Posts by Harold Harris19

I’m sitting here looking at this absolute mess of a thread regarding the whole spark situation, and honestly, I can’t believe my eyes.

Why on earth was ex Anaïs banned when it’s blindingly obvious to anyone following the US, LSE, or even the Zapatistas (where Yildirim already picked up a partial ban, if you can believe it...)—or even just reading this specific discussion—that she isn't the one at fault here?

Even the neutral regulars like Aisling and Lastan (myself included) have all pointed out the exact same thing.

Yildirim basically hunts down almost every single post by ex Anaïs. He’ll chime in, whether he’s quoting her directly or just dropping a sneaky 🙄 comment, mostly just to pick at her or throw these really underhanded insults her way...

The guy has been banned multiple times before for picking fights and being disrespectful specifically toward her—yet somehow, the mods keep letting him slide, and I just don't get why. But then, after she finally snaps and says what needs to be said—after ignoring his nonsense a million times—suddenly they both get hit with a ban.

Look, ex Anaïs is always there to lend a hand or offer some solid advice. Her posts are consistently high-quality, thoughtful, and constructive. She never goes looking for trouble or starts drama with anyone (it's just not how she's wired), except when she's forced to defend herself against someone who relentlessly stalks her across the forum, calling her out and insulting her.

I'd love to hear what everyone else thinks about this.

casualhound42 said:There’s definitely a major one missing from this list

Pelican case (1992)

And that one—you know, where he gets mixed up in some money scheme and borrows funds from the company, then they come looking for him... I can't recall the title, but it's an excellent film.

Out of time 👍

Denzel 😍

Eric Gray2 said:It would be so much easier if we actually had clear-cut answers to questions like this—but unfortunately, we just don't. I mean, what kind of ethics board in the US would ever greenlight an experiment where you have one group of infants being rocked and soothed by their mothers, while the other group is just left there crying all alone?
Not to mention the fact that the human psyche and our overall development are so incredibly complex—it honestly feels like we’ll never truly pinpoint which specific factor out of the millions is driving a particular aspect of how someone experiences life or behaves.
To be honest, the parenting method mentioned in the post doesn't sound particularly great either, but there is a very real chance that the child won't end up growing into some kind of emotional wreck.

I bet any mom using this approach would be pretty stoked to hear that. 😁

vividorca9 said:It’s really not about you. Honestly, I think it was just one of those silly posts from Titanium that a moderator decided to scrub from the board. 🙂 I already broke down my reasoning for you—and look, I’m not claiming to have all the answers since everyone is wired differently—but I really believe that BPD struggles tend to ramp up the moment someone leaves the nest. It's that sudden shift from having a safety net to being totally on your own. When you're living at home, if you had decent parents, they likely acted as a sort of stabilizer, keeping things like impulsivity, addiction issues, or that deep-seated fear of being alone somewhat managed. They knew what was going on with you. But once you step out into the world? You're suddenly facing the terrifying reality of growing up and being solo, without that buffer to keep the chaos at bay.

What you wrote was honestly such a huge help while I've been trying to wrap my head around how some people with BPD (or most of them, anyway) actually tick. You explained it so clearly. It felt a little silly to just drop a quick "thanks" and leave it at that, so I wanted to take a second to properly thank you for breaking it all down for me. 🙂

vividorca9 said:Don't go labeling me with splitting just because of that. I don't necessarily have to check every single diagnostic box to deal with BPD. 🙂

I'm not out here pointing fingers at anyone. Honestly, I’m just standing my ground when it feels like I'm being singled out.

If that comment about paratroopers wasn't actually aimed at me, then my whole reaction was just completely unnecessary. 🙂
Misunderstanding (just cleared up). 😉

vividorca9 said:Personally, I can't stand those "tourist" posts where people jump into a discussion about how confidently Harry, Max, and Julian Assange use certain terms, acting like that somehow makes them experts. Experts in what, exactly? Are they suddenly authorities on navigating relationships with someone living with BPD? Because if you think someone who hasn't actually lived through it knows more than I do about my own life, you’re dead wrong.

I think this might be my cue to jump in and introduce myself. 🙂

So, that makes four times now that I've jumped into this thread to weigh in.

First post—this was right after Nicole Turner35 suggested that people who actually "tolerate" borders clearly have some kind of pathology of their own.
I was just wondering, if... If anyone actually knows what they’re talking about, I’m all ears—I could really use someone to break this down for me.I'm just not interested. What do you guys think?Whether it was Grandma or even someone like a border patrol agent—just anyone who... I know.Still waiting on a response from anyone here. 😁)
Why on earth would you, as someone living with BPD, feel like you need to be an expert on potential pathologies in others just because you have a diagnosis? Since when did getting a diagnosis suddenly turn you into a licensed psychotherapist? 🤷

Back again, it's me—your resident freefaller. I'm asking you, border patrol.So, you’re trying to explain why you think someone's real struggles with BPD only truly start once they finally move out of their parents' house?
I’m not judging, I promise—I’m just asking because I’m genuinely curious. I’m just trying to wrap my head around it, clearly.

I honestly think grandparents tend to stick around the borders because they genuinely love them. They hold onto that hope, praying for some kind of change.

I wanted to weigh in on why people aren't really jumping into this thread—based on my own experience, anyway. Even though I’ve only contributed a tiny bit here, I’m already being singled out like I’m somehow the worst person in the room just because of how I frame my questions. Sometimes, you just run into questions that feel downright malicious—the kind that aren't just rude, but actually feel designed to sting. It’s like someone isn't even trying to have a conversation anymore; they're just swinging wildly, hoping to land a cheap shot. It feels less like curiosity and more like a calculated attempt to be obnoxious.. 🙄