brightgardener8 said:God, Angela Wright, everything looks so perfect in those nursing home brochures and on their websites, but the reality inside the facility is a completely different story—and I bet you know that yourself. They claim they’re experts, they’re dedicated, they’re fully equipped, blah, blah, blah...
The massive fees people pay go straight into the pockets of the administration, who couldn't care less about the patients. As for the staff? They’re understaffed and likely underpaid, which means they have zero motivation to actually do their jobs. Shout out to the rare exceptions, I guess.
As if being sick isn't enough, or the sheer agony of losing a loved one, now you also have to fight with the nursing home staff after dealing with doctors and hospitals.
Specifically, at 'our' facility, we have a case where a staff member is screaming at a patient with Parkinson's just because the patient is being stubborn and won't comply. Just imagine: someone suffering from full-blown dementia is being accused of being "stubborn" and "disobedient"!!!! I personally know how to handle people better than someone whose entire job is supposed to be caring for the sick...
It’s pathetic that in situations like this, we don't have any real alternatives.
We have an elderly aunt in a state-run facility, and they "handled" her pretty poorly. I've heard endless stories about how this woman, who was semi-mobile at the time and hyperactive, had her personal belongings locked away and refused to give them back. Then, she ended up collapsing and breaking her hip, and they left her sitting there with a broken hip for 24 hours before anyone realized she had bruises. Because they delayed treatment letting her body "cool down" before setting the bone, she needed surgery that they couldn't perform due to her heart condition. So, now they have a completely immobile person under their care. Basically, ever since I made a scene and threatened to call the local news, the service has been amazing. They're all over her now.
Look, it's not the same everywhere, but my point is always the same: sometimes you have to be bold, pushy, and look down your nose at them, because that's the only way to get anything done.