Posts by William Nelson7

Give him a break... Once he actually gets his own life together, then we can start asking questions.

David Palmer5, you're missing the mark regarding all this nagging... There is no way she stops complaining just because Megan White4 finally gets her life together. You don't seem to grasp how it works: a mother often projects all her internal turmoil and deep-seated frustrations onto her son simply because he's the one standing right there. Now, I’m not saying she’s some kind of villain here. Everyone has their own narrative. But let me be clear: once things settle down, Megan White4 needs to move out. If he stays, even after achieving total success, she will just find new, trivial things to nitpick about. On the other hand, moving away doesn't mean walking away from her. He needs to visit regularly and offer his support. Even if he has to endure the constant lecturing, at the end of the day, she is his mother.

Need a hug? Family is the best place to find one. They’ll get you better than anyone else ever could. Besides, a solid friend can step up too. Just go to them, give them a squeeze, and tell them you need it because things are rough. No one is going to think you're losing your mind. Personally, I wouldn't judge an acquaintance for reaching out like that 🙂

It works that way for everyone, period. That's just the nature of the beast. Personally, I try to outmaneuver my own brain to find some middle ground—aiming for a state where I’m neither riding high on euphoria nor sinking into total misery. You should give it a shot.

If you take that line of reasoning, then even the bad times are just an illusion. You can't afford to be that pessimistic. You have to deal with both the highs and the lows, accepting them both as a shifting reality. Things will improve; they definitely will. I’m telling you, you’ll be feeling much better in the near future, and when you are, you can look back at my old posts and remember I said so.

That’s just impossible. Things can stay down for a while, sure, but they can't stay there forever. Better days are coming; they have to. We all need to lean into a bit more optimism and positive energy. Life is tough, no doubt about it, but it's also beautiful—provided you know how to spot the beauty surrounding you. It's always there, whether the market is up or the line is trending down.

Of course Delilah will make it through... Like I've said before, life follows a parabolic curve; you’re up one moment and down the next. That applies to everything.

I'm in agreement with postscript.

I find it hard to believe that most of what we're discussing here concerns physical mechanics; it seems much more likely that we are actually dealing with psychological functioning during periods of darkness...

You're absolutely right, Sean Watson5. My contact info is zavesa@hotmail.com 🙂

Should we start a band or something? Just to sing about Darkness? 😁 All jokes aside, you can't really expect to find people on a forum who want to go for a midnight stroll together—everyone here is just too geographically scattered. Like I mentioned before, your best bet is to look for like-minded people right there in your own backyard.

Megan White4, you’ve got a solid plan here, but I have one suggestion: before you decide to go completely radio silent, try actually talking to her. Lay everything out on the table—be blunt about what’s bothering you. Pick a quiet moment when things are actually going well between you. It might just shake some sense into her, which would save you from having to resort to the silent treatment. Of course, if she keeps acting the same way, you’ll have to pull the trigger on your plan if you want to keep your sanity intact...

Sean Watson5, take note—it’s clear there are others who share this perspective. You might even find them right in your own neighborhood if you know where to look. 😉

Music is just a temporary fix. If you want a remedy that actually works, you have to let time do its thing. Eventually, the parabola of life will swing back into the positive, and you won't feel this low anymore. Trust me on this one. 🙂

If I may offer a suggestion... You should check out "Parabola" by the band Microsoft. It touches on the idea that illusion is often just a more convincing version of reality. I truly believe that track will provide you with some much-needed perspective, both for what you're facing now and for whatever comes down the road.

*The Professional* is one of those films that doesn't require a commentary track; you just sit back and take it all in. I have to highlight the scene where they’re beating a protester, and then the lead officer steps in and asks him, "Why are these good people hitting you?" 😁 Also, an even more intense moment occurs when they strip down to show each other their wounds, only for the secretary to walk right in... hahaha...

No book is ever truly a waste of time; it certainly won't do you any harm. You'll have to be the judge of which ones hold weight and which don't, but that's an assessment you can only make once you've actually finished the pages.

God, I still crack up thinking about this one time I was out walking through downtown Chicago with some friends and we spotted a stray dog. The thing was just standing there right next to us, looking completely lost. For absolutely no reason at all, I started making these ridiculous pig-like grunting noises 😁 at the poor animal while laughing my head off. The dog stayed totally bewildered—honestly, I don't think it even registered what I was doing—but man, I had a blast 😁

Look, Megan White4, I know exactly what you're going through. Sometimes, I actually manage to get the upper hand with my stubborn mother. Whenever she starts spiraling, I just sit there, stay calm, and lay out the cold, hard facts until she realizes she's wrong. Usually, that settles her down. It hasn't been easy, though. My father has lived with her for so many years that he’s basically become just like her. Honestly, the only way for either of us to survive this is independence. Focus on finishing your degree as fast as possible, land a job in a different city, and move out. You should still visit her regularly—she's alone, after all—but living under the same roof isn't an option. When you go to see
during your visits, try to keep a positive attitude. People naturally gravitate toward someone who is kind, regardless of how difficult they might be. Expect arguments; they’re inevitable. Just don't take them personally. Keep your eyes on the prize: your own life. As for women, everyone has their flaws, yourself included. The right one will come along eventually. You just have to recognize her when she arrives.

For a while there, I actually convinced myself I was dealing with schizophrenia. I had this persistent feeling that there were multiple personalities living inside me. Looking back, though, it was likely just an adolescent identity crisis... I certainly hope so.