Posts by Roger Morgan4

In your mind, you’re probably hosting the greatest party ever

Honestly, there’s nothing quite like being tucked into bed while it’s pouring rain outside. I finally have enough energy left to actually sit down and watch some TV without feeling completely wiped out. I don't really get how someone can be so self-assured when handing out "advice" like this. Maybe they meant well, but they should probably broaden their horizons a bit. We all have our own ways of unwinding and relaxing, after all.

-when someone simply refuses to listen
-engaging in endless chatter that lacks even a shred of substance
-trying to explain something only to have them repeat the exact same sentence over and over when they clearly don't get it
-having someone try to micromanage my schedule without giving me a heads-up
-those primitive "debates" that consist of nothing but shouting and insults instead of actual arguments or a civilized discussion

Look, 😠😠 this is the designated thread for medication questions. Please, for the love of everything, stop starting a brand new topic every single time you have one. It’s nothing personal—well, maybe it is. I honestly can't tell. But seriously, every third thread on this board seems to be yours, and nobody is even responding.

hiddenhawk3 said:I mean, fine 😁 I don't know, that's really the only thing you mentioned about being unique 🙂
Yeah, I guess. It’s probably not easy being an introvert these days.

Being an introvert isn't the same thing as being antisocial. Introverts might just prefer their own company or engage in activities that don't require a crowd to feel fulfilled, but that doesn't make them unfriendly.

Patrick Miller30 said:You can always fake it. You just look up the specific symptoms online, browse through some forums to see what people with depression typically talk about, and learn all their struggles. That’s basically it.
A psychiatrist isn't a mind reader.
Even if they spend a decent amount of time with you, an hour or two every few weeks just isn't enough time for them to figure out if someone is being dishonest.

I'm inclined to disagree; I think a decent psychologist can tell when someone is just making up symptoms. It’s not always that simple, and you certainly can't find everything you need on the internet.

True, but Morgan Martinez28, there’s a massive difference between choosing solitude and being forced into it. And there’s something else... you can be surrounded by friends and acquaintances, yet find yourself completely alone during those pivotal, life-altering moments. I don’t know why it works that way, but it’s a pattern I see in my own life quite often. Then there’s a third layer: being lonely even when you're actually out with people. You're physically present, hanging out, but the internal sense of isolation persists regardless. Perhaps that’s a tangent, but loneliness is a complicated, messy thing. Once you finally learn how to be comfortable on your own and settle into that rhythm, those pleasant social interludes inevitably come to an end, forcing you to readjust back to your own company. For me, those transitions are the hardest part. That’s why I’ve been pulling away from socializing lately. There are so many wonderful people in this world, but if I can't be with them constantly, I struggle to maintain that kind of connection. It’s just too taxing. I’ve tried, really I have, but it’s unrealistic to expect anyone to have people by their side at all times. To me, those brief flashes of happiness in a crowd feel like an illusion. I have to be alone; anything else just hurts too much.

I had a feeling things would turn out this way... crimsonheron80 🙏 but honestly, it’s only because we were so quick to react to yet another blunder. 🙂

rowdybadger11 said:hm... maybe I am crazy. =) but seriously, this posthunting isn't okay...

But frankly, nobody here really cares. The mods are just like those wandering spirits passing through in the night... and we actually quite enjoy it that way. At least, I do.

rowdybadger11 said:So you haven't found another roommate yet... or maybe you just can't handle this one? Drinking isn't the answer. xD

Ha, ha... I don't think the roommate is the main issue here. 🙂

rowdybadger11, I see you're one of the new faces around here. 😬 Over at the psychology forum—I think that’s where we were—crimsonheron80 seems to have a bit of a thing for double posting. Is that right, crimsonheron80?

And you, crimsonheron80—regarding what you said about absolutely nothing being allowed in your room. 😍 It’s almost like you handed her an invitation on a silver platter. People really do gravitate toward those little touches—those subtle gestures that make everything feel just a bit more special. They aren't allowed to. Touch it. Seriously. I tried entering my password on the computer for the second time, went back to the physical key in the lock, and—presto—problem solved. It’s one of those things that makes you question everything.

Keith Jones76 said:People with IBM often have a tendency toward isolation even before any symptoms kick in, and that pattern just carries right through the illness itself. Because of that, I think it makes sense to view the social withdrawal as part of the condition rather than a separate issue. That said, I wouldn't go so far as to say personality alone drives the onset or progression of the disorder. We're talking about a complex, multi-faceted condition here—it's way too deep and serious to be caused simply by someone sitting alone and spiraling over their own thoughts. You can't just "drive yourself crazy" like that. If someone actually believes they are successfully losing their grip on reality, we're likely looking at something else entirely—something milder, more along the lines of neurotic disorders.

That is exactly it. You put into words what I’ve been ruminating on, though I could never articulate it quite so precisely. Lately, even my own internal monologue feels somewhat muddled and confusing.

If you don't mind me asking... Keith Jones76, what exactly is your field of work, and how long have you been in it? I mean it in the best way possible—your posts are truly excellent. 🙂

Regarding the topic of loneliness... Patrick Johnson8, if it helps to hear, I’ve felt profoundly lonely even when surrounded by people for a very long time now. Sometimes it’s because our ways of thinking differ, but mostly it’s because I feel emotionally detached, even from those closest to me. Perhaps it's a fear of being misunderstood, but more than anything, I've run into so much lack of empathy over the years that I’ve simply stopped trying. I’ll show up for coffee with the mindset of "let's just get this over with," and then I'm out. It is incredibly draining, so lately I've been stripping my social life down to the bare essentials. Just enough contact to maintain the connection, but with minimal actual interaction. Does that resonate with you at all? If I've expressed myself clearly enough.

Well, it’s your boss, after all. 😁 🙂

I appreciate you being open about your thoughts, but you might want to work on your delivery. Look, most of us run into friction every single day; the real trick is how we handle it.

Peter Phillips32 said:Look, you can switch up your career, pack your bags, and move halfway across the country to some new city, but the root cause of all your misery isn't going to change—it's still that deep-seated pessimism living inside your own head.

So, what you actually need to do is start overthinking things—and I mean really digging into the what, the how, the why, and the who behind your feelings, your attitudes, and everything else going on in your life. Throw in some heavy lifting at the gym and maybe pick up some decent books that aren't total garbage.

Get moving. Do it now.

These are lovely, helpful suggestions, but it’s entirely possible that changing jobs could actually dampen that pessimism, which might then trigger more of it in other areas of life than you've ever dealt with before.

My suggestion? Don't quit just yet. Instead, use your current time at this firm to hunt for something new. It’s a grind, sure, but you're young, and from what I can see, you have a genuine drive to work. There’s a high probability that a solid opportunity will pop up soon.

Whether you need the cash is a personal call, but you definitely need a sense of purpose. Even if this job is incredibly stressful, it provides that. In my view, quitting without having anything lined up wouldn't be wise. You’d likely fall into a vicious cycle—stuck at home, feeling unproductive, which would only fuel negative emotions. That lack of momentum makes finding the next thing even harder, potentially leading to a deeper sense of sadness or depression. I'm not saying it's a certainty, but it's a very real possibility.

Nicole Barrett76 said:I don't personally draw a line between sedatives and stabilizers. Is it possible that I am mistaken in thinking that stabilizers act more powerfully than sedatives, yet remain less potent than antidepressants or antipsychotics?

Does anyone here possess more expertise on the matter who might enlighten me as to whether my understanding is flawed?

I am struggling to find the correct English term for "psychostabilizer." I have searched through several online dictionaries, yet the specific term remains elusive.

You could go with "psycho-stabilizer," though most people just say "mood stabilizers." That's what I gathered from a quick search.

Give your kidneys a quick checkup. You can't just go around being reckless and assuming you're right about everything. I'll grant you that mindset plays a role, but it isn't quite that significant.

Alright, you’ve gone ahead and defined what constitutes "garbage," but you haven't quite touched on where the "good" actually lies, have you?

Charles Martinez17 said:it’s gotta be top-tier quality

🙂 but how exactly is that going to work out?

I just can't seem to get it right; I’m constantly miscalculating, setting the wrong expectations. It isn't even that I expect too much, per se—it’s more that my expectations are fundamentally misplaced. I tend to measure people by my own internal yardstick, somehow missing the obvious truths staring me right in the face. And when someone inevitably lets me down, it feels like my entire world is collapsing. It triggers these intense emotional outbursts—waves of sadness, guilt, self-reproach, even a bit of self-destruction. I can't seem to learn from it. I suppose that’s just part of being human, though. The hardest part is the repetitive cycle of it all: the failed attempts at connection, the botched efforts to get close to someone, and the feeling that with every unsuccessful attempt, a little piece of me withers away. Eventually, I fear I'll reach a point where I simply won't trust anyone anymore. To be honest, there isn't much point in me rambling on like this, as it's clear I still haven't found the answer to the question you asked.

redharbor9 said:Psychology ISN'T psychotherapy. Like, 90% of people walk into that major totally disappointed.

But wait, can't a psychologist eventually become a psychotherapist if they just go back for some additional specialized training? It seems like that dream is still within reach for most people. 😁

Good grief, you all have completely lost it.