I was watching a documentary last night about how much the nature of conflict has shifted in the last decade, and it really hit me how vulnerable people feel these days. It used to be that you felt safe in your own home, tucked away in some quiet neighborhood, but now it feels like nowhere is truly "off limits."
There’s something deeply unsettling about the idea that technology has made it so easy to strike people who aren't even on a battlefield. It feels like the concept of a "front line" is becoming obsolete, which is a pretty terrifying thought for anyone living in a populated area. It’s not just about the immediate danger; it’s the psychological toll of never knowing if the sky is going to stay quiet or suddenly turn chaotic.
Do you think we're moving toward a world where civilian life will never feel truly secure again, no matter where you live?
Hey hollowridge88, I really hope someone jumps in here who actually knows their stuff about this. Sadly, I knew a lady who dealt with the exact same thing your mom is going through—she was vomiting just like that right before she lost her fight with the illness. Obviously, everyone's situation is different. What are the doctors telling you guys? I am so incredibly sorry you're dealing with this. Hang in there, truly, because I know exactly how heavy this all feels right now.
hollowridge88, I am so sorry, I honestly know exactly what you’re going through. My dad passed away just two months after his diagnosis—there was absolutely nothing we could do. I ran myself ragged trying everything, mentally and physically breaking down, but it didn't matter... I'm with casualhound on everything she said, too. Just stay by your mom's side. Try to keep her hydrated, clean, and comfortable. Even if she's feeling terrible right now, I know she feels your love and that she's proud of you. It's hard to find anything smart to say other than I hope Mom has minimal pain, and I hope you find the strength to get through this. Thinking of you guys.
Zachary Howard2, don't beat yourself up. I know how you feel, but you seriously meant well. You know as well as I do that with this kind of illness, anything can go wrong. It's the same for me—I'm constantly thinking about what I missed or if there was something else we could have done... it's an endless cycle of "what ifs." I really believe it if they told you at the Mayo Clinic that dialysis will fix things. Your intentions were pure, and honestly, who knows? If he hadn't had surgery, maybe everything would have just metastasized and been way worse. Hoping to hear some better news from you soon.
Edward Grant3, I'm so sorry you guys are going through this too. I totally get what you mean—that feeling of being helpless just rips your heart out. But honestly, regardless of everything, I know your dad is proud of how much you're stepping up and showing him love. These diseases are absolute curses for taking our loved ones away. Hang in there and stay strong. Wishing you all the best in this fight, and praying your dad finds some relief from the pain and suffering.
Fiz, I honestly think he'll feel way better mentally once he's back home. Being stuck in the hospital destroys even healthy people, let alone someone fighting this hard. I’d definitely talk to the Doctor before starting any practice—if he needs some meds to help his mood, better that than just giving up. You know how much it matters that he doesn't quit. Also, like I mentioned before, maybe look into contacting a support group (if there's one for this specific illness) so he can talk to people who have actually been through it. I don't know, being smart is hard; everyone reacts differently, but you've gotta try. Good luck! Keep us posted.
Zachary Howard2, don't go getting ahead of yourself. I do the exact same thing all the time, even when I know deep down I did the best I could with what I had at the moment, so I'm sure it's the same with you. Let us know what His doctor says today.
Fiz, I don't have any genius advice here, but I know a friend's mother-in-law had stomach cancer and towards the end, she was vomiting black. People also told me that a fever can be caused by the disease itself (metastases, cancer). Honestly, I hope things turn out okay, but they really should probably get a second opinion.
Hey Carl Kern66, please accept my sincere condolences. I am totally with you because I've been through this exact same thing—you keep holding onto hope even when there’s absolutely none left, but how could you act any other way when it's our own flesh and blood?😢
Zachary Howard2, I honestly don't even know what to tell you. Maybe ask the hospital if they can get him a psychologist to talk to. When I was sick, talking to people who were actually going through the same thing saved me. They gave me advice that not a single doctor ever thought to mention because, let's face it, doctors haven't lived through it themselves. I know it's tough when your father-in-law is stuck in the hospital, but maybe try calling a support group if there's one out there. If this is just a mental hurdle for him, that could really help. I know it from experience.