Posts by Maria Reyes4

Michelle Evans said:This shows a real lack of understanding regarding how certain mental health struggles actually function.
You should check out the Psychiatric Couch forum under the OCD thread; I promise you that everyone posting there is fully aware of what they're dealing with. It isn't about "knowing"... it's about the emotions involved. As Martian7 already pointed out, someone who feels compelled to check if their front door is locked twenty-four times could easily be a Mensa member or a top-tier academic...

Actually, 😁 some people argue that OCD is just an inherent flaw in the intelligent population.

Carl Cox3 said:No, that's not how it works. In major American corporations, you first meet with a psychologist. Only if they determine you possess the necessary traits—which an employer isn't qualified to judge themselves—do you move on to the final interview with the hiring manager. You essentially face two separate evaluations. The psychologist focuses on your background and behavioral history, while the employer assesses entirely different criteria.

And this headline is even more nonsensical than the last one. How is anyone supposed to understand what the topic is about?😕

Are you actually suggesting the employer hand-picks the psychologist?

And that this psychologist operates strictly on the employer's whims—rather than some lofty ideal of global peace?

Carl Cox3 said:I wouldn't quite agree.😁

Actually, yes. It isn't that I am some lunatic who would never be hired, but wouldn't it be helpful to know certain cues that signal "I am the best candidate for this job!"? Surely there are tricks that appeal to psychologists when they decide whom to hire.
🙂

Every role demands a specific persona—sometimes you need fire, sometimes you need calm.

There’s no such thing as a "perfect" candidate for everything. You can be an absolute superstar in one field and a total disaster in another.

The qualities most employers claim to want are so incredibly basic it's almost insulting to even list them—just be punctual, polite, organized... that's about it.

Ashley Taylor45 said:So, you're hoping the crew in the States will roll out the red carpet for you like you're some kind of legend—maybe if you stopped trying to Troll everyone, things would go smoother?
And you think you can just enroll in a creative writing course? As if talent were something you could actually learn.

Resorting to accusations of jealousy when there’s zero substance behind them is a tired cliché—though, I suppose you aren't entirely wrong. It’s not my place to judge people for being friendly or social; that's their business, not mine.

But there’s really no point in dragging this off-topic nonsense any further—we're basically begging the moderators to start handing out bans for staying on-topic. 😁

Ashley Taylor45 said:Look, I always leave some wiggle room—so maybe she wasn't trying to Troll back then; perhaps she was just being optimistic and well-meaning when she said things would go south

Or maybe I'm just psychic. 😍

You correctly pointed out how he returned like Odysseus. It honestly escapes me how you missed the fact that it hasn't even been a month since he set sail again 😍

Patrick Alvarez20 said:So, let me take this step by step... I agree with your point about that "extra drop" (to put it politely). 🙂
Before him, I was lonely, sure, but I didn't view everyone I met through a lens of suspicion, wondering if they just wanted to use me. Now, whenever someone calls, my internal alarm immediately goes off—asking what this person wants from me and anticipating that once I've "served my purpose," they'll just toss me aside without a second thought (pardon my language). I wasn't like this before. Since him, I see people as nothing more than opportunists.

As for what would need to happen to change things... I honestly have no idea, and that's exactly the core of the problem. Just last weekend, I spent time with a guy I was incredibly into until that very moment. Suddenly, it hit me that he wasn't "him," and now I'm just not that interested anymore—even though, objectively speaking, he's a wonderful person. I realize I'm searching for traces of my ex in everyone else, and it's exhausting. I don't know how to stop doing that! Maybe that's why I need to hear about others' experiences, just so I feel less alone in all this chaos. 😁

Regarding other people, I don't want to burden anyone else with this anymore. I'm trying to maintain the illusion that I've moved past it, even though I haven't. That's really why I started this thread on the forum.
Thanks for the response 🙂 ...if you have any personal experience with this, please feel free to share. 😁

It isn’t about getting screwed over once you've served your purpose—that's just life. The real tragedy is being forced to serve a purpose you never signed up for in the first place.

We can sit here and wax poetic about unconditional love and lifelong friendships all we want—but honestly, what’s the point?

We all have a purpose—it’s inevitable. If we’re talking about friends, the principle remains the same. Being someone's confidant is a purpose—just as being their personal ATM is. Being a tool to kill boredom, or a sounding board, or even just a source of entertainment... none of that is inherently bad—provided you actually know what role you're playing and you're okay with it.

If you haven't figured out your purpose yet—well, you’re already in deep trouble.
Patrick Alvarez20:

Ever since he left, all I see in NYC are people just looking for an angle—people who want to use me.

How so? Sexually?

It’s actually quite simple—you just stop sleeping with anyone you don't genuinely want between your legs, everywhere else included. You only do it when you actually feel like it and truly enjoy it. No calculations, no playing long games for some vague future—just that. Honestly, I don't see how anyone could take advantage of you that way.

Patrick Alvarez20:

What would it actually take for things to change? I haven't the slightest clue—and honestly, that’s exactly where the problem lies.

You already know the deal—it takes work. Real work—not just some minor effort. Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts or quick fixes that are going to save you here.

You mentioned you let your college coursework slide—that’s clearly not doing you any favors. Focus on the variables you actually control and tackle them head-on. Your degree is one of those things.

Go out there and win—in this, or in anything else you touch. There are plenty of opportunities if you know where to look. When you find a chance to fix things—when you actually have the leverage to make an impact—take it. Use it.

Patrick Alvarez20: —It’s all quite predictable— if you look closely enough at the patterns.

Spent the weekend with this guy I was absolutely crushing on—until now. Turns out, the spark just wasn't there—it’s a total mismatch—and suddenly, the attraction has completely evaporated. It's frustrating because, honestly? He's a genuinely wonderful person.

Don't push it—it might be too early, or maybe you just need more time to figure things out.

If you liked someone and actually enjoyed their company—great. If you don't anymore, then just stop hanging out with them. Maybe it's because you're being difficult, or maybe they just became boring—it doesn't really matter. It isn't some grand tragedy, and nobody owes anyone anything just because a crush died out.

Patrick Alvarez20:

As far as everyone else is concerned, I have no desire to burden them with this—I’m trying my best to maintain the illusion that I've moved past it, even if I haven't.

You don't need to unload everything on everyone—that's just exhausting—but life would be a hell of a lot easier if you actually had someone to talk to about the bad days, even when they start feeling like a broken record.

Patrick Alvarez20 said:So, there are a few things on my mind... I’d love to hear some experiences or maybe get an opinion from someone who actually understands human psychology regarding what I’m going through right now.

About a year ago, I fell for this guy, and honestly, he absolutely wrecked me. At first, the relationship was full of these incredible, beautiful moments, but then he just abruptly pulled away. Once I realized something was off, I tried to sit him down and talk about us, but he just turned it around on me, claiming I was "creating problems where none existed." It started with him being distant, dodging hangouts, and basically ghosting my attempts at connection—until I realized I was the only one making any effort while he acted like everything was perfectly fine. We actually broke up for a full month, which was pure agony for me because I had become emotionally dependent on him, while he just kept retreating. He didn't even have the backbone to tell me to my face that he wanted out. To be fair, neither did I. I just couldn't wrap my head around why this was happening. One day we were great, and the next, it was a completely different story.

Eventually, things ended for good, and I spiraled into a total funk. I neglected my classes at NYU, pushed my friends away, and forced myself to go out when I really just wanted to crawl into a hole. I wasn't myself anymore. My friends would get frustrated with me, asking why I was acting this way, but I just couldn't help it.
In the meantime, I didn't try to get close to anyone else because I missed him too much, and frankly, nobody else seemed interesting enough. And I have to admit, there were plenty of wonderful people around me.
I totally put him on a pedestal. I realize that now—it took me a whole year to see it clearly—but still...

I remember talking to a friend back then who told me that at our age (26), almost everyone has one story like this in their past. And looking around, it seems true; nearly everyone I know has dealt with a similar kind of "trauma." I have a friend who spent eight years stuck in a cycle with a guy who would leave her and only come crawling back whenever he needed something, and she just wasn't strong enough to end it.

So now I’m wondering—why do we do this to ourselves? Why am I still struggling with it, why is it so hard to accept that he isn't what I need, and why do I keep telling myself I'll never truly get over this?
The truth is, I can see how much he changed me, and unfortunately, not for the better. How do you move past that?

I’d love to hear about your own experiences after your "traumas"... How long did it take you to recover and get back on your feet? How did it change you? And were you actually able to build healthy, quality relationships with someone else afterward?

I’d ask the moderators to please keep this thread from moving to the venting or US boards, and sorry if this post feels a bit scattered. I’m not exactly feeling 😢

Is it possible he just added a single drop to an already overflowing glass?

Look, I’m not saying that extra drop doesn't matter—it does—but maybe stop giving it more weight than the actual volume of the mess.

Defining that might make it easier to patch things up one by one. Try to remember who you were before him—especially during those rough patches. Not to excuse his behavior, obviously, but to identify your own vulnerabilities, independent of him.

I mean—I can see he changed me, and not for the better. How am I supposed to accept that?

What about yourself do you dislike now, which you actually liked before him?

In what specific ways did he change you?

What would need to happen for things to shift back to a place where you're satisfied again?

Try to get specific—just venting about a bad feeling isn't going to lead you anywhere.

So, I’m curious about your experiences after your own "traumas"...

To be honest, I wouldn't label any of my past experiences as trauma. Labeling them like that won't help you move forward—because when people recount certain stories, others can experience a sense of trauma just by listening to 😬

What I mean is—hearing about someone else's life might offer a bit of temporary comfort, knowing you aren't alone in having a bitter experience, but long-term, other people's lives aren't where you'll find your own solutions.

I haven't been doing great 😢

Man... 😢

Do you have someone close to you that you can talk to openly about this?

loneraven25 said:Multi-quote

...and you still haven't actually laid out any real reasons why you're so against Multi-quote.
All I can really take away from this whole thing is that your post is nothing more than a pale, washed-out shadow of Nicholas King’s legendary trolling...
Maybe I'll finally stop being so skeptical if you can actually manage to pull up even a single example where that term is mentioned? Multi-quote with both of them
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I honestly can't help but wonder what's going through their head lately. It feels like we're constantly circling the same drain with this one, doesn't it? says: Look, I get the rule itself—it’s perfectly clear what it says—but I can't help but wonder, what exactly is the point of it all? What's the underlying goal we're actually trying to achieve here?

...you clearly have no idea how to handle Quoting properly, do you?
You didn't even leave a hint in your post about where you actually pulled that quote from! Jack Bishop94 So, about that rule...
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I couldn't agree more on this point, because honestly, who does anyone think they are? No one should have the right to go back and mess with history or try to rewrite the timeline of posts that have already been laid down. Once it's written, it's set in stone.
I based my entire explanation on scanning through several consecutive posts—you know, those ones that certain forum members just can't seem to stop using all the time.
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...actually, like I was saying:
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My apologies—when I’m manually handling a quote like that, I'm not exactly pulling the post number from a closed thread just to slap it next to the author's name I added myself.

See, once a thread is closed, the 'quote' button vanishes—so everything is typed out by hand. Moving forward, I'll include the ellipsis and copy over the post number after the names I manually type, just so I don't end up looking like one of those people who clearly doesn't belong on this forum or even near a computer. Not.

Jack Bishop94 said:The stuff about getting flagged is gone. They just left an explanation on where to find the multi-quote and how to use it. So the whole post basically reads like—here's a way to avoid spamming consecutive posts... I guess. 🤔
And posts will just merge without any warnings at the bottom.

Tetaaa Hvaaal👋 Thanks for the good news! 👋

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And it’s going to merge without any warning down there.

Is there really no way to avoid that merging? 😍

Jack Bishop94 said:That rule was created back when everyone was just spamming posts one after another to farm post counts. At first, they just told people not to do it, but no matter how many warnings they issued about merging posts or repetitive replies, people kept doing it. So, they changed it to—you can actually get a penalty card.
Looking at things today, honestly, that part should be scrapped and just turned into a suggestion to use Multi-quote instead.
But, this happens quite often...

It’s much cleaner to merge them all into one, rather than leaving it looking like what's described here. Makes the thread easier to read...

Thanks for the response. What you're saying makes perfect sense.

It’s actually refreshing to see more people showing up here to have a decent conversation about the rules.

So, can we at least agree regarding the main board that the rule is changing—that merging posts and issuing warnings won't be necessary anymore, while keeping multi-quote as a recommendation rather than a strict requirement? 🙂

Sophia Thomas7 said:I already gave you my answer.

Not really. You explained *how* when you do it—not why.

What I actually care about is the motivation behind it. Is it just because you think it looks better that way?

shadowpilot8 said:Under the rules of certain subforums, take the US Legal System for example.

Someone introduced them, and everyone else just follows suit. 🤷

It seems foolish to insist on such rigid regulations. I’m exercising my discretion to ignore what strikes me as trivial nonsense. Ideally, this could be organized into a formal set of rules paired with a list of recommendations—guidelines that shouldn't carry penalties except in extreme cases.

Using Multi-quote as a recommendation seems like a brilliant idea—if you're into that sort of thing. 😍

Sophia Thomas7 said:I'll jump in if the author starts dropping a bunch of short posts in a row. I didn't go ahead and ban anyone just yet. ☕

And what’s the point of merging? Please explain—because I genuinely don't see any purpose in doing that.

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rustydrifter10 said:I didn't say that was a hard rule; it’s more just my own take on things, and the other moderators don't necessarily have to agree with me. In fact, looking around, it seems like plenty of people feel differently. Personally, I don't mind seeing a few posts in a row—honestly, merging them all feels like extra work for no reason. 😁 That said, I will step in and merge them if they’re clearly connected, like when someone is finishing a single thought across two posts, or sometimes if the posts are just incredibly brief.

When I first started out, I used to regularly merge posts from the same user because that was the official moderation guideline back then, but I eventually realized that, in my opinion, it often isn't the best way to go. Most of the time, those consecutive posts actually touch on different parts of the conversation. Plus, merging them can turn a thread into a massive wall of text, and let's be real, super long posts can be a total pain to read. 😁

I actually once sent out a PM warning someone about "spamming" their posts, and afterward, I felt a little bit crazy for even doing it.

That’s exactly why I threw a question mark at the end. 😁

It would be nice if the other moderators actually showed up—honestly, having to reach out to every single one individually is getting old.

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rustymason92 said:Excuse me, what!?😕

Which part isn't clear?

The rules state that spamming will result in a ban—so, let’s be clear, spamming is the actual issue here. It’s a total misconception that failing to use Multi-quote automatically qualifies as spamming posts.

rustymason92 said:If that's the case, the implications are even more frustrating. It essentially means: they know the rules perfectly well, yet they choose to ignore them out of pure stubbornness...
That’s what drives me crazy on Reddit; it honestly makes me lose the desire to contribute anything at all. I realize it isn't necessarily the fault of the moderators—the rules are what they are—but goodness gracious, it feels like absolute tyranny...☕

How could it possibly get any worse than refusing to group posts together? 😕

To me, "spamming" individual posts is what actually counts as spam, and there's already a way to handle that.

Failing to use Multi-quote isn't spamming—it's just failing to use Multi-quote.

rustydrifter10 said:I actually laid out my full take on this in this post.

Thanks for the Quick response 🙂

So—assuming we aren't just talking about someone failing to grasp how Multi-quote works, or merely breaking up a single thought—this isn't considered spamming, right? It won't result in a ban, nor will the moderators merge those posts together?

The rule states:

Jack Bishop94 said:Everything you need to know about Multi-quote.

So, here is the deal with Multi-quote -> —it's right next to the quote button (the order is Edit, Quote, Multi-quote, then Quick reply to this message -> http://img62.imageshack.us/img62/266...iquotequic.png).

What does it do? Exactly what it sounds like—it lets you handle multiple quotes at once.

How do you use it? Just hit Multi-quote on every post you want to include, then hit Quote on the very last one—and boom, all those posts are sitting right there in your draft.
That’s really all there is to the science of Multi-quote.

You also have the Edit option—if you've already posted and realize you forgot something, just hit Edit (similarly, if you find a post you want to quote later, hit Quote on that post, copy it, go back to your own post, hit Edit, paste the quote, and keep typing).

Don't forget—spamming consecutive posts instead of using Multi-quote can get you sanctioned for violating the PDF forum Help rules.
Use Edit on your existing posts instead—because any repetitive, "stamped" posts will be deleted.

Rules are rules—that much I get—but the actual purpose behind this specific one isn't quite clear to me, and I'd love to actually discuss it.

If the whole point is to prevent "stamping" posts, then I have to ask: what even is "stamping," and why is it an issue?

If we're talking about two posts from the same user appearing back-to-back as pure spam cluttering up the forum, then merging them doesn't change anything—it's still just spam clogging the feed.

But if we're talking about two non-spam posts from the same author, there's usually a reason they're separate. Sometimes discussions move fast—you post something, and before you can follow up, someone else replies, and suddenly you've got two posts in a row. Most people won't bother scrolling back to check my first post for updates, but they definitely will if there's a fresh post waiting for them.

Besides, separate posts allow you to organize thoughts within a thread. When you're responding to different people, sometimes you want to give them individual attention rather than throwing everyone into one noisy pile. In those cases, you respond separately.

I'm not suggesting we scrap Multi-quote—some people, myself included, find it useful. But I'd prefer if we weren't threatened with a ban for every two consecutive posts, because the logic behind the rule feels thin. If anyone can actually explain the reasoning, I'm all ears. 🙂

Does anyone know if that medication has received FDA approval yet, and when we can expect it to be available here in the States?

Are there any other treatment options available for premature ejaculation?