Posts by Jamie Scott2

Hey there!
Folks, can we talk about that kid and his whole situation?
How many of you actually remember being thirteen?

I haven't seen anything quite this ridiculous in a long time!

wheel said:If you had to choose, would you rather deal with intense pain and suffering—like being paralyzed for life—or just face death?

Death, hands down!

Busta said:Old-school parenting is still the gold standard, if you ask me.

But what does "old-school" actually look like to you?
Are we talking about breaking a kid's spirit through mental or physical toughness?
What's the deal?

Nature Lover said:It’s either you adapt to it or you let it consume you. 😁 (Sure, some things pass, but those are just "little things." Big life events? You never truly get over them—at least not by my definition of "getting over" something.)

It could be a mix of both—adapting a little while still letting it take its toll. 🤣

But wait, if you don't agree with me, how would you describe the process? Do you think it’s strictly an "all or nothing" deal between moving on or being crushed by it? 😁

The sadness stays, but how can I even put it into words? It's like a quiet sorrow—just finding that inner peace and nothing else!
You move forward without ever forgetting. You can't forget things like that!
We carry the memory, we remember what happened, but we don't cry about it anymore. No more asking "why," no more agonizing. Just acceptance without the suffering!

nataniel said:Sure.

No way!

cosmicridge5 said:And what exactly did I mean by "getting used to it"?

I didn't mean you get used to it until it stops hurting... It's more like you get used to it so it doesn't paralyze you anymore. You learn to live alongside it. 😁

To me, "getting over it" would basically mean becoming indifferent toward the pain. But "getting used to it"? That means the weight is still there—it just isn't choking you anymore. It’s less like a hand around your throat and more like, say, a heavy backpack you've learned to carry.

Honestly, I doubt anyone ever truly gets "used to" something like this...

Getting over it... yeah, I'm with you on that. But you have to actually move through the process. It's like any major loss in America; there are four distinct stages everyone has to navigate. But what if you get stuck on stage three? You haven't moved on, and you're just spinning your wheels. You're stuck in neutral!

Patagonia said:People have this massive tendency to 'get used to things'... it’s our spectacular curse and our spectacular blessing all rolled into one.

That isn't true (at least, I don't think it is). NOBODY—and I mean absolutely nobody—can ever truly get used to pain... or that kind of deep sorrow! Not a single soul!

We might say we're "used to" bad luck hitting us, or that we cry every night, but once you have to live through that raw "process" all over again... that sting? It never gets old.

crimsongull20 said:What I actually meant was this: some people just aren't worth the effort. It's like trying to fix a broken radio—you can turn the dial all day, but you're still just hearing static. 😉

It’s all there! It just goes to show that some people simply aren't staying informed—that's a whole different story entirely!

Robert Ruiz9 said:I’m not sure how many people actually experience this. Maybe I just got lucky and found a legitimate acupuncturist instead of some fraud who leaves you feeling even worse...
It didn't magically cure my grief, but at least I can manage it now. Considering how low I was before, that feels like a massive win in my book..
I don't want to be a pessimist, but honestly? I think that heavy sorrow never truly disappears—heck, I even used a swear word there 😉 —but if I can learn to live alongside it without completely drowning, then I'll call that a success!👍

The reality is that loss keeps coming at you. It’s not just about death; people grieve losing material things, moving to a different state, or relocating to a new city. It all counts as loss.
Everyone processes it differently. Someone once wrote that "it's normal to grieve most intensely for a year," but that’s just not true. The timeline for grief is totally unique to the individual.

Grief lingers. When we remember someone or think of them, it's right there. But the difference is that we don't stop living our lives because of it.

Complicated grief is a whole different animal compared to standard mourning... We all get sad when we remember someone, but for those people, it's a constant weight, and there are so many other factors involved that make it distinct from "typical" grieving.

crimsongull20 said:No, I honestly don't think they can be helped.

I have to disagree!

slyranger72 said:Anyone who has lost someone dear will eventually heal... though sometimes that road feels endless. There’s no timer on grief, just like there's no timer on joy. You asked about professional help—honestly, people tend to look down on seeing a psychiatrist, but they can really help you wrap your head around why things feel this way and why healing takes so long. Seeking help doesn't mean you're "crazy"; if it helps you move forward, go for it. It might be hard to navigate this alone... and truly, just talking it out with someone you trust makes a world of difference.😘 🙂

To be blunt, I think psychiatrists are total garbage—I won't even swear.
In a situation like this, I wouldn't feel an ounce of fear or shame about seeing a psychologist; I'd honestly not care at all.
But I feel like in cases involving immediate family, there isn't much help out there... because once those memories are burned into your brain, there's no fixing that... at least not from a clinical standpoint.

I’m curious to get your take on grief. At the end of the day, we’re all human, and we’ve all felt that sting of loss. But let’s be honest—it hits everyone differently.
We process sadness through our thoughts, our bodies, and of course, our emotions. It’s a roll of the dice depending on the situation and the individual, but the bottom line is the same: loss is universal.
The real struggle often comes down to how long the grieving process actually lasts.

Psychologists suggest:
Grief lasts exactly as long as the individual needs it to.
It always seems to drag on much longer than we’d ever want it to.

So, how much time is "normal"? What if someone is still struggling seven or ten years later?
What are your thoughts on this?

Naturally, the circumstances matter—who passed away, how it happened, and all those personal factors...

There’s also something else out there, which is a bit more complicated, and unfortunately, not many people have heard of it.
To put it simply, it’s when someone loses a loved one and just... stops. They become completely stuck, like they’re paralyzed in place.
In my view, that's a significant sign.
Do you think people in that state should seek professional help?

Tanja art said: Is this some kind of sickness?

How deeply is it rooted in people?

And how do we move past it?

First off, jealousy and envy aren't the same thing—people tend to mix them up all the time!
Jealousy is pure selfishness, total egoism.
Then you have fear, that dread of losing something or someone, and fear always breeds negativity.

Envy usually stems from an inferiority complex; most envious people are just fundamentally unhappy. It can definitely snowball into a massive problem...