Posts by Joshua Evans7

quietdriver3 said:This movie had so much potential to be incredible, if only they’d just handled things a bit differently. 😁

Exactly.👍

I guess the only thing I actually liked was the idea itself.

Does anyone know a good dentist in the area (maybe around the Black Rock neighborhood if there's someone nearby)? 😍 I'm also hoping they aren't too expensive. 🤷
I have to head in today to get a molar fixed; I noticed some decay on my lower tooth and it’s started to ache a little bit.
Best wishes to everyone! 😍

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mistybison said:I believe our perception of uniqueness depends entirely on our environment. People who are strictly average often view anyone slightly different as eccentric or special, whereas those same individuals might seem perfectly ordinary in a more unconventional setting. I have personally experienced both perspectives, noticing how my own judgment shifts as my understanding of what is "normal" expands.

Nowadays, I rarely encounter people who truly stand out, whereas back in high school, I felt surrounded by unique personalities at every turn.😁 Over time, one realizes that people are much more alike than they are different; for most, it is a case of "seeing one is seeing them all," just with slight variations. I actually went through a phase where I actively sought out unconventional people, but they were difficult to find, and when I did, they often lacked the stability needed for a healthy relationship. Consequently, I have learned to value "cultivated normalcy" over "innate eccentricity"—meaning I appreciate those who work on themselves to develop their natural talents and build interesting, well-rounded personalities within their own unique strengths.🙂

What exactly defines an "average" person?

High school? To me, teenagers always seem somewhat unique, especially those with the emo hairstyles and black leather jackets playing in some garage band. Now? They just seem like great kids who might decide to become makeup artists tomorrow and go out to a club, only to end up at a concert with their moms the day after.

I've also run into those eccentric types who were a little bit unbalanced—just a bit scattered 🙏 nothing too serious... 😛

The last part of the post 👍

frozeneagle11 said:unknown

Yeah, that's the cold, hard truth right there. Most people get incredibly bothered when they run into someone who doesn't fit their specific mold. They act like it's some kind of personal insult directed straight at them.

I guess I find them a bit foolish in many instances😛
since being different—at least among those I've met—can sometimes come across as a bit silly.🙂

I suppose the importance might be a bit different from others in many cases, so it could perhaps be overrated...

I find it much easier to deal with the loud, expressive types, whereas I struggle more with those who seem calm and collected on the surface. You can never quite tell what they're thinking, especially if they're holding a lot of internal stress 🤷

frozentinker39 said:It’d be kind of hilarious if you could flirt right under your parents' noses. Totally wild. I think I’m a little crazy myself 😉

You aren't crazy, but I suppose I definitely am😂

I know people might be judging me, but I suppose I don't really care if I end up disappointing them or not. Maybe what worries me most is feeling like I have to act overly sexual or flirtatious just to be noticed; honestly, I find it quite difficult to carry on a normal conversation with an attractive man—or even men in general—if I feel that pressure to perform. 😂

hollowgardener7 said:I don't see any need for that whatsoever.
Life is all around you. Don't just stand there. sebe Stop constantly overanalyzing everything. You don't need to be flawless. No one else is. Why would you fear being judged by others? It is an unnecessary burden.

Read a book. Pick up a thriller or whatever interests you. Watch a good movie, spend time with friends, get out of the house, and keep learning. Life happens in waves. There are seasons of uncertainty followed by periods of strength and stability. Find something beyond yourself to focus on. No one maintains a perfect relationship with their parents. They are individuals, just like us. We aren't clones of them, and we don't need to be perfectly compatible. That isn't how people work.

Relax a little. Everyone deals with their own doubts, flaws, and weaknesses. There is no need to dwell on them so deeply that you convince yourself they are unique or abnormal. You are still maturing and growing. Forget those tests.

I can see that you get it... I guess I just need a little more time before I can actually put these thoughts into practice and truly start feeling this way.
Thanks, hollowgardener7 ;-)

I suppose I'm done with all that experimenting; it feels like a chapter behind me now.
🤷Large social gatherings or those kinds of busy Saturdays don't really appeal to me at all.
I think I'll just go finish another assessment to prove I'm perfectly fine, just so we can put this matter to rest.☕

Zachary Patel6 said:It isn't narcissism, nor is it histrionic personality disorder—it’s quite simply a lack of an honest, transparent relationship with your parents.

95% of the people on this psychology forum are perfectly sane—myself included.

My boyfriend mentioned that I only started feeling like something was wrong with me once I began reading these threads and diving into all those intense personality tests. I guess that’s just how it works—that initial feeling that something is off has to trigger everything else. For me, this whole journey of questioning my own sanity really kicked off after I stopped experimenting with drugs, which lasted maybe a year or so. So...

Gary Perez9 said:Move out🤷

Well, I guess I’ve just been relocated to college.
And get this—people tell my parents I'm pretty, then they tell my parents I'm all talk. What gives?
I suppose it probably isn't about my parents, though; it might just be me...

I guess I feel this slight sense of panic sometimes, almost like I’m losing touch with myself... maybe my parents hold me back a bit, which makes me withdraw, even though I'm usually quite an outgoing person. Just my thoughts, I suppose.
I actually had a few mild episodes of panic recently where I felt like I was crawling out of my own skin and just wanted to run away. For example, about six months ago, I was grabbing coffee with two friends, and when one of them asked me something, I suddenly felt so exposed. I got all flustered and embarrassed, and honestly, I just wanted to bolt to the restroom. Now, when that feeling hits, I try to take a deep breath and trust myself—kind of like telling myself something encouraging so I can just move on.
@Gary Perez9—it takes me a little while to open up, and I know I might be overthinking the small stuff, but I don't see anything wrong with exploring my thoughts and looking for ways to become a superhero. Just kidding.
Now I'm craving a snack, but I think I'll wait until everyone leaves so I don't have to make small talk, haha.

Gary Perez9 said:I honestly think she’s got it a bit backwards when it comes to what the actual issue is here🙄

I think you have a point there.🙏
I wish it were really that simple. I'm not saying I'm unwell, but I guess I just want to feel more resilient in certain situations—to use that word, to strengthen my character. 😍 I know you've been working on this your whole life.
Even if I were to see a therapist, I don't think I could quite explain what feels off.🙏 haha...
But for starters, I guess my tolerance for frustration is pretty low, if you know what I mean...😍
Anyway, sorry for bothering everyone with what might seem like minor things, but it took me a little while to find the strength to even type this out. It's not like I can talk about these things with people; I feel like they just wouldn't get it. Plus, after a rough day, I sometimes have these amazing days where I feel like the most confident person on the planet (though confidence should probably be a constant... I wonder why it slips away sometimes).🤷 haha.... but I should mention that I am working on myself in my own way, hoping that one day I'll become someone who can handle anything—maybe even chat casually with Barack Obama. Just kidding. haha.

😁I guess I’ll jump in here too.....😍
I was actually going to write a much longer post, but I decided to keep it short and just start with a question.😢Just a little intro to get things started😍)
I don't usually have any trouble hanging out with friends, or even meeting new people, but right at this moment, my parents are hosting two married couples and I feel like I'm going to freeze up if I actually have to talk to them. My folks are just sitting there watching me😲 while I'm fumbling around like I'm the shyest person on the planet—even though my friends would probably tell you otherwise.
I wonder if it's because being around my parents makes me drop all my usual defenses, haha. It's not like they know everything about me (though their birthday gifts usually prove they know more than I think!), but parents just have this weird way of seeing right through you...
Or maybe it's something else? I should mention that my communication style with guys changes when my parents are around—if someone is cute, I might actually get flustered and run back to my room like a little kid... even though in reality, I'm totally fine talking to guys and I'm generally quite social. I consider myself confident, though I suppose that fluctuates depending on the day.
Writing this out actually makes me feel a bit better already, almost a little more empowered...
Anyway, here are a few more random life snippets so you can "evaluate" me, haha. When I took that personality disorder quiz a while back, I apparently scored somewhat high on narcissism and histrionics (if I remember correctly...)
I'm definitely social, but also a bit of a lone wolf, blah, blah... so that's my first letter to you all. I hope I'm enough of a challenge. haha. bye!😉
Joshua Evans7, 23 years old