Posts by Eric Gray2

Hey there! 👋

I know it’s Sunday evening, but I’ve ended up feeling absolutely terrible—like, totally under the weather—so I can't really get out and do anything productive with this beautiful day. I realize it's Sunday for the mods too, but I actually submitted some reports almost 48 hours ago and haven't seen any movement from anyone, so I was hoping someone in charge might take a look at this.

On the thread "I am happy with myself so I can be happy in a relationship" (PDF US), I commented on a post by user ex anais. Regarding the part where she wrote:

ex anais said:He should love me even when I'm acting out after a frustrating situation—and that's already a mess. Just like how I'll love him when he's in a coma. If someone only wants the polished version of me, they can deal with someone else.

I responded with:

Taylor Swift said:Just like Marilyn Monroe.

In response to my comment, ex anais replied:

ex anais said:Yeah, exactly, girl boss. 🙏

🤦

And then I came back with:

Taylor Swift said:Don't judge me for making associations. 🤷

Now this user is resorting to "low blows" and insinuating that I'm attacking her, mostly because I commented on one of her earlier posts as well. The mods can see the posts, but I can't quote them here because they've been deleted.

ex anais said:I could easily take a cheap shot back at you, but honestly, I just don't have the energy for it. You’ve been picking at me for a while now for reasons that are entirely your own—so, just put me on ignore or whatever. 😁

My response to all that was simply stating that I was commenting on the post, which I was:

Taylor Swift said:1. A post.
2. An association.
3. A reply.

A forum. 🤷

And then I get this lovely little ad hominem:

ex anais said:Look, just shrug your shoulders and act cool; I truly don't care what kind of person you've become, but I won't tolerate toxicity and venom anywhere near my vicinity. If I decide to insult you, I'm going to do it straight up—no beating around the bush, no passive-aggressiveness, and no gloves. But you're just not important enough to me. This is a forum. And since I actually want to keep this place pleasant, stay away from me. Seriously. If you won't, I'll just put you on ignore. Because I am absolutely not interested in reading your nonsense, regardless of who else is writing here. It's pathetic that someone capable of writing like you do chooses to be a female version of ExxonMobil. Whatever. Bye. 👋

Edit: I'm not going to keep trashing someone else's thread. You came in here, took a swing at me, and let's just end it there.

To that, I continued the discussion by expanding on my comment regarding her post (which clearly hit a nerve):

Taylor Swift said:Come on, since Anaïs doesn't want to think I'm nitpicking, I'll elaborate.

No one is obligated to endure anyone else's bullshit just to earn, I don't know, some fragrant meadow of happiness. Nobody is required to love someone when they're acting out or being difficult, but that also doesn't mean that a "polished version" of anyone is inherently good. Putting up with someone's nonsense and frustrations and their erratic behavior usually just signals a willingness to swallow even more crap. That tends to lead toward total subservience, especially if you throw in that word "deserved" along the way. And as for a "polished version," it's irrelevant anyway.

Whatever. Anaïs will probably still think I'm just nitpicking, but we can't all be forum golden children.

Then I get hit with even more ad hominems and trolling:

I honestly can't stop thinking about that whole situation with Anaïs—it’s just one of those things that sticks in your mind, you know? It feels like there was so much unsaid, so much left hanging in the air between everyone involved. I've been sitting here trying to make sense of it all, and frankly, it's pretty heavy. There’s a certain weight to how things ended, a sort of lingering heaviness that you just can't shake off easily. It wasn't just a simple disagreement or some passing phase; it felt deeper than that, more complicated than most people realize at first glance. I keep going back to the details, wondering if we all missed something obvious, or if we were just too caught up in the moment to see the writing on the wall. It's tough to wrap your head around sometimes. kaže:
A I feel like you aren't really hearing me—not even close. After all this time, you’d think you'd be able to spot a caricature when it's staring you right in the face, wouldn't you?
Look, I’m not out here looking for conspiracies or trying to pick fights with everyone I meet—that's just not my style—but if I’m with you, I should be able to tell you when I'm having a rough day or feeling completely off-kilter without it becoming some massive interrogation. I am certainly not going to sit there and provide a detailed thesis to prove that I’m not just some spoiled brat taking my bad mood out on my partner—though, hey, you're more than welcome to jump to that conclusion and run with it if that's what you want to do, I guess. You know what I mean?
I’ve never played anyone, and I’ve never let anyone play me—it’s just not how I operate. If you’ve dealt with stuff like that in your past relationships, I am honestly so sorry—that really sucks. But just so we're clear, I'm not the one to blame for you throwing around insults and calling me some kind of loser.

Is this enough for tonight, or are we going to keep this rolling? I’m honestly about to crash—I'm heading to bed. Plus, the mods will be jumping back in first thing in the morning anyway, so we might as well call it.

I’m going to jump back in here and stay on topic this time:

Taylor Swift said:Look, I’ve always felt like this one hits home—that whole "if you can't handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best" sentiment. It sounds a bit intense, I know, but there's a real truth buried in there—it's about accountability and finding someone who actually sticks around when things get messy. Life isn't some polished Instagram feed or a perfect Hollywood rom-com; we all have those days where we're difficult, irrational, or just plain exhausted. If a person is only interested in being around for the highlights—the celebrations, the easy laughs, the "best" versions of us—then they aren't really a partner, they're just a fair-weather fan. Real intimacy requires seeing the cracks in the foundation and deciding to stay anyway. You need someone who sees the chaos and doesn't run for the hills, because if they can't navigate the rough patches with you, they definitely haven't earned the right to enjoy the sunshine.
Your post immediately brings to mind that hollow, empty quote—you know, the kind that’s basically Abusive Relationship 101.

And I’ll add this to the mix—because it seems like one particular user is clearly trying to turn this entire thing into something deeply personal, which, frankly, isn't my business at all:

Taylor Swift said:I don't really get why you're trying to turn this into some personal attack or an ad hominem argument—it’s just not that deep. Honestly, everyone else here is allowed to comment on what you write on the forum, so I'm not sure why I'm being singled out. It feels like a double standard, especially since you already snapped at me once before when I was just quoting one of your posts.
I have to hand it to you—you definitely know how to take some shots better than I do. Bravo.

Just a little more trolling and insults coming from her side:
Quote: That’s really all you know me for, isn't it? Well, now we're finished. For good.

I was just thinking about that whole situation with Anaïs—it’s honestly such a mess. It feels like one of those things where you can’t really look at it from just one angle without feeling a bit conflicted. You want to take a side, but the more you dig into what actually happened, the more everything starts to feel a little gray. It’s frustrating when things aren't black and white, isn't it? I've been sitting with it for a while now, trying to make sense of the fallout, but it's tough to find a clear answer when everyone involved seems to have their own version of the truth. kaže: Alright, like I was saying— You’re more than welcome to label me an abuser—and that goes for the people I hang out with, too.Look, I’m asking you nicely—please just keep your own projections to yourself and stop involving me in them. This is the third time I’ve had to say it, so let’s just move past this and leave me out of it from here on out. You aren't going to be treating me. Look, I’m not your abuser, and I have never once yelled at you—not in person, not over the phone, not anywhere. Do you get that? Look, I just don't want you grouping me in with people like that—and I definitely don't want you blowing my post up into some massive, empty forum drama. That might work if you're just trying to keep the local crew in line.It’s just not working on my end, though. Apparently, everything on this forum counts as violence now. And you—you’re basically the gold standard for all of it. You and everyone else just like you. God forbid someone accidentally says something that looks even remotely unacceptable to you or one of your little uniformed forum robots—let’s just go ahead and dogpile them. Let’s just tear them apart. I’ve been watching this play out for years, and honestly, I guess I’m just a little slow to catch on—it’s only just started making my skin crawl. Are we done yet? Or does this bully actually need to be begged because she can't find any other way to get her point across? And yeah, when someone drags me down that low and calls me an abuser, I’m going to hit back just as hard.

Taylor Swift says: I’ll just leave all of this right here. But don't lie and pretend you aren't happy to take a cheap shot. If anything, you've been dying to do it.

After that, she wasn't quite satisfied, so she decides to wrap things up in such a

ex anais said:Just like those toxic posts you used to make. I stand by every word I say, but it's obvious you just came here tonight to stab me with your venom, mock my post with that subtle, passive-aggressive style of yours, label me an abuser, and then gracefully wash your hands of the whole thing as if you’re just some innocent bystander passing through. Honestly, I’m just baffled.

I’m also asking that this doesn't get deleted. Even though it’s a shame to let such a good thread sit here looking like garbage, oh my god.

Yeah, much like how you couldn't wait to start talking trash about me again, for whatever personal reasons you have—because as far as I can remember, I’ve never said a single bad thing to you. But I guess this is just some weird forum sport where people just pick on someone who was perfectly fine to them, tear them to shreds, and then move on the next day like nothing happened. I don't play games like that.

Since the report has been sitting there for a while—and I assume it's not just mine, since ex anais was also "threatening" the mods who show up in the morning—I’m reaching out to the super-mods in charge of the US section and the admins. I’m asking for these posts to be reviewed and sanctioned. I would also appreciate it if the parts targeting me personally could be removed. Thanks!

This topic definitely doesn't belong under Psychology—which was actually my suggestion in my last post.
If you’re looking to dive deeper into the specific concepts people were touching on there—especially considering the different perspectives everyone brought to the table—it might be a better move to start a thread over in Philosophy, which is where this discussion just got moved.

It’s honestly such a breath of fresh air when people actually show a little patience—thanks, Arthur Campbell2. 🙂

granitegull51 said:I don't see what's so confidential about this; we aren't talking about nuclear physics or top-secret military intel here.

Look, I'm not really interested in all the "it depends" talk. Let's just look at a typical American corporation looking to hire some entry-level grunt work—what are the actual, "correct" answers to those questions?

🤣

You're being ridiculous. 🙂

If you want the manual, just check the Psychology Act—all the "right" answers are laid out right there. 😉

Wait, are you seriously asking why some people are perfect for one role but a complete disaster in another? 🤔
It really just comes down to the fundamental differences in individual skill sets and personality types. 🤷

nimblelynx7 said:Why is everyone obsessed with this idea of "honesty"? At the end of the day, an employer is going to hire whoever they actually want to hire. These psychometric tests are just there to confirm their existing biases.

All these psychological assessments are nothing more than experts chanting mantras to pretend they have some kind of exact science. In reality, they’re barely more reliable than a tribal shaman.

Maybe take the trolling somewhere else next time.

granitegull51 said:Even if they throw in whatever kind of scale they want, people tend to answer similar questions in pretty much the same way—either consistently or just staying neutral 😉

So, if that's the case, what does an "Accurate-Desired" answer even look like?

That depends on a whole lot of different factors—really. Besides, you aren't going to get a straight answer like that from anyone with half a brain, which is exactly why that kind of information is kept under wraps for a reason.

To’s just how people are—everyone has their own way of doing things.

Guys, you're killing it.

Andrew Price3 said:shadowheron49, let the terror consume you. Let it tear through everything. Let it shatter every single defense. Because that’s always been the point—to break through your fear. Dare to be crucified. Without mercy.
Tell Him: "Just do it. Show me Your full glory. Have no mercy on this girl. And as You cut, pierce, tear, and break me, I will feel nothing but love for You."
Break, lose your mind, go mad, die, and experience the absolute ecstasy of pain and suffering. Go deeper than what seems possible, and discover a new life within the wreckage of an old paradigm.
There is no other way, except through That. Because that terror... is nothing less than HIM... trying to reach inside you.

Whoa... 🤔 🙂

casualharbor9 said:Why did one of you two delete my previous posts where I was just mentioning seeing top-tier psychiatrists and neuroscientists regarding the pharmaceutical industry—without any ad hominem attacks or anything directed at anyone personally?

Look, mouse🙂, the reason is simple: those posts were just copy-pasted articles from the internet. If you had actually bothered to read the forum rules—or even respected them as a guideline for how to post here—it would be obvious to you that this isn't some conspiracy against you personally. Those types of posts get deleted. Period. You want to debate? Fine. But use your own words and keep it civil. (And honestly, you’ve had plenty of chances to do that, and you've repeatedly proven you aren't capable of it.)

So after all that, you hand out bans or partial bans because I'm responding to provocations that you guys just stubbornly ignore?

No. 🙂 You got a partial ban because you were told exactly what would happen after your next outburst, and yet you (QED) just can't help yourself—turning everything into a personal vendetta and your "holy war" against the "evil mods" who apparently have a specific grudge against you alone 😳 and then jumping into the thread to critique the moderation itself. Again, if you had read the rules, you'd know that's strictly forbidden. A user with nearly 9,000 posts shouldn't be ignorant of the rules, especially when they've already been sanctioned for the exact same thing.

We won't be seeing each other on the Psychology PDF anymore.

silentpuma3 said:On top of that, people used to say all sorts of things to my face—telling me others were more valuable or that I was just a bad person and so on. Honestly, that feels way worse than some abstract comment about "psychopaths and hopeless cases," because those insults were aimed directly at who I am as a person. And yet, nobody ever stepped up to say anything. Not once.

Links? Examples? Actual proof?

Who did you report those controversial posts to?

Matthew Castillo5 said:If I recall correctly, ZLR refers to the rehabilitation center. As for ZPP, I'm not entirely sure—maybe it's the psychiatric hospital.

Everyone seems to be talking about mental health disorders. 🙂 My guess is that ZPP actually refers to the First Psychotic Disorder Clinic.

You’ve actually earned a custom card here because of your recent contributions to this thread—specifically all the trolling, off-topic rambling, and those cheap ad hominem attacks. Honestly, if I handed out points for every single one of your posts, we’d be having this conversation over in the ban corner by now.

Most of what you write in the psychology subforum boils down to the same pattern: trolling, attacking people personally, whining about the mods, and veering wildly off-topic. On top of that, you constantly jump into threads about psych meds or psychiatry just because you see them as an easy target to vent about "evil" psychiatry, Big Pharma, or whatever other white-supremacist conspiracy theories you're currently obsessed with.

We used to tolerate that kind of rhetoric in the psychology section for a while, but we aren't in the business of overlooking trolling, insults, or people trying to drag public debates into private vendettas—especially from users who have over 8,000 posts and enough seniority to know better, especially when they drop lines like

But shhh, let's not give the mods any reason to shut down this super educational thread again. 😉

It’s pretty clear you know exactly which rules you're breaking. 🙂