ruggedraven36 said:There was a time when guys rocked long hair and bright, colorful outfits—back then, people would mock them and call them women. But they didn't see themselves that way. That whole style carried a different message entirely. It was about saying we’re all humans first, before we even get to being men or women. My look confuses you because you've been conditioned to lead with biology—to see everything through that narrow lens—but I’m trying to shift the focus. I want you to see my humanity and my spirit instead.
Pretty much, yeah. But there's more to it. I started growing my hair out when I hit high school back in '72. (Clothes-wise, I always played it safe). Back then, at 15, I was short and had a pretty face—could've passed for a girl with some makeup and the right outfit, but that wasn't the point. That phase ended pretty quick.
It was basically just pure anti-establishment rebellion, just like those kids in the '60s who started the whole long-hair craze. By '72, it was somewhat acceptable, but just a few years prior, some high school principals were actually banning long-haired kids (and girls in miniskirts) from campus. It was even tougher in the small towns—I remember reading about a case where cops hauled in two long-haired kids and forcibly buzzed their heads at the station.
Beyond the rebellion, it was a rejection of that forced "manliness" everyone pushed. "Manliness" isn't biology; it's a social construct designed to make you fit a mold. Check my posts #86 and 87 for my take on that.
By most standards, I'm a "typical guy," though plenty of people would disagree.
Some folks pushed the whole androgyny thing, but honestly, that's just another rigid box to live in.
Long hair back then was a middle finger to the "ideal teenager" image, much like the mini-skirt or wearing makeup. It's all social conditioning: if you lived in a society where Viking braids were the norm, there wouldn't be any rebellion in it.
I kept the long hair for decades; it used to reach mid-back when I was younger. Eventually, it stopped being a social protest and just became my way of being myself. It wasn't about wanting to be a woman—long hair on guys is standard now anyway. Last year, with a long beard and flowing hair, someone told me I looked like an old-school hippie biker.😁 Now, I'm keeping it short and grooming the beard. At 65, the long look just made me look messy and unkempt.
Shaving your head can be a rebellion too, or maybe just conforming to a specific group. I knew a couple of women who shaved their heads specifically to dodge that pressure to look "feminine" or "pretty" (whether that worked is debatable; personally, I still thought one of them was attractive).