Timothy Morgan38 said:So, here’s the thing... I’m trying to wrap my head around what stress actually *is*. How do you tell if your stress levels are spiking, and more importantly, if you’re actually handling it effectively?...
The reason I’m asking is that I keep seeing doctors chalk everything up to "stress." In way too many cases, they just stop there and don't bother with further testing...
Given that I've been hit with one thing after another over the last two years, I have no doubt I'm under massive amounts of pressure, but at the same time, I feel like I'm holding up pretty well...
How do you actually spot it? Does "poor coping" mean someone is slowly unraveling, or can you be under fire without showing any obvious signs of being on edge?...
Because my situation is a bit of a mess...
Last year was just a constant stream of inflammations, issues with blood in my urine (prostate inflammation), and having gum surgery performed across all four quadrants of my mouth... This year has been even worse. My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer, and my wife had some gynecological "mysteries" that—thankfully—turned out to be nothing serious... On top of that, we've been dealing with a financial crisis and a string of other stupid setbacks that only made things harder... I haven't had a decent vacation in three years, and this year, I didn't get a single day off...
Yet, despite all that, I’m not falling apart. Most of the time, I’m calm, I handle problems well, and I don't panic...
Recently, I had some pretty serious health issues, and my doctor's first question was whether I was under stress... and if these symptoms could be caused by stress...
My response was simple: "nothing out of the ordinary"
Her comeback? "you are one of the rare ones"
So, now I'm wondering... how do you know if stress is actually messing with your daily life and your physical health?
Like I said, I think I'm doing fine (in my own opinion). I don't bottle things up; I talk about my problems immediately and deal with them right away instead of waiting for them to "cool off," and generally speaking, I feel mentally solid, despite all the nonsense and misfortune we've faced...
Is my good mental state a sign that I'm managing well, or are there non-psychological indicators that stress is present and slowly taking "control" of my body?
I hope I'm not overcomplicating this, but it really threw me when my doctor suggested she didn't believe I wasn't stressed. She told me that the signs of stress aren't just "shaky hands" or "wild eyes with a manic stare"—she meant you don't need visible symptoms for the stress to be actively impacting your overall physical condition...
Stress isn't really a specific event itself—it's more about how you perceive that event. It doesn't matter so much what’s happening in your life, but rather how you interpret it. Psychologically speaking, stress kicks in when someone feels like they won't be able to meet certain demands, whether those are coming from the outside world or from within, simply because those requirements exceed their current capacity.
The reason is that I'm seeing doctors attribute all sorts of different issues to stress more and more often, and in many cases, they don't even bother running further tests...
Because that's honestly the reality of it.
Since I've had so many bad and stressful things happen over the last two years, I have no doubt I'm under a lot of stress, but at the same time, I feel like I'm coping pretty well with it...
Our brains use unconscious ways to distort reality to protect us from anxiety—basically defense mechanisms. It might be denial in your case... or maybe not.
How do you recognize stress? Does "not coping" mean a person is slowly falling apart, or can they go through it without showing any obvious signs of being on edge...
Stress can't exist without some level of agitation. If there's no agitation, there's no stress, even if potential stressors are present. What I mean is that something might be a massive stressor for one person but nothing at all to someone else. You can't judge if you're stressed just by looking at the events themselves.
You recognize stress through psychological and physiological reactions.
PSYCHOLOGICAL:- intense emotions that interfere with cognitive processes
- difficulty concentrating or thinking logically
- feelings of anger, depression, aggression, or anxiety accompanied by fear, tension, and worry
- frequent panic attacks
PHYSIOLOGICAL:various psychosomatic reactions
- we can "measure" physiological stress via glucocorticoid levels (adrenal cortex hormones) and adrenaline and noradrenaline levels (from the adrenal medulla); high levels of these hormones are linked to numerous physical ailments
Adrenaline speeds up your heart rate and raises blood pressure, which can lead to hardening of the arteries, strokes, heart attacks, angina pectoris, and so on.
Stress is also linked to diabetes, asthma, allergies, certain skin conditions, various types of cancer, stomach ulcers... and more and more diseases as time goes on.
Stress weakens the immune system's response through T-cells and B-cells, which in turn makes you more susceptible to infectious diseases.
| Is feeling mentally okay a sign that I'm actually handling stress well, or could there be physical symptoms creeping in that show stress is starting to take over without me realizing it? |
Take a look above. You might be experiencing some somatic symptoms from stress. I went through a phase where I felt perfectly fine mentally—or at least, that's what I told myself—but my body was absolutely falling apart. I honestly didn't believe my doctors when they said it was all stress. It just goes to show that you can be under massive pressure without being consciously aware of it; maybe you are, you just haven't admitted it to yourself yet.
If you’re feeling off, whether physically or mentally, and you suspect stress is the culprit, you’re probably right.
Sorry for the long post.🙂