Lawrence Edwards58 said:It isn’t about justice, Paul Rogers94—it’s that he treats her like property, just like how Grace Sanchez50 treats her smartphone. He sets his passcode, and if anyone dares to mess with it, he'll hunt them down to the ends of the earth... meanwhile, he couldn't care less about her feelings. She feels it, obviously, and that's why the connection snaps.
Whether you enjoy a movie or a book depends entirely on how much it aligns with your own personal value system—which, let's be honest, doesn't necessarily have to match the "standard" values used in film and literature as if they were universal truths. Any "relationship" or bond depicted inherently involves certain compromises or a type of psychological dominance; that's just part of the narrative. For me, that's a line I simply won't cross. Having been through enough relationships to know, there's nothing in it for me. I can't stomach any kind of conceptually restrictive relationship—friendship, love, an emotional bond, whatever. To me, those are just empty buzzwords masking what we project onto them. Of course, this inevitably turns into a form of systemic violence while maintaining the outward illusion of "how a relationship should be." And that "should be" only exists because the reality isn't meeting it—not to mention how we ignore what actually *is*. Regarding that specific cinematic issue: treating her as property is standard in those petty, small-minded dynamics, but so is that ultimate pursuit of "justice"... it's like some hardcore Midwestern farmer who identifies so deeply with his land that if someone accidentally steps on his grass, they might as well have stepped on him personally.
Basically, we interpret film through our own lens, filling in the gaps with whatever fits our worldview. That's how we process all of reality, I suppose—wishful thinking at its finest.
The point is to ignore your preconceptions and your biases so the film can be received exactly as it was given, without interference. That's the only way to truly take it in. All these "mindfuck" theories about the viewer being a "co-creator" are just excuses for an inability to accept what's presented without distorting it. In my experience, you get the most out of a work if you let the book or the movie just *be* what it is. Then, and only then, can you judge it properly by one single question: did it touch you or not? If it didn't, the film failed. If it did, it succeeds even if it's technically flawed.
Ugh...
There’s another crucial element in perceiving film: identification. For instance, how is someone supposed to identify with anything in a gay romance if they aren't... well, in that "film"? If they can't, then it's simply not their movie. Perception is as varied as the people experiencing it, though most are swayed by the same subconscious values. But perception is one thing, and reality is another. A Rorschach blot is just a Rorschach blot.