Posts by Richard Wells

Nick can't do a single thing without our permission 🙂

What can I do about this?

Honestly, you’ve gotta watch your back even when you're just grabbing coffee and meeting someone new. You don't really know who you can count on until you've actually been through the wringer together.

So many people spend their entire lives just playing a part, living a life that isn't even remotely their own. That’s exactly why they end up wrecking it.

Nicole Green3 said:I mean, honestly? I think being brutally honest is actually a sign of weak character. Like, if someone is just constantly unfiltered and always tells it like it is, you can look at that two ways—it could be a good thing, sure, but it could also just mean they’re being rude or have zero filter. Personally, I feel like it might not even be about character flaws, but maybe just... I don't know, a lack of intelligence? Sometimes you just gotta keep your mouth shut. You really need to have at least a little bit of common sense and pragmatism in life, you know?

Have you ever thought about how you can tell the truth while still using a little more tact, without losing the actual point?

Honestly, we’re probably our own biggest liars. Most of the time, we just lie to ourselves because being real is terrifying, and honestly? It’s way easier to just stay stuck in a comfortable, predictable routine. Being honest with yourself is a massive flex because it takes actual guts to embrace change.

It feels like lately, everyone’s being force-fed this specific set of "values" that we really need to take a hard look at. We’re seeing arrogance, pure selfishness, cheating, lying, and this obsession with status symbols and materialism everywhere you turn...

In the middle of all that, people who actually believe in anything else end up feeling totally overwhelmed. They get intimidated, shut themselves off, and just stop trusting anyone. Meanwhile, the ones living by those toxic rules don't even grasp what trust means because they don't need it. It just creates this endless, closed loop.

We don't even need to aim for that. You live for the moment, not for some absolute truth 🙂

Kenneth Wood9 said:Truth isn't about what you believe... it's an undeniable fact. You can't tailor it to fit what you need... truth is one thing... it was, is, and always will be.

Wait, how is it not about belief? Look, you basically construct your own version of "truth" based on your biases, how you were raised, your environment, and a million other things. Eventually, those views get so deeply rooted that you mistake them for absolute reality, and you end up filtering everything through that lens. The only truths that are truly indisputable are natural phenomena—like the sun coming up or trees growing. Everything else is open to interpretation because the human mind and our senses are pretty limited. We barely grasp even a fraction of what's actually going on.

I’ve spent years overthinking what friendship actually means. I used to idealize the whole thing, but after watching people drift in and out of my life—some staying forever while others just vanish—I've learned one big lesson: stop looking at everything else and just focus on reliability. If someone shows up when they say they will, they’re a real friend. Everything else is just noise.

briskrider20 said:That's a lie. If someone talks trash about you, your first instinct is to prove them wrong. But the real issue starts when they try to strip away your right to defend yourself just to win an argument.

Can you walk me through what you mean by that?

Benjamin Wilson4 said:If there is one thing I have learned about people, it is that everyone carries their own set of hidden fears, flaws, and deep-seated complexes. And especially those who present themselves as flawlessly confident. 😉

Not everyone has actual complexes, though. That’s a pretty heavy, complicated set of issues. Most people don't have that, but yeah, we all have fears and flaws. Real confident people just radiate that energy naturally without feeling the need to brag about it. The second you start forcing that "perfect" vibe, people can tell—it’s pretty obvious you're just trying to mask what's actually going on underneath.

And how much of all that stuff does a kid actually soak up from their family dynamic growing up?

Austin Nelson2 said:There are countless individuals who struggle to express any semblance of emotion—largely because they were never taught how. So many things simply went unaddressed; certain topics were treated as strictly off-limits within the family home. Consequently, children grow up learning that keeping secrets and maintaining an impenetrable exterior is the only way to navigate life.

You don't even have to say it out loud. It’s enough for kids to just watch how their parents treat each other. That's the main thing.

Rachel Bishop4 said:People are just selfish. When you actually try being honest and open, 95% of them will just take advantage of you, disrespect you, or belittle you. That is why you have to hide your emotions.

Why do you think they're jerks? If you handed your power over to anyone—especially the wrong people—and they didn't respect it, wouldn't they act like jerks?

They aren't lying, they just don't realize it. The human mind and our senses are such limited tools; we can't possibly grasp everything out there. But people still try. And because our perspective is so narrow—constantly filtered through the ego of who we think we are—we get stuck. Personally, I stopped chasing this idea of "The Truth" a long time ago. Sure, facts exist, but most of what we talk about—opinions, observations, perceptions—is just a reflection of an individual's personal filter, which is shaped by a million different things. There’s zero chance of finding some objective truth in a conversation like that.

redbear2 said:It’d be an interesting move if you just took a leap off a bridge.

Just talking nonsense. Totally unnecessary.

Exactly. We don't lie. 😁

Huh, interesting thought.

redbear2 said:I guess having a weak point is just part of the deal.

Enivej, what exactly do you mean by a weak spot?