Love as a fixed idea
in Psychology ·
... oh, believe me, it’s out there... and in much more intense forms... some people just tap out early, others take their sweet time... and then there are those who never manage to face it at all...
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Does your brain have a gender?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
Daniel Wilson5 said:Let me guess... 80 percent women, 20 percent men, haha...
😲 How did you know? Honestly, now I finally understand why I find myself staring at the women's lingerie section whenever I'm at Target...
Does your brain have a gender?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
I’m actually a bit embarrassed to admit this...
What exactly is "homophobia"?
in Psychology ·
Lisa Hernandez3 said:If these old-timers—these true experts and pros—keep this up,
we might as well just rename the thread to "The Mysterious John and his funny little PDF: It's someone else's problem, so trolling is fair game."
... it was fun regardless... nice work, Ryan Wood98! 😂
Serial Killers: Q&A...
in Psychology ·
Quentin Tarantino
So, what exactly would those questions be? (You don't have to list every single one, obviously...)
Not many questions come to mind, really. Aside from the obvious "why"—and maybe the standard stuff like "what's their name" or "where do they live"...
wearyowl29 said:Oh boy, 😕I would have a million questions for them... and then some...😁
So, what exactly would those questions be? (You don't have to list every single one, obviously...)
Not many questions come to mind, really. Aside from the obvious "why"—and maybe the standard stuff like "what's their name" or "where do they live"...
Serial Killers: Q&A...
in Psychology ·
Betty Chase54 said:Now you've gone and done it. Asking questions like that is exactly how people end up on the "do not disturb" list...😲
😱
Serial Killers: Q&A...
in Psychology ·
Quentin Tarantino
I’d honestly just report him to the moderator... let him face the music for breaking the forum rules.
Sophia Murphy37 said:How would you guys actually handle someone who’s a mass shooter posting right here on the forum—assuming they were honest about it?
Not talking about myself because of my username, just... I'm curious.
I’d honestly just report him to the moderator... let him face the music for breaking the forum rules.
Why does everyone think they're so great?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
The whole idea of being "good" is incredibly, deeply subjective...
Take parenthood, for instance: everyone who wants kids assumes they’ll be a fantastic parent, yet we see it all the time where reality hits differently—parents prioritizing their own whims and selfish interests over the very children they claim to cherish (and I'm not even talking about people with genuine clinical issues here).
Or look at another angle: what one person considers virtuous, someone else might view as straight-up malicious; think about various political ideologies or differing views on sexuality...
Then you have those who don't even bother with the concept at all. They couldn't care less how they appear in the eyes of others, provided it doesn't affect them personally and they feel comfortable in their own skin... and honestly, that seems to be the largest group of all.
Take parenthood, for instance: everyone who wants kids assumes they’ll be a fantastic parent, yet we see it all the time where reality hits differently—parents prioritizing their own whims and selfish interests over the very children they claim to cherish (and I'm not even talking about people with genuine clinical issues here).
Or look at another angle: what one person considers virtuous, someone else might view as straight-up malicious; think about various political ideologies or differing views on sexuality...
Then you have those who don't even bother with the concept at all. They couldn't care less how they appear in the eyes of others, provided it doesn't affect them personally and they feel comfortable in their own skin... and honestly, that seems to be the largest group of all.
Serial Killers: Q&A...
in Psychology ·
Karen Booth3 said:It’s a damn interesting movie, if I do say so myself, though the whole backstory regarding Aileen is just heartbreaking. We all know there are plenty of lowlifes out there who would mistreat a sex worker without a second thought, simply because nobody cares enough to look out for her or even bother to listen to her side of the story... It really is such a profound injustice.
... and to me, she comes across more as a victim in the film... which is exactly how Theron herself described her...
Serial Killers: Q&A...
in Psychology ·
Donna Wood52 said:You’ve probably all heard the story about Ted Bundy—he got dumped by his girlfriend, and after that, he just started targeting women with long, dark hair, specifically those who were brunettes.
He would rape them and then... well, you know. These kinds of complexes almost always stem from some deep-seated traumatic event that someone simply hasn't processed properly.
I also find it interesting how serial killers are almost exclusively men. I honestly can't think of a single female serial killer, even though
I remember reading somewhere in a newspaper that Jack Trbosjek might have actually been a woman in disguise. But hey, who knows. 🤷
Melpy, you're scaring me now... how on earth did you dig up a thread this old from two and a half years ago?
Serial Killers: Q&A...
in Psychology ·
wearyowl29 said:I was just scrolling through the news this morning and read about this absolute monster—some guy who slaughtered around 60 sex workers, and some people are even saying he might have ground them up into sausages. It’s gruesome stuff. It really got me thinking about why, by almost universal rule, serial killers are men and their victims are women, most often those working in the nightlife industry.
Where does all that deep-seated, pathological hatred toward women come from? Why do they feel driven to go on these relentless killing sprees...?
And honestly, why don't we see more female serial killers out there? Why does it always seem like they're the ones being targeted instead of the ones doing the targeting...?
How do you all make sense of this???😕
... I'm more curious about what kind of sausages we're talking about here?...
Why is there such a "God complex" among doctors?
in Psychology ·
... honestly, some people won't be any smarter than a bag of hammers just because they have a degree... if they're carrying them around like nothing more than extra weight in their pants... excuse my language...
Heartbroken over nothing
in Psychology & Therapy ·
... that’s what we call unrequited love...
( Are we actually in a psychology class right now, or just some low-budget reality show? )
( Are we actually in a psychology class right now, or just some low-budget reality show? )
How do you deal with boomers attacking you on a forum?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
WE ARE JUST OLD BAGGAGE; RESISTING IS A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME
The social psychology of homophobia
in Psychology ·
Jerry Cooper3 said:If you look back a century, people were busy mocking women simply because they weren't even granted the right to vote; fast forward to today, and we see women leading entire governments and commanding nations
Just fifty years ago, Black Americans were treated as if they were somehow inferior, yet here we are, having seen a Black man ascend to the presidency of the USA!
Looking ahead, I fully expect that within twenty-five years, the LGBTQ+ community will have achieved full legal equality and all their rights secured!
???
Women in Switzerland didn't even get the right to vote until 1971.
http://www.swissworld.org/en/people/...right_to_vote/
And what about the hundreds of millions in the Islamic world?
Fifty years ago, Black people were considered an inferior race, and today we have a Black man as President of the USA!
I expect that within 25 years, the LGBTQ+ community will have all their rights too!
That’s an optimistic way of looking at it. The pessimistic view is that we'll be striking flint just to try and start a fire...
The social psychology of homophobia
in Psychology ·
lonegardener said:To be honest, I don't care if something is legal or not—I only care about my own perspective. 😍
Why should I worry about the law? There are too many governments and too many different sets of rules. 🤷
Laws only matter to me in a "practical sense"—I'd prefer not to end up in prison. But when it comes to morality, philosophy, or ethics... the law is completely irrelevant to me.
Spot on. "Law" and "justice" are two entirely different concepts.
It’s up to us to bridge that gap as much as we can.
The social psychology of homophobia
in Psychology ·
Back when I was just a kid, we used to make fun of anyone who was overweight...
stupidity + malice = social phobia
stupidity + malice = social phobia
Why do people need a scapegoat?
in Psychology ·
We tend to forget—or perhaps we just refuse to admit—that we are essentially biological machines, hardwired and engineered for survival. We are merely the latest link in a chain of millions of generations that evolved through every branch of the animal kingdom, carrying the structural remnants of our ancestors within us. Our brain architecture follows this exact blueprint.
Every individual is capable of experiencing the full spectrum of emotion, from profound love to intense hatred (assuming there isn't some mechanical defect or congenital neurological deficit present), because these feelings were vital components in the ancient struggle for existence at one point or another.
Why was hatred necessary? You can’t fight a member of your own species if you don't feel that visceral animosity, yet you had to fight for food, mates, or territory. Hatred simply focuses our energy toward a specific goal; it emerges as a reaction to the feeling of helplessness when faced with a persistent threat—acting as a follow-up once the initial fear, which might have saved our lives in a critical moment, has subsided.
Broadly speaking, the brain has been "designed" via evolution to produce specific emotional and cognitive responses to various external stimuli. Over time, it even developed a need to actually experience these sensations—much like how a machine occasionally needs to be "run" or tested to remain functional.
In the modern era, we generally lack the primal reasons to fight one another, since it's much easier to satisfy our basic material needs through cooperation (unless, of course, we hate the boss who is blatantly exploiting us). Living in our relatively comfortable daily routines, we find ourselves forced to invent new excuses to trigger that latent hatred within us. Usually, these targets are other people who—based on whatever arbitrary standard we hold dear—differ from us and our inner circles. Maybe they root for a different NFL team, look different, live differently, or have names and behaviors we deem "weird." They get labeled as "outsiders," whether justified or not (we all know how that plays out), and we instinctively perceive them as a potential threat.
That sense of "differentness" always triggers a danger signal deep within our subconscious, setting off a mental chain reaction that inevitably clicks into a readiness for hostility. Later, our rational minds simply manufacture an excuse for it—though for those petty, everyday instances of spite, we don't even really need one.
This pattern manifests everywhere, from toddlers in preschools (who are essentially just "practicing" for independent life) to adults who exert massive effort to construct entire ideological systems built upon it.
Hatred, which is an unavoidable emotion for most people (and one that can lead to catastrophic results in a modern civilization), needs to be properly understood, experienced, restrained, and, when necessary, redirected. If we do that, everything should be fine.
The same logic applies to our craving for fear, aggression, love, and other intense emotions. This is why people living secure, predictable lives are drawn to horror movies, action flicks, soap operas, or extreme sports... all those things missing from our current lifestyle that our physical and mental makeup were originally designed to handle.
Every individual is capable of experiencing the full spectrum of emotion, from profound love to intense hatred (assuming there isn't some mechanical defect or congenital neurological deficit present), because these feelings were vital components in the ancient struggle for existence at one point or another.
Why was hatred necessary? You can’t fight a member of your own species if you don't feel that visceral animosity, yet you had to fight for food, mates, or territory. Hatred simply focuses our energy toward a specific goal; it emerges as a reaction to the feeling of helplessness when faced with a persistent threat—acting as a follow-up once the initial fear, which might have saved our lives in a critical moment, has subsided.
Broadly speaking, the brain has been "designed" via evolution to produce specific emotional and cognitive responses to various external stimuli. Over time, it even developed a need to actually experience these sensations—much like how a machine occasionally needs to be "run" or tested to remain functional.
In the modern era, we generally lack the primal reasons to fight one another, since it's much easier to satisfy our basic material needs through cooperation (unless, of course, we hate the boss who is blatantly exploiting us). Living in our relatively comfortable daily routines, we find ourselves forced to invent new excuses to trigger that latent hatred within us. Usually, these targets are other people who—based on whatever arbitrary standard we hold dear—differ from us and our inner circles. Maybe they root for a different NFL team, look different, live differently, or have names and behaviors we deem "weird." They get labeled as "outsiders," whether justified or not (we all know how that plays out), and we instinctively perceive them as a potential threat.
That sense of "differentness" always triggers a danger signal deep within our subconscious, setting off a mental chain reaction that inevitably clicks into a readiness for hostility. Later, our rational minds simply manufacture an excuse for it—though for those petty, everyday instances of spite, we don't even really need one.
This pattern manifests everywhere, from toddlers in preschools (who are essentially just "practicing" for independent life) to adults who exert massive effort to construct entire ideological systems built upon it.
Hatred, which is an unavoidable emotion for most people (and one that can lead to catastrophic results in a modern civilization), needs to be properly understood, experienced, restrained, and, when necessary, redirected. If we do that, everything should be fine.
The same logic applies to our craving for fear, aggression, love, and other intense emotions. This is why people living secure, predictable lives are drawn to horror movies, action flicks, soap operas, or extreme sports... all those things missing from our current lifestyle that our physical and mental makeup were originally designed to handle.
Why do people need a scapegoat?
in Psychology ·
Yeah, it’s just one of those fundamental human needs. I actually posted something similar about this a few days ago. I have this whole quasi-pseudoscientific theory floating around my head regarding the matter, but... maybe tomorrow.