Posts by James Cox6

Amanda Lee31 said:Ouch, what a mess. I feel for you.
I’ve never used those, but I know people who have.
My advice? Don't touch them. But please, try dealing with this using these methods—you'll see they actually work:

1) BREATHING EXERCISES. Every single day, spend at least 10 minutes turning off the TV, the music, everything—just do breathing exercises. Ideally in daylight or even out in the sun (that spring sunshine is good for you). Deep inhale, long exhale. Do it at least a hundred times.

2) RUNNING. Try to go for a run around 1.2 miles at least twice a week. You'll see how much it lifts your mood!

3) WORKING OUT. Try fitness, Pilates, dancing—anything to strengthen your body. Just remember: strengthening the body strengthens the spirit.

Since I deal with hypothyroidism, I went through a bit of a depressive patch two years ago, but hormone replacement therapy combined with everything I just mentioned has brought me right back to normal. You just have to be persistent and very disciplined. As for those chemicals—skip them. Personally, I don't buy into it. Good luck!

Amanda Lee31, thanks, dear. I would do everything you suggested, but I'm currently in the postpartum period and can't do any strenuous activity for 40 days. So, from everything you listed... for now, I'm stuck with just the breathing exercises.

I'm not one for Normabel or Apaurin... honestly, the thought of them makes me cringe.

Because with stuff like that, you just sleep all day and stop caring about anything!

You need to process trauma, not suppress it. To me, those Normabels are just a way of pushing things from the conscious mind into the subconscious.

And you know what they say: "Everything you consciously suppress, your subconscious will eventually throw back at you with a vengeance."

mistygull21 said:Normabel isn't an antidepressant—it's an anxiolytic. It's a CNS depressant, which means if you take it long-term, it can actually lead to depression.

Lara, I'm sorry you're going through this. I have no idea why anyone prescribed you Normabel in the first place, and I don't know how you're feeling—but if you feel like you don't need it anymore, just stick to Vitamin B and magnesium, and maybe talk to a decent psychologist. Save the Normabel for those moments when you seriously think you won't make it...

Leads to depression? Who gives a damn about that?

No way am I quitting.

Yeah, tell me about it. I’m over this whole chemical mess... ugh.

Nah, I'm good—just rummaging through the apartment... looking for something

I’m taking 5 mg three times a day. Way too much—honestly, I feel totally drugged out all day long.

I gave birth to a stillborn baby about 20 days ago, and I've been prescribed Normabel—5mg, three times a day.

Honestly, I’m terrified to take it... worried about getting hooked. The label explicitly mentions the risk of dependency.

Has anyone here actually used this? What are your experiences with antidepressants, Normabel, Xanax, or similar meds?

Walter Perez2 said:So, wait... I’d be using my car as collateral? Like, I still get to drive it and everything, right? But technically, while I'm paying off the loan, they hold the title? I guess that makes sense, maybe.

Right. So you'd basically be offering your used car as a chattel mortgage. That's the term.

Look, just talk to a loan officer. Honestly, Bank of America usually doesn't take used cars as primary collateral—they prefer securing loans against other movable assets.

And if they actually approve the request—which is entirely up to the bank's internal logic—you'll probably need to provide extra security since car values tank so fast. You might need to put up real estate, a cash deposit, or if you're running a business, they might demand control over your entire operation.

Amy Ortiz6 said:So, I’ve finally settled things and tracked down an aunt of mine who happens to be a gynecologist. Apparently, she’s absolutely brilliant—top-tier, really—so now I just need to actually get in to see her.
Now, what I’m wondering is, how does one actually go about setting up a patient file with her? What kind of paperwork am I looking at here? Do I need some specific certification or a referral from my primary care physician? It seems pretty obvious to me that I can't just stroll into the office, give the nurse a polite "good morning," and expect them to just open a file on the spot.

Just go to your GP and tell them you want to switch doctors. Ask if they're actually accepting new patients first.

If they say yes, the nurse will fill out a transfer form for Medicare (depending on where you live).

Print two copies of that.

Then, grab your current medical records from your primary doctor and take everything over to the gynecologist.

That’s pretty much it.

placidgardener19 said:It depends on a lot of things... how they stitched it up, how your skin usually handles scarring...
In my case, I lost more skin right in the middle—either it just didn't hold or I stood up too fast, who knows.
Either way, those 5 cm (out of about 20) are swollen and red.
And at one end, you can't even see the incision anymore—not at all.

Maybe there's an infection in that area. That's what happened with mine. Two stitches just split wide open. Or maybe it actually ruptured.

You can deal with that later through scar revision. But honestly? I wouldn't recommend it. I went through it and nothing got better. If it really bothers you, try laser instead.

Just so you know, Contractubex is primarily a scar cream.
Don't expose the scar to the sun. Period.
Apply it three times a day—and make sure you actually massage the cream into the scar.

It’s one color right now, but it'll change over time. You're better off starting with Contractubex immediately. Fresh scars are much easier to fade.

Listen, ladies...

Lose the weight before you get pregnant.

If you start out carrying extra—it’s a different story entirely. It puts way too much strain on your body—we're talking higher cholesterol risks, more pressure on your spine, veins, and heart... plus you're more prone to blood sugar issues.

That’s pretty much my advice.

Look... here's the thing.

So, something happened recently—my good friend is actually a psychologist, so I asked her to help me track down a therapist.

The thing about finding a therapist is you really need to have a handle on your own personality and what exactly is going on with you first.
To be clear—I'm pretty tough, grounded, and realistic... but my issue is expressing emotions.

That’s why she suggested someone who won't just approach things with logic or the same "realist" attitude I use—but instead focuses entirely on the emotional side (since that's where I struggle). You get what I mean??

Plus, they aren't all the same—everyone has different specialties.

So, what's your deal? What's bothering you, honey?

bluecanyon4 said:So, I got busted yesterday... DUI and driving after curfew since I’m still in that junior license phase. Now I’m looking to fight this, but honestly, I have zero clue how any of this works. Can an attorney actually write up an appeal for me? Because I don't understand a single word of this legal jargon... Plus, the officer handed me three different documents and some payment slips, and I had to sign them all. Since I didn't sign just one specific line—specifically the part admitting to the alcohol charge—can I just appeal that one part? Or am I stuck appealing the whole thing? Thanks in advance.

Rough... go ahead and kill yourself with more booze then. What exactly are you planning to appeal? On what grounds? You were drunk behind the wheel.

Seriously, what would you even appeal? Some minor detail?

There have been so many threads about these violations already... and yet here we go again, just as shallow as before... I honestly don't know how people find the energy to keep answering the exact same questions over and over.

nimbleotter18 said:So, my dad got a summons.

1. We've never had a court summons before. Ever.

2. It’s all because of some mutual verbal insults, but clearly the other guy called the cops first and they filed a report.

3. The mail was late, so we missed our scheduled court date.
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I need to know how to justify missing the hearing, but honestly, I'm more interested in what my dad should say in court to somehow wiggle out of this.?

What kind of penalty are we looking at?

Can you even defend yourself without hiring a lawyer?

What's a judge even going to ask when he sees my dad for the first time? (It'll be his first time ever in a courtroom.)

For context, my dad was insulting this guy who started building something, but he didn't stay far enough away from our property line. Now the guy is claiming my dad insulted him and tried to seize his land or something.

THANKS A LOT! Any advice helps, BUT I REALLY NEED INPUT FROM PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND THE LEGAL SYSTEM. 🙏

I’m wondering what we should do to justify missing the hearing, but more importantly, what should my father say in court to somehow get out of this?
Depends on what he's being charged with.
He can find that out by showing up to court and asking for the paperwork. Once he reads what they're charging him with, he can request a continuance so he can hire an attorney—whether it's a misdemeanor charge, a criminal complaint, or a civil lawsuit.

What kind of penalty are we looking at?

Acquittal or conviction depends entirely on how the proceedings play out.

Can someone actually defend themselves without hiring a lawyer?

You can, but you have to be smart about it... give your initial statement and stick to it like glue. Don't change your story or ramble too much. Manipulate the defense through your answers, steer things your way, and don't let them hit you with trap questions or leading questions.

What is the judge even going to ask when he sees my father for the first time? (It'll be his first time ever in a courtroom)

Generalities: why he was summoned, whether he understands the charge (if he's the defendant), his defense, and if/how he plans to defend himself. If he's just a witness, the basics: if there's beef with the defendant or any blood relation, then he gives his testimony.


I’m wondering what we should do to justify missing the hearing, but more importantly, what should my father say in court to somehow get out of this?

Nobody here can tell you that because we don't have the actual documents—the indictment, the summons, or whatever else. It's unclear to me if he's the defendant or just a witness!

Show up to court, grab the files (if they weren't already sent via mail, which they should have been), and at the hearing (if the papers haven't arrived yet), say he needs to postpone the matter so he can hire a lawyer.

I have no idea what this is even about??????????? It's impossible to give legal advice in a vacuum because everything is just a PROBABILITY!!!!!!!!!

And the law isn't an empirical science!!!! It's exact.

crimsonsailor7 said:1. Look, there’s already a massive thread dedicated specifically to traffic violations over in
... you should probably check that first. 2. When you're putting together an appeal, you can honestly include pretty much everything mentioned above, though sometimes just boiling it all down into two really sharp, smart sentences works better... there isn't some magic rule about how much detail actually helps your case.
3. You’ll need to file that appeal with whatever agency is listed in the instructions for legal remedies, and you send it through the same office that issued the decision in the first place.
4. Don't sweat the criminal side of things regarding these violations; they aren't going to pursue criminal charges against you for this. If there were actually elements of a criminal offense involved, they wouldn't have even classified it as a simple misdemeanor 🙂
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In Boise, anything goes!

analoghawk39 said:A local court here in the area just handed down a ruling that’s going to hit my bank account pretty hard🙂 5 $0.00 for being caught with about 3.4 grams of marijuana!
Since I’m a complete novice when it comes to navigating the legal system, I was hoping someone could help me out with three specific questions:

1. How much of a difference does it actually make if I file an appeal? I’m currently an unemployed full-time student, and my family situation is incredibly heavy right now—I lost access to my late father’s veteran benefits, my mother is dealing with some serious heart issues and is waiting on surgery, and my brother is going through a really rough patch in his adolescence and is undergoing intensive therapy. (In your experience, which of these details would be most relevant to include in a formal appeal?)

2. If I decide to go ahead with the appeal, what is the best way to send it off since I can't deliver it in person? There is a case number listed, something like Roman numeral case no. xxxx/xx, so I assume that's the key identifier I need to use.

3. Will this misdemeanor lead to any criminal prosecution later on, and honestly, how bad is the outlook for me?

My sincere apologies if anyone has already covered this topic elsewhere...

Thanks so much in advance for any insight you can offer!

1. You'd better hope they don't escalate this to criminal charges. (Assuming the crime didn't happen in Boise.) 🙂
2. Everything you need is in the notice of appeal. It gets sent to the State Supreme Court via the local municipal court that handed down the judgment.
3. Could be... depends on the District Attorney's office.

Sorry to hear about your father and your mother's health. But honestly, $17 for a few grams, it's not like it's a massive amount... especially given your situation with your mom and being out of work.

Besides, your dad's pension was substantial—I doubt that'll help mitigate the fine.

wearyangler0 said:Hi everyone!
New here—won't beat around the bush, I'll get straight to the point.
I've cleared chlamydia, my doctor gave me the all-clear, and now my partner and I are starting to try for a baby. I know all about the potential fallout from the infection; I've read pretty much every article online out there. I'm looking for any women here who dealt with chlamydia and successfully got pregnant—please share your experiences. Best to everyone and thanks.🙄

Look, if you've beaten the infection, it's gone.

What kind of "consequences" for the baby are you even talking about? You aren't infected anymore, and you aren't pregnant yet...

I don't follow.

Jonathan Bishop76 said:James Cox6, you know—sometimes having a defense attorney who’s an expert at shifting testimony can be incredibly useful... especially if the prosecution is building their entire case solely on a single perpetrator's statement... you wouldn't believe the kinds of legal gymnastics they can pull off.😲

Not "sometimes"... more like always. There’s nothing better than having a witness suddenly change their testimony!
Even when the defendant changes their story while I'm representing them—it's a dream!

In these two posts, we're revisiting an old topic where I argued that a suspect's initial statement—given during arrest to a lawyer on duty (especially in specific cases like narcotics)—can be used by someone looking to throw people in jail.
And that courts generally convict people based on those exact statements.

testdrive claimed that wasn't true—that judges actually investigate all evidence and weigh everything, and that that first police station statement doesn't carry much weight later on, basically saying my claim was impossible.

To which I replied that while it sounds impossible, it happens constantly. I told everyone to look at Supreme Court of the United States precedent where, say, in a Chicago courtroom, people were convicted based on logic like: "I sold it to him, and he sold it to a third party." Did you see him sell it to the third party? The answer was: "No, but the fifth guy told me the fourth guy bought it from the third."

That's the kind of testimony we're dealing with.

urbanraven16 said:Look, I haven't actually changed my mind, nor did I ever say that a confession made to the police alongside an attorney isn't enough sometimes...

What I’ve been saying, and what I still stand by, is that every single piece of evidence—including a confession given to the cops with a lawyer in the room—is subject to the judge's discretion...

It’s not just about what happens at the station; it’s not like this is the first time we've seen someone tell one story during the preliminary investigation and then flip the script entirely once they're standing before the trial judge... and when that happens, the court has to weigh everything and lay out the actual reasons why they're choosing to believe one version over the other...

Sure, but if you're really a criminal law expert (as you claim), then you should know there’s nothing worse than changing your story. You need to stick to that initial statement—any attempt to manipulate or pivot your testimony immediately casts doubt on the credibility of both the witness and the defendant. Usually, the court will lean toward believing that first account.

Just look at the US Presidency's judicial precedents regarding how many confessions made during arrests with lawyers present have sent people straight to federal prison (take those notorious "small-time" vs. "big-time" mobsters in Cleveland as your example).