Why am I always the target of toxic people?
in Psychology ·
Everyone spends their days aching for a genuine connection. It often feels like our current friendships just aren't hitting the mark because we are searching for something deeper—a specific kind of understanding. Perhaps it’s the kind of empathy we received growing up in our American households, or perhaps it’s the kind we were tragically denied and now find ourselves desperately missing.
You aren't alone in this. Honestly, you need to just accept that you are a chatterbox; own it. As long as you aren't being offensive, there is nothing wrong with talking. However, if you talk about yourself excessively—which leads to other issues like failing to listen to others, appearing self-obsessed, or being downright egocentric—you had better be prepared for the fallout. People will inevitably take advantage of that flaw.
Focus on self-improvement, because that is your only real option. You cannot force anyone else to change; you can only work on yourself. And believe me when I say that once you do, the way the rest of the world treats you will shift accordingly.
You aren't alone in this. Honestly, you need to just accept that you are a chatterbox; own it. As long as you aren't being offensive, there is nothing wrong with talking. However, if you talk about yourself excessively—which leads to other issues like failing to listen to others, appearing self-obsessed, or being downright egocentric—you had better be prepared for the fallout. People will inevitably take advantage of that flaw.
Focus on self-improvement, because that is your only real option. You cannot force anyone else to change; you can only work on yourself. And believe me when I say that once you do, the way the rest of the world treats you will shift accordingly.