Posts by quietpilot87

Amy Hayes28 said:It's the same deal here... I keep playing back all these scenarios in my head, just wondering why.
Honestly, I was thinking today about how much easier it would be if Dad just said he wanted to die—instead of him fighting to live despite everything! It feels like that's actually the one thing keeping him going. But then again, what good is desire when you're in this kind of state?
Well....
Can Mom eat normally? Like, can you give her pears, or maybe some prunes soaked in warm water, or Donat???
That helped Dad a little bit, but nothing after that. And now, out of nowhere... as of today, he's on Prosura...

I'm putting the prunes in the compote I'm making.
We haven't tried pears yet, but we definitely will.
She drinks the Donat, but it doesn't do squat. It's rough when you're stuck lying down all day—digestion just refuses to kick in..

Getting her to take an enema is basically an art form at this point..

Maria Fox said:quietpilot87, give me a break...

Regarding digestion and milk... milk "isn't good" because it’s tough to digest and really hits the gut hard... plenty of yogurt and probiotics out there—Bioactive, Activia, Sensia (nothing wrong with Bioactive, and honestly, it's probably the cheapest 😉)
I don't know exactly what your mom is dealing with, but moving forward it's not recommended for people who've had colon cancer surgery: grains and high-fiber foods

She had lung cancer, which they tried to kill off with radiation, but then metastases showed up in her brain, and now she's bedridden..

She's rejecting the yogurt because it turned sour on her.. The doctor told us not to push her and just let her have whatever she wants. But that's the catch—everything she actually craves causes catastrophic digestive issues..

Dad just picked up some rice milk, so we'll see how that goes..

About a month and a half ago, they told us my mom was a goner.
Now she’s just lying there, covered in painkiller patches, and the days are a total blur—some are absolute nightmares, others are just okay.

The thing is, my mom is one tough cookie; she doesn't go down without a fight. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about modern cancer treatments and life in general. Honestly? Nothing feels the same anymore—especially my own life and how I move through it. I’ve played the "what if" game in my head a thousand times, obsessing over her life versus mine, wondering how different things could have been for both of us. Sometimes those thoughts eat at me, but I deal with it. Every now and then, I catch myself wondering why this happened—why we couldn't just be a normal family, where my brother and I could go our separate ways while my parents grew old together in some little house by the coast, which was exactly what they wanted...

Real talk: you can't control life. Not even close.

I also wanted to ask for a bit of advice—what should I feed someone who stays in bed all day and keeps turning down digestive aids, provided it won't cause major issues with constipation?
Supposedly milk isn't good for her, but she absolutely loves it.
Thanks 🙂

Sandra Clark29 said:@quietpilot87/">@@quietpilot87 - seriously, there’s always some psycho lurking in every single thread—guess that’s just how things work here

Honestly, who cares? He actually gave some decent advice before he started letting his frustration bleed through😁
It's a šteta.

James Rogers53 said:A guy at 260 lbs is basically a woman at 175.
Alright, maybe I exaggerated—let’s say a 220 lb guy is more like a 175 lb woman.

You claim you're 175? You're still a girl (meaning less muscle mass). Basically, the math says you're soft all over. If you'll admit it, at 175 and 5'6", you aren't just "a little curvy"—you're straight-up thick (especially without clothes).

And as for whether guys are into it or not? I don't doubt it for a second. Plenty of dudes dig that look.

p.s. As long as you keep listening to advice like "try Pilates, do some yoga, or hop on the stepper for 10 minutes without breaking a sweat," you're gonna stay exactly like this. That one donut you eat will go straight to your hips every single time.

I also agree that looks aren't everything, but they're a massive factor. Otherwise, you wouldn't be trying so hard to shed the extra layers.

Anyway, I'm done dumping my unsolicited advice on you. I'll leave you to your "professional trainer" and your brain—which seems to be in the same condition as your body (coming from me, that would be a compliment; from you... well, you know).

Jesus, what kind of life are you living??? 😕😕 😕
What happened? Did some fat girl break your heart? Or did the big guys bully you back in middle school? What gives?

Sandra Clark29 said:but patience isn't really my thing

guess I better learn fast :-)

Yeah. 🙂

Sandra Clark29 said:what actually drives me insane is seeing my friends—people I know personally—who are skinny as hell, don't hit the gym once, live off nothing but junk food, have zero regard for nutrition, and still stay thin😠😠😠
someone please explain that logic to me🙂🙂🙂

Don't let them get to you. I know it feels totally unfair, but some people's bodies just aren't built to handle that kind of garbage.
It's just biology.
The people at my office eat pizza every single day, meanwhile, I'm over here strictly sticking to tuna and protein shakes. It’s not even about craving the greasy stuff—it’s because if I eat pizza five days in a row, I’ll be passed out in a food coma and won't get anything done. If I want to actually survive a workday, I have to watch what I eat as much as possible.

The good news is you eventually adapt to everything. 🙂
But it takes time. I’m still not hitting "perfect" nutrition myself, but I'm working on it.

wearyotter81 said:hm, nice setup... definitely need to "weld" your psyche together like that 👍

Yeah, at that point, you don't give a damn how long it takes. I've been a work in progress for two years now—and honestly, I'll probably be reinventing myself until the day I die. 🤣

Lisa Wells65 said:I think silentpanther15 is...🤔Someone once said you have to actually change your habits—make a healthy lifestyle your baseline rather than just some temporary phase you push through until the scale drops. I’m trying to stick to that logic myself, mostly because it’s the only way to make it stick. Otherwise, those lost pounds just end up creeping back on you eventually.😬

Yeah, if you crawl back to your old habits—the exact stuff that wrecked you in the first place—don't be shocked when everything falls apart again. It’s basic math.

Don't look at it as some "healthy" lifestyle choice—just view it as living NORMALLY. It’s way easier on your head that way—you aren't constantly stuck in this mental loop of everything you're "giving up." Instead, you're just living life, eating decent food, and staying active. That's it.
I think framing it that way is actually pretty crucial.

silverfox41 said:Spot on—though I think I went a bit overboard. I can’t even remember the last time I touched a bowl of pasta. Potatoes? Gone. Rice? Barely touch it, unless it's brown rice.

Look, I'm far from perfect. But my diet is lightyears away from where it was two years ago. Honestly, I'm thinking about going even harder on it—I really want to kill off this stubborn belly fat that's still hanging around despite losing 20 pounds. Clearly, I missed a few spots.

Anyway, I'm just glad my body isn't acting out like it used to. My insulin spikes were absolute chaos back in the day... I literally couldn't function after eating. It was brutal.

And yeah, totally agree—sticking to some cheese or meat in the evening is the way to go.

silentpanther15 said:oh yeah... another little tip:

fats don't make you fat on their own...

Spot on 👍
True, you can't go overboard, but a handful of walnuts or almonds isn't going to kill you.
Ever since I bumped up my protein and fat intake, my insulin issues—you know, that post-meal crash where you just want to pass out—totally vanished. Now, after a big bowl of pasta, I actually feel like going for a walk instead of needing a nap.

I eat cookies pretty often—not like some obsessed fanatic or anything—but honestly, all chocolate is good 🙏
The new Dorina with lemon and green tea actually blew me away 🙏

jadetiger962 said:That's why when I was biking down to the coast, I ditched the quick release on the seat post and swapped in a standard bolt. Couldn't mess with the wheel quick releases though—too many issues with the latches. 🙂

It’s not rocket science. You might wander a bit the first time, but you'll figure it out. Best bet is to head south on Broadway (which basically flows right into the Golden Gate Bridge area), pass by the freight yard, turn left behind it, and take the overpass straight into San Jose. When you're heading back, you can cut through Brooklyn—just a tip so you don't get lost on your first run.

You can check everything out here:

http://82.193.221.213/GElin/GelinShowRoom.html

Just head slightly north from where you start; there's the freight yard northeast above the beltway...

How's everyone doing? 🙏 😍
I'll hit you guys up once I'm done with this little adventure. 🙂

Honestly, the absolute worst part is the total lack of bike racks 🙄 I’ve already made peace with the fact that there aren't enough lanes—it sucks, but it's the reality 😁
It's just a massive pain in the ass. You end up forced to lock your bike to some random gutter or a street sign, and then you get that first judgmental look from some passerby, and the whole thing just turns into a fight 😁
And you just feel like a complete moron, standing there wondering if someone's actually gonna start barking at you..

Kate Roberts10 said:I don't mess around with the main highway—that’s just asking for trouble. There’s a bike and pedestrian path from my suburb over to the suburban area, then I cut into the outskirts using this low-traffic road to get to the rail yard—hardly any cars out there either. From there, I head out through the neighborhood by the local church, and then it’s all bike paths from here on out. Simple as that.

Thanks for the tip 👍 I'll check out that route 🙂

Those knives are way too too much 🤣
So, what’s your bike actually worth?

wearyotter81 said:Where are you guys even keeping your bikes? I’m down to prep everything—wipes, extra shirts, stuff to deal with the sweat—but honestly, I’m terrified of locking my bike outside. People are out here cutting chains like it’s a hobby lately..
It’s not some high-end rig—paid a couple hundred bucks for it—but it looks decent enough that I really don't want to lose it.
I mean, if my friends could have their "Walker" stolen from Walmart for $100 while it was literally tied to a stairwell...

My bike isn't exactly thief bait. Sure, it cost about $500, but it’s covered in these trippy shades of red, blue, and magenta, so it doesn't look particularly "premium" to anyone passing by.
I spend a ton of time riding around town, especially downtown. I’ve locked it everywhere, gotten into arguments with plenty of people (Times Square is my favorite spot to 😁), and there were even times I totally forgot my lock and just left it anywhere. Never happened once, thank God.

On the flip side, a buddy of mine had his bike swiped even though it was properly secured in the entryway of his parents' place right in the middle of the city. When someone actually sets their sights on your stuff, there's nothing you can do to stop them.

Kate Roberts10 said:I live in Aurora, work in Washington, D.C., and still bike to the office,

That's impressive—though I have to wonder about your route. I wouldn't dare hit the main roads myself; between the constant honking and the total lack of bike lanes, it’s a nightmare. I’ve always wanted to bike out to Aurora to see my friends, but it just isn't feasible. It's pretty sketchy out there. Mad respect to you, though. 🙂

mistybison said:

quietpilot87 As specified:
Where did you pick up those cards? 🙂

I picked up some cards at the Frankfurt Book Fair, along with a guidebook that I didn't care for much. Instead, I have been primarily using the interpretations from this program as my foundation: Master the art of tarot meditation.I’ve been spending less time with tarot lately, focusing more on the I Ching instead. For now, I’m just using coins—I haven't quite progressed to the advanced stages of using yarrow stalks yet—and when I do turn to tarot, I stick to the Rider-Waite's deck. I still need to find better books and deeper interpretations for both, but there is plenty of time to get there. 🙂 If one truly commits to it, life becomes an endless pursuit of mastering time. 🙂

Spiritual practice shouldn't be separate from daily life. It’s all about maintaining Equilibrium; if you need to work, you work, and if you need to find stillness through meditation, you meditate. If it's time to engage with others, you simply communicate. 👍 If silence is what's required, then remain silent. 😁

I believe every individual possesses a unique rhythm and a set of methods that best suit their nature. For me, moderation is essential; nothing should be excessive or lacking. I find that maintaining an equal level of devotion across all layers of existence—physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual—is vital. My nature demands equilibrium, and whenever that balance is disrupted, it immediately impacts my ability to execute any plans. Consequently, a structured and disciplined lifestyle is incredibly important to me. Even when I don't actively strive for it, circumstances tend to demand it, and I truly feel my best this way. It seems the "golden mean" is the rule that serves me best. 🙂 Of course, this isn't some universal rule that everyone must follow. I believe there are individuals who thrive specifically under extreme circumstances—those moments that push them to transcend their own limits. By immersing themselves completely in a specific field or life mission, they can extract the absolute maximum from their experiences, leading to profound achievements in every sense, including the spiritual.

What kind of rituals are we talking about? Please, share them. 😁
Perhaps consider some cleansing rituals to help you move forward more easily. For example, you might find clarity by simply clearing out all your old clothes. 😁 It’s best to clear out the clutter by deleting unnecessary contacts from your phone. It works just the same for everything else in life.

Breaking free from negative loops isn't easy. It’s incredibly difficult to untangle the knots of thought and emotion that can trap us, swirling around inside for days, months, or even years, ultimately blocking the smooth flow of energy within ourselves and our surroundings. Mastering this process is truly a subtle art. 🙂

It seems to me that rituals function much like symbols; they activate specific energies within us and guide us toward various experiences. Some people find them essential, while others certainly do not.

Sounds like we're on the same page. 👍 It’s all about timing—everything needs its own balance.
Sometimes you talk, sometimes you shut up—that's just how it goes. As long as there's harmony, it works. 👍

mistybison said:...let's make sure we don't turn this subforum into a space dedicated solely to "mental spirituality." 😁 😉

Here we go. 😬

I've recently started practicing tarot, which is helping me better understand the very strong premonitions I've been having lately. 🙂

Where'd you pick up the deck? 🙂

Look, spiritual practice isn't some separate thing from actual life. It’s all about finding Equilibrium. If you need to move, you move. If you need to settle down, you meditate. If you need to talk, you talk. 👍 If you need to shut up—you shut up. 😁

Rituals? Give me a break. 😁
Maybe just "cleansing" rituals to clear the deck—like tossing out all your old clothes 😁 or deleting useless contacts from your phone... stuff like that.