It honestly gets under my skin a little bit "I'm so unique, I'm so special"—that whole arrogant vibe if we're being totally real—but you guys aren't actually bad 😁, man.
People are definitely more terrified of the US than they are of some couch, for sure 🕺. And honestly? I think they have every right to be.
The newcomers actually have the upper hand here. They aren’t losing what we already lost—sounds dramatic, I know, but that’s just how it is—because they don't have that deep-seated habit or drive to write like most of the current US-ers do. If some new person shows up, acts like a sane human being, and sees the mess waiting for them, they’ll probably vanish before they even leave a single digital footprint. My only real sympathy goes to the young, naive kids who end up getting disillusioned; especially those guys who might stumble headfirst into the Ideology and decide to stick around.
fadedcobra7 said:Solid point. There was a time when adultery was actually legally sanctioned too.
Do you all think it should stay that way, or has enough changed?
When two people stand before an official and swear their vows, they agree to certain terms that carry legal weight—like one partner being responsible for the other's debts if a tragic accident happens tomorrow.
If you're asking me for real... it’s just a bit much.
Thomas Nelson25 said:Honestly, yeah. There’s no point in living with the knowledge that he only loves you halfway. Plus, the whole "other woman" dynamic basically proves it. He gets the passion there, while the wife plays the role of the mother figure. It's a little schizophrenic, honestly. The second love isn't mutual, it's just one-sided suffering.
People cheat for all kinds of reasons, and I seriously doubt only bad people cheat. When you're dealing with someone who has such a selfish, primitive personality—especially when they've got that "saint vs. sinner" complex going on—I don't know if there's any saving them, especially if they aren't even feeling guilty about it. Personally, I think people like that are always going to be true to their own worst impulses, particularly if they're already acting like total jerks in every other part of their lives. Why would he ever bother changing when life is working out perfectly for him? 🙂
Thomas Nelson25 said:If a guy cheats, he can usually crawl his way back to his wife and family—provided he plays his cards right. But even if he acts all liberal about it, deep down, that betrayal might still hit him harder than he realizes.
That kind of crawling? It’s totally fake if there isn't some actual, deep-seated repentance and a total overhaul of who they are. Look, I believe in genuine remorse and people actually turning their lives around, I really do, but I also know all about those "quick fixes"—those temporary transformations where someone acts all fired up to make things right, only for the flame to die out, leaving them right back where they started, with all those same old reasons for cheating bubbling up to the surface again eventually.
When discussing romantic relationships, my definition of cheating includes any interaction with someone else that goes beyond simple friendship.
In practice, I wouldn't even grab coffee with someone if there was mutual attraction while I was already in a relationship or marriage. No texting, no touching, no hugging, no kissing... I say this from experience; there were opportunities and invitations, and I declined them all. To me, it’s just common sense.
I always maintained that I would never forgive infidelity. After all, why stay with someone who wants someone else? However, I changed my stance after my husband cheated on me. By then, we had been together for 12 years, and our marriage existed in name only. So, I wasn't surprised, nor did it hurt much.
What actually caught me off guard was how my perspective shifted—that I eventually forgave him and was willing to try and repair the broken bond.
When you get close to someone, you start feeling like they’re actually yours, right? Everything they do hits harder because you’ve let your guard down and poured your heart into it, and honestly, nobody wants to be played for a fool when they're that vulnerable. You can build that intimacy, sure, but you can lose it just as fast. And when new people slide into the picture—especially types that don't vibe with you or people who start stealing the attention of the person you care about—it triggers this weird mix of irritation and genuine sadness. And boom, there you go: pure possessiveness. It’s a pretty selfish way to be, if we're being real, but at its core, it’s just massive insecurity and total immaturity. Look, I can wrap my head around certain feelings if they stay within reasonable limits, but I have zero patience for anyone who thinks their "feelings" give them a free pass to act like a tyrant and do whatever the hell they want. Besides, being possessive doesn't always mean you're threatened by a romantic rival. A mother might be super overprotective of her daughter and try to block her from dating, or even with a son. Or you've got the boyfriend who gets jealous and tries to stop his girl from hanging out with her girlfriends, especially if he thinks they're talking trash about him. It goes everywhere.
I honestly don't even know anymore. Just feeling totally played I want to be someone who actually has some integrity, you know? Someone who actually sticks to their word.
You guys nailed some solid points there, but I’m gonna throw one more onto the pile: overprotecting kids until they’re basically useless adults who can't even make a move without permission—you know, that whole helicopter parenting nonsense. It’s almost always linked to the other stuff. You’ve got the obvious stuff like being cold, verbal abuse, or physical violence. But then there's the psychological side? That's way more pervasive, way more insidious, and honestly, much more destructive in the long run.