Posts by Nancy Ruiz7

Roger Rodriguez said:Why aren't you reading for comprehension? Could you please bold the part of my post where I actually said I have to force myself to love my own child? Otherwise, I’m going to assume this is just a really poor attempt at trolling.
I don't want to go too far off-topic, but for me, motherhood isn't just about giving love to a child; it's also about taking on new responsibilities, shifting priorities, and creating an environment where a child can be raised safely and normally. There are people who probably don't give this much thought, but I do because I want to provide my child with a good, stable life. I'm not in a position where everything is set; I literally have a few months to overhaul everything I need to change, whereas some women are lucky enough to have their lives mostly planned out, so they don't have to stress over these things because everything fell into place right when it was supposed to. So, where on earth did you read that I don't truly love my child? I was simply trying to say that I have to build everything from the ground up very quickly, while someone else (who perhaps planned better) already had it all sorted before getting pregnant and doesn't have to deal with this level of stress.

Supergirl, keep going, I completely hear where you're coming from... Just because a pregnancy wasn't planned doesn't mean you can't get those things you mentioned sorted before the baby arrives. Maybe instead of putting it off, this is actually the perfect moment to finally get moving, right?
Well, I'm 31, and if I had been able to have a child sooner, I certainly would have... This is just happening now that certain foundations are being laid (marriage, a home, a career), though that doesn't mean the work hasn't been hard... It isn't a matter of being smarter or less intelligent—it's just that if you haven't handled these things by now, you handle them now, because once the baby is actually here, it's much easier if you aren't simultaneously scrambling to figure those things out. On the other hand, courage is a virtue, and I truly believe you're going to provide the absolute best for your baby... along with plenty of love...

I’m certainly not feeling any sense of euphoria myself after dealing with two miscarriages... I am trying my best to stay level-headed, which is why I try not to make every single conversation revolve around pregnancy, even though part of me wishes it were different. Unless I hit that twenty-four-week mark—not to mention that getting pregnant wasn't even my immediate priority since I had a million other life goals lined up—it’s just hard to put into words for anyone who hasn't walked this path. It isn't the actual delivery that scares me, but rather those nine long, grueling months... And honestly, I don't envy those who actually get to enjoy the "glow," because I still feel terrible most of the time, and I truly believe we have every right to be a little negative or sarcastic about it all. People can tell whatever story they want...

Heh, it honestly gets under my skin when people start using phrases like "you should just get rid of it," or "how are you even going to manage with a kid?" or those classic warnings like "once the baby arrives, your life is basically over" or "you won't be able to do any of your usual things anymore"... 🙂

Let’s be clear here—I’m not trying to compare kids to pets, because I know how much that can rub people the wrong way, but rather the general mindset surrounding it. Since my career revolves around working with children, I’m constantly surrounded by them, so I’ve always found the whole energy quite uplifting instead of overwhelming. Honestly, things like sleep deprivation don't even phase me... what actually keeps me up at night is the uncertainty of pregnancy itself and the potential outcomes, rather than the actual arrival of the baby. We'll adapt to whatever the little one needs when the time comes, though I am certainly going to try my best to hold onto my usual hobbies and daily routines as much as possible. And despite the endless stream of "well-meaning" advice flying our way from every direction, we are still the ones calling the shots on how we want to do this...

I suppose I’ll join in on the venting, even though I’m only in my second trimester, because after those first two miscarriages, I’m still feeling a bit shaken up. Honestly, I don't see why it should be considered "difficult" only for women hitting that 36-week mark while everyone else gets a free pass... It feels like it isn't really about your weight or how big your belly is, but more about the mental and emotional toll it takes on you. Early on, I was dealing with such intense sciatica that I felt completely broken—not just from the physical pain, but from the constant anxiety over losing this baby, all while being unable to even get out of bed because I wasn't allowed to take anything stronger than basic over-the-counter meds. So, I guess I shouldn't complain...
It seems like we experienced moms and the rest of the world just love to irritate us with those cliché warnings, telling you that "nothing will ever be the same," or "your whole life is going to flip upside down," or "say goodbye to your freedom." I truly don't understand why someone would choose to have a child if they aren't prepared to dedicate themselves to it, or if they find the responsibility so overwhelming. I have dogs at home that I get up for multiple times throughout the night if needed, so I really don't see why I wouldn't do the same for my own child? My routine already involves waking up at 6:00 AM every single day, so I have no idea who expects parents to sleep until noon or just sit around smoking cigarettes?
I’m not sure if anyone else can relate to this, but I’ve spent my entire life learning how to care for others rather than just focusing on myself, which is why looking after a baby doesn't feel like an impossible burden—especially since we know children thrive most when their parents are healthy, happy, and content. I struggle to understand people who have a child but find the act of caring for them to be a genuine hardship.
Best wishes to everyone.

I’m not entirely sure if these match up perfectly, though there are certainly similar ones floating around here:

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or perhaps something like this over here:

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We were all about 15 years old at the time, and I had my heart set on having a tiered wedding cake... Since there weren't any other desserts served, we ended up dividing the cake so everyone could take some home. It was priced by the slice, I believe, at roughly $5.00, so everyone walked away with a pretty generous piece, even though the cake itself wasn't massive. In total, it cost me about $100...

I feel like I should probably warn anyone currently planning a wedding about the questionable quality of the treats from that small town in rural US bakery near Annapolis. I really wanted to trust them since I only needed a cake, but the pastries they gave me for a tasting were just awful—they tasted stale and were way overbaked... So, I ended up canceling at the very last minute, which the lady didn't even protest; in fact, she acted like she had never seen me before in her life. They truly let me down...

Ashley Brown81 said:😲 Honestly, I’d probably just want to give a guy like that a little pat on the hand... goodness gracious!

I once had a male gynecologist, and he was truly wonderful—so knowledgeable, professional, and actually had a great sense of humor... 👍

I think I would too, and my heart really goes out to any woman who has to deal with those kinds of awkward situations. Personally, I've always stuck with one specific private clinic and seen a female OB-GYN, but because of some complications this year, I ended up seeing a male specialist at that same practice. And honestly? It wasn't even an issue, because I certainly wouldn't go to just any random man—this particular doctor is a top-tier expert who is incredibly thorough and conscientious about his work!

I find it honestly laughable to suggest anything other than the fact that this is a medical specialty just like any other—one that happens to be incredibly lucrative and in high demand everywhere in the US... babies are being born every single day, and frankly, questioning why a man would choose to become an OB-GYN feels a bit primitive to me! That kind of line of thinking can only come from someone who is quite unrefined and inexperienced...🤷

Don't take this the wrong way, but I have a feeling anyone who isn't really into that specific brand of dry, cynical American dark comedy might struggle to find the humor here... I was honestly doubling over laughing during the first half, though maybe a little less so later on, but I suspect there were plenty of people in the theater who just didn't get the joke at all. Russell Brand is an absolute genius, truly hilarious and just such a standout performer... as for the rest of the cast, well...