Joshua Carter97 said:In principle, that’s exactly how it works, unfortunately. I’m mostly being targeted by a mid-level manager who’s terrified of losing his job. He plays nice with the executives, so I’m not exactly holding my breath for any sense of justice... basically, it’s constant undermining against me and a few others, obviously. And I have to deal with him every single day. If I try to play nice, it doesn't work because he won't fall for those tactics; if I keep my distance, I'm immediately labeled as "arrogant" or told "how dare a junior employee act this way," which leads to an immediate complaint to upper management. I honestly just wish he would get off my back, because there isn't even a logical reason for him to feel this way or act like this. A handful of people don't like me—that manager and two or three others. It’s not a crowd, but it's enough to make every day a struggle. 😢
Ugh, man, that sucks. 😁 At every job I've ever had, there's always at least one person who straight-up despises me, plus a handful of others who just aren't fans. Honestly? I think that's a pretty decent score. 😁 Especially when I look at the sheer number of people I can't stand myself. It wouldn't really be fair if everyone loved me while I felt the same way about half the population. 😁
Btw, yeah. This whole thing is pure "abandoned puppy" energy. Seriously. If you aren't acting like an abandoned puppy, you're doing it wrong. And yeah, it would piss me off too. Why? I don't know. Just pick a side and stand your ground, for crying out loud. If someone's getting under your skin, handle it properly. If *you're* the one making someone else's blood boil, don't go crawling after them. Just ignore them as much as humanly possible. You don't need extra drama at the office. 😉
Besides, you can't force anyone to like you (trust me, I've tried).
Joshua Carter97 said:But what’s actually wrong with that? Why does it get under your skin so much? I know I tend to over-apologize—I'm fully aware of it—but I just feel terrible whenever someone gets angry with me. Wouldn't you consider the possibility that the person actually has good intentions? Sometimes my own behavior reminds me of a stray dog looking for a home, only to get kicked away instead. I have this nagging feeling that being defensive just triggers aggression in others, though I can never quite wrap my head around why. I just don't feel strong enough to stand my ground and show some teeth.
I think you hit the nail on the head there. Though, for what it's worth, I don't have the answer either.
It makes me think of this one coworker—nobody seemed to want anything to do with her, for whatever reason. If you asked me why, I couldn't tell you. She just had that vibe. Kind of lukewarm, uninteresting... even though she was actually a perfectly fine person.
Then again, a lot of it comes down to where you land. From what I can see, she finally found her crowd and seems to be doing great now.
Btw, believe me, both the popular kids and the outcasts deal with the same struggle—finding their "spot." It’s not exactly easy being loved by a huge group of people you wouldn't even want to grab a coffee with.😁
But look, have you actually figured out how many people truly dislike you? Maybe it's not a massive number, maybe you're just hypersensitive. You mentioned wanting everyone to like you—well, that's not how the world works.😁 We aren't all sunshine and rainbows.
Bryan Fowler4 said: go ahead and grab that coffee—no need to stress about gastritis
Yeah. I’ve been slamming bitter black coffee for years—usually first thing in the morning on an empty stomach before I even think about breakfast. Never had a single issue. 👍 Stick to a classic drip brew. Who knows what kind of junk they pack into that instant stuff? That's probably where the trouble starts.
Nancy Hernandez43 said:I'm young—and my friends just aren't mature enough to wrap their heads around this kind of heavy stuff yet. Honestly, I don't hold it against anyone. I wasn't out there begging for empathy if they didn't have any to give.
Look, the thing is, I never actually wanted people's pity—not for me, not for my family. I didn't want this whole situation treated like some massive, tragic catastrophe. What really gets to me is how most people approach you like your life turned into a total nightmare overnight 😁 And then comes the drama, just like I mentioned earlier 😁
The people who brushed it off? They weren't even the problem. It was actually the exact opposite 😁
To flush out water weight, skip the simple carbs—stick to complex ones paired with protein, maybe a 50/50 split. Eat small meals frequently throughout a full 😉 month. And try not to let those toxic emotions get the better of you 👍
Honestly, what you're describing doesn't sound like typical water retention to me. I’m talking about those situations where you literally can't pull a ring off your finger or your face looks puffy. That bloating you're feeling? Seems like something else entirely 🤷
Btw, if those cyclists of yours didn't insist on washing up in public restrooms, they wouldn't be getting nicknames like "Stink" or whatever. 😁 I mean, honestly—it's better they're known as "that guy who uses the restroom as a shower" rather than just some corporate Apple drone 😁
I make sure I shower beforehand and hit the deodorant hard—plus I always carry wipes to clean up and stick to cotton gear when I’m driving in the summer heat. I even toss a spare shirt in my bag just in case. I don't drive like a maniac, either. 😁 Mind you, I don't work some desk job—I'm out in the field all day, so there isn't really a dress code to worry about. The downside is you end up talking to serious types in suits 😁 so there's always a chance they won't take you seriously if you're looking way too casual. But honestly? I couldn't care less. I'm not taking the subway 😁
Bryan Fowler4 said:Look, there’s no magic trick to targeting fat in just one specific spot... cardio burns fat from your whole body more or less equally... I've said this a thousand times already🙂
So you don't have much choice—watch what you eat, hit the pavement for an hour five days a week... or better yet, go for a brisk walk first thing in the morning on an empty stomach.
Facts. If you've got extra weight elsewhere, even better—it all melts off uniformly. Basically, once those arms lean out, your stomach flattens and your backside shrinks too.👍
Nancy Hernandez43 said:This whole situation has been a massive reality check regarding who my actual friends are. Honestly? I can count my real inner circle on one hand—not even kidding—but I’m actually pretty happy about it. At least I know exactly who’s standing by me.
Luckily, my mom's cancer diagnosis didn't mess with my friendships at all. There were stretches where I just went totally off the grid and didn't want to see anyone, but I was met with nothing but understanding 🙂 On the flip side, my parents lost people they genuinely thought were their lifelong friends.
Nancy Hernandez43 said:My mom hasn't had to deal with comments like that personally, and honestly, thank God for that. We started cutting off people the second we sensed they might come at her with that kind of energy.
People have tried labeling us as all sorts of dramatic relatives—inside or outside the family—constantly checking in to see how she’s doing. And when I say "she's doing okay"—because, let's be real, what else can you say? She doesn't have symptoms yet, the chemo is rough but manageable, she's still fighting, and the family is holding it together—that's when the lecture starts: "How can you say she's okay? It's a brutal disease, people don't survive this, blah blah blah..." Give me a break. Seriously. Eventually, I just got fed up and started being blunt about hanging up on them. 😁
That said, I get where those people are coming from, especially if they haven't lived through it. When someone you love is facing a serious illness, the most important thing you can do is stay positive—or at least neutral. We were all blindsided by the news, and everyone processed the shock in their own way, mostly in silence. But we never complained or brought bad vibes around her. 🙂 When she lost her hair, we actually made jokes about it to lighten the mood. We definitely don't need anyone's sobbing or negativity right now. 🙄 It's not like Mom doesn't have enough going on in her own head. Around her, there needs to be nothing but positivity, just to drown out even the smallest dark thought that crosses her mind.
Angela Wright said:Please, there's a literal ocean of it out there☕. If I wasted my breath—or my energy—arguing about it, I probably wouldn't have anything left for the actual priorities in my life right now.
I'm not even getting worked up over it—it’s just hard watching my mom recount the whole thing and seeing her actually feel that sting in real-time. It's tough. I want to give her some advice on how to handle it, you know, keeping her specific personality in mind. Thanks for the encouraging posts 🙂
Quick question—how do you guys deal with malicious comments? Most people aren't actually evil, but they react in all sorts of messy ways. Some just love feeding off other people's misery, while others feel bad and end up being totally clumsy with their words.
My mom brought this up after a recent run-in with an old acquaintance whose wife passed away from cancer. Even though she’s already on the mend, he hit her with something like, "Don't worry, you won't be around much longer either."
Look, we all know people fighting cancer aren't exactly hitting triple digits, but comments like that are a total gut punch to a patient's mental state. Even if there's a grain of truth to them. Why do people lack basic decency—if not for themselves, then at least for someone else? 😢
So, what do you do when that happens? Keep in mind, we're talking about entire social circles you used to hang out with, where suddenly the best move is to just ghost everyone at once.
My mom was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer last March—a pretty sizable tumor. Luckily, there were no metastases, but things still looked grim. Usually, you’d just go in for surgery, but for her, that was way too risky because of how close it was to her heart.
So, she started chemo. One round after another. And yeah, obviously, all the side effects that come with it. She eventually finished up with radiation. Basically, she spent an entire year under constant treatment.
We did everything we could (mostly my dad) and she started taking Noni juice, various propolis supplements, and all sorts of "miracle" stuff I can't even name—she just picked what she felt would work from the endless options. Dad even invested in some homeopathic injections, so the whole family basically became amateur nurses.😁
Long story short: the tumor is gone. All that’s left is some scarring and what the doctor calls a "not too worrisome" collection of fluid. They told her she’s done with chemo for now and to just check back if anything feels off.
The downside? A year of heavy chemo takes its toll. Her feet ache, her skin is a mess, and she's dealing with plenty of other little issues, but she’s happy.🙂 And so are we.😍
She’s doing alright otherwise—going out, walking, shopping for clothes and shoes, cooking, cleaning—just without pushing herself too hard. Her breathing is fine, and she actually feels even better when she's down at the coast, so she tries to get away whenever she can. I won't lie and say she's at 100% strength, but she’s nowhere near bad. Because she isn't.🙂
Look, this isn't a pitch for Noni juice or homeopathy. This is just my story. My dad is one of those guys who’s just pure optimism and energy—he never cracked under the pressure and handled most of this with a smile. He passed a lot of that onto her. Honestly, I think having that mindset is the most important part of fighting cancer.👍 It's all about your headspace, obviously.
I don't know what comes next, just glad she's doing okay right now.🙂
I've been stuck on Diane for ages because I have to—PCOS is a beast—but I’m currently running blood work to see if I can finally make the switch to Yasmin.
It goes without saying that life is significantly better with them than without. I finally kicked the unwanted hair and the absolute disaster that used to be my skin; plus, my periods are regular now and don't kill me (though they weren't exactly a walk in the park before, either). No more back acne—which was a nightmare before starting therapy—and my skin just looks overall healthier. And yeah, obviously there's the 🙂 factor. The downsides? Water retention is the big one—honestly, that's a huge reason why I'm eyeing Yasmin. I swell up like crazy; I’ll see my weight jump or drop by 6 pounds overnight and I won't even be able to get a ring off my finger. I've also noticed these tiny broken capillaries on my thighs and near my hips. As for cellulite... some people say the pills make it worse, though personally, I think it’s just a matter of age 😁 (it feels like once you hit 20, it just becomes a default setting). Mood swings? Sure, I can be moody and impulsive, but I don't really blame the pills for that 🤷 . Maybe it's just because I've been on them since I was 16, so I honestly have no clue what I'd even be like without them 🤣
Chocolate and ice cream in general 🙂 I rarely pick up cookies or candy—just not really my thing.
The specifics: Dukat mousse dessert Kinder Pingui and milk slices Nika chocolate with biscuit Dorina Ice, orange biscuit style Kandit chocolate with hazelnut filling Any high-quality dark chocolate with orange bits
When it comes to ice cream, Nestlé has basically owned my heart for years—honestly just waiting for a new contender to show up. 😢