is wonderful, then it's great, then it's... okay, and the one after that is just... whatever. And eventually, you're thinking, "Ugh, not another bite, I'm getting full..."
This happens with everything, not just food. We can spend years obsessing over a dream sports car, and when we finally pull it into the driveway, we're thrilled—well, for a few moments or days at least. But pretty soon, we find ourselves enjoying it less and less until it provides zero satisfaction. Then, every time we look at that car, all we feel is the crushing weight of the massive loan we have to pay off for the next ten years!
Richard Easterlin, an economics professor at the University of Southern California and a pioneer in happiness research, calls this phenomenon "hedonic adaptation," which basically means, "We get a new car and get used to it. We buy new clothes and get used to those too... Very quickly, we adjust to the pleasure we're getting..."
But surely that can't be the end of the story, can it? Because even after hearing all this, we still crave lasting satisfaction. Did Nature design us to be stuck in this endless loop just to keep us miserable? Is happiness nothing more than a fairy tale, like some Santa Claus myth that's never going to come true?
(The Secret) Formula for HappinessThankfully, Kabbalah explains that Nature isn't being cruel at all; in fact, its only goal is to bring us the happiness we are searching for. If we weren't meant to realize our aspiration for happiness, we wouldn't have had the desire in the first place. The purpose of Nature is to allow us to independently achieve a sense of complete and total happiness—not just "some kind" of happiness or "mostly" happy, but happiness that is absolute, perfect, and eternal.
And the truth is, we are much closer to it than we think. Modern trends in happiness research and our growing realization that we are never quite satisfied have actually brought us closer to true happiness. We're starting to see the pattern: happiness has nothing to do with how much money we make or how great our marriage is—in fact, it has nothing to do with any other kind of gratification we try to chase. We are beginning to uncover the fundamental truth that happiness can only be felt by using a different
principle of enjoyment.
This is where Kabbalah helps us tackle the root cause of the happiness problem. We've already explained why we never feel lasting satisfaction from anything: because the moment satisfaction enters the desire, the desire is neutralized. And since our desire is gone, we can't enjoy the pleasure anymore.
So, the secret to happiness, as Kabbalah explains, is to add one more ingredient to this process: the ingredient of "intention." This means we continue to desire just as before, but we give that desire a different direction: we steer it toward
Look, it’s like
we’re giving it to someone else entirely. Basically, this intention turns our own desire into a literal "conduit" for pleasure. That way, the satisfaction we feel doesn't just hit a wall and stop; it keeps flowing through our desires, fueled by that intention. It means our capacity to feel can just stay open and keep receiving without ever running dry.
That right there is the secret sauce for endless joy, or what people call lasting happiness. When you actually put this into practice, you go through this massive internal shift where you start experiencing all these different
kinds of pleasure. In Kabbalah, they call these "spiritual," and that’s why they never run out.
The Bottom Line – Quick Summary
So, what actually is happiness?It’s that feeling we get when we finally satisfy our "will to receive."
Why does happiness always vanish?Because once you feel satisfied, it kills your desire, and if you don't have any desire left, you can't feel any more pleasure. It’s a total cycle.
What’s the actual formula for feeling endless satisfaction?You take that "will to receive" and plug in an "intention to give," which lets the pleasure flow through your desires forever.
Real happiness is just "around the corner," waiting for us to figure out how to sense it by adding intention to our wants. By studying Kabbalah, we naturally pick up this new, spiritual intention, and we finally start receiving exactly the way Nature intended—perfectly. That’s why "Kabbalah" literally translates to "receiving"—it’s the wisdom that teaches us
how to truly receive.