You won't be able to post any messages or start new threads just yet because you're still stuck in the "Awaiting email confirmation" user group. Until you verify your account, the forum's administrative settings will keep those features locked away from you.
I'd suggest checking your spam folder or junk mail in that Yahoo account you used first; those confirmation emails have a nasty habit of getting buried there. If it's nowhere to be found, go ahead and request a new one, but if I were you, I'd use a Gmail address this time (you can always set up a new one if you don't have one handy). Honestly, Yahoo tends to run into all sorts of hiccups with automated confirmation emails—it's a pretty common headache, much like what people experience with Hotmail or other smaller free email providers out there.
Now, if you try using a Gmail address and that confirmation mail still doesn't show up, then the issue isn't on your end—it's likely a problem with the forum itself. From what I've gathered lately, things have been acting a bit glitchy around here, so it’s entirely possible the system just isn't sending them out properly right now.
Aaron Scott18 said:I have two little kids at home, so I find myself using this site constantly and have even saved it as a bookmark on our main computer. The issue is, why is this specific sub-forum Love, Romance, and Intimacy the very first thing I see whenever I open this page? Could you perhaps move it to a less conspicuous spot? It’s just so jarringly visible. My kids have clicked on this bookmark a few times now, and the very first thing they land on is the romance and sex section—and usually some pretty graphic thread titles (like a guy getting spit on or something similar). I’m sure there are plenty of other parents out there dealing with this exact same awkward situation.😠
To be honest, that forum stays at the top for a reason that isn't really hard to guess, especially if you take a look at how many users are active in those threads at any given moment.
One quick fix is that you can actually collapse the entire "Society" category by clicking on , which keeps the romance section from jumping out at you.
Otherwise, if you want total peace of mind and complete control over what shows up on the screen, you might want to look into some parental control tools like these:
Richard Hernandez56 said:So, I went ahead and did that, but I still feel like I'm totally "visible." What am I supposed to do now?
Don't worry, you're actually only visible to yourself and the site admins—and depending on how the system settings are configured, maybe the supermods and moderators too.
It’s simply not possible; only the forum moderators have the authority to wipe a post history, and I don't see them planning on doing that anytime soon.
feraltrucker5 said:Yeah, it actually says they don't do it upon user request... which is pretty much the exact opposite of what you're suggesting. 🙂
Fair point, I completely missed the "not" part there.
It seems like they have a very solid reason for sticking to that policy. Most vBulletin admins I know will go ahead and delete an account if the user specifically asks them to. Honestly, I follow that same practice with my own site.
Michael Nelson9 said:Heh, keep dreaming... You really think the admins just delete accounts because someone gets a little jealous? ☕Donna Cooper98, don't hold your breath.
It’s actually written right there in the Terms of Service (if you scroll all the way to the bottom).
Donna Cooper98 said:No, honestly, I could just go "offline," but then I’d still have girls sliding into my DMs, replying to posts, or just waiting on me to get back to them. This way, they'll know if they want to reach out—they simply can't. Plus, I really just want "Donna Cooper98" to effectively vanish. If she isn't active in any capacity, if nobody can bother her, nag her, or mess with her at all 🤣, then she’s basically R. I. P.
Per your request, your user account will be deleted by the forum administrators.
Even so, please note that your posts and threads won't be wiped from the site; instead, your username will officially be listed as n/a. No one will be able to contact you or search for your profile through any forum activity, and you will no longer have any way to access your account.
Unfortunately, there isn't a way around it—not even for the super admins. Once a post is gone, it’s essentially like deleting a file directly from the server. It’s just a permanent wipe.
When you’re getting ready to start a new thread, look right under the main text box where you write your opening message. In the section labeled "extra option," you'll see a checkbox for "Create a poll." You just need to select "Yes, create a poll with this topic" and then pick how many different responses you want to offer—it usually defaults to four, but you can adjust that if you have something more specific in mind.
Once you hit that "Submit new topic" button, the site will take you to a fresh page where you can actually type out the various choices members will be voting on.
Now, just a little heads-up: depending on how much time has passed since you first launched the thread, you might still be able to tack on a poll later. The window for doing that is set by the site administrator, so it's best not to wait too long if you've got your heart set on one.
Raymond Campbell35 said:I’m not quite sure how cookies tie into the actual counting mechanism. Usually, these counters track one of two things: -Total views: Every single hit from a user—including every time someone hits refresh—gets added to the tally.
or Unique views: This tracks the user's current IP address. One visit equals one count. No matter if you click or refresh the page 44,556 times, the counter won't budge. It stays static until you switch IPs, maybe by reconnecting or routing through a proxy server...
As for how this specific forum handles it, I honestly couldn't tell you. It all depends on which plugin or counter they're running. You might want to check in with one of the site admins to get the specifics.
Well, cookies are definitely used for user identification. Technically, someone could write a custom modification so the counter ignores repeat reads from the same user.
The standard vBulletin setup doesn't actually include a "unique view" option (at least not out of the box), so with a default installation, you're really just looking at total view counts.
If a major site like Reddit didn't count guest views, their numbers wouldn't even be half of what they show now.
Walter Fowler53 said:Does this count guest views too, or just registered members?
Every single view counts toward the total, regardless of whether someone is logged in or just browsing as a guest. Every time the thread is opened, it registers; if you visit ten times, it’ll show up as ten views, even if it's all coming from the same browser cookie.
Sophia Castillo35 said:There's actually a number sitting right above every single post. If you click on that specific number, it'll give you a direct link to just that one post. From there, if you click the thread title again, you'll get a link that takes you straight to that exact spot within the full conversation, rather than just showing the isolated post.
You can also do it this way:
Just take the URL where the post is located and tack an # followed by the post number onto the end of it.
So, basically, just copy and paste the URL, and if you want the page to automatically scroll down to, say, post #72, you just type #72 at the very end of the web address.
hiddenmoose3 said:Man... if only the posts actually counted over there 🙂
Honestly, I’ve been thinking lately—it would be such an interesting social experiment to see what this community would actually look like if we just disabled the post counters on every sub-forum for a month. 😉
I tend to stick to digital formats—mostly for the sheer convenience, the ability to stay up-to-date in real-time, and, let’s be honest, it's much easier on the wallet.
The only physical paper I still bother picking up is The Evening News on Fridays just to glance at the weekend TV listings (though even that habit is fading now that everything is streamed instantly online anyway).
I’ve actually done some freelance work sourcing props for a handful of theaters over the years. They are absolutely world-class institutions, truly top-tier talent, but I have to say, their business management side of things? It’s pretty much non-existent.
placidviper said:Honestly, it's just New Year's. I feel like a kid myself, just like her—tomorrow is just another day on the calendar, and all these numbers aren't going to change reality one bit... anyway, Happy New Year to you all.🙂
There really is nothing quite like a forum member with such an optimistic outlook on life. 😁
I've been thinking quite a bit about how much things have shifted since we all first started gathering here. It feels like just yesterday we were discussing different topics under entirely different circumstances, doesn't it? I was sitting on my porch the other day, watching the sunset over the suburbs, and it struck me how much our perspectives have matured alongside the community itself. We aren't those same wide-eyed folks we used to be back in the early days. There’s a certain weight to our discussions now—a depth that only comes from time and shared experience. It reminds me of a long conversation I had with an old friend years ago about how people change; you think you know someone, and then a decade passes, and you realize you were only seeing the surface. That seems to apply to us too. We've grown together in a way that's hard to describe, but I certainly feel it. kaže: Back then, Jesus told his disciples, "Listen, guys, this is going to be the wildest night of your lives!" And honestly? He wasn't kidding. It turned into a total free-for-all. John showed up with the booze, Luke handled the catering, Mark brought the weed, Thomas rolled in with some speed, Matthew went out and found some girls, and Judas? Well, Judas was the one who called the cops.
Happy New Year, everyone! Wishing you all nothing but the best as we head into this next chapter. 🙂
If Mary manages to pull some strings and dodge that fine... 😁