Posts by cosmictinker21

Gerald Ward61 said:@cosmictinker21, you're spot on. At the end of the day, you just gotta be glad you're still breathing. 😁

And that whole "poor woman" thing? I'm picturing her as some total knockout. 😍 Then again, we don't actually know what goes on behind closed doors with cosmictinker21... and even if we did, who are we to judge? Right? I mean... seriously... 😉

I'm sure she's stunning. Any woman truly in love has that kind of glow—eyes bright, just radiating everything... though I suppose that changes when the feeling isn't returned. It’s hard to keep that light when things feel heavy and fruitless...

No, we don't know the full story. We aren't here to pass judgment on anyone... we're just exploring the possibilities that emerge when love simply can't be realized the way it was meant to be...

I actually went through something like this myself, a few years back...
I’d put it this way: he was the one. My person. We were perfectly aligned on every single level—intellectually, spiritually, emotionally, physically... you name it. But there were serious, heavy reasons why things couldn't work out, both for me and for him. He understood that I simply don't do compromises. And if I had insisted on having things my way, he wouldn't have survived the toll it would have taken on him, mentally or physically. He probably would have ended up back in the hospital, dealing with plasma exchanges, immunosuppressants, steroids... the whole ordeal. He just wouldn't have made it through all that. He would have died. There was nothing I could have done to change that outcome. It's just a shame...

I’ll probably never run into another man I could love with that kind of intensity. It wasn't just about the romance; he actually made me feel whole. He enriched my life just by being there—his intellect, his subtlety, that deep spiritual connection... it was everything. We went through so many cycles, breaking up and trying again, over and over. Eventually, the silence just became permanent. We stopped reaching out... and that was it.

Life keeps moving forward. I’m happy. Though, I am fully aware that I probably won't ever cross paths with someone who fit me quite as perfectly as the last one did. In this new chapter, I've discovered different sides of myself; we’re building a different kind of love, a different way of relating to one another. It's hard to explain to anyone else, but there's just this deep understanding between us... and at the end of the day, it's all just love...🙂

Gerald Ward61 said:Level-headed my ass!? If he were actually level-headed, he wouldn't have let that woman slip through his fingers. 🤣

Come on, spill the rest... I think she's pretty cute. 😍

Poor woman. It’s clearly a one-sided situation. Honestly, it makes me wonder if love can even exist if it’s only coming from one side... If he actually felt anything substantial, you'd think they would have done something about it by now. But they haven't...

It seems to me that he might be the closest thing to what she actually needs in a partner—like, almost an ideal version of what she’s looking for. Obviously, she clearly saw some genuinely solid character traits in him, the kind of stuff that makes her see him as exactly the type of man who fits her life best...

I think there needs to be some distance here. It’s about accepting the reality that sometimes, you just can't get past a certain level of deep friendship and mutual respect... it’s just how things work out in the real world. She should probably just take some comfort in the fact that they actually shared those moments of genuine connection and happiness, and let that be the bedrock for whatever friendship comes next. But honestly, if she wants to move on, she needs to finally face the truth: he isn't going to be "the one." He was—and remains—just a partially realized ideal. It might be best if she starts looking elsewhere, if only to stop the endless cycle of heartache. I'm sure there are plenty of other guys out there with similar qualities, or maybe even better ones in different ways... she might even find a new kind of love. But this time, it would be a love that actually exists in reality...

There’s a massive difference between projecting qualities onto someone you want them to have and actually recognizing that they possess them. Then there's the third step, which is arguably the hardest: accepting that true unity might just be an impossibility... And if you're chasing that perfect romantic connection, maybe the move is to look for—and eventually find—the next person. And then, actually experiencing a love like that... To live...!

Nicholas King said:Not by my own will? So this was written by someone else's will?

Sherlock Holmes, how exactly is that contradictory to what she wrote?

"I don't have clones. I just have one backup account that I don't use for posting."

Look, all you need for an overactive imagination is a handful of seemingly innocent rumors. That's all I'm getting at. Or, as they say nowadays... transparently. 😁 It might actually be useful to open a dedicated corner for people who deal with all sorts of nonsense via DM. I've certainly taken some myself, though nothing groundbreaking has happened... ☕

Anyway, it's pretty obvious someone went through the trouble of digging up my old posts—adding their own commentary, of course 🙄. Wow, I didn't realize I was attracting such attention 🤣. I honestly thought nobody cared about my little ramblings in the literature section and its surroundings. Goodness, wouldn't you know, I might even start thinking someone's actually fallen for me! 😁

What a joke. That guy cosmictinker21 who signed up just to rip off parts of my handle and starts throwing out names that have absolutely nothing to do with me... honestly, Brian Edwards6 was right when he said everything comes in due time. My only question is whether she’ll actually have any toilet paper within reach, or if she's just going to be walking around with a messy backside...🥳

hollowtrucker77 said:Don't sweat the small stuff... or the traces. It’ll all work itself out in the end...

My grandmother was one of those wise women... she had a saying for just about everything...

A clear conscience is the ultimate luxury... without it, even sitting on a throne feels empty. But with one? Well, even an executioner's block starts to look a little less grim...

Unemployed priest baptizing kids at the local church... just one of those things you see that makes you pause for a second...
Honestly, I can't say I'm surprised by how obsessed some people have become with my handle and everything I write...☕

Just a quick word on posts like this, for the benefit of the general public🙂:

I don't have any clones. I have one backup account that I don't actually use for posting. Is that clear enough? Apparently not for everyone...🤣 Who knows what people are thinking or why they’re getting worked up over nothing.

cosmictinker21 isn't me, nor is anyone else. The handle is pretty unique, quite specific really, so if you happen to see it on other sites, just know it isn't me—someone is just being shady and using it. Though, I suppose all of that can be easily verified...

Please. If the mods or admins feel like looking into it, let them confirm what I'm saying. If they don't, then fine, whatever. I'll just leave those who are mistaken to stay mistaken...☕

Good grief, there's only one cosmictinker21.
Even if people want to accuse me of things—jealousy, hearsay, rumors, being unnecessarily offended, or whatever else they feel like throwing out there--🤔 claiming I’m popping up under a million different aliases just to post messages...
it's all just nonsense, really...🥳☕

And you, on the other hand, are definitely known for those lovely posts of yours. Honestly, your avatar captures your vibe perfectly! 😳pure joy: pure joy: pure joy:

placidmarlin3 said:Exactly, you’re speaking purely from your own perspective, which means you have no idea how the cards were actually being played in this specific situation; ultimately, you can't truly tell who the "victim" is here
versus who the "terrorist" is.

No, nobody sent me a PP like that🤣
I'm just using examples to lay out the indicators and arguments for why certain actions make sense during these kinds of heavy moments. Sine ira et studio...

placidmarlin3 said:And besides, who's to say that certain moderator hasn't had her own mental breakdown because she was being played for a fool?☕
We've heard from several people that Toco's contributions to that specific sub-forum were quite decent, if not excellent, and it's certainly not a case of him being just some low-level spammer or a typical troll.
Furthermore, don't worry, Steven Ruiz could have handled this without making a public scene very, very easily—just like she's done every single time before—though I highly doubt the admins would have taken her word for it blindly either.😍

I think you're fully aware of that yourself; it just seems like for some reason, it's more fun to defend a pathetic moderator than to admit she screwed up and suggest she offer at least a basic apology.
At the same time, it's fascinating to watch how strictly everyone enforces the rules when an image is just a few millimeters over the limit, yet when there's an obvious violation of the actual guidelines, everyone suddenly becomes an expert philosopher and pretends nothing happened.

You guys are pathetic. Just scrap this whole circus of so-called "rules" and let everyone act however they want.

1. I don't have all the specifics. I'm just speaking from my own experience, which was quite unpleasant.
2. I'm not out here defending anyone; I'm just laying out the arguments for and against certain behaviors. To put it in terms of Quote : Lord Byron: it was tasteless, immoral, rude, vulgar, and in some small ways, even illegal (check the laws regarding digital media). We're discussing this here so we can resolve it in a way that satisfies everyone and benefits the rest of the users on this forum later on. As for whether an apology should be made, that's a deeply personal choice, so I'll leave that to those directly involved. Personally, I have zero intention of apologizing to idiots who go around gossiping about me behind my back. Because sometimes it isn't just mindless gossip like "she's a loudmouthed jerk" or "she's a snake"—it's specific details about who, what, where, and when, all wrapped up in malicious lies and insults. Insults are easy to shrug off; they go in one ear and out the other. Anyone who actually knows me knows who I am. But there are other pieces of misinformation and half-truths floating around that can actually impact someone's real life. To avoid dragging even more drama into this, let's just try to move past it, even if the way we're doing it isn't exactly "moral"... but hey, let the first stone be thrown...

Nicholas King said:You don't exactly need a formal announcement from the President just to point out that an idiot exists.

And honestly, I have my doubts that Steven Ruiz actually handled all those steps—1, 2, 3, and so on... 🙂

Do you honestly think that's always the case?🙄

Look, sorry, but if someone starts messing with you in the DMs—harassing you privately, being a total nuisance, weaponizing your personal info just to take verbal cheap shots whenever they feel like it, and worse, spreading blatant lies behind your back to other members who then join in on the stalking and bullying until you can't even pretend to be "cool" or indifferent anymore... what's actually left for you to do?

1. ping the mods

2. contact the admins

3. escalate to the site owners

4. if none of that works:

4.1. just keep taking whatever garbage gets sent to your inbox, while having zero clue who is actually sending it

4.2. go ahead and blast it out to everyone so they know there’s one idiot, or maybe a whole group of them, treating this kind of behavior like a hobby, and let everyone know exactly who they are...

I'd much rather be labeled rude, hysterical, or immoral than sit here and let myself be bullied indefinitely, sorry not sorry. People who get why I'm doing this will understand. As for those who don't... well, either they truly don't care, or they're actually enjoying the chaos themselves. 🤷

I am not playing games here.😍

Nicholas King said:I honestly believe that less regulation is always better. It’s a massive gray area—I mean, what one person considers "unsolicited info or harassment" is entirely subjective... for instance, I personally get bombarded with data about phone numbers, bra sizes, and all sorts of nonsense. That's pretty disturbing to me, too. 😍

Yeah, you give them everything, but you won't be giving me any pokemon-bokserieca🤣

Man, I used to get these messages telling me they were going to ruin my life, claiming I was schizophrenic, saying I'd lose my job, that there'd be chaos in my neighborhood, that I was having hallucinations or projections... basically telling me to go get help because I'm crazy, and all sorts of nonsense... some idiot even took a photo from my Facebook—just a public one from a high school friend group—and sent it back to me. They figured out my username, hacked my password, and who knows who they were sending those creepy messages to... honestly, only someone who actually knows me in person could have pulled that off. And there are veeeery few people like that here... it's hard to pin down who it is, even if they tried to clone themselves a hundred times, ha, ha. I eventually had to message the administrator to deal with the moron. It worked, though...☕

Nicholas King said:I already asked. He says nom. 😁

*snort*😢
I’m not about to provide any juicy material for the gossip mills... not when I’m already known as such a delightful person🤣

Nicholas King said:The crux of the matter is that instances like this are incredibly rare—but then again, personally, I find the publication (or even just the retelling) of the President's private business to be utterly unacceptable.

Not everyone necessarily needs to be privy to that whole mess involving the pokemon-bokserieca and those teddy bears. 🤣

Wait, what on earth was that??? Go ask the author for permission right now! I need to know, I absolutely musssttt...🤣

hollowtrucker77 said:I actually dig this, Nicholas King
🙂
cosmictinker21, that would just fall under the general forum rules, so it wouldn't even be subject to the specific sub-forum regulations

That would actually be great! Though, I have a feeling it wouldn't do much good against the bad actors. They’d just reject the whole idea of posting anything, then claim they aren't guilty by making up some excuse about how it's a private matter and they won't allow any public oversight into their personal business. They’d kick up such a massive fuss, something along the lines of: "Who do they think they are, sticking their noses into my private correspondence? Everyone knows I'm an upright, blameless citizen. I won't allow it. I couldn't care less what people think, blah, blah..." And then, acting all nonchalant, they play the principled hero who refuses to let anyone peek at their "privacy." Meanwhile, they'll round up a mob of opportunists and sycophants to cover their tracks... those types would rather cause a scene than just admit: "Yeah, I'm a total jerk, sorry."🤷

Nicholas King said:It’s actually quite simple if you just add one tiny detail: "posting private messages is prohibited without the author's permission." And there you go—wishing everyone the best of luck. The person claiming it didn't happen will either agree to let the message be posted (and then screw themselves) or refuse to allow it (and thus screw themselves by essentially confirming the message exists in the first place).

Yeah, sure, but now you have to draft that in triplicate and get it notarized by a public official😁 I don't exactly think this forum's rules change that easily... besides, every single PDF seems to have its own weird little set of supplemental bylaws, if I'm noticing anything at all...😕

Maria Brown5 said:Yeah, maybe they'll just move us all to the Pets section🤣

There's actually a cute little sub-forum right next door
hollowtrucker77

Well, you could always just show up to the psychology sessions! It's not like the topics there aren't already overloaded from being migrated over from the alternative forums. Besides, love is basically just a psychological issue anyway, isn't it?😍

restlessfox9 said:And why on earth not just start a new thread? 😬
I am also casting my vote to stay.

Honestly, at least we still have this thread! One specific thread was basically demolished for no reason—or at least, no reason that made sense to us regular users. Then it was stripped from the main view, apparently left to die in some moderator's digital abyss...🤷 then, because someone specifically asked for its resurrection, it came back. But once people started actually talking again, it mysteriously vanished only to reappear as a PDF file that isn't even appropriate for this space. Threads about deep theories don't really belong alongside panic attacks, psychological development, or messy relationship drama. Oh well, I guess that's just how it goes...🙂

driftingfox33 said:What are you even talking about...? 😕
This is pure off-topic stuff... and you're totally hijacking the thread.

don't get worked up. I feel for Megan White4🙂🙂🙂

hollowtrucker77 said:Instead of making a scene online, you could just forward the stuff to an admin and expect them to fix the mess.
Because there's no denying it, the issue is definitely real.

I’ll admit, there were a couple of times I posted something that felt pretty heavy—mostly because I wanted everyone else to see exactly what kind of absolute jerk we were dealing with, so they wouldn't fall for his polite act. Naturally, I got hit with a mountain of accusations that I was some kind of psychopath. Heh, yeah. Probably just projection, who knows...😁
and all this happened while the mods were basically asleep at the wheel. I was actually risking a ban myself. Eventually, though, they started paying attention...

If someone calls me names or makes some comment about my weight, I don't even blink; anyone who actually knows me knows how I am. But once they start bringing up my career, attacking my credentials, or claiming I'm out here chasing younger guys😂 and spinning these ridiculous little fairy tales about my size (okay, fine, I've put on a few pounds lately🤣), starting with total lies about my education... then I'm lighting fires and breathing down the admins' necks!😠 Sometimes it feels like a waste of breath, though...😢