Posts by Nicole Turner35

redharbor9 said:Look, let me break this down differently for you... You hit that edit button on a post, you type out whatever you want to say, and then you click send. But then? Everything just crawls. The whole forum basically hits a wall, and it takes forever to get moving again. Sometimes it doesn't even go through. I end up hitting "BACK" on my browser, trying to resend it all over again... and only once things finally stop lagging does the post actually show up. It's a total mess. 🙂

You're just breaking things down. Total chaos.
Look, I used to be an admin—not just a moderator, mind you, an actual admin—for several different vBulletin forums over the years, through all sorts of versions. So, honestly? What you’re saying has absolutely nothing to do with what I’m actually talking about. Seriously. [Multiquote] If you can't handle typing out the code manually, there’s a perfectly fine little multi-quote button right there that lets you tag several posts on the page you're looking at. It's not rocket science. And then there's the whole "copy-paste" method. If using a forum is really that much of a struggle for you, just draft your entire post in a text editor first and then move it over. It's not that hard.

Spamming six posts in a row like that—just dumping one-sentence nothingburgers every two or three minutes? That's just plain annoying. Spamming. Just straight up spam. Whatever excuse they want to throw at me—whether they claim they’re "slowing down the forum," blaming their browser, or some nonsense about a constellation of stars—I don't buy it for a second.

redharbor9 said:@Nicole Turner35
Look, if you haven't noticed yet—and maybe you have—that multiquote thing was put together after those posts were already up. It was just a quick fix for a glitch in how the forum was running, and they patched it almost immediately after it happened.

Give me a break. No—it was made right after I called it out as straight-up spam and unacceptable moderator behavior. My post about this on the BPD thread went up at 12:10, then I posted here at 12:15, and your little "fix" popped up at 12:17. Talk about timing!

Regarding these "forum glitches" (🙄 🤦), I’ll just answer you with the very sentence I already used:

Mrs. Michelle Evans said:... oh please, come on now, nobody here is actually that dense, you know.

Look, I’m usually the first one to call out granitecyclist99 on pretty much everything—we’ve had our fair share of heated debates and full-on shouting matches in the past—but honestly? On this specific point, I’m totally with them. I’ll sign my name to it right now.

And while we're at it, can we talk about how Sacreus is acting? It’s actually ridiculous. Right this second, they’re pumping out six posts in a row, spaced just three minutes apart, with basically nothing more than a single sentence per post. It’s straight-up spamming and it's choking the entire thread. If I tried that stunt, I’d be kicked off the board before I could even blink.
Aren't the moderators actually supposed to follow the rules and use the multiquote feature like everyone else? 🙄

Michelle Evans said:Nah, the thread isn't gone, it's just invisible right now.

I can see it, I can see it! 😬 So yeah, it's back up.

What's the deal with the complaints here? Are we all just sitting around waiting for someone to reply or quote something?

Here's an idea: maybe it'd be smart to just start a "Sacreusov BPD corner" over on the alternative subforum, then everyone gets what they want and we can all move on. 🙂

rustydrifter10 said:Look, you've been asked to stop the bickering, and since you ignored the warning, we're moving on. This is totally off-topic anyway, so let's not take this any further.

Just one more thing (honestly, feel free to just ban this thread, I deserve it at this point) —
my post was already typed up before your warning even hit my screen. There’s a three-minute gap between our posts.
My bad. 🙈

I’m only daring to post this because we’re in the BPD subforum...
Seriously, why on earth did I get flagged for post #21 just because I asked another user to be decent and actually stay on topic instead of attacking me?
On top of that, his original post—which is basically one giant paragraph dedicated to psychoanalyzing my character (and honestly, I won't even go as far as saying he was being abusive, though it felt close) wasn't penalized at all. And from what I can see, he's still going at it with the exact same attitude.

What is even happening here? 🤷

I mention that I've been dealing with the topic about BPD for years, and this guy decides to call it nonsense and then has the nerve to claim I have some kind of fetish for my diagnosis? 🤦
How much longer is this kind of behavior going to be tolerated? 🤦

redheron30 said:Good grief, what kind of joke is this? It’s pretty obvious you just can’t handle anyone having an opinion different from yours. You’ve basically made your diagnosis your whole identity—honestly, I wouldn't go as far as saying you have a fetish for it, but still.
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at the end of the day, you’re acting like a total toddler.

Do me a favor and back off, because this isn't a topic about me.
It's not about you playing lawyer either, or anyone else for that matter.
Just read the damn thread title.

@Michelle Evans

Honestly, I’m fed up with both of them. 🙂
I honestly think everything @Sacreus posts is just straight-up provocation and trolling (I actually ended up reporting him for insults because he just kept going with that condescending, smug tone).
The way he writes carries way more weight here because of how sensitive this topic is—and it doesn't help that @Sacreus is also a moderator. On top of that, he loves to brag about being a psychotherapist. Look, we all know the deal: moderators shouldn't be setting an example that makes other users think this kind of behavior is okay, even if they're technically posting as "regular users" using standard fonts and all that.

Let me give you a hypothetical scenario:
Imagine an online forum for people living with HIV. As most of you know, there’s no cure; there’s only antiretroviral therapy. Now, say I’m a doctor and I’m also a moderator there. I jump into a general thread and drop something like this:
"As a physician, I have successfully cured HIV within just a few months."
The immediate fallout? First off, I’d be making absolute fools out of every virologist, immunologist, and fellow doctor in the field. Second, I’d be giving false hope—hope that will eventually be cruelly ripped away—to everyone living with HIV. Worst case? I’m basically giving a green light to HIV-positive people to stay silent about their status and recklessly spread AIDS because—hey—it’s supposedly fixed in a couple of months, right? 🙂

Then, when people demand I get specific—how did I do it, why haven't I cured *everyone* with HIV, why haven't I started a global revolution to save millions... (note well: back in 2010, there were 34 million people living with HIV) and why isn't there any mention of this in medical circles, or where is the study to back up these claims... since apparently, nobody else knows about this magical cure I used to suddenly fix someone with AIDS... I’d just snap back with this:

"Like I already said... just because something hasn't been officially recorded doesn't mean it doesn't exist. If a new plant species is discovered, does it not exist just because it hasn't been documented yet? Such strange logic regarding how one perceives the world..."

-- And I’d keep using those kinds of twisted, pseudo-intellectual sentences, comparing my nonsense to the discovery of chemical elements and whatnot...
Now, imagine I'm posting on that forum as a regular user.
But I'm also a moderator at the same time.
That automatically gives my posts a certain level of authority. It doesn't matter if I'm using "normal" text...

A bunch of people in that thread would keep asking me for proof.
And my response? After systematically ignoring them and essentially belittling anyone who asks, I’d just insult them by saying stuff like "Why are you guys nagging me?"... "I have experience working with the mentally challenged, so I can repeat myself a hundred times if I have to..."

My God, in that scenario, I’d lose my moderator status in seconds. Between the warnings and the reports for insults and trolling, I’d probably be hit with a temporary—if not permanent—ban from the forum. If I ever actually realized the mess I had made, on so many different levels, I’d probably be banging my head against a wall until I hit an aneurysm just to make sure I never did something that stupid again.

Look, I’m coming at this from the perspective of someone living with a BPD diagnosis. I have been battling this curse—BPD, not Sacreus—for years. Literally years. And dealing with all the fallout that comes with it... So, yeah, I’m joining the request here. I don't care how competent this guy might be at moderating some other random topic; in the thread Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - vol.2 - *read first post*, he’s been spewing claims from the very jump that just fly in the face of common sense. When asked to actually elaborate or prove his points—specifically his claim that he somehow "cured" BPD in just a few months—he dodges the question entirely. He keeps insisting he never said it, even though I'm looking right at his own quoted post!

After being asked repeatedly, and after providing receipts (like what's mentioned in this post), this user/moderator has started straight-up violating basic rules of decency toward other members on this thread. You’d think someone handling a topic this specific would know better, right? Instead, he’s moved into direct insults (like in this post, right in the very first sentence) and then transitioned into classic trolling.

Beyond the fact that any user being this blatantly dismissive and insulting is unacceptable, it is even less acceptable when it’s the moderator doing it.
Not to mention the potential damage he's already done with these ridiculous claims about a "miracle cure" for BPD in a matter of months.
I really hope this thread can stay up without this kind of amateur trolling. Thanks...

Because honestly, I really, really don't need to be listening to this nonsense
and having people tell me to my face that I'm whining or that I'm a moron. Especially when it's a moderator. 🤦

Honestly, I’m just getting sick and tired of these kinds of moderator calls—not targeting anyone specifically, just speaking generally here.
Yeah, the BPD thread just spirals into absolute chaos every single time. They keep swapping out the title, changing the rules, shuffling the whole "cast of characters," and then you’ve got a swarm of clones... Pfff. There’s zero consistency. Every time they try to "restart" things, it just ends with the thread being locked or people getting hit with warnings and bans. Then, nothing happens for ages, making the whole thing completely useless.

Aside from the occasional random trolls jumping in just to vent their own frustrations, I haven't actually seen any insults.

Telling someone, "Just start your own thread and talk about your own problems," is honestly such a joke of a suggestion.

I don't really have anything profound to add, as usual. But for this subforum, I'd say everything was handled pretty decently.

Thanks.

ambermason16 said:Oh, great... so now we’re at the part where you expect me to sit here and actually read through your entire latest, long-winded, raving meltdown? Seriously?

Look, I’ve already laid it all out for you. Seriously. Everything about your behavior and those endless posts of yours has been explained. There’s really only one little gray area left: that whole "boxing up" thing. Honestly, a lot of how people get flagged is just down to the software settings. So, when I hand you a ban card for trolling, it usually means I could have gone way harder if I felt like it. I could've slapped you with a massive penalty or something a bit lighter—it's all up to me. Most of the time, instead of choosing a heavy-duty strike for someone constantly hunting for an argument, I might just let you slide with a minor warning. Or maybe you were just straight-up trolling. Take it or leave it. 😁).

Look, when it comes to everyone else and what they’re posting... that’s a completely different story. It doesn't apply here. Period.

I don't honestly expect you to sit through my whole argued-out rant anyway. It’s not like it’s your "job" to deal with this, and honestly, this probably isn't even the right subforum for it. 🤷 😉

Look, you don't need to walk me through all that software stuff. Seriously. I was beta-testing for vBulletin back in the day, long before most people even knew what a forum was. I've been around this block.

Look, I’m staying out of the last part. Just for personal reasons—plus, honestly, it goes against the forum rules anyway.
Look, there’s a massive trigger for depression going on here—and honestly, it’s not just me, there are plenty of others feeling it, they just don't say it out loud. Let me give you an example. I know someone nearby dealing with a whole "domestic violence" situation where everyone claims the woman isn't at fault, which totally flies in the face of what Julian Assange would argue. So then, she's sitting there, completely wrecked over this BPD stuff because she’s convinced her husband is the one with the disorder, only to read that she’s actually the one responsible for the violence. It's brutal.
Honestly? She’s got nobody to blame but herself for ending up in the ER with broken ribs. Just her own fault, really.
Should I just step in and end this myself, or just sit back and let her ruin her own life?

ambermason16 said:By the way. Listen up, because I’m only saying this once: from here on out, any post that comes after this warning is getting an immediate ban. Consider yourselves warned. Just feeling low. Honestly, everything just feels heavy right now.

Wait, so what about all the posts that came after your warning?
Alright, fine. I'm out. I'm done with this thread for good, so go ahead—keep banning whoever you want until everyone’s passed out.
Go ahead. Knock yourself out.
Fine, just go ahead and permaban this account then. Since apparently every single thing I say is being treated like it’s written on a cardboard box anyway. Unbelievable. Seriously. 😍

ambermason16 said:Bottom line: if I drop this card, they’re gonna toss me over the 100-point mark and send me straight to a three-day timeout. So, do I actually post it, or have I already spent way too much energy stirring the pot and trying to start a fight on this thread for nothing?

Who exactly was I even fighting with when I said I was going to grab some food? I was just trying to flip the script, turn things into a joke, and keep the vibes positive—did you guys even notice the smiley face?! Seriously, I’m talking about making fun of my OWN damn self here!
I guess I’m just sitting here trying to pick a fight with myself, though honestly, maybe I should be picking a fight with that cardboard box you’re using to threaten me instead?
What, am I supposed to go out and start self-harming just because you hurt my feelings? (That’s my immature BPD ego talking, obviously.) Just because you can't manage to moderate this thread objectively? Seriously?

Good grief, woman! Look, I’m sorry if this feels like an ad hominem attack, but honestly, at this point, I have to call you out directly. If you’re actually going to act as a moderator, the least you could do is go look up what trolling even means by definition. I’ve spent years running things—acting as both an admin and a mod on several different forums here in the States and over in the US—so believe me when I say you need to learn the basics. You need to understand forum etiquette, how people communicate online, and exactly which behaviors warrant a sanction. Most importantly? You need to turn your objectivity ON instead of leaving it OFF. Stop letting your personal preferences run the show and stop inflating your ego with some irrational, power-tripping feeling of authority. It's just not how it works.
Three cases in under two minutes... man, that was intense.



Oops, yeah, I posted something earlier today on the BPD thread that—if ambermason16 sees it—is probably going to get labeled as trolling, mostly because by the standards around here, it’ll just be dumped straight into off-topic. 🙄

And what about that yellow card—you know, that zero-point penalty—they slapped on my post just because I was answering the question? Seriously?

Just dropping in here. said:Does anyone actually know what living with BPD feels like? Like, does anyone out there get it?

Nicole Turner35 said:Look, this thread is already 432 pages long. Seriously, just do me a favor and read at least the last five or six pages before you come flying in here with a question like that.

Look, that whole thing about him getting a yellow card? Pure trolling. Honestly, who cares about the penalty points at this point? That’s just noise. The only thing that actually matters here is the principle of the damn carding itself.

Let me help you actually define—and more importantly, wrap your head around—what trolling really looks like by using a perfect, live example:
Just so you know— Honestly, that whole thing was just pure trolling. It’s like some random parachute jumper just dropped out of nowhere onto the thread with a question like that. Total nonsense.
This thread is already 432 pages deep... plus, let’s be real, Google is basically everyone's best friend anyway. Just type "BPD" into the search bar and hit "About" if you want to actually find something useful. 6,220,000 results ).
Look, if anyone actually gives a damn about what it’s like to live with BPD, they should just go out and experience it firsthand. Seriously. Stop asking questions and go see for yourself.
If you're too lazy to actually read the post and just want to fly in here with a question like that... to It’s just trolling. Pure and simple.

Example 2: So, I’m scrolling through this massive PDF about the Economy, right? And I hit page 53—way at the very end—where they start talking about PayPal. So, I figure, why not just dive straight into the deep end and ask...
Can someone please tell me how the hell I actually use PayPal to pay for stuff?
If I did that, it’d be straight-up trolling, and I’d probably catch at least a yellow card for it.

Look, from what I've seen, it’s pretty obvious the mods all just huddle up in their private sub-forum to hash things out, and then once they're out in public? It's nothing but a united front. They basically have this unspoken rule where they just back each other up no matter what. It's like watching a coordinated press release instead of actual discussion. Regarding that post by Lisa Hernandez3—and honestly, looking back at when she was handling the BPD topic—I still think she’s way more objective than ambermason16. Amber gets way too personally invested in everything. She takes it all way too much to heart, which totally kills any chance of her being neutral anymore. I don't even care what people say about why; maybe it's because some users are out there playing mind games through private messages, but either way, the objectivity just isn't there with her.
I mean, isn't it kind of weird? Like, here I am, someone living with BPD, and somehow I’m actually out here defending these guys? I’m actually being objective. Seriously, take a second and really think about that.

vividorca9, sorry—but it’s just so obvious that you... You're not being objective.Look, here’s an example: you actually wrote that Harry York "mentioned your old handle fifteen times in the thread" (not that I'm gonna go out of my way to repeat which one it was).

vividorca9 said:I honestly have no clue what the point of any of that was. Like, seriously, what was even the goal? I don't get it. Look, I’m just gonna say it—I’ve gone ahead and highlighted my original handle fifteen times. There. Done. Happy now? It's like when you're trying to get someone's attention at a crowded bar in Chicago and you have to practically scream because they're too busy nursing their drink to notice you're standing right there. Just wanted to make sure there's zero confusion about who's talking here. Point made. (which, by the way, I'm keeping under wraps for a good reason).

He mentioned him exactly ONCE. Just one single post, that's it. And here he is: I can't even begin to wrap my head around how people still fall for this stuff. Seriously. It’s like watching a slow-motion train wreck where everyone is cheering for the collision. You see these "experts" on TV or whatever, acting like they have all the answers, and half the population just nods along like mindless sheep. It’s exhausting. And don't even get me started on the legal side of things. I was reading about some recent court case—honestly, it reminded me of that one time I tried to fight a parking ticket in Chicago and ended up arguing with a guy who looked like he hadn't slept since the nineties. Point is, the system is rigged. It’s built to protect the big players, not us regular people. If you think you’re getting a fair shake because you followed the rules, you’re delusional. Anyway, I saw what Nicole Turner35 said earlier, and honestly? Spot on. People try to sugarcoat everything, but sometimes the truth is just ugly and blunt. There’s no point in dancing around it. If something is broken, it’s broken. Stop pretending it’s "evolving" or "adjusting." It's broken. Period.

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I’m trying to figure out how to justify just sitting on my hands and doing absolutely nothing about this:

Regarding those posts from Julian Assange about that whole situation... Are women actually to blame when they get hit by their partners? Seriously, let's talk about this because it's such a garbage argument. People love to point fingers and act like if a woman just acted "differently" or didn't "provoke" someone, the violence wouldn't happen. It’s absolute nonsense. There is zero excuse for anyone to lay a hand on another person. Period. No matter what was said, no matter how loud the argument got, nothing justifies physical abuse. To suggest otherwise is just a way for people to dodge accountability and protect abusers. It's toxic, it's backward, and honestly, it makes me want to scream. "Oh, please. Like they’re obviously just some girls with BPD," which is totally backwards if you actually look at this [link]. Look, let's get one thing straight right out of the gate: we need some ground rules here if this place isn't going to turn into a total dumpster fire. I’m not trying to be the fun police or anything, but seriously, we need a baseline so we don't all lose our minds. First off, keep it civil. I know, I know—everyone has an opinion and everyone wants to scream them from the rooftops, but let's try not to go full scorched-earth on each other. We're all just humans living our lives, dealing with our own stuff, right? So, let's try to act like it. And for heaven's sake, stay on topic! I swear, I'll be reading a thread about something specific and suddenly someone starts veering off into a tangent about their neighbor's lawn care or some random political drama. It's exhausting. If we're talking about BPD, talk about BPD. Don't make me hunt through fifty pages of nonsense just to find one useful point. Also, please, please, *please* respect people's privacy. This isn't a gossip column. We aren't here to tear each other down or dig up dirt. We're here to talk, vent, and maybe actually learn something. Bottom line: Be decent, stay focused, and stop being jerks. It shouldn't be this hard, but here we are. Let's just try to keep this community somewhat functional, okay? I mean, honestly, there should have been actual consequences for this. Seriously. Just look at this snippet of the rulebook that actually applies here—I've bolded it for you:

• Look, you’re breaking the law here in the States—specifically when it comes to inciting hate or spreading discrimination. You know the rules. Look, let’s be real here—there is a massive difference between just talking about a crime and actually making excuses for it or, even worse, acting like it's some kind of heroic feat. It's one thing to analyze what went wrong, but glorifying criminal behavior? That’s a whole different level of messed up. Honestly, I can't stand it when people try to spin something illegal into some kind of moral victory. It's dishonest, it's dangerous, and frankly, it's just exhausting to listen to. Copyright infringement, pedophilia, animal cruelty... you know, all that dark stuff.

Look, specifically regarding this thread, looking at the last 3 or 4 pages here:

I honestly think the bans are totally biased and unfair. Regular posts are being labeled as trolling, and the moderator (ambermason16) is being incredibly selective.
I’m asking—pretty please, if it’s even possible—Lisa Hernandez3 should take over moderating this thread again. She was actually impartial and understood "both sides" (people with BPD and those without). Even when she banned me personally, I didn't mind because I knew she wasn't just picking on me out of spite.

On top of that, several trolling and straight-up offensive posts (from a user named Julian Assange) were reported. He’s claiming that violence against women doesn't even exist and that women are "to blame themselves," which is a view that flies in the face of every human rights convention out there. It’s an insult to common sense, and it’s basically just another slap in the face to women who deal with domestic abuse Unknown.

As absurd as it sounds coming from me—since I fall into the "BPD" group myself—I really feel like ambermason16 is being way too biased toward "us" (the BPD crowd), so I’m once again asking for someone else to step in and moderate this topic.

Sadly, we all know how this goes after a massive blowout like this with the bans. After people finally open up and share their experiences, there’s going to be this months-long silence on the thread. People will either shut up because they're terrified of more sanctions (just look at the last post where someone else got banned too) or because they're being forced to "get back on topic." But listen, BPD isn't just some "topic"—it affects absolutely every part of life for both people with BPD and everyone else.
It’s such a shame for the thread.

And seriously, since when did staying ON TOPIC suddenly become considered trolling...?

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Look, regardless of whether you're being a total brat 😬, trolling is just plain fun.
I can already hear the "get a life" crowd coming for my neck...
But seriously, trolling is a blast.
It’s even better on those "serious" forums—you know the ones, where you practically need a background check and an invitation just to sign up or post a comment.
Is finding joy in trolling some kind of moral failing? Honestly, I don't know... and it kind of eats at me because, man, it’s such a rush.

Disclaimer: No, I am not trolling on this forum. 😁